Scene language skills that college students must know

Chapter 48 Scene 48 - When a Spoken Word

Chapter 48 Scene 48 - When a Spoken Word
"People make mistakes, but horses make mistakes." In the process of interpersonal communication, even if you are as good at eloquence as Zhang Yi, you will inevitably make a slip of the tongue for a while.

They may even behave inappropriately and do inexplicable stupid things.While the causes are different, the consequences are similar: being generous, or

Cause disputes, sometimes even out of control. ?
This is embarrassing for everyone.A slip of the tongue may not only cause misunderstanding and unhappiness, but may also be caught by the other party.

, Losing the active position in communication.In fact, although gaffes are inevitable, they are not as terrible as imagined.

To accumulate experience and master skills, you can to a certain extent exchange for the bad influence brought about by a slip of the tongue, and even produce unexpected

Unexpected special effects.Here are some common techniques for making gaffes in everyday life. ?
([-]) Change the title?

When you make a slip of the tongue, if you can change the purpose of the topic and give a unique interpretation of the wrong words, you can get the effect of four or two thousand dollars.Down
The face is an example of this: ?

Sima Zhao and Ruan Ji once went to the early court together, and suddenly a waiter came to report: "Someone killed his mother.

Dear! Ruan Ji had always been unrestrained, so he casually said, "It's all right to kill your father, how can you kill your mother?" "As soon as this remark came out, the full

The civil and military officials of the court were outraged, thinking that he "contradicted filial piety".Ruan Ji also realized that his wording was inappropriate, and quickly explained: "I mean

That is to say, animals know their mothers but not their fathers.Killing one's father is like a beast; what about killing one's mother?Not even the beasts. "a seat

The words were so thoughtful that no one could refute them, and Ruan Ji was spared the disaster of killing himself. ?
Ruan Ji cleverly quoted a metaphor here, unknowingly changed the topic in front of everyone, and subtly calmed down the public anger

.When your inadvertent words cause public outrage, you might as well try this trick. ?
([-]) Hit the east and the west?

When making a slip of the tongue, do not simply affirm or deny the slip of speech, but give an objective explanation.
to the desired effect. ?
When former U.S. President Reagan talked about the mysteries of health to reporters, he unconsciously blurted out: "In addition to exercise, my other
The habit is not to eat salt.Who wants to keep healthy, it is best not to eat salt or eat less salt. "As soon as this remark came out, it immediately aroused national attention.

The unanimous protest of industry practitioners triggered a "salt storm".When the public outrage was not in peace, the director of the Institute of Salt Industry came forward to replace the president

Explained: "Eating salt is good for the human body; and President Reagan had no choice but to follow the doctor's advice not to eat salt. Every

People's situations are different, and the amount of salt should be determined according to their own physical conditions. "?
The director neither denied the president's words, nor affirmed that eating salt is good for the human body, but gave a rather objective explanation, subtly dispelling it.

Except for the turmoil caused by the president's speech mistakes.This is the remedy for the rhetoric.It is clever to use the analysis of the words of mistakes to make mistakes.

Speech lapses were subtly saved. ?
([-]) Reset the circle?

In some occasions, slips of the tongue in terms of quantity and level are very common forms of gaffes, and the "reset method" is the best way to deal with them.
This type of gaffe is more effective.For example, the famous cross talk actor Ma Ji once performed in Huangshi City, Hubei Province.on his table
Before the performance, an actor mistakenly said "Huangshi City" as "Huangshi County", which caused the audience to laugh.horse in laughter
When Ji performed on stage, he opened his mouth and said: "Today, we are honored to perform in Huangshi Province..." These words made the audience laugh

confused.While everyone was whispering, Ma Ji explained: "Just now, one of our actors called Huangshi City a county,

Down one level.Of course I want to say that it is a province here, and I will raise it to a higher level.Such a drop and mention, ha!It's flat! "A few words, cited
The audience roared with laughter, and Ma Ji cleverly rounded up the scene, making the performance go smoothly. ?
Actors go to perform in a local area, but lower the administrative level of the area by one level. This will obviously hurt the self-esteem of the local people and cause

remind them of their unhappiness.In order to help the actor smooth things over, Ma Ji also wanted to make up for the bad influence caused by the actor's slip of the tongue.

, successfully used the "reset method" to raise the "Huangshi County" that was downgraded by one level, and called it "Huangshi Province".
The ground was rounded off, and at the same time, the audience's emotions were mobilized again.

