Smile is very alluring: the charming temperament you want most

Chapter 14 Self-confidence, the beauty of a windy temperament (3)
We can't use too many words to comment on women like Juanyi, after all, the living conditions of most women in life are not as good as hers, and they are even very different from hers.They work hard every day, don't have their own house, and don't have so much savings, but they don't have as many desires as Juanyi. They know how to be content and let go of unnecessary pursuits.Perhaps, they are not rich, but they live happily and wonderfully. This kind of wealth is not external, but the result of spiritual function.

In fact, only with an optimistic attitude can we make a quick response in any situation, find out a solution, and determine a new life plan.Optimistic people will not show disappointment or despair in their careers, as a book says: "A pessimistic state of mind destroys hope, while an optimist can inspire hope."

There is no unhappy life, only an unhappy heart.Living in this world full of changes, women must learn to face life with a sunny attitude.When encountering difficulties, believe that "there are always more ways than difficulties"; in the face of unsatisfactory things, reflect more on your own methods of doing things and principles of life, and be less pessimistic and hopeless; when encountering accidents, turn grief into strength and feel The laws of nature cannot be done, and letting nature take its course is the true meaning of happiness; when you lose something, accept it calmly and cherish what you still have in your hands; Discover that life has actually given you too much.

Believe that every flower has a reason to bloom

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Whoever has self-confidence is half successful.

—German physicist Albert Einstein

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The famous Indian poet Rabindranath Tagore once wrote such a sentence in his poem: "You know, you cherish, the flowers bloom hard. You don't know, you hate, the flowers bloom hard." Yes, like an eagle Destined to soar in the sky, fish swim in the water, and horses gallop in the wilderness, flowers are born to bloom beautifully, which is their mission.Although the hardships are short-lived, although they will eventually wither, compared with the beauty and splendor of the blooming, these are not worth mentioning.

Just imagine, if the flowers refuse or stop blooming because of fear of the hardships and loneliness before the light and the withering and withering after the splendor, how many intoxicating scenery will the world lose?
Our lives come into this world, just like flowers, destined to experience the ups and downs of life, in the face of difficulties, setbacks, blows, are you like a flower, continue to bloom bravely and positively, or shrink your body, Stagnant like a flower bud?

Helen Keller is a world-renowned blind and deaf female writer and educator.When she was one and a half years old, she suffered from scarlet fever and lost her hearing and vision, as well as her ability to speak.

Living in a dark, lonely and silent world, Helen Keller was not pessimistic and frustrated, but faced reality with a positive and optimistic attitude.Under the help and guidance of her teacher Anne Sullivan, Helen Keller overcame physical and mental pain and suffering with an optimistic spirit and tenacious will and achieved success.

She loves everything in this world and her own life, and learns as much knowledge as possible with great enthusiasm. With her own efforts and the help of her mentor, she miraculously learned to read and speak, and was able to communicate with others. communicate with others.

Finally, Helen Keller graduated with honors from Radcliffe College of Harvard University in the United States and became the first blind and deaf person in the world to complete university education.She is knowledgeable and proficient in 5 languages ​​including English, German, French, Greek, and Latin. She was also selected as one of the "Top Ten American Heroes and Idols of the 20th Century" by Time Magazine, and was awarded the "Presidential Medal of Freedom".

Helen Keller insisted on writing and kept writing, writing 14 books in her life.The debut novel "My Life" caused a sensation in the United States as soon as it was published, and was called "an incomparable masterpiece in the history of world literature" by experts.

Her masterpiece "If You Give Me Three Days of Light" has been widely circulated all over the world. The article uses herself as the prototype and warns people with able-bodied limbs in the world to cherish life and everything bestowed by the Creator, which has inspired generations of young people.

While constantly improving and perfecting herself, Helen Keller also tried her best to help and encourage people who had the same experience as herself.She traveled all over the United States and around the world, raising funds for schools for the blind, and devoted her life to the welfare and education of the blind.

The famous writer Mark Twain once said: "In the 19th century, there are two people worthy of attention, one is Napoleon, and the other is Helen Keller."

