Be a Strong Woman: Carnegie's Book of Spiritual Growth for Women

Chapter 11 Flying against the wind, after the storm is a rainbow (1)
Only you can save yourself, as long as you have a little courage to fight, there is a little hope of success.

frustration is not the same as misfortune

Throughout history, many world-famous figures have had physical disabilities.Sir Byron had clubfoot, Julius Caesar had epilepsy, Beethoven was deaf due to illness, Napoleon was famously short, Mozart had liver disease, Franklin Roosevelt was polio, and Helen Keller has been deaf and blind since he was a child, but how many people don't know what they have achieved?

George Bernard Shaw was disgusted by those who constantly complained about their circumstances.He said: "People often complain that their environment is not going well, so they don't achieve much. I don't believe that. If you can't get the environment you want, you can create one!"

In fact, if a person complains about the bad environment all the time, he will of course attribute his faults to "defects" or various other reasons.When Mrs. Carnegie was young, she was often depressed because she was taller than others.As the years passed, she came to understand that height could be a good thing or a bad thing, it all depended on her own attitude.

Mentally immature people always regard their differences as flaws and obstacles, and then expect to receive special treatment; spiritually mature people do not, they first recognize their differences, and then decide Either accept them, or improve them.

spirit can beat bad luck
When our lives are torn apart by misfortune, only time can pick up the pieces and heal them again.When a wise man faces misfortune, he knows how to give time a chance.At the first blow, the world seemed to stop, and our suffering seemed to never end.But no matter what, we have to move forward to achieve the various goals in the life plan.And once we have completed these various operations in life, the pain caused by misfortune will gradually lessen.One day, we will be able to evoke the joy of the past and feel loved, not hurt.Time is our best friend in overcoming and overcoming misfortune, but we can only lift ourselves out of the abyss of misery if we open our hearts and fully accept our inevitable fate.

We should remember that misfortune is not the end of the world, and sometimes it is the catalyst for action that can greatly improve adverse situations.It sharpens our intellect and helps us solve problems.

Mrs. Lenny, who lived in Wisconsin, had a son who was a pilot. He was only 23 years old when he died in the line of duty during World War II.Although the mother felt very sad about this, she rejected the sympathy of others. She said: "I know many pessimistic mothers. Some have a nervous breakdown because of the loss of a child, and some cannot function normally because the child has spastic paralysis. Make a contribution. Of course, there are more women who desperately want to have their own children, but are unable to do so. I am fortunate to have a good son, and I have spent 23 happy years. I will keep these happy memories until the end of my life , Therefore, I will obey God’s arrangement and try my best to support and help as many people in need as possible.”

She did.She went to great lengths to comfort the many who went to war, or those parents who needed help when their sons went off.She gave her mind and energy to helping others, and she stopped worrying about the things that bothered her.

Everyone's life will not be a smooth and happy journey.In this process, every life is oscillating in the mode between luck and misfortune, ups and downs, light and darkness.We cannot bury our heads in the sand like an ostrich and refuse to face all kinds of misfortunes, and misfortunes will not disappear because of this.Suffering is a part of human life, and only by facing it with optimism and strength can life continue.

God is fair to everyone.Since we have come into this world, we have had to go through some sufferings, just as we have also experienced many joys.Sooner or later, life will teach us that we are all equal in the experience of suffering.Whether king or beggar, poet or farmer, man or woman, when they face misfortunes of all kinds, they suffer alike.Immature people, regardless of age, are especially distressed because they don't understand that things like birth, old age, sickness, death, or other misfortunes are inevitable stages of life.Here are five ways to get rid of misfortune, I hope everyone can remember it.

[-]. Accept the inevitable and allow time to heal the pain.

[-]. Take action to resist difficult situations.

[-]. Concentrate on helping others.

[-]. Make the most of your life while you are still alive.

[-]. Calculate the happiness we have.

