Smile is very alluring: the charming temperament you want most

Chapter 24 Don't be vain, I like the long stream of water (4)
The word "marriage" in Chinese characters is a combination of the word "female" and the word "faint", which is very interesting, maybe this is just to remind women to be "confused" in marriage!If a woman can realize the essence of it, then her marriage must be happy.

Some happiness is "boiled" out
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When you see me, or don’t see me, I’ll be there, neither sad nor happy; You miss me, or don’t miss me, the love is there, never come or go; You love me, or don’t love me, the love is there, never increasing No reduction; you follow, or not follow me, my hand is in yours, never give up.

——Tashiram Dodo, author of The Silence of Banzaguru Pema

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Some people say that love is very simple, because every couple who loves each other will say: "I love you, and I am willing to give everything for you."

Some people say that love is very difficult, because every couple will encounter wind and rain, and it is not easy to support each other until they grow old.

Yes, falling in love is easy and staying together is difficult.Remember the vows you read when you got married?That is not a few general empty words, but a commitment and responsibility.In the journey of love, prosperity and adversity, wealth and poverty, health and disease, always alternate from time to time.Love in good times is very simple, nothing more than being together and being happy together; but love in adversity is very difficult, it requires you to brave the storm, support your partner and never leave.Although love is only one word, it is full of faith and determination to share responsibility with each other and stand together through thick and thin.

Looking back on the ten years of relationship between himself and Xinrui, Xiaofeng's eyes couldn't help getting moist.They fell in love at the age of 22. During the period of separation and reunion, twists and turns, they finally walked hand in hand to the present.

His thoughts returned to the days when he was full of fear and despair because of the tumor.Xinrui didn't leave him, but stood by his side silently, giving him encouragement.Sometimes, I went to the hospital with him. Although it was hard, I didn't complain at all.Xiaofeng felt grateful in his heart, without her, he would have collapsed in despair.With Xinrui, he is full of hope for the future and lives actively every day.At the same time, he also felt guilty for not being able to give Xinrui a comfortable life for the time being. He hoped that he could better compensate Xinrui in the future, and be a big tree that could walk around, so that she could have a solid support and protect her from danger. Wind and rain.

Referring to that past event, Xinrui said: "No one can predict what will happen in the future. But what does it matter? No matter what happens, as long as we are together for a day, we will face it happily."

Ten years have passed, and they have been staying together, and they have a warm home and a lovely child.The years they have traveled together have made each other deeply understand: love is staying together in the wind and rain, and being together in the ordinary.

Love doesn't have to be vigorous, as long as it can stay together in the wind and rain, and enjoy each other in the ordinary, it is a rare wealth.In many cases, the road to happiness is very long and "slow".If you don't walk through the icy snow mountains together, and you don't have the accumulation of life and death, mutual support, even if you have it, it may not last long.A happy marriage requires two people to work together, grow together, and support and care for each other over the long years.

A calm woman must understand that true happiness often does not come so easily.Many times, happiness is "boiled", whether it is emotionally or in life.Here, I would like to share a story with you: At the wedding banquet, an imposing man walked slowly towards the crowd with a jeweled and elegant lady on his arm.That man is the president of a certain company, and that woman is his wife.

Watching their backs, a young mother and daughter had an interesting conversation.

The girl curled her lips and said, "It's really a gorgeous flower pot, with a bitter cauliflower planted! That lady, no matter how she dresses up, she can't hide the traces of time on her face! Only a temperament like mine is like the president's wife." Oh!"

The mother laughed and said, "Men are like wine. The older they get, the better they get. You stand beside the president, maybe it complements each other perfectly. But would you fall in love with a swineherd whose parents both died and had no family? Would you fall in love with a self-made man?" Do you share the joys and sorrows with the man who breaks a penny in half? If you want to be the wife of the president, you must first live in a pigsty, cut pig grass, smell pig manure, and suffer all kinds of hardships in the wind and rain. Happiness comes slowly in bitter water. boiled out."

The girl stuck out her tongue and stopped talking.

A man is like a piece of jade that needs to be carved. After several years of polishing, it becomes bright and dazzling.However, how many people would focus on him when he was poor and broke and struggling hard?I hope that all women can understand the true meaning of love and happiness, and don’t take it for granted that being a “quick rich wife” is happiness if you save two or 30 years of struggle; don’t regard marriage as a way to unconditionally seek happiness and enjoyment, love and happiness Marriage has a taste of happiness, but it also carries a responsibility and obligation.From the moment you decide to walk into life with him, you have to be ready to stand with him through thick and thin.

Love softly, love long

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You don't have to love, you don't get hurt.So can everything related to love be light and transparent.Can we just love each other a little bit, just a little bit.Perhaps, only in this way, we will not be jealous because of love, and we will not be sad because of love.

