Gan Family Instructions

Chapter 6
I look at the "Book of Rites", the teachings of the sages: dustpans, daggers and chopsticks, coughing and saliva, holding candles and washing, all have verses, and they are also perfect.But since it is incomplete, it is not a complete book; if there are some things that are not contained in it, and those who have changed in the world, learn to be a gentleman, conduct self-control, and carry on the same, so the world is called scholar-official style.However, the families are quite different, and what they see is called long and short; however, it is self-knowledgeable.In the past in the south of the Yangtze River, the eyes can see and see, the ears can hear and hear;Rucao was born among soldiers and horses, and he didn't know what he saw or heard, so he talked and recorded it to pass on to his descendants.

"Rituals" says: "When you see Qu, you are famous for your heart." If you feel something, you feel sorry for your heart; if you are in a calm and ordinary place, fortunately, you have to express your affection.It is unavoidable, but it should be tolerated; like uncles and brothers, who are cruel to the ancestors, they will be heartbroken for life, so let's never do it?Also: "There is no taboo in the text, no taboo in the temple, and the king is selfless." If you know that you are famous, you must have news, and you don't have to expect to go away.Liang Shixieju has a great reputation, and he will cry when he hears the taboo, which is ridiculed by the world.There is also Zang Fengshi, the son of Zang Yan, who is dedicated to learning and practicing, and does not fall into the family style. Xiaoyuan passed through Mujiang Prefecture and was sent to Jianchang as the governor. Those who are "severely cold" must run down their noses, forget about it, waste official business, resent the situation, and retreat without doing anything.This is not the case.

Recently in Yangdu, there was a scholar who kept taboo about the trial, but Zhou Hou made friends with the Shen family, and Shen and his books were given their first names instead of their surnames, which is not humane.

Anyone who avoids taboos must be replaced by his colleagues: Huan Gong is named Bai, Bo is known as Wu Hao; Li Wang is named long, and Qin has short eyes.I don't hear that cloth and silk are cloth Hao, and calling kidney intestines is kidney repair.Liang Wu's nickname was Ah Lian, and all his descendants called Lian silk; it is said that selling refined things is selling silk things, which may be unreasonable.Or those who are taboo about clouds call it smoke; those who taboo about tung trees call the sycamore tree a white iron tree, which is like a joke.

The Duke of Zhou named his son Qin, and Confucius named his son Li, and if it stays on his body, he can do nothing. Ruo Weihou, Duke Wei, and Prince Chu are all named lice; Changqing is named Gouzi, and Wang Xiu is named Gouzi. There is connection and reason, but the reason is not understood. What was done in the past is what is laughed at today.There are many famous sons in the northern land who are called donkeys and porpoises. How can they bear to make them call themselves the names of their brothers?

There was Yin Wenggui in the former Han Dynasty, Zheng Wenggui in the later Han Dynasty, Kong Wenggui in the Liang family, and Gu Wengchong in the Liang family; Xu Siyu and Meng Shaogu in the Jin Dynasty: such a name, fortunately, should be avoided.

Today's people avoid taboos, and are more anxious about ancient times.Those who are named sons should be grandchildren.Among my acquaintances, there are taboos, taboos, taboos, taboos, taboos, taboos, and taboos.

In the past, Sima Changqing Mu Lin Xiangru, hence the name Xiangru, Gu Yuan sighed and admired Cai Yong, hence the name Yong. Later in the Han Dynasty, there was Zhu Yi with the word Sun Qing, Xu Xian with the word Yan Hui, Liang Shiyou Yu Yanying, Zusun Deng, and even the ancients. As a name, it is also a despicable thing.

In the past, Liu Wenrao couldn't bear to call the slaves as livestock, so the fools of the present world play with each other, or some people are named as dolphins.

Recently, when Cao was discussed, there were a total of hundreds of officials and ranks. There was a dignitary, a famous minister in the world, who thought that the discussion was too thick.In the Qi Dynasty, there were one or two writers from the gentry family, who called this noble and said: "Today, the world is unified, and it must be a model for a hundred generations. How can it still be the old idea of ​​Guanzhong? Minggong must be Tao Zhugong's eldest son!" Bibi laughed, not thinking suspect.

