Smile is very alluring: the charming temperament you want most

Chapter 13 Self-confidence, the beauty of a windy temperament (2)
As Tom said, in the face of all kinds of troublesome things at work, Yoshiko Kawashima always gave negative hints to herself at the first time, thinking that she was incapable of solving them, and had an avoidance reaction out of fear. In this way, Her work performance is also half shorter than others, and her resistance and competitiveness are greatly reduced, which leads to all kinds of mistakes and mistakes.

It is undeniable that when a difficult matter is in front of us, even though we believe that we can do it well, we still have to worry and fear.However, don’t run away. The more you run away, the more you will be afraid, and the more you are afraid, the more you will run away. This is a vicious circle of self-binding, and your beauty will be gone. Show your skills!

Knowing this truth, in the face of trouble, will you still be a "deserter" who escapes?

We have mentioned in the previous chapters that everyone has a magnetic field, but some people keep it dormant for a long time.How to wake it up?Positive self-suggestion to oneself, what is radiated in this way is a strong and full of fighting spirit.

Therefore, if you want to be the glamor queen in the workplace, please make positive self-suggestions when you are in trouble.Create a positive mental state for yourself at all times!It will greatly strengthen your self-belief, inspire your inner hero, and help you solve troublesome problems.

When she first joined this audio-visual company, Ma Hui's position was very low, just an ordinary technical specialist, but now she is an assistant to the company's manager and an indispensable right-hand man for the boss.The reason why Ma Hui was promoted to this good position is because she never evades when encountering troubles, but does her job better with positive self-suggestion.

Once, the company imported a batch of advanced editing and editing equipment from Germany, which was several grades higher than the old-fashioned editing and editing equipment currently used by the company.The boss called all the technical specialists together, hoping that someone could try it out in advance.The instructions are all in German, and everyone knows nothing about German, so the difficulty can be imagined.In order to avoid such troubles, other technical specialists tried to shirk, but only Ma Hui stood up.In just one month, Ma Hui has mastered the use of the new editing and editing equipment, which amazed others.Then, under her guidance, colleagues also learned quickly.

The boss asked in surprise, "How did you do it?"

Ma Hui replied: "Actually, when I first took over this job, I felt a little guilty. After all, I didn't know anything about German. But I knew I couldn't escape, and I told myself 'no matter what, I can learn, and I don't want to. Stupid', under this kind of encouragement, I translated the instruction manual into Chinese by consulting university teachers and looking up information on the Internet. The technical experts of the German manufacturer asked for advice, and it turns out that I am really not stupid, and I can do it.”

We are like this at work. When facing troubles, if you subconsciously think that you can’t handle them well, your brain’s awareness will stay on those bad aspects, and you can only be troubled by troubles everywhere; If you are born an indisputable successful person, no troubles can trap you, then you must be the most attractive person, and your work is bound to be perfect, and your life is destined to be different and wonderful!
After understanding these principles, when you encounter trouble, remember to change your tone of speech from negative to positive, stop using the negative word "trouble", and use the neutral word "situation". "I'm currently facing a compelling situation" is far better than "I'm currently in trouble."

At the same time, instead of asking questions that turn your head off, give yourself some positive self-suggestions!Instead of asking questions like "Why is this such a hassle?" "Wait.

Finally, let us read the following oath with passion: I am smiling, optimistic, confident, and strong;
I am relaxed, positive, neither humble nor overbearing;
I am healthy, open-minded, and broad-minded;
I will persevere to realize my ideal;

I will continue to surpass and go to glory!
Accept your "imperfect" self
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A person who does not appreciate himself is difficult to be happy.

——San Mao

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Many women often secretly blame their parents in their hearts because they are not so beautiful.In fact, God treats each of us equally.The writer Bi Shumin once said: "I am not beautiful, but I have self-confidence." It can be seen that a woman may not be beautiful, but the most important thing is to believe in herself and accept herself.

