Scene language skills that college students must know

Chapter 3 Scene [-] - Skills of Communication and Pleasure

Chapter 3 Scene [-] - Skills of Communication and Pleasure
You should also pay attention to skills when greeting each other, that is, how to speak greetings.The most commonly used greeting in Chinese is "Have you eaten yet?"
When foreigners meet, they say "Hello".Some people think that talking about greetings is dispensable nonsense, which is a big mistake
up.Although these greetings do not have any actual content, they are indispensable in communication and can make people feel more comfortable when they meet.

The atmosphere becomes active, increasing each other's intimacy and arousing interest in conversation.People often greet each other not to win
To get some definite answers, but hope to send a friendly message to the other party with the help of greetings, and then arouse the other party's emotional
Resonance, thereby promoting mutual friendship and cooperation.As one anthropologist put it: "Greetings are the beginning of human interaction."

Appropriate greetings can have an effect that ordinary words cannot.Here are some common techniques and methods in greeting
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([-]) Greeting?

This is a form often used when two people meet, or nod their heads, or shake hands with a smile, or ask for a conversation, and salute each other.

each other
Respect, showing a sense of closeness. ?
For example, A and B meet:?
A: "Hello!"?
B: "Okay, are you okay too!"?
A: "I haven't seen you for a long time, what are you up to?"?
B: "Hey, why don't you run around and do sales for the company."?
A: "Where are you going now?"?
B: "Go to ×× factory to negotiate a contract. What about you?"?
A: "Driving a taxi and doing my job."?
B: "Okay, goodbye!"?
A: "Goodbye!"?
The advantage of this kind of greeting is that they are very polite and affectionate to each other, and they speak well, showing a kind of friendly relationship.

Department, both parties are very happy. ?
If the object of greeting is a relatively close classmate, colleague, friend, family member, etc., then the content of greetings will be richer.this
If you can make targeted greetings based on specific people and things at the time, it will play a role in strengthening the relationship between the two parties and enhancing mutual friendship.

good effect.If you meet a familiar person who has just come out of the hospital, you can say, "Are you feeling better today?"

If it is a friend who likes to play the guitar, you can ask: "How is your guitar practice now?"?
([-]) Praise style?
This is a way for one party to praise the other, or the two parties to praise each other, which can activate the atmosphere of greetings and make one or both parties feel emotional.

be satisfied. ?
E.g:?
A: "Xiao Wang, your speech at the conference yesterday was wonderful!"?
B: "Well, thank you, I appreciate it."?
or:?

A: "Xiao Li, your waterfall-like long hair is so beautiful!"?
B: "Well, your high-up coiled dragon bun is also very beautiful!"?
In a short conversation, both parties were satisfied.Then, of course, the conversation can proceed smoothly. ?
([-]) Descriptive?
Descriptive greetings refer to greetings issued for specific communication scenes.what the other person is doing, what they have just done, or

Whatever you are about to do can become the content of descriptive greetings. ?
E.g:?
A: "Hey, you've been so busy recently, you just got off work!"?
B: "Well. You bought so many vegetables, where are you going now!"?
([-]) What are other words?

Talking to each other is talking about things that are of interest to each other outside of themselves. ?
E.g:?
A: "Have you listened to the weather forecast? Today's temperature is as high as 39 degrees!"?
B: "It's really hot. Do you have air conditioning in your house?"?
A: "Yes, what about you?"
B: "My family also has it."?
This form of speaking can more easily build a bridge of greetings and communicate the emotions of both parties. ?
([-]) Humorous style?
Adding some humor and humor to the greetings is very effective in coordinating the communication atmosphere. The communication and friendship between people is here.

Humorous pleasantries build up in the middle.E.g:?

A: "Hey, Xiao Zhang, why is your face so bright today?"?
B: "Look at what you said, isn't it the first prize in the competition!"?
When exchanging pleasantries, there are some taboos.If you violate other people's taboos, the consequences can be imagined.

main taboo main

There are the following points: ?

1?Avoid stereotypes?
Avoid stereotyping in greetings.In Lao She's famous play "Tea House", there is an old man from the Qing Dynasty

Second Master Song, he was busy beating up Qian'er whenever he saw someone.Call a thousand children and ask, "How are you?" "How is your wife?" "How is your young master?"

It is really tiresome to use repetitive syllables and repetitive movements, which should be avoided. ?
2?Avoid getting to the bottom of it?

There was a young man who was very bad at greetings. When he met a girl, he would only ask: "Do you have an aunt?" "Do you have a sister?"
The question made the girl very angry and said: "Oh, you are checking the household registration, let me tell you, I have uncles, uncles and uncles.
One outside
Nephew, I won’t ask you one by one! "Of course the girl left in a huff.?
3?Avoid acting like no one else?

Two experts are on a date at a restaurant, one arrives first and the other arrives late, they greet each other from afar: "Oh! You are here first!"

, sound like a bell.The guests in the entire restaurant were startled, and they all saluted them with "attention salutes", as if they had discovered something

Like a monster. ?
4?Avoid hands and feet?

Physical distance is related to how close you are to each other.Of course, physical contact is not easy for strangers

happens in the middle.In life, if we see a person pat another person on the shoulder, we can infer that they are "buddies"

intimate relationship.Another situation is to convey a certain message, and these messages have reached a tacit understanding among each other.In "Greetings

Between friends who are not close to each other, actions such as patting, patting, etc. will not only fail to enhance friendship, but will also hurt each other.
startled or disgusted.

(End of this chapter)