Gan Family Instructions

Chapter 5
Those who make the husband weathered are those who act from the top to the bottom, and they are also imposed on the latter from the first.Therefore, if the father is unkind, the son will be unfilial, if the brother is not friendly, the younger brother will be disrespectful, and if the husband is unrighteous, the wife will be disobedient.The father is kind and the son is rebellious, the brother and friend are proud of the younger brother, the husband is righteous but the wife is majestic, and the evil people of heaven are captured by punishment and not removed by discipline.

If flogging and anger are abolished in the family, the faults of the sons will be established; if the punishment is not met, the people will be at a loss.The magnanimity and fierceness of running a family are like that of a country.

Confucius said: "Extravagance is not grandchildren, and thrift is solidity; it is better to be solid than not to be grandchildren." He also said: "If you have the beauty of Zhou Gong's talent, you will be arrogant and stingy, and the rest will be worthless." Be stingy.Those who are thrifty are called being polite; those who are stingy are called poor and urgent.Today, if you give, you will be extravagant, and if you are thrifty, you will be stingy; if you can give without being extravagant, and be thrifty without being stingy, that is all right.

The foundation of life for the people is to eat crops and wear mulberry and hemp.Vegetables and fruits are produced in the garden; the goodness of chickens and pigs is produced in the pen.Yuan and Dongyu's equipment, woodcutters and fat candles, could they be the things of breeding.Those who are able to maintain their careers can make a living behind closed doors, but they have no salt wells at home.Today's northern customs are generally able to use frugally to support food and clothing; in the south of the Yangtze River, there are many extravagances that cannot be grasped.

In the Yuan Dynasty of Liang Xiao, there was a member of Zhongshu Sheren, who lost control of his family and was too strict. His wives and concubines then bought assassins together and killed them while they were drunk.

Celebrities in the world, but be lenient; as for food and salaries, children and servants are derogated, generous, wives are modest, insulting guests, and invading the township party: this is also a giant beetle of the family.

Fang Wenlie, the servant of Qi's official department, was never angry. After the rain and the lack of food, he sent his maidservant to buy rice, because he fled, and after three or four days, he was captured again.Fang Xu said: "The whole family has no food, where did you come from?" There was no beating.Taste sent people's house, servants and maidservants go through the house to pay a little, heard of it, frowning, died without a word.

Pei Ziye had estranged relatives who were unable to support themselves due to hunger and cold, so they all adopted them; his family was poor, and when there were floods and droughts, two stones of rice were thin porridge, so he could only eat it all over the place.There is a leader in Ye who has accumulated a lot of greed. He has eight hundred children in his family and promises to fulfill one thousand;Sitting in the back seat and subjugating the law, with his family property, a house of hemp shoes, several warehouses of bad clothes, and the rest of the treasures are indescribable.There is a man in Nanyang, who lives in Obo, and is very frugal and stingy. After the winter solstice, his son-in-law pays homage to him, and he sets up a copper cup of wine and a few roe deer meat.The master was stunned, and he looked up to his fate, so he would do it again; he retreated and blamed his daughter, saying: "A certain man is good at wine, so you are always poor."

After his death, all the sons fought for wealth, and the elder brother killed the younger brother.

The housewives give gifts, but they only serve the etiquette of wine, food and clothes. The country should not be prejudicial, and the family should not be dry. Misfortune too.

Jiangdong women, who have no friends at all, and those who have not met in their married families for more than ten years, only donate their bequests with faith and destiny, and are courteous.It is the custom in Yexia that women hold the door exclusively, arguing about the right and wrong of lawsuits, making people welcome, car rides fill the streets, Qiluo Yingfu Temple, begging for officials on behalf of their sons, and suing for their husbands.Is this the legacy of Heng and Dai?The poor in the south are all decorations, and the clothes in the car and clothes must be expensive and tidy; the family and wives are inevitably hungry and cold.The personnel affairs in Hebei are mostly governed by the internal affairs, the rich and golden emeralds cannot be abolished, and the horses and slaves are only filled;

The women of Hebei, weaving koji and organizing 紃, and the work of 黼黻 Jin Su Luoqi are much better than those of Jiangdong.

Taigong said: "There are too many daughters to adopt, and it costs one fee." Chen Fan said: "You can't steal the door of five daughters." The burden of women is also deep.However, it is natural to steam the people, and the ancestors pass on the style, how is it like?Many people in the world don't raise women, and thieves are of flesh and blood. How can this be the case, and hope for blessings in heaven?I have distant relatives, my family is a prostitute, and when the child is about to be born, I will send an eunuch to guard it.The body is uneasy, peeping at the window and leaning on the house. If a daughter is born, she will go away; the mother will cry along with her, which makes people unbearable to hear it.

The nature of a woman is to spoil her son-in-law and abuse her son-in-law.If you dote on your son-in-law, you will cause brotherly resentment; if you abuse your wife, you will cause sisters to slander you.However, if the daughter stays, it will offend her family, and the mother will do it.There is even a proverb that goes: "Auntie Luosuo's meal."

This is also in return.The common disadvantages of the family are not admonishment!

Marriage is always right, Jinghou becomes a rule.In recent times, when marrying, there are women who are sold to pay for money, women who are bought to give away silk, compared with fathers and grandparents, and how much money is given.Or the unclean son-in-law is at the door, or the proud wife is in the house, greedy for glory and seeking profit, and rebelling against shame, you can be careless!

All classics borrowed from others must be cherished. First, if there is a defect, it will be repaired. This is also one of the hundred practices of scholar-bureaucrats.Jiyang Jianglu, who has not finished his studies, although he has a rapid pace, must wait for the volume to be neatly bundled, and then he can afford it, so there is no loss or failure, and people never tire of asking for falsehood.There may be a few cases of mess, scattered parts, mostly smeared by children, maidservants and concubines, damaged by wind, rain, insects and rats, which is really exhausting.Every time I read a book by a sage, I treat it with respect and admiration; the original paper has the meaning of the words in the "Five Classics" and the names of sages, so I dare not use it dirty.

My family's shamans prayed and asked, and they never talked about it; there was no prayer for Zhangjiao in the talisman, and it was also seen by Ru Cao.Don't pay for it.

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