As a disadvantaged woman who lost her eyesight, hearing and language functions, Helen Keller did not give in to her unfortunate fate in pessimism and negativity. Instead, she bravely accepted life with a positive and optimistic mood and an unrelenting heart. Face the difficulties and adversities in life with amazing perseverance, embrace the whole world with your greatest enthusiasm, and finally find the light of your life in the dark world, and at the same time warm and loving you The hands are stretched out to those in need, bringing hope not only to oneself but also to others.

Helen Keller's great deeds have made many able-bodied people feel ashamed.During her 87 years of solitude without light, voice, and speechlessness, this amazing woman who gave people a thumbs-up, practiced many things that are difficult to achieve in the eyes of healthy people.A large part of the reason for such amazing achievements is due to her positive and optimistic attitude. She firmly believes that she is still a flower that can bloom.

It can be seen that having a positive and optimistic mood has an extremely important impact on a person's life.People with a positive outlook are more likely to see the bright side of things than those who are mired in pessimism and negativity.

So, how to maintain a positive and optimistic attitude?Here are a few points you might as well try.

1.Encourage yourself to face setbacks calmly

It is to use certain life philosophies or some positive thoughts to comfort and motivate yourself, so that you have the courage to face difficulties and setbacks and fight against them.Effectively mastering this method can help you get rid of pain and adversity as soon as possible.

2.Verbal cues to convince yourself "I can do it"

Language has a non-negligible impact on emotions. When you are controlled by negative and pessimistic emotions, you can use verbal hints to adjust your bad emotions.

For example, recite inspirational quotes or stories; silently say to yourself "don't be pessimistic", "you can do it", "pessimism and negativity will not help, and will even make things worse", "Instead of passively avoiding, it is better to face it positively." " and so on; constantly use words to remind, order, hint, etc. to oneself.This kind of language suggestion method is very conducive to the improvement of mood.

3.divert attention, cheer yourself up
When encountering pain and blows, we must not be trapped in the pessimistic quagmire and cannot extricate ourselves.At this time, you might as well try to divert your attention and watch emotionally adjusted film and television works (preferably inspirational and warm dramas) or read positive and inspiring books (such as celebrity biographies, inspirational books, etc.).In such a process, your previous negative emotions will unknowingly turn to positive and meaningful aspects, and your mood will suddenly become brighter.

4.Change the environment and feel better
The external environment has an important influence on emotions.A bright, comfortable and pleasant external environment can bring pleasure to people, but in a dark, narrow and dirty environment, people are prone to unhappiness and negative emotions.So, dear friends, when you feel pessimistic and lost, you might as well go out to relax and enjoy the beauty of nature, which is very conducive to physical and mental adjustment.

Dear friends, please take a good look at yourself and see if your sky is always full of haze?Is your face still full of sorrow?Does your life always encounter Waterloo?If so, please learn to treat all these with a positive and optimistic attitude, and believe that your life can still bloom like a bright flower.

As long as you are brave, the world will give way
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Failure is all I need, it is as valuable to me as success is.

—Thomas Alva Edison, American inventor

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Someone once said: "Women are weak." This sentence has been affirmed by most people.However, the ups and downs in real life will not make room for "weak" women, but will test women with harsh standards.Once they fail to "meet the standard", all kinds of blows and ridicule will come at them head-on.

At this time, women who are fragile by nature feel that the end of the world is coming, so they are miserable, pessimistic and lost, have no confidence, worry about gains and losses, lose confidence in life, fear the future, and even have the idea of ​​committing suicide.

In fact, life cannot always be smooth sailing for everyone, and there will inevitably be pain, setbacks and failures, which are all normal.What we need to do most is to accept setbacks, regard them as another wealth in life, and then quickly forget the pain and continue to ride the wind and waves.

In real life, those calm women do exactly that.They regard these setbacks as the wealth of life.Even though they are in the midst of thorns, they can still use their strong will to carve out a path for themselves and become great great women.

Sitting on a park chair, Rebecca was about to enjoy the warm sunshine in winter when a middle-aged woman sat beside her and began to chatter about the hardships in life to her.

"All kinds of setbacks hit me in an instant," she complained.Rebecca listened quietly, and then said to her with a smile: "Listen to my story!"

