Be a Strong Woman: Carnegie's Book of Spiritual Growth for Women

Chapter 6 Positivity and optimism make you full of strength (2)
A good mood can also form a kind of contagion.In a happy housewife's home, life always has a warm, uplifting, high-spirited vibe.Social psychology love Carol Taves once proposed a "humor therapy."She said of how her mother put her in a good mood: "Whenever I was in a bad mood, preaching just drove me crazy, and my mother would take me to a Charlie Chaplin movie and we would laugh and be sad. My mood melted away.”

Happiness is a panacea for optimism.In our life, a happy woman must be someone who can make her husband, family and people around her feel cute. What charm is there in a woman who is as cold as ice?Before contact, there is a feeling of rejecting people thousands of miles away.

Mentally strong women are attractive because they never forget to keep their spirits up.You know, a woman who is full of worries will not be radiant; a woman who is sad and frustrated will not have a bright smile; if she is in a bad mood, she will only appear expressionless and gloomy, and then accelerate aging and haggard.

How to make yourself happy?It must be clear that anything will happen in the world, and don't put all the responsibilities on your shoulders.Everything will pass, there is no unbearable suffering in the world, there will definitely be different life scenes tomorrow, and there will be different joys of life.Everyone's life path has all kinds of happiness and loss.

humor belongs to optimistic women

Only when a person has an optimistic belief can he deal with some unsatisfactory things with equanimity.Humor is a reflection of a person's optimistic attitude towards life and a manifestation of confidence in one's own strength.

As a woman, you can only laugh from the bottom of your heart if you are hopeful about your prospects.Even in temporary adversity, you can still have full confidence in life, discover humor in life, and use happiness to heal the scars left by life.And for those women who frown and worry all day long, life is full of pain and despair, and happiness is just an illusion.Such women, how can their conversation have humor at all?
Once, a female interpreter held a celebration party with the soldiers.When clinking glasses with a soldier, because the soldier was too nervous, he raised his glass too hard and poured a glass of wine on the head of the female interpreter.The soldier was terrified at the time, but the female interpreter wiped the wine on the top of her head with her hands and said with a smile: "Young man, do you think that using wine can nourish my hair? I have never heard of this folk remedy!" Everyone said haha Laughing, the soldier was full of gratitude and admiration for the female interpreter.

A humorous woman, although she speaks like a fool, but because of her open mind, people feel her simple nature and infinite wisdom.If a woman can have a state of mind that is broad-minded and clear like a clear sky, her speech can fully reach the state of "unintentionally humorous, but humorous".

Women who are good at using humor, they can often make embarrassing situations disappear, which is really enviable.A female congresswoman gave a speech, and when everyone was listening, suddenly the leg of a chair in the audience broke, causing the audience to fall to the ground, and the attention of the other audience was distracted.Seeing this situation, the female councilor was quick to think, and immediately after the sound of the chair legs breaking, she said loudly: "Everyone, now you all believe that the reasons I said are enough to overwhelm all dissenting voices?" It is warm applause.

Everyone likes to listen to humorous language, just like listening to moving music and enjoying wonderful articles; being with a humorous woman is like being in the blue sea or in the magnificent mountains.

A woman who understands humor must be optimistic, she has an open mind, and even when she reaches the bottom of her life, she will face it with a smile.In her laughter, people can hear her hope; a woman who understands humor must be cheerful and confident.She may not open her heart to everyone, but she knows how to share her emotions with others.She doesn't keep things in her heart and is depressed every day. She has a healthy mentality.A woman who understands humor must be tolerant, she will not care about every detail, she knows how to be kind to others.Even if someone hurts her, she will not confront them and fight head-to-head.

embrace passion, release life
Passion is an attitude that actively embraces the sun, an obsession with chasing goals, and a passion that cherishes the freshness of life.Passion is always the eternal energy of a woman's life.A passionate woman is always like a child, running towards her goal excitedly, persistently and bravely.

Desire is the greatest driving force of people, and the energy of passion even exceeds the energy of desire.If desire is the driving force of life, then passion can ignite the driving force of life.Many people do not lack desire, but lack passion.

