Scene language skills that college students must know

Chapter 6 Scene [-] - Meeting by chance
Chapter 6 Scene [-] - Meeting by chance
"Meet by chance" is a commonly used idiom, which refers to meeting and getting acquainted with strangers by chance.In daily life, people often

Encountering the scene of meeting by chance, it is inevitable to deal with strangers.But many people often feel very uncomfortable when dealing with strangers.

Often cautious, unable to start.In fact, you can think about it, how will you behave in the face of familiar people and strangers?are you willing
I will definitely say that I am with people I know well.Talk about everything, and find it difficult to talk to strangers.what's the reason
Quite simply, because you feel naturally attuned when you are with someone you know and understand quite well.but nothing to strangers

Knowing that, especially when entering a group full of strangers, some people even feel uncomfortable and fearful. ?
So how do you effectively converse and communicate with strangers when you meet them by chance?Use the following skills flexibly

, you will gain a lot. ?
([-]) Find topics that the other party is familiar with?

Generally speaking, people have a subconscious sense of alertness and alienation towards strangers, even people they don't know very well.
.At this time, we can carefully observe the words and expressions, infer the interests of the other party, or learn from other people's mouths that the other party is proud of them.
place.When these topics are brought up, the other party will feel that they have met a "confidant", and someone is willing to listen to their inner thoughts, and the chatter box

The box opened naturally.Here is an example of this: ?

There was a young writer who went out for interviews and stayed at the home of a friend who was the county magistrate.Because it was a rainy day, he was bored at home every day,
Only the old father of the county magistrate was with him.At first, both of them wanted to find topics to chat to break the silence, such as some family relationships.
Situation, simple experience, but neither side has much interest. ?
Later, the writer learned that the old man had collected ginseng in the mountains when he was young, and had also dug up a "ginseng tree", so he asked the old man
Tell me about your experience.Then, the gate of the old man's words was opened, and he talked for a long time.Afterwards, the writer once described it like this: ?
"It was only then that I realized that behind his rigid face and dull eyes, there was an unbelievable enthusiasm and a truly lovely personality.
It can be said that it is a surging and endless topic, and he speaks extremely vividly, and his language is also very rich and full of local flavor.he was himself

The memories evoked are intoxicated by the thrilling stories left in the distant memory..."?
At the beginning, the writer and the old man were embarrassed because they had never met.Later, the writer learned that the old man had dug a tree

"Personal ginseng", so I used this as a topic to talk to the old man.It is the pride of the old man to dig this precious ginseng tree.

When everyone is eager to know their "brilliant experience", they feel respected and soon start talking.this kind of matching

It is a very common method to use a familiar topic as a breakthrough in dealing with strangers, which is often very effective. ?
([-]) Looking for common ground?
The so-called "a thousand cups of wine is less than a bosom friend", two like-minded people always feel that they have endless things to say when they are together.Therefore, we are working with
When interacting with strangers, you may wish to seek more common ground in terms of interests, personalities, experiences, etc.

In the process of speculation, get more information about the other party, quickly shorten the distance, and enhance the relationship. ?
Zhao Ning is a die-hard football fan, often running around both for sales promotion and to watch football games.Once on the train to Shenzhen

, her seatmate was a young man with a strong Shandong accent, and when he had nothing to do, Zhao Ning chatted with him.She pretended to be surprised at first

She was surprised to learn that he was from Shandong, and then she praised the generosity of the Shandong people. She said that she had several friends from Shandong.
Friends, people are very cool.The young man was naturally happy. He reported his family name, said that his name was Roger, and he was from Tai'an.

Horses are very loyal to friends, and most Shandong people are rough and unrestrained.But Zhao Ning changed the subject and said that Shandong people are also very united.
Especially the Shandong football team, although every player is not very good, but they are united, work hard, and often win
Get good grades.Coincidentally, Roger is also a fan, and the two chattered like crazy, leaving each other's mailing addresses after getting off the car.at roger
Under the introduction of Zhao Ning, Zhao Ning got to know many fans, one of which was Ji, Ji and Luo Jie, the clients she was going to fight for this time.

