Scene language skills that college students must know

Chapter 45 Scene 45 - When the words are not speculative
Chapter 45 Scene 45 - When the words are not speculative
As the saying goes: "Wine is less than a thousand cups when you meet a bosom friend, but half a sentence is too much if you don't talk speculatively." So many people think that when talking not speculative, just put the

Just close it without making a sound. In fact, this is a misunderstanding.How can I achieve the purpose of communication by keeping my mouth shut all the time?
Not talking speculatively does not mean not talking, let alone not expressing.Being good at communicating effectively with the other party when the words are not speculative is a special occasion

Many people in life do not have this quality that is necessary for machines and specific occasions.as a century-old
Students, you must have this quality, because it concerns your own future development.Because the situation where words are not speculative often happens
However, if you don't speak up and don't think about using the appropriate skills to face this situation, you may miss many opportunities, sometimes
Even cause some losses.Therefore, it is very necessary to learn to present yourself appropriately when the words are not speculative.The following is in
Methods and techniques for effective communication when words are not speculative: ?

([-]) Avoid answering?
In the process of speaking, when the other party intentionally or unintentionally touches the pain in our hearts, taboos or questions that we are unwilling to answer,
If there is no good way to answer for a while, then simply avoid answering; or keep silent to express a silent protest; or turn to
Changing the subject to divert the attention of those present from you.Seeing that our side ignored his question, the interrogator, while embarrassed,
You will quickly realize your recklessness and disrespect and stop asking. ?
A female worker in a certain unit got married and distributed wedding candies in the unit. It happened that there was a 33-year-old older woman in the unit who had not yet talked about her partner.
youth.Everyone was eating candy, and suddenly a middle-aged staff member smiled and said to the young woman: "Hey, when will you eat your wedding candy?

Everyone looked at the young woman. The young woman blushed slightly, turned to a nearby female colleague, and pointed at
A fashionable blouse on the female colleague asked: "Huh? When did you buy this blouse? In which store did you buy it?
"The two talked about that dress with great interest.?
It is really impolite to ask an older woman when she will get married in public.Young women encounter this acute problem

The situation is very embarrassing at the time, and a bad answer may cause everyone to gossip, and there is no need for everyone to participate in this matter.At
It was she who immediately shifted the topic to her colleague's clothes, so as to avoid the other party's boring questions.The questioner was given an unabashed snub
, Naturally, he also realized his faux pas, and there was no reason to blame the young woman for ignoring her.

([-]) To turn falsehoods into falsehoods?

Unfounded and provocative questions will always arouse people's disgust, but direct accusations will show

I have to cultivate myself enough.Therefore, we might as well use the method of falsehood, that is, to fabricate a story for ourselves based on the other party's questioning.
A more serious crime, ridiculing the other party for making something out of nothing, being rude, and expressing our great indignation at such unfounded issues.
Anger and refusal to answer. ?
A reporter said to Zaire President Mobutu: "You are very rich. It is said that your property is as much as 30 billion U.S. dollars!" Obviously this
The question was aimed at Mobutu's political integrity.For Mobutu, this is an extremely serious

sensitive and emotional issues.Mobutu laughed for a long time after hearing this, and then asked: "A Billy

When the congressman said I have 60 billion dollars!You heard it! "?
The reporter used an unfounded rumor to question whether Mobutu was honest or not. Mobutu was not provoked into a rage by the opponent, but instead

Instead, he made up a larger, obviously fictitious figure to "aggravate" his "crime" in order to satirize the nature of the reporter's question.
The absurdity and ulterior motives indirectly showed his innocence and safeguarded his reputation.This method must be controlled

Don't be angered by your emotions. ?
([-]) Tit for tat?

When the other party attacks you sharply, don't evade, and respond to the momentum immediately, without mercy.this trick

It is when you must adhere to the principled basis or cannot give in half a step for some interests, the other party will often give up because of your
Counterattack directly to ease its offensive.Please see the following example: ?

On November 1985, 11, at the "Splash Villa" on the shores of Lake Geneva, Reagan and Gorbachev held their first private meeting.

In the afternoon of the first day, the two sides had a heated debate on the most divisive issue - "Star Wars". ?
Gorbachev: "We must ban the production of any space weapons, it must be banned! It must be banned!"?
Reagan: "In the past when we had nuclear weapons exclusively, we didn't use them. I told you that, why don't you
trust me? "?
Gorbachev: "Would you trust me if I said that the USSR would never attack the United States?"?
In order to gain a favorable position, it is often necessary to confront the opponent tit-for-tat, and to fight with each other.In order to give the opponent an imposing manner and a psychological
Fang used pressure to provide assistance for the final victory of the debate.The debate between the heads of two superpowers shows us how diplomacy
Another scene besides smiling. ?
([-]) Turn defense into offense?

The strategy of turning defense into offense is to ask the other party about the difficulty of the question itself before answering the question, and transfer the pressure to the question.
As for the questioner himself, the passive is the active.This often catches the unprepared opponent by surprise, and our side thus smoothly reversed the situation.

