In your 20s, you must understand the wisdom of success

Chapter 26
The other oyster replied with pride and self-satisfaction: "Praise the sky and the sea. I have no pain in my body. I am healthy inside and out."

At this moment a crab passed by and heard the conversation of the two oysters, and said to the oyster that was healthy inside and out, "Yes, you are healthy, but you who make your neighbor suffer, It is a pearl of extraordinary beauty."

The pain-causing grains of sand form lovely pearls inside the mussel.The longer the pain, the greater the value of the pearl.Precious life is created by setbacks, and the value is proportional to the pain caused by setbacks.

How can there be something for nothing in the world?If you can use all kinds of setbacks to "burn" them up and turn them into motivation to push you to a higher level, then you will definitely be able to realize your ideals.

Professors know that students' reactions to failing grades can predict their future achievements.A professor once said something like this:
A few years ago, he failed a student in his senior class, which hit that student hard.Because he has already made various plans after graduation, and now he has to cancel it, which is really embarrassing.He has only two options: the first is to retake the course, and he will only get a degree when he graduates next year; the second is not to have a degree, just leave.

The student approached the professor asking for an accommodation.After knowing that he couldn't change it, he lost his temper and vented to the professor.After he calmed down, the professor said to him: "Most of what you said is correct. Indeed, there are many famous people who hardly know the content of this subject. You will probably be successful in the future without this knowledge. You may not use the knowledge in this course in your life, but your attitude towards this course has a great influence on you."

"What do you mean?" the student asked.

The professor replied, "May I give you a piece of advice? I know you're disappointed, I understand how you feel, and I don't blame you. But please approach this with a positive attitude. The lesson is very, very important, if you don’t cultivate a positive attitude from your heart, you can’t do anything at all. Please remember this lesson, and you will know it in 5 years, this will be the one lesson that will make you gain the most.”

The student later took the course again and did very well.Soon, he specifically thanked the professor and was very grateful for the debate.

“It really paid off for me to fail this time,” he said. “It might seem a little weird, but I’m even glad I didn’t pass that time. Because I had the setback and I got a taste of success.”

We can all learn from our setbacks and use them to our advantage.

There are countless people in the world who spend their entire lives doing nothing and doing nothing. Their explanations for their mediocrity are nothing more than "bad luck", "fate is rough", "good luck has not yet come", etc. These people are still as naive and immature as children ; They just want to get the sympathy of others, and they have no idea at all.Because they have been unable to motivate themselves and learn from setbacks, they have been unable to grasp the opportunity to become better and stronger.

Setbacks can stimulate people's willpower, along with your material and spiritual growth.The time of setback is the best season to sow the seeds of success.Never bow your head in the face of setbacks, no matter how big the setbacks are, you must rise again.Keep fighting until you reap the rewards of success!
Keyword insight: frustration
If everything is smooth sailing, what joy is there in life?Only by constantly facing setbacks, challenging them, and overcoming them, can the joy after success be more touching, and this kind of life will be more colorful.

(Chapter 5 Adversity - Be a Phoenix in the Fire

A man who can smile in the face of adversity is much greater than a man who crumbles in the face of hardship.A person who can smile when everything goes against his wishes is a candidate for victory, because this kind of mentality is not possessed by ordinary people.

Forging talents in adversity

Schroeder was born on April 1944, 4 in a poor family in Lower Saxony.Three days after his birth, his father was killed in Romania.The mother worked as a cleaner and brought the two siblings with them, living a very difficult life.

Because the income cannot make ends meet, the mother owes a lot of debts.One day, the creditor came to the door, and the mother and son cried.The young Schroeder patted his mother on the shoulder and comforted him: "Don't worry, Mom, one day I will drive a Mercedes-Benz to pick you up!"

In 1950, Schroeder went to school.Unable to afford tuition fees, he became an apprentice in a retail store after graduating from junior high school.The contempt and contempt brought about by poverty did not make him abandon himself, but made him determined to change his life: "I must get out of here."

He wants to learn.He is looking for opportunities. In 1962, he quit his job as a shop assistant to study at an evening school.While studying, he worked as a cleaner at a construction site, which not only increased his income, but also fulfilled his desire to go to school.

After graduating from the 4th university, he entered the night school of the University of Göttingen to study law in 1966. Through the study of law, he became interested in politics.He actively participated in the rallies of political parties, and finally chose the Social Democratic Party.

Since then, he has gradually emerged and rose step by step. In 1969 he was chairman of the Göttingen region. It was affirmed by the political circles in 1971. Elected to Parliament in 1980. He was elected Prime Minister of Lower Saxony in 1990. On this day, Schroeder drove his Mercedes-Benz to take his mother to a big hotel to celebrate the old man's 80th birthday.

Subsequently, Schroeder succeeded in politics twice in 1994 and 1998, but this did not make him give up his ambition to be a federal politician. In October 1998, he entered the Chancellery of the Federal Republic of Germany and became Chancellor of Germany.

Adversity is a school.The greatness of many lives comes from the suffering they endured in the face of adversity.The best talents are often forged from the fire of adversity.

