Be a Strong Woman: Carnegie's Book of Spiritual Growth for Women

Chapter 4 Be optimistic about yourself and you will have good luck (3)
Jeris is the head of the international trade department of a certain company. She is very beautiful and has always been the idol of her friends.In people's eyes, she is a woman of great taste.Everyone felt that no matter what clothes she wore, what jewelry she wore, and what handbag she carried, she seemed to be more beautiful than others.Because most of her daily necessities are purchased on business trips abroad, in the eyes of her friends, she is synonymous with famous brands.But in fact, all her items are not very expensive, most of them are discounted promotional items and cheap bonded items that she bought abroad.Why doesn't Jerry's pursuit of famous brands, instead achieve an effect higher than famous brands?Because she knows herself very well, and she knows very well that even if she doesn't use famous brands to dress up, as long as her own value increases, she will become the best brand herself.

A person's charm mainly comes from his own value, not the brand-name products on his body.Therefore, if you want to become a woman with unique charm, you should first increase the brand value of the trademark "you".

Women, learn to pamper yourself with money

Women love to spend money, but only a very small number of women dare to spend money for themselves.You can see how much a woman loves herself from the items she buys when she goes shopping.Women use shopping to fulfill their desire to spend money, but all valuable items are bought for the man next to them.

Men say: "Women are selfish and narcissistic creatures who always put themselves first."

The woman said: "We are actually very selfless, but we don't get understood, it's depressing!"

Most men don't know the woman around them, even though that woman may be the wife they share the same bed with.It is not intended to portray the great selflessness of women, but there are indeed too many women who will always put their families before themselves.

I often see some women feel distressed and feel guilty after buying their favorite items, and she will say: "I spent money again, but I don't need to buy it. I decided not to go for beauty treatment this month."

This is a virtuous woman, but also a stupid woman.There is a limit to the love she gives herself. Once she exceeds her budget, she must save money quickly, otherwise her conscience will be disturbed.But if it is to add new clothes for the family, no matter how much money is spent, she will feel at ease, because her love for her family, especially her husband and children, is unlimited and unlimited.

In fact, for a woman, knowing how to spend money and reward herself is also a sign of self-liberation.Going on a shopping spree is an excellent stress reliever.There is no woman who does not love luxury goods. It is a wonderful feeling to spend a lot of hard-earned money in exchange for a bunch of "decorations" that are not practical in the eyes of outsiders!

There are many women who like to spend money, but there are very few women who are willing to spend money, and very few women are willing to spend money for themselves without any scruples.A woman who is generous to herself must be more comfortable than a woman who is stingy to herself.Every woman longs for a man who will pamper her and wait for him to comfort her weak heart.However, few women want to get it, and they have to rely on themselves to pamper them!
As a woman, you must know how to pamper yourself with money!

Looking beautiful is an advantage, living beautifully is a skill

The worry that all women in the world have is: their own appearance.

Women are not only narcissistic, but also have low self-esteem. Even women who are beautiful in a mess still feel that they still lack something.I believe that every woman has had this experience, saying to herself in the mirror: "If only I had... how wonderful it would be!"

Women are never satisfied when it comes to looks.What's more interesting is that the more beautiful women are, the more uncomfortable they are in life, but those ordinary-looking women can live a more nourishing life day by day.

This is God's fairness: a little bit is given to everyone.Maybe it's beauty, maybe it's wisdom, maybe it's eloquence, maybe it's courage... In the end, it's all about you relying on this little bit to win the splendor of your whole life!

Many women attribute their failure to appearance problems:

If I am beautiful, I can enter the film and television industry, become a queen, and be brilliant!
If I am beautiful, I can meet an excellent man, marry into a famous family, and embrace each other!
If I am beautiful, I can break the rules and enter a famous company, I can become a beauty director, and I can be a wunderkind!
But you also need to know:
Not all women who can be actresses are beauties, and there are many ordinary-looking women.

There are many women who meet excellent men, but not all of them are beauties who can catch them.

You can become a manager in a famous company if you are not a beautiful woman, but it is not your looks that make you wunderkind.

