Smile is very alluring: the charming temperament you want most

Chapter 12 Self-confidence, the beauty of a windy temperament (1)
——Moving forward with a confident force
Confident women are not inferior, negative, or discouraged. They are soft and strong, and can actively face the misfortunes and setbacks of life. Even in difficult situations, there is still light and hope in their hearts.When a woman is confident, she will naturally exude a distinctive charm.Whether such a woman is poor or rich, whether she looks like a fairy or plain, she must have an extraordinary and refined temperament, and she will stand out from the crowd.

Be fearless and inspire your own beauty
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If you are not brave enough, the bravest thing you can do is claim to be brave and then act accordingly.

——Anonymous

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Let's look at such an experiment first:
The experimenters put one of the most aggressive sharks and a group of tropical fish in the same tank, separated by reinforced glass.The experimenters put some crucian carp in the pond every day. The shark is not short of prey, but it always wants to try the delicacy in the opposite pond, so it keeps hitting the glass every day.However, it was in vain. It tried its best every time, but it always got scars every time, and it still couldn't swim to the opposite side.

Later, the sharks stopped hitting the glass, and they didn't care about the colorful tropical fish, as if they were just moving murals on the wall.The shark began to wait for the crucian carp that would appear every day, and then used its agile instinct to hunt, as if returning to the sea to display its incomparable fierceness and arrogance.

At the final stage of the experiment, the experimenter took the glass away, but the shark did not respond, and continued to swim in a fixed area every day. Not only did it turn a blind eye to those tropical fish, it even turned a blind eye when those crucian carp fled to the other side. Immediately give up chasing, afraid of being hit again.

In this experiment, after several attempts, the shark knew that the glass would scar him, so he became timid and lived under the shadow of fear.Even if the glass was removed by the experimenter later, it didn't dare to try even a little bit. Undoubtedly, it has no domineering and no interest at this time.

In real life, there are also some shark-like women. They are extremely eager to become attractive women, but they are afraid of the gap between reality and ideals, dare not try, and do things timidly.The results of it?No matter how beautiful their looks, how slender their bodies are, and how rich their hearts are, it is difficult for them to detonate their hidden potential, and it is often difficult for them to achieve success and happiness.

It can be said that cowardice is the natural enemy of beautiful women. If such a habit is really formed, the aura of the whole person will always be weak, shrinking, and unhealthy, without any vigor and vitality, and it is doomed not to emit an attractive magnetic field. It can even be offensive.Even the philosopher Socrates said: "When a man loses his courage, he loses everything."

In other words, if you want to become an eye-catching attractive woman, you must first overcome your inner timidity, be fearless, pure in heart, free of distracting thoughts, and bravely take actions for your future, so that you can find a way to change your destiny. export with remarkable success.

Life cannot be smooth sailing. Instead of living your life timidly, it is better to learn to be brave.Be brave and you can do better than you think.Because in this process, you will continue to challenge your destiny, and you will also be able to continuously tap your potential abilities, stimulate your own beauty, and benefit you for life.

Now, let's share a story:
There is such an American girl who dreamed of becoming a world-class skier when she was very young. She has been learning to ski since she was 5 years old.However, fate made a big joke with her. When she was 12 years old, the doctor announced that she had bone cancer. In order to save her life, she was forced to amputate her right leg.

God!Saw off the right leg?For a girl in her prime, what a miserable thing, not to mention she loves skiing so much.At the beginning, the girl was terrified. She locked herself in the room, crying, and her heart was full of fear, despair, and confusion...

Later, the parents took the girl to meet a Vietnam veteran who also had only one leg but had excellent skiing skills.There, the girl regained her old confidence, and she became brave enough to start a learning career of snowboarding.One-foot skiing is not an easy task, you must have a good sense of balance.In order to master the balance, the girl often fell down, but she still got up again and again!She secretly vowed in her heart: I will continue to challenge myself, overcome fear, and never be defeated by bone cancer.

In the end, with her tenacious fighting spirit and incomparable courage, she overcame countless unimaginable pains and set a number of world records, including winning the ski championship in the 1988 Winter Olympics and winning 29 in the US Ski Championships. gold medals.She is Diana Gordon, a legendary and famous skier in the history of American sports.

However, the god of doom is still staring at Diana!At the age of 30, she suffered from breast cancer again, and both breasts were removed.After waking up from the operation, Diana kept crying, "I have already lost a leg, why did God take my breasts?" For a long time, she did not have the courage to take off her breasts in public places such as bathhouses and swimming pools. own clothes.