The sons and grandsons of former Houba called their grandfather the father of the family; King Chen Si called his father the father of the family, and his mother the mother of the family.Today's custom in the north and south says that one's ancestors and second relatives have no family members; only those who are obscene in the fields have such words.Whoever speaks to others, says that he is the father of the world, and calls him according to the order, and those who do not talk about family, respect his father, and dare not be family.The sons of sisters and sisters who say that they are married are called by their husband's family; when they are married, they are called by their order.Words and etiquette belong to other families, not Yun's family.Children and grandchildren who are not allowed to call themselves family are light on it.In Cai Yong's book collection, he calls his aunt as his aunt and sister; in Ban Gu's book collection, Yiyun's grandson: it is not possible now.

When talking to others, when referring to grandparents, first parents, parents, and elder aunt, they all add the word Zun, and from uncles and parents down, they add the word Xian.In Wang Xizhi's book, referring to the other's mother is the same as calling himself his own mother, and he does not use the word Zun, which is not the case today.

People in the south don't go to mourning at the winter solstice and the first year of the year; if they don't study books, they wear their belts during festivals to comfort them.On the day when the northerners reach the age of one year, they repeat the hanging ceremony; if there is no clear text in the ceremony, I will not accept it.People from the south do not welcome guests, they hold hands but do not bow when they meet each other, they just see off guests at the table; people from the north welcome and see off at the door, and when they meet each other, they bow.

In the past, the princes and princes claimed to be lonely, widowed, and not rich. Since then, even though Confucius is a holy teacher, he and his disciples have all called him by name.

Although later he was known as a minister and servant, there were few walkers.Jiangnan has its own appellation for its importance, and there are various "Shu Yi"; Northerners often call them names, which is a legacy of ancient times, and I am good at calling them names.

When it comes to our ancestors, we should be grateful. What was easy for the ancients is difficult for today.The personnel affairs in the south of the Yangtze River have not been obtained, and they must be read and written, and there are few people who discuss them face to face.The northerners have nothing to say and visit.Such things should not be imposed on others.If others impose on oneself, one should avoid it.If your reputation is not high, if you are forced by your nobles, you can endure it for convenience and report it quickly; don't make it annoying and humiliate your grandfather.If not, those who need to talk about it should sit with restrained faces and call it the gate, the father and uncle are called the brother's door, and the brothers are called the deceased's son. Yu Chang.

If you talk to the king, although the color changes, it is like a dead ancestor, dead uncle, and dead uncle.I have seen celebrities, and there are also those who call their dead brothers as brothers and disciples, but it is not for Antie.The customs of the northern lands do not do this.Taishan Yangxuan, Liang first entered the south; I was close to Ye, and his brother Su Fangxuan was aggrieved, and I replied: "Qing is in Liang from the door, so it is." Su said: "It is my seventh dead uncle. , not to follow." Zu Xiaozheng is sitting, and the prophet knows the customs of the south of the Yangtze River, so he said: "Why do you not understand that the virtuous follow the younger brother's family?"

The ancients all called uncles and uncles, but in today's world, they are mostly called uncles.My father, brothers and sisters are already orphaned, but it is unavoidable to call my mother an uncle and aunt before my father.The son of a brother is already orphaned, and it is quite unbearable to tell others that the orphan is called a brother and a disciple; most people in the north call him a nephew.Case: "Erya", "Mourning Clothes", "Zuo Zhuan", although nephew's name is compatible with men and women, he is not called a aunt.The Jin Dynasty has come, and people began to call uncles and nephews; now they are called nephews, and it is reasonable to win.

Don't be easy but difficult, the ancients valued it;There was Prince Hou, the brother of Emperor Wu of Liang, who came out to be Dongjun, and said goodbye to Emperor Wu. The emperor said: "I am old, and I am separated from you. I am very sad." Several lines of tears.Hou Suimi said, embarrassed.Sitting here and being blamed, he floated on the boat for a hundred days, and he was not allowed to go.It is customary in the north to disdain this matter, to part ways and part ways with laughter.However, in human nature, there are those who seldom shed tears. Although their intestines feel like dying, their eyes are still rotten; such a person cannot be forced to blame.