——Anonymous

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Zhang Ailing said: "Women are born with a humble heart in love, always low, low into the dust, and then flowers bloom from the dust." Perhaps Zhang Ailing just wanted to tell women in the world: love makes people humble.When you fall in love with someone, you will feel that he is stalwart and noble, and you will think that he is the best man in the world.Everything about him is so glorious in your eyes, he is your heaven.When you fall in love with someone, you will feel that you are just a small flower in the sky, you need to look up to let him see.If he saw it, that would be his luck.

However, because of this sentence, too many women in the world have lowered themselves time and time again in the name of love, down to the dust.It's a pity that when the person she loved didn't bow her head, her humble heart was buried in the dust forever, and she never let out her light again.

I have read a fable about love, and it is very appropriate to use it here.

The mouse fell in love with the bat deeply, thought over and over again, and finally plucked up the courage to confess to the bat.Unexpectedly, it was rejected by the bat.

The mouse was not reconciled, and said, "Why don't you give me a chance? Can't you see that I am sincere?"

The bat said lightly: "We are not of the same kind, and we are not suitable to be together. I long to fly with the one I love, but you have no wings, how can you fly with me?"

The mouse said, "We can live on land together!"

The bat said calmly: "I said, I don't love you. Because of this, I won't give up flying for you."

The mouse was heartbroken and said, "Okay. If you want to be with you, someone has to sacrifice. I am willing to change myself for you. If I learn to fly, you will love me, won't you?"

The bat was very helpless and said, "You can't learn to fly, because you don't have wings."

At this time, the mouse has been dazzled by love, and it said: "I believe in the power of love, and I also believe that you will be moved by me. Love can make me fly. If you don't believe me, I can fly right now for you to see."

As he said that, the mouse found two leaves about the size of bat wings, flapped them, and ran towards the edge of the cliff...

How can two leaves serve as wings?Taking a step back, even if love is really magical and can turn leaves into wings, can flying be learned all at once?Even if the mouse really flies, the distance it flies is only the distance between the cliff and the ground. The flying time is too short, so short that it has no time to fall in love with the bat.

Love should be calm, not humble, let alone desperate.To love calmly is not to love not deeply, but to love calmly, rationally, and far away.I will not do stupid things impulsively for love, nor will I live against my will for love and for each other.

She is an accountant in the company, pretty in appearance and strong in work ability. Many unmarried men in the company secretly throw hydrangeas to her, and the boss appreciates her very much.

Finally, on a snowy Christmas Eve, this pretty "flower" fell to an ordinary employee in the marketing department.For a while, many friends around me were surprised: "You don't want so many outstanding men, why did you settle on him? He is just an ordinary employee!"

"Does love have anything to do with these? If you love him, you will love him, regardless of whether he is ordinary or elegant!" She said lightly.

Soon, she falls into a honeypot of love.Six months later, the man proposed to her.She said: "Will this be too soon? Let me think about it..." She said she was thinking about it, but she was full of joy in her heart.

The man found her, gave her a bunch of invoices, and asked her to reimburse her.

She told the man that if it is not for public use, it cannot be reimbursed.

The man smiled and said, "It's not up to you to decide? Besides, I also want to live a better life for us in the future. A monthly report of several hundred, what is it for such a big company? No one will know .”

The woman suddenly felt that the man in front of her was very strange. She said, "I have already thought about what happened last time. Let's break up. I don't think you are the person I am looking for in my life."

She was very sad, because she said that she still loved him at the moment of breaking up; but she was also very fortunate that she had seen the character of this man clearly before marriage.

In love, we all have the right to enjoy it to the fullest, but we have to bury a line, a bottom line, in our hearts.Once another person in love touches that bottom line, we have to wake up and regain our sanity.

Once, there was a girl who couldn't accept her boyfriend's decision to break up, so she begged him bitterly, saying: "I can't live without you, I can't imagine how I will live in the future. You say my friend doesn't like you, I can be less Hang out with them; you say that my parents don’t like you, so we can go home less often; you say you don’t like my shortcomings, you list them, and I can change them, and I promise not to do anything you don’t like ..." However, the boyfriend said: "It's because of you that I can't continue to be with you. You make me feel too tired. Love is not a matter of one person. You are always working too hard, but I can't do anything. "

Sacrifice yourself for love, lose yourself, cause people to betray their relatives, and even hurt the closest people around them. Is this love or loss of reason?I hope this woman can understand that it is impossible to live only by love, that kind of life is incomplete.The more calmly you love, the more rational your heart will be; the more impulsive you will be, the more lost your heart will be.True love is by no means to show your love with all your strength and impulsiveness regardless of the consequences at once, but to slowly infiltrate the other person's heart with every bit of subtle emotion over the long years.Furthermore, if you change everything about yourself for a man, is that still you?Love too desperately, too hard can't move the other party, it will only add burden to his heart.

Love is great, but it is also small.Women don't have to give up everything for love, let alone be humble.We might as well understand what Zhang Ailing said from another angle: because I fell in love with him, I worked hard to grow in the humble dust, and then let myself bloom into a flower.Love calmly, love lightly, only when half a flower blooms and a little drunk, can love flow forever.

(End of this chapter)