"When I was 13 years old, my father passed away. When I was sad, my mother said to me: 'Change in life is inevitable. Unexpected setbacks may bring you opportunities. Go forward bravely, and you will Get a new life.'

My mother not only said this, but also did it, and became a role model for my life.She supported me by working part-time and put me through college.

After graduation, I found a satisfying job by virtue of my ability.That's when I met my love, who was called up to the Army less than a year after we were married.Six months later, I got a telegram from the army saying he was dead.

I am immersed in happiness and cannot accept such a fact, but I think of what my mother once said.I have to live without him.Moreover, to live better, because more burdens fall on my shoulders - I have to support my mother and mother-in-law.

At work, I got a training opportunity.Since then, my life has entered a new track of continuous development and continuous improvement.I gradually understood the laws of life.For every loss, God will find it for you - if you seek it.

In the end, I succeeded and became the bank's first senior executive and worked until retirement.One day after I retired, I unexpectedly received a call from the bank at home, and they wanted to rehire me to go back to work because I was suitable for communicating with the elderly.

So, I went back to work again.You see, the setbacks in life are not so terrible, but another kind of wealth in life, isn't it? "

After listening to Rebecca's speech, the middle-aged woman seemed to understand a lot.She said goodbye to Rebecca with admiration and gratitude, and walked away with a much lighter step than when she came.

Rebecca's attitude towards setbacks is worth learning from every woman.As the British novelist Thackeray said: "As long as you are brave, the world will yield. If sometimes it overcomes you, you must continue to be brave and brave, and the world will always yield to you." Yes, as long as you are brave and work hard , Even in the harsh environment, beautiful flowers will bloom, and a splendid life will bloom.The most critical question is how do you do it.

One day, the lobster and the hermit crab met in the deep sea. The hermit crab saw that the lobster was taking off its hard shell, revealing only its delicate body, and said very nervously: "Lobster, how can you take the only hard shell that protects your body?" The shell also gives up? Aren’t you afraid that a big fish will eat you in one bite? Now, the rapids can wash you into the rocks, so it’s no wonder you don’t die then?”

The lobster calmly said: "Thank you for your concern, but you don't understand that every time our lobster grows, we must first take off the old shell in order to grow a stronger shell. Facing setbacks now is just for future development Prepare better."

Hermit crabs think about it carefully, they only look for places to hide all day long, and never think about how to make themselves grow stronger; they only live under the shade of others all day long, no wonder they will never be able to develop themselves.

Isn't that true for those fragile women?Like hermit crabs, they dare not get out of their shells because they are afraid of setbacks and dangers. They only know to hide every day and keep looking for a shelter, but they never know that the best shelter is to make themselves stronger.

From a psychological point of view, the human body is like a big chemical factory. Whatever mood you have, the body will carry out chemical synthesis.Therefore, it is very important for women who are in setbacks to maintain a strong psychological strength.

Smart women use a positive attitude to give themselves a strong spiritual support, then the energy, wisdom and courage hidden in the depths of consciousness will be mobilized, bravely face all setbacks and difficulties in life, and try their best Meet the challenge so that you can become a strong person in your life and strive for your own happiness and victory.

Perhaps on the road ahead, there are still many setbacks, difficulties, and pains waiting for you, but only by making your heart stronger, stepping forward bravely, and feeling the scenery along the way is much better than hiding .Only in this way can you get the success you want.

In this way, frustration is not a terrible thing.It is the only way for women to mature. When a woman feels a setback, she will gain a deeper understanding of life; if a woman experiences a failure, she will gain a deeper understanding of life; if a woman suffers a setback, she will gain a deeper understanding of success.

In this sense, if a woman wants to be successful and happy, she must first experience and understand setbacks.As the song says, "every girl grows up in the midst of being hurt." Instead of complaining and giving up on herself, a woman should take setbacks as another kind of wealth in life and let herself bloom the most beautiful flowers , exudes the most intense floral fragrance.

Chekhov once said such a sentence: "If you have a thorn in your finger, you should be happy. It is very good, thanks to the fact that the thorn is not in the eye." Life is always full of changes and challenges. Frustration, this is the essence of life.When you encounter them, learn to face them calmly and bravely cross them.When a woman faces life's setbacks fearlessly, they are honed to grace and maturity.

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