The names of all relatives must be painted in ink, and should not be abused.Those who have no style of education, whose father is already lonely, call their grandparents the same as their grandparents, which makes people not like to hear about it.Although the quality is in the face, it should be distinguished by adding others; the uncles of parents should be distinguished by adding the next; the aunts of parents should be distinguished by adding their surnames; Grandparents should be added to their titles if their surnames are different.Scholars in Hebei all call their grandparents their father-in-law and mother; the fields in the south of the Yangtze River also say this.It is not my knowledge to use the family to represent the outside world.

For the number of relatives in the clan, there are fathers, ancestors, and clan ancestors.The customs in the south of the Yangtze River have passed since the past. Those with high ranks are commonly called as respecters. Those who are the same as Zhaomu are still called brothers even for a hundred generations; if they are called by others, they are all members of the Yun clan.Scholars in Hebei, although thirty or twenty generations old, are still called Congbo Congshu.Emperor Wu of Liang tried to ask a native of Central China, "Why do people from Qingbei not know that they have a family?"

The answer said: "Flesh and bones are easy to thin, and I can't bear to speak to the ears of the family." Although he was sensitive at the time, he didn't understand the etiquette.I tried to ask Zhou Hongrang: "Parents are Chinese and foreign sisters, why do you call them?" Zhou said: "Also called father-in-law."

Since ancient times, the title of father-in-law has never been applied to women.What my relatives do, if the father belongs to it, it is a aunt with a certain surname; if the mother belongs to it, it is an aunt with a certain surname.Chinese and foreign husbands' wives are commonly called mother-in-law, and scholars and bureaucrats call them Queen Mother and Xie Muyun.And "Lu Ji Ji" has "Letter with Changsha Gu Mu", which is also from his aunt, which is not available today.

Scholars in the Qi Dynasty all called their ancestors servants as their grandfathers, and they didn't think they were involved, but there were some people who played with each other.

In ancient times, the name is based on the orthodox style, the characters are used to express virtue, and the final name is taboo, so the characters can be Sun's.The disciples of Confucius who recorded events were all called Zhongni; when Empress Lu was young, he tasted the word Gaozu as Ji; in Yuanzhong in Han Dynasty, he used the word his uncle as Si;Scholars in Hebei don't recognize them at all, and they call them characters by name, and they always call them characters.Shangshu Wang Yuanjing's brothers are all celebrities, their father's name is Yun, and their character is Luohan, all of them are taboo, and the rest are not surprising.

"Li Jian Zhuan" says: "The cry of chopping, if you go, you don't turn it back; the cry of Qisong, if you go, you go back; Sorrow comes from the sound." The "Book of Filial Piety" says: "Crying is not mourning." It is all discussed that crying has a sound of severity and texture.Rituals are called those who cry and have words; but crying also has words.When mourning in the south of the Yangtze River, there are sometimes words of mourning; in Shandong, when there is a severe mourning, the only way to cry is to heaven, and if the expected merits are below, the only way to cry is to cry out for deep pain, but not to cry.

Anyone in the south of the Yangtze River who suffers a serious mourning, if they know each other, stay in the same city, and if they don't hang up for three days, they will be killed;Those who have a reason and Daoyao can write a book; the same is true if there is no book.Northern customs are not.Those who hang in the south of the Yangtze River, except for their masters, those who don't know them don't hold their hands; those who know light clothes but don't know their masters don't hang themselves in the clubhouse, and they will cultivate their names and reach their families in the future.

Yin and Yang said: "Chen is a water tomb and an earth tomb, so don't cry." Wang Chong's "Lunheng" said: "If you don't cry on the day of the day, you will be mourned." When asked about the seriousness, the whole family was quiet and did not dare to make a sound, so as to mourn the guest.The book of Taoism also said: "Hui Ge Shuo cried, everyone should be guilty, and God will take care of it." When the family is mourned, the grief is deep, and I would rather cherish my life than cry?Also do not tell.

The book of sidelines, if you die, you will be killed.The children and grandchildren fled, but Moken was at home; painted tile calligraphy, and made all kinds of disgusting victories; Elegant sinners should be added to the discussion.

