Be a Strong Woman: Carnegie's Book of Spiritual Growth for Women

Chapter 5 Positivity and optimism make you full of strength (1)
Your results tomorrow depend on your choices today.

Mindset is your true master
Why some people can have a healthy body, a good job, a good relationship, and live a high-quality life happily all day long, as if they are inherently luckier than others; while others are busy all day long and work hard Working but barely making ends meet?Speaking of it, there is not much difference between people, but why some people can overcome all difficulties to make contributions and achieve success, while others can't?

Many psychologists have found that the secret that causes the difference between people lies in people's mentality.As a philosopher said: "The mentality is your real master." The mentality is directly related to the fate of people.

Many years ago, in a poor village in the countryside, there lived two sisters.They couldn't stand the poor environment, so they left their hometowns one after another to seek development in big cities.

After 40 years, the sisters were lucky enough to reunite again.At this time, they are not what they used to be.The elder sister married a businessman and owned two restaurants, two laundries and a grocery store, and had a lot of children and grandchildren, some of whom inherited the mantle, and some became outstanding engineers or lawyers and other professional and technical personnel.

And what about my sister?She actually became a world-renowned banker, owning a considerable amount of forests, rubber plantations and banks in Southeast Asia.After decades of hard work, both sisters succeeded.But why is there such a big difference in the achievements of the two sisters in their careers?

When the two sisters got together, they couldn't help talking about what happened since they parted.My sister said: "When we country people go to big cities, if we don't have any special talents, we can only marry a good husband, cook for him with both hands, wash his clothes for him, and dare not have higher expectations."

Seeing how successful my sister is, I can't help but envy my sister's wealth.But my sister said that when she first arrived in the city, she could only do some menial jobs.But slowly found that some locals are relatively stupid and lazy.So, they went to the business they gave up, and continued to acquire and expand, and the business gradually grew.

The above is a true story.It tells us: It is not only the environment that affects our lives, but also the mentality.Mentality controls a person's actions and thoughts, and also determines a person's vision, career and achievements.

A woman with a good attitude will have a good life
The happiest women don't think everything is the best, but are satisfied with what they have; the happiest women don't think life is smooth sailing, but treat life with a positive attitude.In fact, the key to determining a woman's fate is her mentality.

Life is not just a kind of helplessness, but can be grasped and regulated by one's own subjective efforts.Mindset is the control tower that regulates life.What kind of mentality a woman has, what kind of life and destiny she will have.

There was an old lady named Huda Cruz whose friend and neighbor Mrs. Mike was her age.When they were celebrating their 95th birthday together, Mrs. Mike thought that people lived to be [-] years old, and she was already [-] years old, and it was time to meet God.So she decided to sit at home, stay at home, and take care of her life.She makes her own shroud, chooses a cemetery, and arranges for her funeral.Huda Cruz believes that whether a person can do anything depends not on his age, but on his own ideas.So she began to learn to climb mountains, some of which are famous mountains in the world.Later, at the age of [-], she climbed Mount Fuji in Japan, breaking the record for the oldest person to climb this mountain.

Also stimulated by the information of her 70th birthday, Mrs. Mike's psychological reaction tended to be negative.She took the action of staying home and making funeral arrangements, and ended up meeting God many years ago.Huda Cruz's reaction was positive, and she took the action of learning to climb mountains, which resulted in a Guinness World Record.Therefore, a woman's mentality is connected with fate, don't let negative thoughts occupy your mind, and maintain a positive attitude at all times.

William James said: "Sow a state of mind, and reap a thought; sow a thought, and reap an action; sow an action, and reap a habit; sow a habit, and reap a character; Sow a character and reap a destiny." This passage is condensed into one sentence: Attitude determines destiny.

A woman's destiny is in her own hands, because a woman controls her own mentality.

No matter how capable a woman is, if she doesn't have a good attitude, she can't get anything done.The energy of a good attitude is huge, and it is also the source of motivation.With it, women can grasp their own destiny, realize their ideals in life, and move forward bravely on the road of life.

A woman with a strong heart will not only make herself look beautiful, but also cultivate a good attitude and dominate her life.With a good attitude, women can enjoy the happiness of life, be able to withstand all kinds of pressure in life, and have the courage to challenge all kinds of difficulties and setbacks.

