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Chapter 47 Scene 47 - When in trouble
Chapter 47 Scene 47 - When in trouble
In daily communication activities, we often encounter some people with ulterior motives who make things difficult for us, which puts us in an embarrassing situation.At this moment

, how should I speak?What should you pay attention to when speaking? ?
The general principle is that one must first maintain emotional calm and composure, discern the truth, and speak appropriately;

Be vague; if you should answer ingeniously, you should speak surprisingly, with profound meaning; if you should be vague, you should not speak out; if you should be silent, you should
Silence... In short, proceed from reality, depending on the situation, and prescribe the right medicine. ?
But there is one thing to pay special attention to: When someone deliberately makes things difficult or humiliates you and hurts your feelings, you must not

Just be angry and get angry, don't bite the bullet and try to be tough.That would fall into his trap, expand the situation, and be even more harmful to oneself.

You can't be tongue-tied or blushing, as that will make the other party feel that you are weak and bully, and he is likely to get worse
mocking you.The only way is: keep calm, control emotions, use your brain quickly, adjust your thinking, use the art of language
Techniques are dealt with in a humorous and quick-witted way.Perhaps, the other party makes you feel embarrassed and embarrassed not necessarily out of
Malicious, many normal interactions can also expose people to problems and threats.In either case, the general principle must be adhered to: say
The words are appropriate and appropriate, and measures should be taken according to the situation. ?
When you are in a predicament, if the following methods and techniques can be used properly, you will be able to get out of the predicament.

([-]) Self-mockery?

Running away from ridicule is not a recipe, nor is it detachment, when you are in a difficult situation.On the contrary, you try to fight back with all your might
It may be ridiculed more by opponents, it is better to have a 180-degree change of detachment.This kind of detachment can free oneself from narrow

Restricted by narrow self-esteem, it can also "soften" fierce opponents. ?
In the early 50s, US President Truman met with the very arrogant General MacArthur.During the meeting, MacArthur took out his pipe,
Load the tobacco, put the pipe in your mouth, and take out the match.When he was about to strike a match, he stopped and said to Truman: "

You don't mind smoking, do you? "?
Obviously, this is not sincerely asking for advice from the other party.Truman hates people who smoke, but he knows very well that in front of this
When an individual is ready to smoke, it would be rude and overbearing to say that he minds. ?
Truman glanced at MacArthur and laughed at himself: "Smoke it. General, the smoke sprayed on my face by others is better than that sprayed on any other place."
There is a lot of smog on every American face. "?
President Truman used self-deprecation to get rid of embarrassing situations, and his self-deprecation also contained deep blame and dissatisfaction
, Invisibly gave the arrogant general a subtle admonition. ?
([-]) A witty remark?

When you are in adversity, a witty answer will often make you look better and save you from desperation. ?
Shi Manqing, a great writer in the Song Dynasty, was known as "Scholar Shi".One day after drinking, he took a carriage to Baoguo Temple to play, and suddenly the horse ran away in fright.

Throw Shi Manqing off the horse.Shi Manqing stood up, patted the dust off her body, picked up the whip, and then looked at the crowd with humor.
The author said: "Fortunately, I am a bachelor of 'stone'. If I am a bachelor of 'tile', I must break it."

Another explanation was made, which was praised by future generations with witty words. ?
([-]) Don't understand the humor?

For example, when you are in a difficult situation, you can use humor to get yourself out of the difficult situation.famous scientist einstein wind

Funny and humorous, once, a young couple who was married by him brought their young son to see him.The child just took a look at Einstein
The couple burst into tears, embarrassing the couple.The humorous Einstein touched the child's head and said happily: "You are the first!"
A person who is willing to express his impression of me to my face. "The frank answer did not make Einstein lose face, but also gave the couple

A sympathy for a woman enlivens the atmosphere and harmonizes the relationship. ?
Here Einstein shows us his tolerance and wit in communication.Young couple confronting embarrassment of crying baby
He neither coaxed the child nor comforted the child's parents, but used self-deprecating methods to help the other party resolve the embarrassment
embarrassed.Einstein interpreted the child's crying as the child's fear and dissatisfaction with himself, and then lowered his posture, relying on his kind words

Qi expresses his agreement with this attitude, which eases the embarrassment of the young couple. ?
Former British Prime Minister Winston Churchill was also a very humorous and good at resolving siege. In his last year in power, he attended a government

ceremony.A few gentlemen whispered not far behind him: "Look, isn't that Churchill?"

Said that he is getting old now", "Some people say that he is about to step down, and that he should give his seat to someone who is more energetic and more

capable people. When the ceremony was over, Churchill turned his head and said to these gentlemen in a serious manner: "

Well, gentlemen, I've also heard that his ears have been failing lately. "?
Churchill knew that self-respect and self-love must express one's thoughts and feelings in an appropriate way. His humorous words here mean both

He relieved himself, and made those gentlemen feel bad for themselves. ?
([-]) teasing to save the siege?

Teasing is a kind of ridicule, but artistic teasing in daily life can refute the other party and get yourself out of trouble. ?
Xiao Zhang once visited a friend's house, and it happened that the husband and wife were hanging a decorative painting.The husband asked his wife: "Is it upright?"
Said: "It's quite upright." After hanging it, the husband saw that it was still a little crooked, and complained: "You are so careless in everything. I
But people who strive for perfection. "The wife was a little bit embarrassed, and when she saw someone present, she said back: "You are absolutely right.

, How else did you marry me, I married you! "This ingenious ridicule not only saved face, but also created a kind of

Humorous atmosphere, the husband also felt that he had made a slip of the tongue, and apologized with a smile. ?
([-]) Exaggerating disadvantages?

When your shortcomings or disadvantages are ridiculed by others, if you deliberately cover them up, you will put yourself in a more embarrassing situation.
But if the shortcomings or disadvantages are exaggerated and raised to a level, it will have a completely different effect, and it is not easy to laugh at the party who laughs at them.
laughed at myself.Your own optimism will be accepted by others.Here is an example of this: ?

There are two employees with leg disabilities in a certain unit, one old and one young, one suffers from the right leg and the other has a disease in the left leg. ?
These two employees are very popular, and people are happy to communicate with them and help them.One of the reasons is that they
Optimistic and open-minded, he never hides his own disability, and sometimes laughs at himself in public. ?
Once after a meal, two people walked out of the restaurant at the same time, one turned left and the other limped to the right. A few colleagues next to them thought it was interesting, so they secretly

Self sniggering.At this time, one of the elders said frankly and loudly: "We two are a leftist and a rightist, and now we are closely cooperating with each other.

Together, neither left nor right, just right. "It made everyone present laugh, and the relationship between the two of them became more harmonious. ?
The two disabled workers, one old and one young, did not keep secrets about their leg problems. Instead, they dared to laugh at themselves in public and faced the ridicule of their workers.

Laughing, they take the initiative to exaggerate their physical defects and raise them to the "level" of "leftists" and "rightists".

Instantly created an extremely funny effect, causing the audience to roar with laughter.In the loud laughter, the ridicule of others automatically dissipated,
Both of them have fully demonstrated their optimistic attitude towards life. ?
In a difficult situation, in addition to the methods and techniques mentioned above, there are still many other methods and techniques. As long as they are used properly,

can help you get out of trouble.

(End of this chapter)