I am alone, but at the age of the year and the festival of growing up, I have no father, and I will cry when I worship my mother, grandparents, uncles, aunts, brothers, and sisters; , as well: this favor also.

Jiangzuo courtiers, descendants of the first Shifu, when they saw the second palace, they would all cry; the second palace changed their appearance.Those who have a rich complexion and no sense of sorrow, Liang Wu underestimated him as a human being, were mostly suppressed.Pei Zheng went out to question Emperor Wu. He was emaciated and emaciated, with tears pouring down his cheeks. Emperor Wu watched him off and said, "Pei Zhili is immortal."

Since the two parents are gone, they live in a fasting bed, and their sons and wives can't bear to enter.In the Northern Dynasties, after the death of Li Gou's mother, Liu Shi, and his wife in Dunqiu, the hall where he lived was locked for life, and he could not bear to open it.Madam, the granddaughter of Song Guangzhou Inspector's Compiler, so the structure is still full of Jiangnan style.His father, the governor of Yangzhou, Zhen Shouchun, was killed.Gouchang had a banquet with Wang Songnian and Zu Xiaozheng.Xiaozheng is good at painting, and when he has a pen and paper, the pictures are written as human beings.In a short time, because of cutting off the deer's tail, the scene cuts off the painter to show the structure, but there is no other intention.After feeling sad and moved, he got up and left on horseback.Sitting in horror, unpredictable.The ancestors searched for enlightenment, and Fang Shen turned his back on it. At that time, there were few people who could feel this.Lu Xiang of Wu County, his father was tortured in idleness, and Xiang spent his whole life in cloth and vegetables. Although ginger and vegetables were cut, they couldn't bear to eat them; at home, they only picked them for cooking.Yao Zidu in Jiangning, whose mother was burnt to death, couldn't bear to eat it all his life.Yuzhang Xiong Kang's father was killed as a slave while drunk, and he never tasted wine again for life.However, etiquette depends on human feelings, and kindness is judged by righteousness. If a relative chokes to death, one should not go on a hunger strike.

"Book of Rites": Father's suicide note, mother's cup ring, I feel the luster of his hand and mouth, and I can't bear to read it.Political affairs are often lectured, copied by the school, and taken in addition, there are traces that can be imagined.If the ordinary tomb code is a living thing, is the encore completely abolished?

It is neither read nor used, and it has no room to escape, but it should be kept in secret to keep the ears of future generations.

Silu and other fourth aunts are also relatives of Zhang Jiannv in Wu County, and have a fifth sister who lost her mother when she was three years old.The screen on the funeral bed is an old thing from a lifetime. It was wet from the house leak and exposed to the sun. When the woman saw it, she lay down on the bed and shed tears.The family couldn't bear it, so they hugged it; the recommendation mat was flooded, mentally injured, and unable to eat.I will ask the doctor, and the doctor's pulse will say: "The intestine is broken!" Because he vomited blood, he died in a few days.Chinese and foreign pity it, and everyone laments.

"Ritual Cloud": "The anniversary of death is not joyful." Because of his admiration and sorrow, he is bored, so he does not receive foreign guests and ignores all affairs.You must be able to call yourself miserable, so why is it limited to deep hiding?People in the world may sit upright in the Austrian room, so they might as well talk and laugh, have a delicious meal, and offer fast food generously; there is an urgent death, close relatives and best friends, and there is no reason to meet each other: they don't know the meaning of etiquette!
Wei Shiwang's mother died on the day of the society; next year, on the day of the society, Xiu felt very sad, and the neighbors heard about it and stopped the society for her.Today, the two relatives are dead, and it happens to be the festival of Fula Fenzhi, and after the eclipse of the moon, besides avoiding it, I should still admire it after this day. .

Liu Xian, Sui, and Sui are brothers who are all famous utensils, and their father is famous. He did not follow the calligraphy all his life, but only used the "Erya" as a call ear.However, if the common text violates the positive and taboo, it should be avoided; it has the same pronunciation and different characters, so it is not clear.Under the word Liu, there is Zhaoyin.The son of Lu Shang, if he is not the best; the son of Zhao Yi, if he is not the best: even if he writes, he can touch all the books.