Many women in their 40s feel that they are getting old, that they have lost their youth and everything.This kind of woman will lack passion, her heart is already weak, and she has already lost more than half of her momentum to men.

A woman without passion is withered, even pathetic.Passion makes life burn and can generate transcendental energy.The most terrifying thing about people is that they have no goals and no passion.Even for a piece of clothing or a favorite jewelry, it is better than a numb and dull state.

A life full of passion keeps vitality alive.Passion is a sign of youth, and the younger you are, the more passionate you are.On the other hand, it is passion that keeps people young, and maintaining passion keeps you young.Human youth is like human senses, which can be used or lost.You can maintain and sublimate your passion when you have it often.Excitability is the quality of a young heart.

Those who remain excited and curious about new things not only look much younger than their actual age, but also have a younger mentality.They usually have the same characteristics, that is, they often maintain a girlish heart-excited, love to play, love to laugh, and love to be moved.They are usually pure and concise than ordinary people, and often have a child-like stubborn and willful personality.

Passion is synonymous with youth and vitality. A woman with passion has vitality, motivation, and can live a more enjoyable life.

Keep setting goals for yourself, paint the room in your favorite color, change the furnishings at home or in the office, spend enough time listening to the phone, pick friends from all walks of life, chat with optimistic people, talk to people younger than yourself Hanging out with small people, collecting inspirational quotes—it's all about being passionate about yourself.

People themselves are not easy to age.Even if you are only 20 years old, without passion, your life will be rough and dry.

Fight hard, don't be a bystander in life

Consciously go for lucky opportunities instead of relying on being good to win the competition.

The modern social structure has evolved from the relatively simple and flat one in the past to a more complex, three-dimensional and multi-layered one, which brings more opportunities for success.This allows us to consider from various perspectives, which places, industries, and activities have more opportunities and are easier to help ourselves succeed.After this investigation, it is necessary to actively be a participant, not a bystander.You must be able to grab the "camera" and be the "focus" character, not the audience.

There was a woman who bought a lottery ticket and actually won two big prizes in a row.This was of course pure luck.But if she didn't go to the betting shop to buy a lottery ticket, how could she possibly win the lottery?A lottery ticket costs only two yuan, and there is a chance to win a grand prize of 500 million yuan.This is just an example, we do not advocate buying lottery tickets.

For an opportunity, for an activity, we might as well make a little investment like buying a lottery ticket.This investment does not have to be all, it can also be very limited.If you have multiple interests, multiple hobbies, and spend a little time and energy on these areas, your life will not only become colorful and meaningful, but you may also be lucky.

More chances of success do not come from direct competition, but are inexplicably "focused" by people into celebrities, so they become the lucky ones who succeed.It is very likely that you are the only candidate for a certain aspect, the trajectory of things, the result of the evolution of the situation, you must be hyped as a celebrity, and you can't hide even if you want to.

Therefore, we emphasize to be the protagonist of life, to be an active participant in real life, rather than to be "spectators" and "spectators".The biggest shortcoming of women is that they are passive and unwilling to show their faces. This is the "relic" of traditional women.We should erase these imprints and be a new woman with modern consciousness.The future world is a world of stars, and more people will enter the public eye, instead of living in a corner that lacks attention forever.In the future world, regardless of occupation, age, gender, or nationality, there are only successful and unsuccessful people.

Generally speaking, people who live in the public eye are more able to do their best to express their "truth, goodness, and beauty" side.In today's world, there is enough material wealth to reward more successful people.But no one will give it all to you.Therefore, everyone should try to give others a chance to respect you, appreciate you, discover you, and affirm you.As long as you succeed, all good words belong to you.

The harder one works, the more chances of success.Also, success is not as difficult as many people think.To be successful, you must first have a sense of success.The second is to correct the attitude and walk in the direction of "success".Although many women want to be stars and celebrities, they make little or no effort.If a person has no grades, others will not wear a wreath of honor on your head.You have to give others a reason to love you and pursue you.

In every aspect of our social life, there is a prize waiting for you.There are many, many aspects, waiting for you to develop, to practice, to innovate.When many people succeed, they are unknowingly and unprepared. They didn't expect it to be so simple.Successful people themselves often think that, in fact, many people are better than him.The thing is, he did it, and he alone did it.

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