Suffering can temper a person's will, inspire a person's potential, and make him reflect a glorious personality charm.It is the emergence of suffering and obstacles that develops the power within us to overcome obstacles and resist suffering.This is like the oak tree in the forest, which, instead of being broken, grows taller and taller after being ravaged by thousands of storms.As the tempest beats down the oak trees, so all the pain, torments, and sorrows that men endure stir up their faculties, and temper their wills.

Generally speaking, young people who have experienced adversity are likely to develop in the future; while those who have never lived in adversity are unlikely to be successful.Because the difficult and difficult environment can temper our will.We must overcome and struggle in order to survive; we must withstand failure in order to succeed.Therefore, we can overcome our own weaknesses and endure the unbearable hardships of others, and we can better solve problems and succeed.

Eisenhower once recalled that one night when the family played cards, he complained about his bad luck.Mother stopped suddenly and told him to accept the cards he had drawn when playing cards, and said that life is like this, God deals cards for everyone, and you can only do your best to play your own cards well.The president said he never forgot this teaching and has always followed it.

Adversity is what motivates you to grow if you can overcome adversity because you grow.There is a Russian proverb: "A hammer can break glass, but it can cast steel." If you are like steel, strong enough as a quality of forging, to overcome difficulties in adversity, then these difficulties can just promote your growth .

In order to open up new streets, many old buildings were demolished in London.However, the new road has not been started for a long time, and the ruins of the old buildings are hanging there, letting the sun and rain drench.

One day, a group of natural scientists came here, and they found that on the old foundation that had not seen the sun for many years, a field of wild flowers and weeds grew unexpectedly because of the sunshine and rain in spring.

Strangely, some of these flowers and plants have never been seen in Britain, and they usually only grow in countries around the Mediterranean Sea.Most of these demolished buildings were built when the ancient Romans attacked Britain along the Thames.

Most of the seeds of these flowers and plants were brought here at that time. They were pressed under the heavy stones and tiles, year after year, and almost completely lost the chance of survival.But what is surprising is that once they saw the sun, they immediately regained their vitality and bloomed beautiful flowers.

In fact, the same is true of human life.No matter how difficult a situation a person is in, even in a desolate and harsh environment, he can still radiate the light of his own life.

A person who maintains a strong fighting spirit in the face of setbacks and adversity is like a flower seed that has been buried for thousands of years. As long as a successful turning point is found, it will quickly germinate and bloom.

Be a self-improvement person in adversity

A hunter caught many birds and put them in a big cage.Hunters come to watch them every day and often feed them delicious food. If anyone's feathers grow long, they will be cut off; if anyone grows fat, they will be caught, killed and eaten.

One of the birds thought to himself: "If I eat too much, I will become fat, and if I become fat, I will be killed; if I don't eat when I am hungry, even if I am not killed for a while, I will starve to death." You should eat food on a budget, don’t let yourself grow fat, reduce fat, wait until the feathers grow well, and then look for opportunities to escape from the cage.” It followed this idea, and when the feathers grew well, it escaped from the bird cage. cage.

The reason why the bird in the story was able to get rid of bad luck is that although it was in adversity, it had a good attitude. , was slaughtered by hunters for obesity.On the contrary, it has been thinking rationally and looking for opportunities to escape from the predicament, because it understands that the only one who can save it from the cage is itself.

"Kung Fu Emperor" Jet Li became famous after filming "Shaolin Temple".But later, due to various reasons, in the 20s, he fell into a trough and encountered many difficulties. He only made 80 films in 8 years, and his ability could not be fully utilized, and he felt that life was very long.But instead of being depressed, he took the opportunity to learn things hard, went deep into the folks to learn Tai Chi, and even found a teacher to learn the history of Chinese civilization for 4 years.He said that the difficulties faced in life are like a thumb, if you put it in front of your eyes, it will overwhelm you; if you put it in its usual place, you will find that it is actually very small.It is with such an attitude towards adversity that he wandered around, from Hong Kong to Hollywood in the United States, after years of unremitting struggle, he finally became an internationally famous movie star.

People can be said to be animals of the environment, and their personality is not innate, but determined by the environment after birth.Some people say that those who can be admitted to prestigious universities are all because of the good educational environment.There is some truth to this statement, but no matter what the environment is, most people who always think that they must succeed will succeed in the end.We should work hard in everything, otherwise we will be overwhelmed by the environment and unable to succeed, especially when we are overwhelmed by the environment, people tend to be depressed.And the most important thing is, the more you are in adversity, the more you have a strong sense of wanting to break free.

Success is not the most beautiful thing, the most beautiful thing is the spirit of continuing to work hard in the face of adversity.Success is only a result of those efforts.

If life is compared to day and night, then when we are in adversity, it means that we are spending the night.Life has day, night, light and darkness, prosperity and adversity, but no matter what, it is impossible for a person to walk in the bright sunshine all his life, and one day he will walk in a dark place.Those who boasted of glory until yesterday may struggle in the abyss tomorrow.On the contrary, people who are struggling in the abyss today sometimes suddenly see a bright light.

When the night passes, the day will come, and the day will pass, and the night will come.But people who are in the dark often think that it is impossible for them to have a day.