([-]) Special counterattack?

A commonly used method to remedy wrong words is to use specific circumstances and specific explanations to divert the meaning of wrong words and give the other party a strong blow.

Wrong words are fine as long as they are explained logically.Sometimes you can even say "wrong words" as if you said them on purpose. ?
Once, during a debate with Xiao Li, Xiao Wang said to Xiao Li: "Why is your argument a bit like Hitler? You are from Hitler.
Did you learn it from there? "?
Xiao Li made a slip of the tongue: "Yes." Xiao Wang took the opportunity to attack: "I didn't know you were a Nazi."?
Xiao Li countered: "Hitler is my best negative teacher. I think the means you impose on others are in the same vein as Hitler.
Inherited. "?
Here, Xiao Li adopted the method of counterattack with a special solution, which not only found an appropriate reason for his slip of the tongue, but also acted as a pawn to the other party.
One blow to the head achieves the effect of "killing two birds with one stone". ?
([-]) Timely replenishment?

On some occasions, when the speech is obviously unrealistic or unfair, you can promptly criticize your own speech.

Supplement it to make it sufficient and well-founded, so that others can't catch you. This is an extremely effective trick.
method.Consider this example below: ?

In 1981, after the White House suddenly received the news of Reagan's assassination, the presidential office was in a panic and at a loss.experienced country

Secretary Haig came out to maintain the situation.Haig was the commander of the U.S. forces stationed in Europe. After taking off his military uniform, he became the Secretary of State.

Known for his decisiveness and stability.But when he heard the news of Reagan's assassination, he also panicked and made a joke. ?
A reporter asked Haig: "Mr. Secretary, has the President been shot?"?
Haig replied: "No comment."?
The reporter asked again: "Who is currently in charge of the work of the White House?"?
Haig replied: "According to the Constitution, the vice president and the secretary of state are after the president. Now the vice president is not in Washington. I will do it."

Host work. "?
This answer caused an uproar, and the reporters talked a lot.Another reporter immediately asked again:?

"Mr. Secretary of State, has the U.S. Constitution been revised? I remember that the U.S. Constitution states that after the president and vice president, the House of Representatives

President of the Senate and President of the Senate, not Secretary of State. "?
After hearing this, Haig realized that he had made a slip of the tongue, so he asked in a hurry: "Who is behind the deans of the two houses? They are not in Bai
Palace scene, of course I will host it.In order to save time, I just said one less sentence. "?
In a few words, he justified himself, thus resolving the situation for himself. ?
Because of the urgency of the situation, Haig neglected the provision in the Constitution that the Secretary of State presides over the work of the White House. As a result, he was caught by reporters.
Make things difficult.At this time, if Haig admitted that he had misremembered the provisions of the Constitution, he would obviously lose face as a secretary of state, so
In his haste, he quickly added a necessary condition. The deans of the Congress and the Senate are not in the White House, so the Secretary of State presides over it.

The work is also reasonable and reasonable, and you can get rid of the unfavorable situation smoothly.

([-]) Shift focus?

When there is a mistake in one's speech, give another explanation in time, divert the focus of others' attention, and make others pay attention to the mistake.

Transfer to the new interpretation, thus virtually reducing the seriousness of the slip of the tongue. ?
U.S. Secretary of State Kissinger is a successful diplomat. Once, he accepted an interview with Italian female reporter Farage and said

When talking about his successful foreign policy, he even boasted: "Americans admire the western cowboy who went alone, and single-handedly
It's my style, or part of my skill set. "As soon as these remarks were published in the newspaper, they immediately caused an uproar.
People who have always admired Kissinger were also dissatisfied with his rash remarks about his self-congratulations.However, Ji Xinji is Ji Xinji after all, he does not
Taking a deep breath, he wisely took the initiative to accept the interview and took the opportunity to declare: "Meeting Farage at the time was the most stupid thing in my life.
.She misinterpreted my words and just made a fuss about me. "?
Ji and Fa's words, who is true and who is false, outsiders can't figure it out all of a sudden.This is a way to divert other people's attention
method of willpower.It can reduce the severity of errors, but in general, it should be applied with caution because it actually

It is best to use it sparingly unless it is absolutely necessary, so as not to damage one's reputation and lose the trust of others.

([-]) Change in time?

"Correction in time" is a wonderful way to remedy speech mistakes.As long as mistakes are discovered in time, speech mistakes can be covered up and embarrassment can be avoided.