It is said that A held a banquet and invited B as a guest; and once he saw B's son in the public court, he asked, "Your Majesty will take care of the house sooner or later?" B's son said his father had passed away.Sometimes I thought I laughed.With such a proportion, one should be cautious when dealing with similarities, and not be taken lightly.

It is a custom in the south of the Yangtze River, in the first period of children's birth, to make new clothes and decorate the bathroom. Men use bows and arrows, paper and pens, and women use knives, rulers, and needles. They also add food and drink, and precious clothes to play with. Put them in front of the children and watch their hair. The intention is to test greed, honesty, foolishness and wisdom, and it is called a trial.Gather your cousins ​​and have a feast.Since then, if the two relatives are still there, every day, there will be some wine and food.Those who have no religion, even though they are lonely, spend their days offering sacrifices, singing and singing heartily, without knowing how sentimental they are.When Liang Xiaoyuan was young, every August [-]th, on the occasion of his birthday, he would hold fast lectures; after the death of Ruan Xiurong, this event has also ceased.When people are suffering from illness, they call the parents of heaven and earth, which has been natural since ancient times.It is taboo in this life, and it is urgent to touch the road.And Jiangdong's common people call you You when they are in pain.You are the name of the temple of the father, the father is called the temple when there is no room, why should the father be called when he is dead? "Cang Jie Pian" has the word "倄", "Xun Gu" says: "Pain is painful, and sound and feather are sinful." Today's northerners call it when they are in pain. The sound of "Sheng Lei" is in Leifan, and people in the south today feel pain or call it.These two sounds follow the local customs and are feasible.

Those who were impeached in Liang Shi, their descendants, brothers and nephews, all went to the palace for three days, exposed their clothes and thanked them;

The son is grassy and coarsely dressed, unkempt and unkempt, and he has his own way. He has to wait for a deacon, kowtows and bleeds, and appeals for injustice.If you are paired with a disciple, all the sons will set up a grass nunnery at the gate of the department, and dare not settle down in the house. After ten days of moving, the lawsuit will drive them away, and then they will retreat.The constitutional ministers in the south of the Yangtze River impeach personnel, although the matter is not serious, but those who are humiliated by the teachings, or those who are lightly punished and die in prison, are all resentment, and the descendants of the three generations will not communicate with each other.When he arrived in Qia as Yushi Zhongcheng, he wanted to impeach Liu Xiaochuo at first, but his brother Gaixian and Liu Shan were unable to remonstrate, so Liu Ti cried goodbye and left.

Soldiers are fierce and dangerous, not a safe way.In ancient times, the emperor mourned and came to the teacher, and the general came out of the fierce gate.Fathers, grandfathers and uncles, if they are in the army, derogate themselves, and it is not suitable to play music, banquets and wedding crowns for auspicious celebrations.If you live in a besieged city, with a haggard complexion, and remove your decorations, you will often be in the state of being deep and thin.Parents are sick, and although doctors are cheap and few, they weep and worship them, in order to mourn.Liang Xiaoyuan was in Jiangzhou, and he was not hesitant; Shi Zifang and other relatives paid homage to Li Youyan, a Chinese soldier who joined the army.

It is not easy for people from all over the world to become brothers.There must be one who is equal to the enemy, and the order is as good as the beginning, before it can be discussed.

After one child, order the son to bow down and call him father-in-law, to show the respect of his father and friends;Compared with northerners, this festival is very light. When they meet each other on the road, they will decide the Kun season, look at the year and look at the appearance, and do not choose right and wrong. Some people even marry their fathers as brothers and entrust their sons as brothers.

In the past, the Duke of Zhou washed his hair three times and spit out three meals a day to meet the people in the white house. He saw more than seventy people in one day.Jin Wengong erected his beard with Muci, so there was a plan to counter it.There are always guests at the door, and the ancient places are expensive.Jiangnan is deeply ashamed of the home of the uneducated, the impoliteness of the temple, or the lord's anger at sleep and food, and the refusal of guests.Pei Zhili, the servant of the Huangmen, is known as a scholar-bureaucrat. There are such a generation, who treats guests with sticks;

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