The relationship is very good, so Zhao Ning easily completed the sales task, and also won a big customer for the company, which is more worthwhile.
Happily, I made many friends. ?
When talking with Roger, Zhao Ning first started with the topic of "Shandong people", and then turned to the topic of "football", which both of them are interested in.

On the topic of interest, the more you talk with the other party, the more you will hit it off.After a lot of "god talk", the two quickly deepened their understanding and became good friends.

Friends, Zhao Ning also successfully completed the work through Roger. ?
([-]) Praise each other?

Everyone wants to be affirmed by others. When people are praised, a sense of pride and honor will arise spontaneously.

The mood immediately becomes cheerful, and it is easier to deal with people at this time.Therefore, when we interact with strangers, we can also grasp
Keeping this psychological characteristic and directly praising each other with a sincere attitude and enthusiastic words can not only show your self-cultivation
, friendly, quickly win the favor of the other party, and can make the other party feel that their self-worth is approved and recognized, and think that this stranger

People can touch the heartstrings deep in their hearts, resonate with themselves, and thus desire to get closer to them and communicate in depth.Please
See the example below: ?
Former Indonesian President Sukarno is a veteran diplomat. Once he visited China, at the welcome meeting held for him by young people in Guangzhou,

He said something like this: "Today, I am very happy to meet you. You young people are the hope of the nation.
, the builders of the future, the masters of the future. "?
"How happy are young people! There are many myths in Indonesia, one of which talks about a sacred tree called 'the tree of wishes'

', whoever stands under the sacred tree and speaks out his own wish, then his wish will be realized immediately.if,
Before I could stand under this sacred tree, a deity came and asked me: 'Hey, Sukarno, what do you want?what do you want
begging? ’ Then I will tell him: ‘I wish to regain my youth. '"?
Sukarno is here aiming at the situation that the audience is young, and enthusiastically praises their precious youth. These sincere words from the heart
, All of a sudden the distance between President Sukarno and the young people was narrowed. ?
([-]) Talk about things that the other party is familiar with?
Familiar things always evoke a strong sense of warmth and nostalgia in people's hearts.When we talk to strangers, if we try to

Talking about topics that the other party knows little about will only further alienate the two people;
Talking about things that the other party is familiar with can often bring back the other party's memories, make them "love the house and crow", and feel kind to themselves.

A sense of familiarity.The American Pearl Buck used this method when she came to China during World War II. ?
During World War II, Pearl Buck delivered a radio speech to the Chinese people, which deeply touched the hearts of the Chinese people.exist
In her speech, she said: "I am not completely speaking from the position of an American, because I am also a Chinese.
.Most of my life has been spent in China.I was brought to China by my parents when I was 3 months old.I speak

When it was time, it was Chinese that was spoken first.I was with my parents when I was young, and I never lived in any big trading port.For decades, we
The places I visited were small cities and small villages in Zhejiang, Jiangsu, Jiangxi, Hunan, Anhui and Shandong provinces, Qingjiangpu, Zhenjiang,

Danyang, Yuezhou, Bengbu, Xuzhou, Nansuzhou...these places are the places I am most familiar with.But my favorite is Chinese

farmland countryside.After I grew up, I lived in Nanjing for another 17 years.I have seen with my own eyes that within a few years Nanjing was transformed from an old

The city becomes a new type of capital.But no matter where I live, I get along with Chinese people as if they were fellow countrymen.because
When I was young, my playmates were Chinese children; when I became an adult, it was Chinese friends.Now I'm home
The old country, but the old friends have not been forgotten in my heart.So today I will speak from both positions.I grew up in China
, and lived in the United States for many years, having received education and experience from both sides, I feel that I belong to two countries.I
Can speak for two countries. 8 years ago, I went back to the United States.What do Americans think of Chinese people?very good.

