Scene language skills that college students must know

Chapter 10 Scene Ten - When Visiting Others
Chapter 10 Scene Ten - When Visiting Others
Visiting is a common way of communication in life. When people need advice, help, discussion, invitation or interview, they will go to
visit others.Paying attention to the speaking skills of the visit can enhance the friendship between the host and the guest. If you don’t pay attention to the speaking skills, you may

cause the opposite result.Therefore, it is necessary to pay attention to some skills when visiting.The main activity of the visit is to talk, when talking

To keep

To have a good talk, to avoid cold silence, to distinguish between appearances and colors, and adapt to circumstances, so as to make the visit go smoothly.Also note that
Some visiting taboos, this is also an important aspect to ensure the success of the visit. ?
([-]) Preparatory stage?

An appointment should be made before visiting.Now that the telephone has been popularized, it is best for visitors to call in advance to ask if the host is willing to receive

, and schedule a visit.Of course, you have to choose the right time to call.The master is old and has the habit of taking a nap, so in the afternoon two
Don't bother before the hour; phone calls in the early morning and late at night can also be annoying; phone calls one after another during dinner are unbearable;
The most appropriate is before dinner.In case the owner is not around, you can also report your home and leave a message, but generally do not ask the owner to call back

Instead, ask: "When is the best time for me to call?" If the other party asks you to leave your name and call back number, you can also leave it.

The following is solemn, but at the same time it should be stated: "I will call again."?
When agreeing on the time and place of the visit, the owner's opinion should be fully respected.There is a certain relationship between the place of visit and the content of the visit
.It is more appropriate to ask for advice and interviews at work units; it is better to go to family visits for help or personal matters. ?
The choice of visiting time has a great impact on the realization of the purpose of the visit. Generally speaking, early morning, meal, lunch break, and late night are not

It is appropriate to go to the door.For example, when Grandma Liu visited Rongguo Mansion for the first time in "A Dream of Red Mansions", she set off "before dawn".Come to Jia Mansion,
After breakfast, I met Sister Feng.After sitting down, Grandma Liu first stated that she was here to "see my aunt, my aunt" and waited for "mind"

Fang Ding" before explaining the purpose of coming. Sister Feng had already guessed a little bit. After entertaining her for a meal, she made "girls into clothes" for [-] minutes.
"Two silver" to her. Grandma Liu achieved her purpose of visiting to ask for silver. First, she chose an appropriate time to visit

After breakfast, it was undoubtedly the time for Sister Feng, a busy person in Rongguo Mansion, to take a rest, so Grandma Liu was able to meet.Secondly, at that time, Sister Feng
A good mood is also conducive to the realization of the purpose of her visit. ?
Greetings and pleasantries when meeting are essential.Under normal circumstances, it is best to call out the other party's name in the first greeting when meeting each other.

Honorific title, title or name.Your first sentence may be: "Hello!" But it is better to say: "Mr. ×××, Hello!"

Or: "Mr. ×, hello!" Everyone likes others to call out their names in a loud voice.I can call you as soon as we meet
The name of the other party is especially effective for people who meet for the first time or who have not seen for a long time, or who meet for the second time after meeting once by chance.
its good.When the guest talks to the host, first of all, don’t get into substantive issues, you can talk about the weather and ask the host about the child’s study

situation, talk about anecdotes, and care about the health of the elderly in his family... When the atmosphere of the conversation is harmonious, that is, when the two parties are psychologically compatible
, and then slowly explain the purpose of coming.In this way, you will definitely achieve the purpose of the visit.

([-]) Conversation stage?

When the host and the guest are talking, you should take the initiative to contact the purpose of your visit and speak in a timely manner so as not to waste too much time of the host.you should use words
Concise and concise words explain the purpose of your visit. There is no need to talk too much or too loosely. This will not only waste time, but also affect you.
An expression of the main purpose of the visit.When talking, also control the volume so as not to disturb others. ?
There's nothing worse than a "cold silence" on a visit, so keeping the conversation going is an important skill.keep the host entertained

One way is to listen patiently and encourage in time.For example, after the host expresses his opinion, if you feel the same way, you can say: "

I think so too! "With a bosom friend, the master will talk more and more enthusiastically. If you don't agree with the master's talk, you might as well use the please

The tone of the teacher said: "Oh, so it is like this, I didn't expect it at first, can you talk about it again?" In this way, the master will also
He feels that although what he is facing is not a bosom friend, at least he is an audience that can be won over, and he will try his best to clarify his point of view

to convince each other.If the master's words sound against you, in this case, don't use the words of an enemy

Say, "No..." Instead, say in an objective tone, "Really? I've heard people hold different views. Look at their
Where is the wrong view? "In this way, even if the host goes on to refute the opposite completely, it will not destroy the atmosphere of the interview."
atmosphere. ?
When talking and listening, people are accustomed to using some responses such as "um", "oh", "really", "really".

