Be a Strong Woman: Carnegie's Book of Spiritual Growth for Women

Chapter 7 Positivity and optimism make you full of strength (3)
Winning the lottery is not the result of a competition, but is determined by the "lucky mechanism" of society.A healthy and positively developing society must look for people who embody "truth, goodness, and beauty" among the things that people need to pay attention to, and must make contributions to those who contribute to social development, economic prosperity, or moral improvement. Rewards are given to typical figures who have made contributions to encourage more people to work hard and make more achievements in various fields of society.As long as we have this awareness and take active actions, it may be just an ordinary little thing that can make you lucky. This is the law of winning.

Self-suggestion brings you happiness and joy

The power of suggestion is infinite, as long as you can use it correctly, it will bring happiness and happiness to your life.

The beauty of a woman has many manifestations.Some are knowledgeable, some are capable, some are temperamental, but the most beautiful are women with a strong heart.Women with a strong heart don't always stare at the strengths of others and envy them. They believe that they have better aspects than others.

From now on, completely abandon those thoughts of "I can't", "I can't do it" and "I'm always inferior".Before going out, you may wish to look in the mirror, take a deep breath, and say to yourself loudly: "You are awesome!" After that, you will find that your confidence will double. Things are also more energetic than usual.

This is the power of self-suggestion, which sometimes allows you to perform miracles.Often give yourself psychological hints, say to yourself "I am great", "I can do it", "I can" and "I can overcome this difficulty", which will keep you in a good mood.

There was a girl who always lost her temper and was suspicious.The family members are very afraid of talking to her, and if they are not careful, they may cause trouble.The girl was very distressed, and she knew it was not a good thing, but every time she couldn't control herself, she regretted it afterwards.Later, she accepted the doctor's advice and often said to herself: "My temper is actually very good. I am full of happiness every day, I get along well with my family, I love them very much, and they like me. I care They, caring for them, all the people around me feel happy because of my existence. My well-cultivated and elegant temperament deeply infected them."

A month later, a miracle appeared: she became a good girl with elegant temperament, lively and enthusiastic.

How much potential does a person have?What are the limits of development?No one can answer.In fact, each of us can live a better life than we are now, because we have not reached the limit of our life.

Cultivate the habit of being the best version of yourself, the "you" you most want to be.In particular, remember where you are admired.That is who you really are, and make that the reference point that guides you throughout your life - your best self-image.You will find that recalibrating your senses will attract you like a magnet.You will feel the power of this magnet when you envision yourself reaching your goals.

If you think differently, you will feel and behave differently.It's all about how you control your mind.

pretending to be happy makes you happy

Persisting in psychologically positive self-suggestion is very important for women to succeed.

A lady worked for an oil company in Tosha, Oklahoma.What bored her most was spending a few days each month filling out a report chock-full of statistics.How to make this boring job interesting?She counted out the quantity filled in every morning, and tried her best to break her own record in the afternoon; then she counted the total amount done in the day, and tried to break the previous day's record the next day.As a result, she quickly filled out the forms that bored her.

Did she do it for praise?no!Is it to get thanks?no!Is it for a raise or a promotion?No!She just wants to finish the boring work very interestingly as soon as possible.In this way, she saved a lot of energy and had more happiness when resting.

Here is a typist who did an even better job: she assumed a boring job to be very interesting, and she got an unexpected reward in the end.Her name was Willie Gordon, and she lived at 473 Kanilworth Avenue, Elmhorst, Illinois.She wrote her story to Carnegie:

"There are four typist girls in our office, and they are often too busy. One day, the deputy manager insisted that I retype a long letter. I told him that it is enough to just change it, and it does not have to be retyped. He said to me that if I don't want to fight again, he will find someone who is willing to fight. I was so mad. But I thought, if I don't fight, many people will take this opportunity , to replace my work seat. Besides, people give me a salary, just to do this job. So, I assumed that I like this job and do it happily. The strange thing is, with such an assumption, I seem to really I like this job, and the speed has been accelerated a lot. This discovery has made me change my work attitude in the past. Everyone thinks that I am a very good employee. Later, a supervisor needed a personal secretary, so he asked me to be that A new job."