As soon as I mentioned China, they all nodded and said: We like Chinese people. "?
As a foreigner speaking to a Chinese audience, Pearl Buck repeatedly mentioned place names familiar to the Chinese, emphasizing that she and the Chinese
They are closely related. For the audience, the customs of these familiar places and their own experiences are immediately vivid in their minds, while the unfamiliar
At this time, the former speaker seems to have become a fellow traveler, a kind of intimacy emerges spontaneously, and the boundaries brought by nationality suddenly
become blurred. ?
([-]) Express sincerity and trust to the other party?

There will always be a estrangement between two strangers because they have never met each other and do not understand each other.
Failure to communicate due to mutual mistrust.Therefore, we might as well take the initiative, take the lead in breaking through this barrier, and treat each other as mature
If you are a friend you know well, take an appropriate way to frankly confide your heart to him, and knock on the other person's heart with sincerity and trust.The following is

An example of this. ?
Wen Yiduo is an approachable and well-loved scholar. His unpretentious speech often deeply moves the audience.

Heart, please read the following speech: "Thank you for coming today, I have the opportunity to meet with you, I am grateful, let us

Let us extend our hand to you formally and openly!Please recognize that this is the work of a scholar who has no power to bind a chicken

hands, neither can nor want to intimidate others, so they are not intimidated.This 'empty' helpless hand cannot,
I don’t want to tempt people, so I don’t want to be tempted by others. You can look down on it, but don’t be afraid of it. It’s really scary.

Woolen cloth?If you don't believe me, smell it, does it smell like blood?This hand that has held chalk for a lifetime can be opened to you at any time

watch.You see, this white chalk dust is its symbolic color.Let me say one more thing, don't be afraid, this is a pure white

hands!However, it should not be underestimated.There are many more hands like this, and countless hands that hold hoes and operate machines.
, the hands that plan the abacus, the hands that pull the rickshaw, and even the hands that sew clothes, cook, sweep the floor, and wipe the table—— unite and hold together, to where
You will naturally be amazed at the supernatural powers of these hands, because they have finally reversed history and created miracles.We are now using the most sincere

With a sincere heart, I extend these white and clean hands to everyone.I hope you will cooperate with us and give us advice! "?
Wen Yiduo has abandoned the lofty airs of scholars here, but treats the audience as bosom friends, and uses plain and simple words

Sincerely express your personality and praise the working people from the bottom of your heart.This sincerity and trust quickly broke through the gap between him and the audience.
The barriers caused by differences in status and unfamiliarity between people make everyone feel that he is also a member of the working people. ?
([-]) First introduce yourself to the other party?
The reason why people are reluctant to chat easily with strangers is often because they don't know each other's details, and they worry that too hasty contacts will lead to

Get yourself in trouble.Therefore, when we face strangers we hope to get acquainted with, we can abandon unnecessary worries and excessive

Cover up and introduce yourself to the other person frankly.Please see the following example: ?

Zhang Henshui, a famous Chinese writer, was once invited to give a speech at Chengdu University. He started it like this: Today, my "Mandarin Duck"

It is a great honor for the writer of "Butterfly School" to give a speech in the university. I am named "Hen Shui" because I am not frustrated in love.
"Water" is because I like a poem "Wu Ye Cry" by Li Yu, the empress of the Southern Tang Dynasty: "The forest flowers have thanked the spring red, too hastily!helpless
The cold rain comes at night, the wind, the tears of rouge, make people drunk, when will it be heavy?Naturally, people grow up and hate water and grow east! "I like the word "hate water" two
I used it as my pseudonym. ?
Zhang Henshui started here by explaining his name, and just a few words made the young students have a good impression of him.
I have a good impression, and I am impressed by his simplicity and frankness. ?

Dealing with strangers is not limited to the above methods, only in real life to change according to different situations,

Only then can the feelings of both parties be communicated.

(End of this chapter)