Being beautiful is an advantage, and living beautifully is a skill. If a woman doesn't understand this truth, she will never become strong. The word "beautiful" covers all the ideals of a woman's life: to have a beautiful face; to live a beautiful life; to speak beautifully in foreign affairs; to serve two beautiful dishes when meeting friends at home... a woman's inside and outside Outside, we all want to be glamorous!

A beautiful woman may not be beautiful everywhere, and an unbeautiful woman may not be beautiful everywhere!

Always cherish and be kind to yourself
To cherish and treat life kindly is to treat women themselves kindly.It can keep pain and trouble away from a woman's life, and allow women to perceive life in a peaceful life.It allows women to go through the years without traces without regrets.

Life is a life journey without retreat. Facing the sacred and limited life, women should cherish and treat it kindly, and find their own happy life.We should think about life quietly, savor life carefully, enjoy life in a calm and open-minded way, and let ourselves live delicately and meaningfully.

There was a little girl who grew up in an orphanage and often asked the headmistress pessimistically: "What's the point of living for a child like me who is unwanted?"

The headmistress smiled without answering.One day, the female abbot gave the girl a stone and said, "Tomorrow morning, you can take this stone to the market and sell it, but it is not for sale. Remember, no matter how much others pay, you must never sell it."

The next day, the girl squatted in the corner of the market with a stone, and unexpectedly found that many people were interested in her stone, and the price was getting higher and higher.Back in the orphanage, the girl excitedly reported to the dean, who smiled and asked her to sell it in the gold market tomorrow.In the gold market, someone offered ten times higher price than yesterday to buy this stone.

Finally, the dean asked the child to take the stone to the gem market for display.As a result, the value of the stone has increased tenfold.Because the girl is not sold anyway, it has been passed down as a rare treasure.

The girl happily returned to the orphanage with the stone in her hands, told the dean all this, and asked why this happened.

The dean didn't smile, looked at the girl and said slowly:

"The value of life is like this stone, which has different meanings in different environments. An inconspicuous stone has increased its value because of your reluctance to sell it, and it has been passed down as a rare treasure. Don't you Like this stone? As long as you value yourself and cherish yourself, life is meaningful and valuable."

Women, the value of life depends first on your own attitude.Cherish your unique self, cherish these short decades, and then continue to enrich and discover yourself, and finally the society will recognize your value.

Compared with the vast world, a woman's life is so short.Life is so fragile, sometimes only in the moment of inhalation and inhalation.Therefore, women who are chasing happiness must cherish themselves and be kind to life.

The winning posture conveys your confidence to everyone
The way a woman sits can express her confidence and show her vitality.Slumped shoulders, a bulging stomach, a sagging jaw, or half-closed eyes are never signs of confidence.

The energetic posture in people's impression is: belly drawn, shoulders flat and straight, chest straightened, chin raised, smiling face, bright eyes, flashing with an air of victory.

You can be purposeful when you sit: keep your back straight and your feet closer together.Avoid sitting upright in an upright chair, it's uncomfortable and can make your posture appear rigid.The best way to do this is to lean one part of your body against the backrest, so that the body is slightly tilted, which will make you look more natural.

When you're wearing tight clothing, or skirts with slits, don't cross your legs.In this case, the classic academic posture with the feet crossed at the ankles is most appropriate.However, if you're wearing a baggy outfit or a plain seamless skirt, cross-legged looks will look more alluring and effortless.

Sit in a relaxed rather than tense position while listening to those around you.When you are listening to someone else's talk, you can show your interest and appreciation by smiling, nodding or moving your position slightly to understand the other person's words more clearly.Keep an eye out for some famous TV talk show hosts who know the art of listening so well.

Recall your frequently used gestures, and make a classification of positive and negative gestures among them. You will find that positive gestures not only make you feel good about yourself, but also bring you closer to the audience, while negative gestures bring you closer. Distance yourself from the audience.

No matter which gestures you plan to use, their use must help the audience understand what you are saying and help you project good demeanor.

The way you shake someone's hand also tells them a lot about yourself.A slow, feeble handshake suggests a lack of confidence, while a too firm handshake, which gives the impression that you are maximizing your control, suggests a lack of confidence.Remember, no matter who the other party is, you only need a steady and concise handshake ceremony.

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