Until one day, Diana bravely stood in front of the mirror. She stared at her body with broken legs and missing breasts for a long time, and finally said this sentence: "The scars on my thighs and chest are very painful. Amazing! These are the traces of my life! They tell me: I have never been timid or withdrawn in my life!" Since then, when Diana went to the swimming pool again, she was very calm in the nude shower in the girls' bathroom up!
Soon after, during the annual physical examination, the doctor told Diana helplessly: "Your cancer is under control, but there is a large tumor in your uterus that is likely to become malignant, so we have to remove it." your womb."

"What? Take away my womb? Deprive me of the right to have children?" This diagnosis hit Diana like a bolt from the blue. She cried and even thought about suicide!However, when she calmed down, she thought of the words that encouraged her—"scars" are the traces of life, and they told me: I have never been timid or shrink back in my life!So, she once again faced life calmly and stood up bravely!She has always encouraged herself: "I want to be responsible for my own life and never give up!"

Later, Diana became a motivational speaker, and she shared her story of bravely fighting against fate to many people, "Hey, those are just a pair of breasts, and they are not very big!" Her Followers are getting more and more, and former President Bush even presented an award in recognition of her "spirit of perseverance and excellence."

Although the God of Doom kept staring at Diana and made all kinds of almost fatal jokes with her, Diana told herself not to be cowardly and shrink back in life, but to bravely challenge those difficulties and obstacles.Undoubtedly, it was her tenacity and tenacity that gave her an irresistible power to conquer and finally changed her destiny.

Beauties, after seeing these women who rely on bravery to change the destiny of life, when you encounter difficulties and obstacles, will you still cowardly escape?Give yourself a little confidence and encouragement, and face all difficulties bravely!Don't be afraid, anyone can do it if you want to!Once this is done, you will exude a sense of vitality and strong beauty all over your body, and it will be difficult not to attract the attention of others!
Shy roses are not beautiful

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Blushing makes people more attractive, but it is still a bit embarrassing after all.

— Italian playwright Goldoni

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"The shy rose blooms quietly..." The beautiful singing voice tells the shy appearance of a girl who is just in love in front of her lover.However, in our daily life, a real beauty does not need to be "shy", but generous and generous.

In normal times, we often see such a phenomenon: some women deliberately avoid them because they are afraid of meeting acquaintances on the road, and some people blush and heartbeat when they speak in public.These are all psychological shyness.

The main reason for shyness is that you put too much psychological burden on yourself. You may often blush and get nervous when speaking in front of people, so you start to avoid such occasions.As a result, you, who are already shy, become more and more shy.

In interpersonal communication, shyness will set up obstacles for women to open up the social circle and win the attention and appreciation of others.This is like an advertisement for a product. If you always think that the aroma of wine is not afraid of deep alleys, you are wrong.Besides, no one wants to hide in a corner all his life and be forgotten.

As a psychologist concluded: They care too much about "self-image", lest they make mistakes in words and deeds, and be ridiculed by others, resulting in excessive psychological burden, trapped in a cocoon, struggling to move, and falling into nervousness and shyness all day long.In the end, they defeat themselves and affect the quality of work and life.

Therefore, beauties in society must learn to communicate with others generously. If you cannot communicate well with others, you will encounter obstacles in your life and work. This kind of obstacle is not because others can help you What is removed, only you can remove this obstacle.

In the same way, a shy rose that blooms quietly, no matter how beautiful it is, no one will pay attention to it. At this time, it can only admire itself and feel sorry for itself, isn't it sad!

Xinxin is a shy girl, she often can't speak half a word in the office for a day.She would just do her own thing in silence and then go home from get off work.When eating at noon, she always walks alone and never walks with everyone.When the company has any activities, she always finds a reason to escape.She doesn't show up unless it's an obligatory event, and when she does, she just sits quietly in a corner, trying not to draw attention to herself.

Because of her temperament, colleagues think she is out of gregarious, and some colleagues think she is too arrogant.This leaves Xinxin without a single good friend, and even a few colleagues who cared about her at the beginning gradually alienated her because of her estrangement.

In fact, Xinxin was very troubled in her heart. She also wanted to get rid of this situation, but she couldn't change it.