When former U.S. President Reagan visited Brazil, due to the fatigue of the journey, he made an unforgivable joke at the welcome banquet: "

ladies and gentlemen!Today, I am very happy to be able to visit Bolivia. "Suddenly there was silence in the field,
Everyone looked at each other in blank dismay, not knowing what to do.Someone reminded the president in a low voice that he had slipped his mouth, and Reagan quickly changed his words: "I'm sorry, we are
Visited Bolivia not long ago. "Although he had not been to Bolivia at the time, the audience had not yet reacted, and his slip of the tongue

It was already submerged in his next eloquence. ?
Here Reagan employs the "just in time" remedy so well that his blunder is revealed before the audience realizes it.
drowned. ?
([-]) Change the perspective?

When evaluating others, if you make the other party unhappy because of a slip of the tongue in one aspect, you can change the perspective in time to affirm or appreciate the other party in other aspects

The advantage of the surface, as compensation.This will make the other party ignore your gaffe.In everyday life it is relatively

Common and easier to use method. ?
For example, a tall and thin lady bought a new jacket with a pinched waist, and excitedly invited her girlfriend Xiao Wang to comment on it.xiao wang sees her

Wearing new clothes, she looked more and more like a clothes board, and she couldn't help blurting out: "This dress doesn't suit you." The other party's face sank immediately.small
Seeing this, she blamed herself, and then said with a smile: "A slender and slender figure like you, if you wear that kind of loose, fat and long to
The clothes below the knees will look more elegant, chic and generous.Those who are short and fat can't wear this kind of temperament
. "?
After hearing this, the lady immediately turned from anger to joy. ?
Xiao Wang gave his girlfriend's cold comment that "it doesn't suit you" in her new clothes. Even if it is true, it is difficult for the other party to tolerate it.

Fortunately, the abrupt Xiao Wang quickly stated the reason for "not suitable": it was because his girlfriend's figure was too slender and slender

.In order to highlight this advantage of his girlfriend, he also mentioned "those short and fat people" as a foil.Although the other party's new clothes
Although she was belittled, the compliment she received on her figure was enough to turn her anger into joy.

([-]) Adding words and reducing words?

Adding words and subtracting words to the "wrong words" that one has said to change the meaning is another trick to cleverly correct the words. ?
During the Sui and Tang Dynasties, Qin Qiong collapsed in Shanjiazhuang due to poverty and illness.Shan Xiongxin rescued him, and said that he had admired Qin Qiong's name for a long time, but he was suffering from unresolved difficulties.
Have met.Qin Qiong blurted out: "It's right here." As soon as he said the words, he regretted—how could he be in front of a stranger?
Expose your identity?So he quickly added four characters at the end and changed it to "it's my friend from the same office", cleverly concealing

own identity. ?
In the famous play "Thunderstorm" by the famous playwright Cao Yu, there is such a scene: when Lu Shiping sees her long-lost son Zhou Ping again,

, feeling excited, couldn't help exhaling: "Ping..." But she immediately realized that the identities of the mother and the child were very different, and Zhou Puyuan also

It is impossible for her to recognize this son.So he suppressed his grief and changed his words: "Ping—why beat my son?"

disappear into nothingness. ?
This technique of adding words and subtracting words requires the speaker to be calm, witty, and adaptable. ?
([-]) Admit mistakes?

People who have the courage to admit mistakes are always welcome, to rescue mistakes with a frank apology, to win forgiveness with a sincere review, than
It is much more clever to cover up and cover up.When you accidentally say something wrong, you might as well admit it publicly. I believe everyone will appreciate it.
Accept it. ?
Margaret, the daughter of former US President Truman, once gave a concert and was criticized by critic Hume as worthless.duru

In a fit of rage, he wrote a letter scolding Hume, calling him a "bad critic" and "hoping to meet you someday, when

, be careful about the bridge of your nose. "This letter was made public by Hume, and the image of the president plummeted. Truman wisely chose to make it public.
In the way of apologizing, he sincerely said to the people: "My feelings are very fragile, and sometimes I can't control myself."?
It's rare for a president to do something like this.Not only did he not lose the support of the people because of his rude words last time, but also because of his own

The truth has brought more supporters.This also verifies an ancient Chinese proverb: "If you lose your fortune, you will know that it is not a blessing."?
The above ten ways to save a slip of the tongue are just one of many techniques and methods. When you slip of the tongue, you need to be flexible.

Only in this way can "gaffes" become "true words".

(End of this chapter)