Jockey VS mount, you decide
The mood is like the weather in June, cloudy and sunny.People can't live by mood, but live by mentality.If a person's life depends on his mood, he must be fickle, swaying with the wind, unable to extricate himself.A strong person in life will adjust his mentality in time to make his mood positive and full of sunshine.

A happy woman may not encounter good things every day, but she is satisfied with everything she has; a happy woman may not always get what she wants, but she treats life with a positive attitude.

Franklin once said: "Either you control life, or life controls you. It is your mentality to decide who is the mount and who is the jockey." Life is not a kind of helplessness, but can be grasped and controlled through subjective efforts. Regulatory, the control tower that regulates life is the mentality.

Helen Keller was a famous blind and deaf female writer, educator, social activist and philanthropist in the United States in the 19th century.She was born a normal baby who could see, hear, and babble.However, when she was 19 months old, an illness made her disabled—she was blind, deaf, and dumb.Fortunately, in the dark tragedy, little Helen met a great angel of light, her governess—Ms. Anne Sullivan.

Under the guidance of Ms. Anne Sullivan, Helen Keller learned to "speak" and began to communicate with others.She has a very keen sense of touch, and she can know what the other party is talking about by putting her fingers on their lips; when a musician is performing, she will touch the wooden shell of the piano and violin with her hands to "hear" the music. Voice; if you shook hands with Helen Keller, when you meet and shake hands again five years later, she can recognize you based on the memory of the last time she shook hands with you; she can also judge your personality and physique based on this, For example, are you beautiful and strong, are you a funny person or a hearty person, or a whiny person, etc.

Although a blind person, Helen Keller has read more books than sighted people. She also learned to write and write books with a typewriter, and published [-] books of her own in her lifetime.

Helen Keller is simply a miracle on earth. She is shocking, gratifying, and has to be admired.When Helen Keller graduated from college, some kind people set up a "Helen Keller Day" event at the St. Louis Fair for her.Someone asked her: "How did I achieve such an achievement?" She said: "Difficulties have made me what I am today. The reason why I can achieve such results is because I have always been full of enthusiasm and confidence in life. I am a positive and confident person. My mentality helped me overcome many difficulties. It can be seen that a person's mentality can change her destiny."

You too can be "Lady Luck"

Neither good nor bad is predetermined, but different thoughts can lead to corresponding results.

When we meet someone who is happy every day, there is always a question in our mind: how does he never seem to be troubled?I believe that everyone wants to be a happy person, but things are counterproductive, and there will always be one or another unhappiness in a long life.What should we do in order to have a good mood every day like some people?
To be happy, nothing is more important than maintaining a positive thought and attitude.As the American psychologist William James said, the number one secret to being cheerful is to act cheerful.If you choose to think positively, your life will become a proactive one, and at the same time, you will truly be in control of your own destiny.In this way, you will find that many unexpected good things will always happen to you.

Once upon a time, there was a very lucky girl who was called the goddess of luck by her friends.For example, when she uses the pocket money she usually saves to go to a department store to buy her long-cherished goods, it will be on sale that day; during the exam, the questions on the test paper are just within the scope of her review; Being able to meet a particularly good class teacher... It seems that she can meet any lucky thing.

A good friend of hers likes her freedom and ease, and always feels that as long as she is by her side, she will be lucky, so she is always inseparable from her.

After getting along with her for a long time, my good friend discovered that her life was not all smooth sailing, but whenever adversity or setbacks came, she always faced them calmly, firmly believed that all suffering and setbacks were short-lived, and believed in everything Everything will pass, and good luck is in the near future; when she is in good times, she never forgets to say "I am so lucky".

Thinking about it carefully, in fact, everyone's luck is no worse than that of "Lady Luck".It's just that when good things happen to us, we never realize that we are lucky.On the contrary, when misfortune strikes, we never forget to complain: "Why did this happen to me? I'm really unlucky." Therefore, luck is covered by complaints.

Accept everything that happens to you with optimism.When you change the way you think, it's wonderful to see things that happen to you that you never noticed before.What's even more amazing is that a seemingly small thing may actually bring you a sense of surprise.

Bad or good, it's up to you

Don't complain about the injustice and cruelty of life, everything has its positive side.Whether in daily life or in the face of a major event, it is always better to look at things from another angle.