Audrey Hepburn's figure is not perfect, she is flat-chested, thin, and has slender hands and feet, but the temperament she exudes makes people feel that she is a perfect woman.This is because Audrey herself is not too harsh on her appearance. She often said: "Everyone has shortcomings and advantages, carry forward the advantages, and ignore the rest." Her views are worthy of every lady who loves beauty For reference, her allure has cast her as a paragon of beauty.

I believe that after seeing this introduction to Hepburn, you have suddenly realized it!It turns out that there is really no need to feel inferior because you are shorter than others; there is no need to be angry about your lack of a fit body; and there is no need to feel sorry for yourself because of your shortcomings in some aspects. "There is no gold, no one is perfect", everyone is not perfect, there is nothing to be afraid of, but what is terrible is that we show a disheartened look, self-defeating, pessimistic, world-weary, self-confidence and enthusiasm. If it is suppressed intentionally or unintentionally, it will be difficult to stimulate the inner strength.

If you want to make yourself a super beauty, you have to learn to tolerate your shortcomings and give your imperfect self some appreciation.Only when you affirm yourself in your heart and accept yourself calmly, will the spiritual action of making a difference really start, and the valuable content of life will be born from this.

The daughter of a tram attendant had always aspired to be a star.Unfortunately, in the eyes of outsiders, she does not have the conditions to become a star. She has a big ugly mouth and buck teeth.When she sang in a nightclub for the first time, she tried every means to hide her teeth with her upper lip, hoping that the audience would not pay attention to her buck teeth and listen to her singing instead.The result was just the opposite. The audience in the audience couldn't help laughing at her funny appearance, and the girl had no choice but to walk off the stage blushing.

After stepping off the stage, an audience member said to her frankly: "I admire your singing talent very much, and I know what you were trying to hide on stage just now. Are you afraid that others will notice your buck teeth?" , with a look of embarrassment.At this time, the audience went on to say: "What's wrong with buck teeth? Don't feel inferior about it anymore, show your talent to your heart's content. Maybe your teeth can bring you good luck!"

After listening to the viewer's advice, the girl plans not to hide her buck teeth anymore.Whenever she is singing, she opens her mouth wide open and puts all her energy into singing.In the end, she became an amphibious star with a reputation in the film and broadcasting industry.

Is it the good luck brought by buck teeth that the songstress is so popular and famous?Everyone knows this is a joke.But we must admit that when she no longer feels inferior, no longer cares about the existence of buck teeth, learns to tolerate her own buck teeth, and devotes herself to singing, her personal charm has been improved, and more people have been infected .

Indeed, there is no perfect individual in the world, just like we can never find a perfect leaf, but who can say that if it is not perfect, it is not beautiful or attractive?Isn't the reason why the statue of Venus, the world famous work, is beautiful because of the lack of arms, which produces a shocking effect and attracts more tourists?
Europe once held a "Most Perfect Woman" seminar in Lausanne, Switzerland.The results announced after the participants unanimously identified one by one: the most perfect women should have Italian hair, Egyptian eyes, Greek noses, American teeth, Thai necks, and Australian breasts , Swiss hands, Scandinavian thighs, Chinese feet, Austrian voices, Japanese smiles, British skin, French curves, Spanish gaits... all of these Still not enough.A perfect woman should also have the housekeeping ability of a German woman, the fashionable attire of an American woman, the exquisite cooking skills of a French woman, and the intoxicating tenderness of a Chinese woman... However, even if God recreates man, it is impossible to combine these advantages in one person , Therefore, the common conclusion reached by the participants is: there is no such thing as a truly perfect woman.

That being the case, why should we obsess over our own inadequacies and flaws? !Appropriately allow some deficiencies, and give your imperfect self some appreciation!Believe in this kind of affirmative power from the heart, which will make you more confident and make your life better.

In real life, if we are dissatisfied with ourselves, please take the initiative to change the status quo that makes us dissatisfied.If there are some problems that cannot be changed due to objective reasons, then please learn to accept yourself from the heart.

Look at those charming goddesses. Although they are not perfect themselves, they can all accept the "imperfect" selves, and with a positive attitude, seriously examine their own shortcomings and overcome them bravely, so their lives are more beautiful than others. Others are much more brilliant.