There is no hurdle in life

In real life, no one does not pursue and yearn for beauty, but God seems to be against people, and the road of life is always full of ups and downs.When a weak-willed person encounters difficulties, he will be disheartened, look at himself in pity, be sluggish all day long, and blame others; while a strong-willed person firmly believes that there are no hurdles that cannot be overcome in life. Where to get up.

The earliest sausage maker in the United States was a girl under the age of 20, Joan, who was working on her father's farm.She was able and worked hard, but the farm didn't make her rich, she just got by.

Then one day Joan suddenly suffered from general paralysis, bedridden and almost incapacitated, which put her in a difficult situation.Her relatives are sure: Joan will become a patient who has lost hope and happiness forever, and will never do anything again.

Yet Joan could still think, and she did think, and plan.One day, she told her family about her plan. "Although I can't work anymore, if you want, each of you can replace my hands, feet and body." She said, "We can plant every arable land on the farm with corn, then raise pigs, and use all The corn harvested to feed the pigs. Our pigs are slaughtered when they are young and tender and made into sausages which are packaged and sold under a trademark. The sausages can be sold like hot pastries and we are going to promote them to retail stores across the country."

Later, the sausage was indeed sold as a hot pastry.A few years later, this food named "Joan Piglet Sausage" became the most appetizing food, and it was also the daily food of ordinary families at that time.

There is no unparalleled road, life throws us problems, and at the same time it also gives us the ability to solve them.Using her brain and borrowing other people's hands, Joan still made a career.Yes, her body was paralyzed, but her mind was not affected.Because she firmly believes that there are no hurdles that cannot be overcome in life, and she firmly believes that after winter there will be spring.She did not bow her head in the face of difficulties, was not intimidated by setbacks, but found another way, and finally ushered in her own success.

Learn to change "negative" into "positive"

A woman struggling and fighting in an unfavorable environment, her uncompromising and unyielding tenacity is impressive enough.

Mrs. Carnegie once heard Ms. Thelma Thompson tell her experience:
"During World War II my husband was stationed on an Army base in the California desert. I moved near there so that I could see him more often. It was an abominable place. I have never seen a worse place. My husband was out During the exercise, I was left alone in that little room. It was hot as hell—125 degrees Fahrenheit, and there was no one to talk to. The wind was so dusty that everything I ate and breathed was full of Sand, sand, sand!

"I felt like the worst of luck, I felt so miserable. So I wrote to my parents and told them I had given up and was going home. I couldn't take it for a minute, I'd rather go to jail than be in this hell Place. My father's reply consisted of only three lines, and these three sentences haunted me so often and changed my life:
Two people looked out through the bars,
What one person sees is mud all over the ground,

Another sees a sky full of stars.

"I repeated these words several times. I felt ashamed. I decided to find out the advantages of my current situation. I want to find that starry sky.

“I started to make friends with the local people, and I was touched by their reactions. When I showed a lot of interest in their weaving and pottery, they would give me favorite things that they refused to sell to tourists. I studied various Various cacti and local plants, I try to know more about groundhogs, I watch the dusk in the desert, and I look for shell fossils 300 million years ago-it turns out that this desert was once a seabed 300 million years ago.

What brought about these astonishing changes?The desert has not changed, only myself has changed.Because my attitude changed, and it was that change that led to a wonderful life experience.The new world I've discovered is exciting and exciting.I set out to write a book—a novel.I escaped from the prison I built and found the beautiful stars. "

The key to changing "negative" to "positive" is whether your line of sight through the window falls on the muddy ground or the starry sky.

Women often want to be beautiful, and think that beautiful women have more advantages.But even an "ugly girl" is not "beautiful", it just depends on how you turn "negative" into "positive".

Don't give up in the face of setbacks
When a lion is chasing a rabbit, the number of times it fails is much more than the number of times it succeeds.In fact, if you think about it carefully, the reason is very simple: the lion runs for a meal, but the rabbit runs for life.Which is more important than others is self-evident.From this we can know that people's potential can also be played unlimitedly, it just depends on whether you are willing to do your best.