Looking at it calmly, there will also be small lights in the darkness of night, and there will also be dynamics of slowly approaching dawn.No matter what kind of adversity, it won't last long, and one day an opportunity will come.There must be a sunrise after the night, as long as we work hard towards this goal, we will succeed.

In the history of ancient and modern China and foreign countries, all special great figures have struggled through hardships and even dangers.Napoleon, Washington, Gandhi and others all experienced hardships and dangers.Liu Bang, Emperor Gaozu of the Han Dynasty, was just a small pavilion chief, and Zhu Yuanzhang, Emperor Taizu of the Ming Dynasty, was just a young monk in a temple.Looking at ancient China, Shun was a farmer, Fu Yue was a builder, Jiao Ke was a merchant, Sun Shuao was a fisherman, and Baili Xi was bought by Qin Mugong in exchange for five sheepskins.

Being in adversity is a happy thing. Although it has an unacceptable side, it is an indispensable training for people to grow in life.In the face of adversity, you must first be calm, try to think calmly, relax yourself, adjust your mind, motivate yourself, and make sharp and wise insights emerge.You must also have the belief that you will never give up and never retreat.In this way, you can grasp the general direction, and you will naturally rise from adversity and achieve success.

When you are in adversity, you must understand that the biggest savior is yourself.Don't pin all your hope of survival on the "noble person" and entrust your destiny to others. This is by no means a wise choice.No matter how desperate you are, sometimes the way to get out of the predicament is very simple, that is, to keep a clear head in adversity, to correctly assess the situation, and then to actively save yourself, in order to get rid of bad luck and get out of the predicament.

Keyword insight: adversity
The phoenix can be reborn in the fire, and we can also be tempered in adversity.Get up hard and start walking again, because every cell in our body is programmed to struggle in life.We can also be a phoenix in the fire, shining brightly after passing through Nirvana.

(Chapter 6 Excuses - don't use "excuses" to anesthetize your life

No matter how good an excuse is, it is of no use to the matter itself.Many of the failures in life are because of the excuses that have been anesthetizing us.

Beware of "wolves in sheep's clothing"

There was a wolf, who could not enter the flock because of the guards of the shepherd and the sheepdogs.But one day, it found a flayed sheepskin lying aside.The next day, the wolf put the sheepskin on himself and mixed with the sheep grazing on the grassland.Soon a lamb followed, and was taken aside by the wolf in sheep's clothing and devoured.This went on for a while, and the shepherd knew nothing about it until the number of his own flock dropped sharply, and he found out, but he didn't pay enough attention to it, and eventually there were no sheep left.

The reason this fable wants to tell us is very simple: be alert to the dangers that have been ignored or things that seem harmless.

What does this story have to do with excuses?

Excuses are so common in our daily life that they happen many times around us every day.They come up so often that we don't even realize how dangerous excuses are.In fact, it is like the cunning wolf who sneaks into the flock in sheep's clothing. It is a threat to everyone because it is unpredictable and unpredictable.

The reason excuses seem innocuous is that they are so common.Excuses are inextricably linked to other serious issues in life, undermining the very foundation of your success on a day-to-day basis.

Have you ever been in a situation like this:
When the alarm clock rings in the morning, do you have thoughts like "why the alarm clock doesn't stop", or turn over and reach out to turn off the alarm clock, and turn around and go to sleep?

When you don't want to do something, do you say things like "I can't do it" or "I can't do it"?

Do you procrastinate or simply walk away from the mountain of things you have to deal with, only to say to yourself, "After all, I'm just a human being, not a machine"?
Do you say things like "I'm too young" or "I'm too tired" when you don't feel like participating in an activity?
When you feel like a failure, but convince yourself that "good people always wait until the end to succeed"?
When you do something wrong and face accusations, do you forgive yourself like "I just did what my superiors said"?
Have you ever had a situation where you didn't return a call because you had "forgot" the person's phone number?
Excuses are breeding grounds for procrastination.Not making excuses means refusing to procrastinate, doing today's things today, and giving yourself a sense of urgency to "do it now".

Excuses are also the root of procrastination. You will tell yourself "this thing can be delayed", "I have done a lot of things today, I can reward myself to relax", "There is nothing to do tomorrow, so it is better to do it tomorrow", " The weather is so bad today that I can't stay indoors."

People who procrastinate are wasting a lot of precious time.This kind of person spends a lot of time thinking about what to do, worrying about this and that, making excuses for delaying action, and regretting that he didn't complete the task.

Excuses are a bad habit. Once you develop the habit of making excuses, your work and life will be procrastinated and inefficient.Abandon the habit of making excuses, you will not be frustrated by problems in work and life, and you can even learn a lot of problem-solving skills in work and life, so that excuses will be farther and farther away from you, and you will be successful will get closer to you.

An excuse is an excuse for failure, which is the consensus of all.This habit is as old as human history, and it is the greatest enemy of success!Making excuses is an instinctive human habit that is hard to break.Plato said: "To conquer oneself is the greatest victory, to be conquered by oneself is the greatest shame and evil."

(End of this chapter)