Change the situation.We can use this technique when avoiding questions we don't want to answer. ?
In May 1987, Chinese football coach Gao Fengwen led the Chinese football team to the south.On the eve of the battle with the Hong Kong team, Hong Kong has a record
The reporter wanted to inquire about the "military situation", so he asked Gao Fengwen: "How will you treat the Hong Kong team's usual style of play?" Gao Fengwen asked back: "

What do you think is the usual style of play of the Hong Kong team? "The reporter was caught off guard by the question, so he had to change his words and retreat: "It's probably a defense.
Fight back. " Gao Fengwen immediately added: "I am not Guo Jiaming (Hong Kong coach), I don't know how he sets up.but

No matter how the Hong Kong team changes, we are all prepared. "?
The reporter wanted to find out how the Chinese football team would deal with the Hong Kong team's usual style of play.
An imprecise statement, allowing the reporter to explain himself, the reporter did not expect that the problem would fall on himself instead, and the momentum immediately fell short.
After a few points, Gao Fengwen was able to answer his own wishes very calmly.

([-]) Vague answer?

In the process of speaking, especially in some questioning debates, you can often come across some questions that cannot be answered directly but have to be answered.

A. Questions that cannot be answered at the moment but must be answered. At this time, debaters can skillfully use fuzzy arguments to answer
. ?
Fuzzy responses often reflect the speaker's wit, quick wit, adaptability, and evocative. ?
The famous Argentine football player Diego?Maradona's first goal against England was 'quite

The "problem ball" of "controversy". It is said that a reporter in Mexico once took a shot of "shooting with hands".?
When the reporter asked Maradona whether the ball was a handball or a header, Maradona replied astutely: "Half of the handball is a dick."

Yes, half of the headers were Maradona's. "Maradona's answer is quite scheming, if he bluntly admits that "it is true

If so", then the effective judgment of the referee is undoubtedly "revenge". But if you don't admit it, you will lose "the world's best ball
The demeanor of "player". And this wonderful "half" and "half" is tantamount to admitting that the ball was hit by the arm, which is quite "

The general's spirit of "clear people don't do secret things" also affirmed the authority of referees in terms of rules, and also possessed the demeanor of a gentleman. ?
Fuzzy responses use words with large contractility, strong flexibility, and unclear semantics to answer some questions that cannot be answered directly but must be answered.

problems, thereby resolving contradictions and getting rid of passive situations.

([-]) Deliberate misinterpretation?

For some sensitive issues, the questioner generally does not question the essence of the problem directly, but instead starts from other seemingly ordinary things.

Start with things, and conduct inductive inquiries on the sidelines.At this time, we can deliberately pretend that we don't understand the real intention of the other party, and stand still.
Distort his questioning on a very superficial and superficial level, and impose this distortion on the other party, making the other party aware of our own
Deliberate misunderstanding is actually expressing euphemistic protest and avoidance, so as to tactfully give up their own questioning. ?
In 1974, Zhou Enlai met with Thai Prime Minister Mr. Kerry at the hospital. When they said goodbye, Mr. Kerry said:?

"May I ask one last question?"?
"Please."?
Ke Li smiled and stared at Premier Zhou, to be precise, at Premier Zhou's chest. ?
"During this visit to your country," Klee said, "I found a small change: People hardly wear Chairman Mao badges anymore.

When I came to Beijing in 1971, everyone wore badges. "?
"This is your problem?"?
"No," Keli smiled mysteriously, "The question is about you, Your Excellency. When the Cultural Revolution began, people wore Mao

and you only wear the 'Serve the People' badge, even at the height of the revolution in 1971,

And why do you wear badges when people don't?Why did you replace the medal of 'serving the people' with Mao?

Chairman badge? "?
The Prime Minister said: "Mr. Kerry is very interested in Chinese badges. I know you want this badge of mine, so I gave it to you."?
Premier Kerry wanted to know Premier Zhou Enlai's clear response to the changes in China's political situation. This is a sensitive political issue.he
On the grounds that the badge worn on Zhou's chest has changed, he asked Zhou from the side.After Premier Zhou figured out his intentions, he avoided
To get to the essence of the question, I deliberately interpreted Keli's meaning as that he wanted to get his own badge and gave it generously.in this situation

Under such circumstances, Kerry, who was dumbfounded, could not say anything other than accepting this unexpected gift.Zhou Enlai with his own wisdom
Another victory in diplomatic mediation was achieved. ?
([-]) Reject it with reason?

For those questions that are deliberately difficult and have ulterior motives, sometimes, we don't need to hide our disgust and dilemma
, you don’t have to rack your brains to think about the countermeasures, but you can directly point out that the other party’s questioning is inappropriate or impolite, secretly

It means that this kind of unreasonable question will bring difficulties to others, so he directly refuses to answer the question. ?
Wang Guangying, a celebrity once hailed as a "red capitalist" by Liu Shaoqi, also experienced hardships during the "Cultural Revolution".After his comeback, he was ordered
Went to Hong Kong to establish Everbright Industrial Company.Unexpectedly, as soon as he got off the plane, the Hong Kong reporter asked him a difficult question: "What is this?"
How much money did you bring when you came to Hong Kong to set up a company? "?
This is a tricky question to answer affirmatively or negatively, saying too much or too little money can give people a hard time

son.Fortunately, seeing that the other party was a female reporter, Wang Guangying answered wisely: "You can't ask women about their age, and men can't ask about their money."

number.Miss, are you right? "?
The reporter asked Wang Guangying how much money he spent in running the company, which made him feel very embarrassed.So, he avoided the subject and used a
A well-known saying that indirectly criticizes the reporter's question for violating the rules, indicating that he will not answer such non-compliance"

The question of "rules of the game" makes it difficult for the other party to argue.?
When encountering the situation of "talking is not speculative", there are many methods and techniques to deal with it. The above seven methods are only commonly used methods, but
Can be rigid, but flexible.In this way, the situation of "talking without speculation" can really be resolved by not just being silent or walking away.

This way to solve, in order to communicate better.

(End of this chapter)