Although there are not many women like Xinxin, shy traits still exist in many women.Because of shyness, they can't get friends; because of shyness, their talent lacks room to display; because of shyness, their journey is always bumpy and full of obstacles... It can be seen that shyness is not a person no matter in life or in the workplace. With a good personality, even if you don't have a stunning appearance, you can have your own temperament, and you can show your most natural side.Being too shy not only cannot show your best side, but even if you are capable, others will not notice you.

So, how can a shy girl like Xinxin in the story get rid of her character?Here, we provide several methods for the beauties, hoping to help everyone.

1.First of all, you have to accept your shyness instead of avoiding it, and don’t blame others. Avoiding and complaining can’t help you solve the fundamental problem. Even if you avoid, even if you complain about your parents’ education, your shyness will still exist.

The correct approach is that we first admit that we are introverted, don't reject it, and accept it calmly.

For this reason, we might as well look at the benefits of introversion: introverts are easier to learn and better able to think.While extroverts tend to learn and grow in action, this is what introverts need to learn.

When we see the advantages of our own character and the advantages of other characters, then try to learn from others what we lack, and tell our friends about our feelings and experiences.In this way, start from the circle of friends, and then gradually expand to strangers, and gradually, you can get rid of your shy personality.

2.Make a plan for yourself, set goals and implement them step by step in modern society. The channels and space for communication between people are very wide. We can make friends through the Internet, or through social circles such as work circles and classmates circles. make friends.Shy girls may wish to set a communication goal for themselves, for example, in one to two months or half a year, which familiar friends do you want to get in touch with; Opportunity, even if it is just a word, is a huge improvement for you.Don't let this opportunity pass you by.

3.Treat others with the most sincere heart
We say that making friends is inseparable from being sincere to each other.If you want to make friends, we have to compare our hearts with each other. Only when you show your most sincere side, the other party will be infected by you, and treat you with sincerity. In this way, mutual trust is established, and you have made a friend. True friend.

4.Use your best talents to impress others
In fact, most girls have some special talents, such as calligraphy, painting, dancing, etc., and those girls who are introverted are often even more outstanding in this area.If you don't want to express yourself well with words, then you can show your talents to everyone.In addition, you can also give some small gifts made by yourself to friends who want to make friends.In this way, conveying invisible emotions through silent things is also a good way to communicate.

5.make yourself cheerful

In fact, the root cause of shyness is still a problem of personal character and mentality.Rarely do we see a cheerful and optimistic girl who is shy and afraid to meet people.Therefore, we might as well start by changing our personality and mentality. For example, don’t shrink back when encountering problems, don’t think about what will happen if you can’t do it, but tell yourself "I can do it"; at the same time, you can practice smiling in front of the mirror every day, Use this to boost your self-confidence.

If you practice step by step according to the above method, then after a period of time, you will find that you start to like to participate in social activities, and more and more friends will start to surround you. At this time, your social circle will naturally expand , The shyness no longer exists.

Having trouble?positive self-suggestion

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I think the secret to a woman's success is not to set limits on herself.

—American tennis player Martina Navratilova

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Positive self-suggestion can continuously strengthen oneself positively and avoid negative reinforcement.Once you make progress (no matter how small), saying to yourself "I can do this", "I'm great", "I can do better", etc. will continue to increase your confidence.

"Father of self-suggestion" Émile Coue, through years of research, summed up a well-known saying of self-suggestion: "Every day, in every way, we make ourselves better and better." With this magical line of self-suggestion, he has helped countless people improve physically and mentally.

On the contrary, if a woman doesn't know how to use positive cues and always faces work and life negatively all day long, then the results she gets may be as bad as she thinks.

"Oh my god, how am I going to tackle this project without someone helping me?"

"Sorry, manager, I may not be able to do it. You can arrange Helen, she is an expert in this field."

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Yoshiko Kawashima, a Japanese girl, has worked in a multinational company located in Canberra, the capital of Australia, for more than four years. The above words are the mantra she often talks about.She seemed born unable to do much by herself, except eat and sleep.

Talking about this beautiful girl, Tom, the manpower training director and Mr. America, looked distressed: "Honestly speaking, Yoshiko Kawashima takes her work seriously and treats her colleagues very enthusiastically, but she is always afraid of difficulties at work, and always worried about what to do. Even if it’s something as small as a customer complaint, her future at the company is now in jeopardy, despite the company’s high hopes for her.”

(End of this chapter)