This incident is a testament to the power of a shift in mental state.If we "fake" ourselves to be happy, we will actually be happy in the end.

how to have a good mood
Happiness is the theme of a woman's life, and a woman should always maintain a good mood.How can a woman have a good mood?
First, love yourself.Everyone has a personality, but a personality may not be liked by everyone.In life, some women tend to attach great importance to other people's opinions or evaluations of themselves.For example, if someone says that she speaks too loudly, she will deliberately lower her voice, and it will be lowered indefinitely, so low that it is hard to hear.But one day, someone else said that her voice was too low, so she might turn up her voice again, even higher than the original voice.This is actually a kind of extreme lack of self-confidence, and it is also a manifestation of not loving yourself.If things go on like this, her mood becomes extremely depressed, and when it accumulates to a certain level, it will explode violently.So what to do?It's simple, love yourself, really love yourself.A woman can only be happy if she loves herself.

Second, accept your imperfections.Everyone has flaws, and no one is perfect. These flaws are often more than one or two, usually many.Is there anyone in this world without any flaws?of course not!But no matter who it is, as long as it is alive, it has its own value.If you want to live happily, you must first know how to accept yourself.This acceptance is accepting everything about yourself, including your imperfections.Only in this way can you comfort yourself when your mood is extremely bad.

Finally, find ways to reduce stress.Everyone has to face stress, and it can basically be divided into two types: one is good, it can excite people, promote the rapid rise of adrenaline hormone, and put people in a state of emergency, so as to complete tasks efficiently; On the contrary, it will make people nervous and even lose their rationality.Those who are less resilient to stress are especially susceptible to the latter.

In fact, no matter what kind of pressure is, it is created by people, which means that most of the pressure can be solved by ourselves.Many people feel anxious and panic when they think of stress. They often feel intimidated when they think of the difficulties before they start doing something.Only after I did it did I realize that it wasn't that difficult.

Psychologists point out that the number of problems accumulated in the human brain is inversely proportional to the efficiency of solving them.In other words, the more things pile up in your brain, the slower and less efficient it will be to solve them.So, if you want to reduce stress, you just need to develop a habit: keep nothing in your head.You can use a pen to write down the things to be solved first, and then solve them step by step.Look back after you have made progress, and you will find that the pressure has gradually disappeared.

Many times, we always regard things that have never happened or will not happen now as a kind of stress defense, which is the source of stress.So, think of it this way: About 70 percent of what we worry about hasn't happened yet, 20 percent has passed, and only 10 percent is happening.In other words, you only need to do your best to do the 10% of the things right now.

A happy woman is definitely a woman in a good mood.Only you can give yourself a good mood, and only you can maintain a good mood.To be happy, you must give yourself a good mood at any time.

If a woman is in a good mood, her body will be beautiful

Women's physical beauty is closely related to psychology.A good mental state will make people refreshed, full of spring, radiant, and healthy.If you are narrow-minded, suspicious, jealous, frowning and depressed all day long, even young women are prone to aging and dull skin.

Body shape to some extent represents a person's psychological characteristics.Whether it is neurology or physiognomy, there are theories to judge people's personality characteristics from their external body shape.For example, the brain type has slender limbs and the muscular type has well-developed limbs. The psychological characteristics of the two are obviously different.

Some people's body shape changes are related to psychological factors.Some people's obesity is caused by overeating involuntarily due to emotional depression, and about 2/3 of people with seasonal affective disorder syndrome like to eat too much carbohydrate-containing food when they are in a bad mood, so Body shape becomes fat; there is also a patient called "gluttony syndrome" in medicine. Although the body is overweight, the appetite is still very strong, and the appetite is particularly good.Such people have satiety disorder, and its number accounts for 5% of obesity.The reason for their obesity lies mainly in their psychological state.Among thin people, anorexia nervosa is a typical example of body shape changes caused by psychological factors.Traditional Chinese medicine has long discussed the relationship between body shape and psychological and emotional factors. There is a saying that "fat people have more temperature, and thin people have higher fire". Generally speaking, obese people are mostly qi deficiency and dampness. Symptoms, often accompanied by dizziness, palpitations, forgetfulness and other symptoms.Those with emaciated body are mostly yin-deficiency and fire-excessive bodies. Patients are often irritable, irritable, emotionally unstable, and also have symptoms such as insomnia and dreaminess.

For women, a good attitude is an important factor in maintaining a good body shape.Instead of doing all kinds of health care or spending money on plastic surgery to beautify your body and appearance, it is better to start with establishing a good attitude, and you may receive unexpected results.

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