I believe many people still remember that when auditioning for a blockbuster film in Hollywood, an actor who wanted to enter Hollywood, in order to prove that he could speak English, said on the spot: "What do you think my English?" No one listened to the reporters. It was very embarrassing to understand what she was talking about.

However, the competitive actor did not give up his dream of entering Hollywood because of his poor English.She realized this defect of her own, and specially invited a senior English teacher to help her improve her English. She insisted on communicating in English for two hours every day, and she would spare a certain amount of time to learn English anytime, anywhere during filming. .

In an event not long after, the actress "one against five" in fluent English, talked with eloquence, talked and laughed happily, and performed gracefully, which made many audiences enjoy themselves.

Referring to his progress in English, the actor said frankly: "I admit that my English was terrible at the beginning, and I didn't even have the courage to greet others in English. When you don’t understand, ask others more, my most direct feeling is that once you say it and listen to it once, you will get something, and more and more every day.”

You see, it is not terrible to have shortcomings, it is terrible to be unable to change the shortcomings.The shortcoming is not deep-rooted, as long as you actively overcome and overcome it, you can change your destiny.Because when you can correct your shortcomings, you will defeat your own worst enemy, and your charm will be greatly improved than before. What else can you not do?
From now on, take a good look at yourself and find out what your shortcomings are.Give your imperfect self a little appreciation, face up to and admit your shortcomings, and try to correct your shortcomings...I believe that in the near future, you will become closer and closer to perfection, and present a brand new self to everyone.

There is no unhappy thing, only a heart that refuses to be happy
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All the joys of life are joys of creation: love, genius, action--all sprung from the great fire of creation.

——French thinker Romain Rolland

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If you have a bag of apples, make some apple pie; if you have a lemon, make a glass of lemon juice. There is no unhappy life in the world, only a heart that refuses to be happy.

Once upon a time, there was a woman who had always had low self-esteem because of some flaws in her nose, and was always afraid to express her true feelings for the opposite sex she liked.One day, she decided to go for plastic surgery.The operation was successful. She swept away her gloomy image and became a lot more cheerful. She dressed herself up every day and was often invited by men.Finally one day, she met her ideal object and got married with him.

After marriage, she told her husband that she had undergone plastic surgery, but she didn't expect that her husband didn't take her nose seriously at all.So she asked her husband: "We knew each other before, but you ignored me. Why did you decide to date me after I had the operation?"

Her husband told her: "In the past, you always frowned. Who would dare to touch you? Then you suddenly became cheerful and made people feel easy to get close to. That's why I have the opportunity to have a deep friendship with you!"

The woman always thought that she didn't find a boyfriend because of the defect on her nose, but the fact told her that others didn't notice the defect of her nose at all.Yes, there is no one in the world who cares so much about his own flaws like himself.Her unhappiness and unhappiness are not caused by the ugly nose, but the unhappiness of her heart.Some women are not happy even if they have a career, status, affection, love, and beauty. occupy.In many cases, it is not others but herself who has trouble with a woman.

Juanyi graduated with a master's degree, beautiful and eager to learn. After graduation, she joined a well-known real estate company as a sales lady.At that time, people's enthusiasm for buying a house was high. In less than half a year, Juanyi became a homeowner. At this time, her classmates who graduated with her were still struggling in the workplace.In the eyes of others, Juanyi is lucky. She has seized a good opportunity and has good abilities. She should be very happy, but this is not the case.

In the company she works for, the new real estate is about to be sold out, and there is currently no plan to build it again. Juanyi doesn't know what to do. She has a house, but she can't live without a car; far away.She often nags in front of her friends: "I'm under a lot of pressure, what should I do?" The life of her friends is far worse than hers, so in her eyes, Juanyi is just moaning about nothing.

Juanyi has too many worries every day, whether the stock price has fallen, or the interest rate on the loan has been raised, or her family members are urging her to get married... She seems to have so many worries, but in reality?She lacks nothing but happiness.

(End of this chapter)