Response words have a certain effect in the process of conversation, but when they are used improperly, they will have negative effects.If you want the master to keep
Talking, the best way is to use the correct answer to give timely encouragement, so that the host is full of confidence.if he's just normal

As mentioned above, you should use a falling "um" to indicate comprehension.When in doubt, use a rising "um" to cue him to explain
.If the other party has a request and you can accept it, then you should immediately respond with a downgraded "yes" or "ok".if

When the other party delivers good news that is beyond your expectation, you should use "really" or "really?" to express surprise.

Because every speaker expects some kind of feedback before speaking.Only by getting normal feedback can he be more confident
, Continue the conversation more passionately without interrupting it disappointingly. ?
During the visit, some unexpected situations are often encountered. On the one hand, the visitor should concentrate on talking with the host.
At the same time, we should also be keenly aware of these unexpected information and deal with it appropriately.E.g:?

While the master is talking to you, he is looking away while someone is talking in a low voice.This shows what was interrupted by your visit just now
It is such an important matter, the master is thinking about it in his heart, although he is receiving you, he is absent-minded.At this time you are the wisest way
The way is to "stop", leave the most important request and leave: "You must be very busy, so I won't bother you.

Let's hear the echo again! "You left, the master is grateful to you, but also feels guilty: "Because of my own affairs, I didn't take care of you.
Treat others. "In this way, he will try his best to fulfill your entrustment as compensation.?
During the conversation, the doorbell and the phone suddenly rang.At this time, you should take the initiative to stop the conversation, ask the host to receive the visitor, and answer the call.
talk.You can't listen but don't hear, and talk endlessly, which makes the master in a dilemma. ?
When you visit again and hope to hear the good news that the entrusted matter has been completed, you find that although the master has taken a lot of trouble after being entrusted,

It has not been completed satisfactorily or even the progress is very slow. It is inevitable to be anxious at this time, but you should turn the urging that comes to your lips into thanks, fully
Affirm the master's efforts for you.Then tell them about the current situation in order to seek understanding and sympathy.At this time, the master will

Realizing that although I have worked hard, I have not really solved the problem, so I made up my mind to "do it to the end", and go further for you.
Walk. ?
The last thing you want in a visit is commitment and the last thing you want is rejection.The first thing to learn when you get rejected is how to "artistically"
"Accept rejection skillfully". This is very difficult to do. After being rejected, most of the visitors draw a long face, muttering to themselves:
"The air is so big, what's so great!" Saying goodbye in such an atmosphere, I am afraid that it will be difficult for each other to meet again

wishes, but if you can accept rejection artistically, then today's rejection may become a promise tomorrow. ?
([-]) Farewell stage?

At the end of the visit, the visitor should say goodbye in due course.Once the visitor has stated his requirements, the interviewee has made due

response, at which point the visitor should leave.Before going out, a short farewell should be given to show courtesy. This short farewell is aimed at

Leave a good impression on the host and pave the way for future friendship.E.g:?

1?Impression?

Nice to meet you today! ?

It is my honor for you to receive me in your busy schedule! ?
Listening to what you say is better than reading ten years of books!Benefited a lot. ?
2?Gratitude?

Thank you for your hospitality! ?
Thank you so much for hosting me today! ?
Thank you for taking up so much of your time! ?
Sorry to bother you! ?
3?Wishing?

Take care, bye! ?

Pay more attention to your body, bye! ?
Hope to have the opportunity to listen to teaching again in the future. ?
Along with the farewell words, there should be physical movements such as smiling, nodding, and bowing.If more than one person is visiting and you leave first, then
Be sure to apologize.If your visit has come to an end and the host has other guests, you should leave immediately so that the host can receive them.

It is called "the former guest gives way to the later guest". ?
([-]) Visit taboo?

Taboos for visiting are of the following categories: ?
1?Avoid vulgar posture?
Visitors should pay attention to posture when speaking.Do not cross your legs when sitting down, or lean back on the sofa, these two postures are both
Casual and relaxed will make people feel that you are indifferent to this visit.when you stand and talk to the master

Do not fold your hands in front of your chest when you are in a posture, because this posture has the meaning of self-protection and shows some hostility unintentionally.don't
Feel free to use those gestures with strong emotions. ?
2?Avoid acting casually?

Some people go to the owner's house and randomly rummage through the owner's things without permission, which will make the owner very disgusted.may also make the host

Doubts about the character of the visitor. ?
3?avoid long-winded words

Some visitors digressed far away from the topic and couldn't grasp the center of their speech; some kept saying trivial things over and over again;
Knowing hosts talk about their own private affairs, it is not good to ask others to talk to them, and it is not good not to talk to them. ?
4?Avoid sitting for a long time?

When you go to visit people, be very careful not to stay too long.Because when the host entertains guests, he has to pay a great price physically and mentally.

, After a long time, you will definitely be tired.When there are guests, the guests often become the center of the whole family's attention, while the host's whole family
Activities will be restricted to a certain extent, and there will be a temporary disorder in the law of life. If such disorder lasts too long, it will become
unbearable. ?
5?Avoid repeated entanglement?

Some visitors asked the host to do things that were rejected for some reason. At this time, they would repeatedly pester the host, leaving a very bad impression on the host.
The host was very disgusted by this impression, and since then he no longer wants to deal with visitors.

(End of this chapter)