Therefore, if we encounter a failure in something, the first thing to do is not to look for objective reasons, but to self-examine whether we have tried our best.Come on, dear friends, let us try our best to do everything well!Believe that nothing is impossible.

Nancy suffered from polio and had to use a cane when she was 10 years old.Later, when they heard that swimming had a miraculous effect on exercising leg muscles, her parents asked Nancy to learn to swim.Four years later, Nancy came in No. 3 in a swim meet in Santa Barbara, California. At the age of 19, won No.1 in the national competition.At that time, President Roosevelt asked her kindly: "How did you win the championship with a disability?"

"I just never gave up, sir." Nancy said proudly.

All successful women have worked hard.There is so much more we need to do to be a successful woman.First of all, let us raise our heads and build a palace of our own in the sky!Now, please close your eyes and imagine that there is a magnificently built palace high in the sky, and then you are wearing a gem-studded dress, dancing with a handsome prince, and the people around you are very excited. Looking at you with envious eyes.At this moment, do you feel like you have nothing more to ask for?So, is your palace built yet?
If your palace is already built, all you have to do now is to build stairs under the palace.Then, all that remains is to walk up the stairs to the palace step by step.But building the stairs was undoubtedly the hardest part of it all.The higher the palace you build, the more stairs you need to build.

Of course, you will not succeed if you work hard, but it is undeniable that those successful people have worked hard without exception.

Most people have such a commonality, that is, they give up before they really start working hard.You may have noticed this phenomenon from the people around you: as soon as they encounter difficulties, they will find out all kinds of reasons why they cannot succeed, and then escape with peace of mind; they have not put in all their efforts, even if they say that they are desperate things done.How can such an attitude of doing things be successful?

Thank you for the hardships, the hardships make you grow

Although life is full of suffering, suffering can always be overcome.The hardships you face may bring you another kind of luck.In a person's life, everyone will inevitably encounter one or another tribulation.However, we must believe that there is no pain in the world that we humans cannot endure and overcome.When God gives us a certain kind of suffering, he must also give us another compensation.Therefore, when we are facing pain, don't just feel unfortunate, because no one knows whether there will be another kind of luck waiting for us.

Since Kelly entered college, for some reason, two or three pimples suddenly covered her entire face.For her who loves beauty, this is a very serious blow.In order to get rid of this trouble, she went to almost all the dermatology hospitals, but it still didn't work.In the end, she felt ashamed to go out, and depression and autism followed.Because a classmate saw her and said something like "how can it be broken like this", Kelly didn't even want to go to class; she and her boyfriend quarreled frequently because of this, and finally broke up.

Kelly not only failed to heal her face, but suffered blow after blow.In the beginning, she sighed in the mirror every day.Finally one day, she made up her mind to change herself.After that, she resolutely stopped eating fast food such as pizza and hamburgers, and started to take part in sports.In addition, she gave up drinking and took a half bath every day.In addition, she also supplemented some nutrients that are beneficial to the body, such as vitamin C, and insisted on applying a mask every other day to add nutrition to the skin.

As a result, her facial skin has improved significantly.Kelly was overjoyed by this, so she worked hard to persevere.After three months, her face returned to its original appearance, and her skin became smoother and smoother.Not only that, but she also suddenly discovered that other discomforts that she once thought could not be improved were completely resolved through this skin problem: the dysmenorrhea that had tortured her for more than ten years disappeared, and the symptoms of irregular menstruation also disappeared up.

Of course, Kylie was in a lot of pain when she had a problem with her skin and working on it.But it was precisely the existence of this problem that prompted Kelly to change her lifestyle.In the end, not only skin diseases were cured, but also chronic diseases such as dysmenorrhea, headache, and fatigue were cured.From her experience, Kelly learned the truth that "suffering makes people grow".Since then, no matter what serious difficulties she encountered, she worked hard to solve them and enrich herself from them.

When God closes a door, he will naturally open a window for you.When you encounter hardships, perhaps luck is waiting for you not far away.

Learn to wait and wait for success in loneliness

For many people, mental torture is more difficult than physical torture.

(End of this chapter)