Mrs. Carnegie told a story:
"I made a dental appointment a few days ago and started feeling scared and couldn't sleep well at night, dreaming about the piercing screeching of the drill biting my teeth. On the way to the dentist I was feeling very blue. However, I thought: 'You persuade others to treat this adverse situation from another angle, so please lead by example yourself!'

"You may say that going to the dentist is not an easy task. However, after consideration, I found three favorable reasons: First, I did not live in the Middle Ages, and doctors would not wield iron clamps without anesthesia. My tooth was extracted, and I was comforted; secondly, I selected a competent dentist who regularly went through advanced training;

"In fact, my mental creativity really paid off. I can't say how happy I am mentally, but the fear is gone. When I walked into the treatment room, the dentist asked me sympathetically:' Surely you wouldn't want to come to me today?' I said, 'Oh, you know, it's nothing to be afraid of!'

"I hope you will find the courage to try this method too. In the future you will not be swayed by superficial negativity. If you do this, you will find that there is good in the bad. Try to bring your mind into balance It will make you shine in your dealings with others."

There is such a rule: as long as you believe that it is right to do so, you will be able to succeed.

It is rare to hear of women who are proud of their achievements, or especially publicize their achievements.They take some achievements for granted.Women have a common weakness, that is: they have not fully learned how to actively express themselves and show their achievements.

We simply do not extol our own merits adequately.The earlier we discover and appreciate our own strengths, the better for our development.

Think about your pride, don't dwell on your troubles

There should be two goals in life.One, to get what you want; and two, to be able to enjoy it after you get it.Only the smartest people can do the second step.

Do you want to know how to treat washing dishes at the kitchen sink as a rare experience?If you want, read an inspiring book about incredible courage.The author is Bogier Dale, and the title of the book is "I Wish I Could See".

The author of the book, a woman who had been blind for almost 50 years, "I had only one eye," she wrote, "had scars all over it and could only be seen through a small hole on the left side of the eye." Look. I have to hold the book very close to my face when I read, and I have to tilt one of my eyes as far to the left as possible."

But she refuses to accept the pity of others, and she does not want others to think that she is "different from ordinary people".As a child, she wanted to play hopscotch with other children, but she couldn't see the lines drawn on the ground.So after the other kids had gone home, she lay down on the ground, and kept her eyes on the wire and looked over and over.She memorized every bit of the place her friends were playing in, and soon became a good player at the game.When she was reading at home, she held a book with large letters close to her face, so close that her eyelashes touched the book.She earned two degrees: a bachelor's degree from Minnesota State University and a master's degree from Columbia University.

She started teaching in a small village in Twin Valley, Minnesota.He then worked his way up to a professor of journalism and literature at Augutana College in South Dekota.She taught there for 13 years, spoke at various women's clubs, and hosted a radio show about books and authors. "At the back of my mind," she wrote, "was a constant fear of total blindness. To overcome this fear, I adopted a jovial, almost playful attitude toward life."

But in 1943, at the age of 52, a miracle happened.She underwent an operation at the famous Mayor Clinic that enabled her to see forty times better than before.

A whole new, exciting and lovely world unfolds before her eyes.

She now finds that even doing the dishes at the kitchen sink makes her happy. “I started playing with the suds in the dish basin,” she wrote, “and I reached in and grabbed a handful of suds, and I held them up to the light. In each suds, I You can see a little rainbow flashing bright colors."

You and I should be ashamed that we have been living in a beautiful fairy tale kingdom every day for so many years, but we are just dawdling, not seeing the beauty of life, eating too much and not enjoying it.

happy people are always welcome

Why sometimes when I am with those who are complaining and underappreciated, I feel the atmosphere is miserable and boring, and my whole mood seems to be dragged down; but when I get along with people who are happy and contented, my mood will be infected Get well?

A doctor of medicine in the United States followed 225 young female college students for 30 years and found that the death rate of those with a strong sense of depression was as high as 15%, while the death rate of those with a cheerful and enthusiastic temperament was only 2.5%.A woman who is willing to be kind to others, help others, and help those in need can always gain spiritual comfort and ease of mind.

A good mood and state of mind can improve the body's immunity.

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