The Devil's Conversation Learning: Instantly Become Friends with Strangers

Chapter 17

(6) Be humorous and make your words shine.Humorous and witty language has the magical effect of benefiting oneself and pleasing others.If a person speaks with witty words and witty humor, then people will favor him.In the process of communicating with people, a decent humorous speech can win the favor and even appreciation of others.In social situations, humorous language will make your speech shine.

(7) Body language, silent words expressing the inner voice.Body language is more contagious than verbal language in communication. Maybe just a look, a handshake, or a smile can have the effect of "silence is better than sound at this time", making the communication between the two parties more harmonious and the emotions of both parties getting real. communication.

(8) To be able to speak, you must also be able to listen. The other half of speaking is listening.It is better to listen than to speak.Listening is a high-level communication. If you want to be a good communicator, you must be good at listening.Speech is a kind of ability, listening is also a kind of ability.Mastering the art of listening proficiently in interpersonal communication is sometimes more important and more effective than being able to speak.

(9) Just right, a shrewd person must speak with propriety.In a sense, interpersonal relationships are often reflected in the art of speaking and the grasp of proportion.Pay attention to propriety in speaking, it is easy to say, but quite difficult in practice.If you want to speak watertightly and just right, gaining one point will make you fat, and losing one point will make you thin. You need to constantly exercise yourself in the practice of life.

(10) It varies from person to person, master the speaking skills of adapting to the situation.Specific occasions and specific conversation objects require a special way of speaking.Especially when we face arrogant people, lazy people, dull people, impatient people, and suspicious people, we need to flexibly change the way of speaking, adapt to the situation, and communicate with them eclecticly.

07．Internet chatting, the secret weapon of a master online dating
The so-called "net dating" refers to using the Internet to strike up a conversation with strangers.In fact, strangers on the Internet are also strangers around us, because the Internet has already spread to thousands of households.But how to strike up a conversation with strangers on the Internet is a problem, because Chinese people have always regarded themselves as reserved, and they are more cautious and euphemistic when meeting new people. In addition to the higher probability of strikeup in entertainment venues with a strong purpose, many people are depressed in reality. I am confined to a fixed "circle", which leads to low skills in chatting up, let alone meeting strangers on the Internet.In fact, with the rapid development of the information age, the communication between people will undergo revolutionary changes.If you don't know friends through the Internet in a few years, I don't know how many friends you will lose.In real life, isn't there a relationship that many people connect with QQ groups through the Internet?Even many people in the forum have become close friends, and it is no longer an ordinary relationship.

Compared with real communication, online communication is a way that does not require face-to-face, and it will be more relaxed on the Internet.But some people can’t distinguish the authenticity of online information, and think that the success rate of chatting up online is much lower than that in reality. In fact, this is just a subjective and irresponsible statement of insufficient level.In fact, the Internet is a good place to strike up a conversation, and its success rate may not be very low. Strangers on the Internet are also our potential resources. Maybe any Bole will have a surprising impact on your work and life.If everyone can earnestly study and have the courage to strike up a conversation online, you will find that it is actually not difficult to strike up a conversation online. In fact, there are many benefits to strike up a conversation with strangers on the Internet.

First of all, chatting up online can broaden your horizons.The Internet has a large amount of information, a fast speed of information exchange, and a strong degree of freedom, realizing global information sharing.The Internet provides new channels for us to obtain all kinds of information.Today's society is an era of information explosion, and now people's concerns are also very wide. Traditional media can no longer satisfy people's so many points of interest in a timely manner. The rich information resources of the Internet can meet people's needs to the greatest extent.They browse the world on the Internet, get to know the world, and learn about the latest information and technological trends in the world. The Internet is becoming the best source for people to obtain various information, thus making the field of communication unprecedentedly broad and greatly broadening people's horizons.

Secondly, chatting up on the Internet helps to broaden people's thinking and strengthen people's ability to communicate, communicate and participate in society.Due to the inclusiveness of the Internet, people who surf the Internet are in a completely different environment from real life.In the process of thinking about problems, the Internet not only exercises people's ability to think independently, but also improves their ability to analyze and judge things. They can make friends through online chat rooms or BBS, participate in discussions on social issues, publish own point of view, opinion.In addition, the boundless space of the Internet has greatly stimulated people's curiosity and thirst for knowledge, making their potential and potential more effectively developed.

The most important thing is that although online chatting is playing a game of probability, there is no risk. The "real version" of chatting will be affected by differences in age and social class between you and the other party, but online chatting is less affected by these factors.The process of striking up a conversation is generally very natural and casual. For example, a 23-year-old can go online to meet a 13-year-old stranger, or chat with a 33-year-old or 43-year-old stranger.To a certain extent, Wangdai eliminates people's vigilance. As long as you have real and rich photos of your life in your space, and there are real messages from friends on the message board, everyone will hardly be on guard; Wangdai can naturally and quickly display your Value, use the photos in your space, your diary, no need to talk nonsense, save time, and display it as you like.The nature of the web makes it promotional.By taking care of your profile, you can promote yourself, show yourself, and eventually even become an "Internet celebrity".

It is worth mentioning that the Internet is also very ambiguous, and it is easier for people to become dependent than in reality. This is something that online chatters have experienced. With a little tricks, you can turn ambiguity and dependence into what you need.This is not only a question of speaking skills and skills, but also a question of testing the personal qualities of the online builders.

When it comes to "Internet dating", we have to talk about the skills of online chatting, which has always been a topic that many people are more concerned about.Picking up a conversation has always been a test of self-confidence, because [-] out of [-] we will be discouraged and rejected.Therefore, you should first practice the skills of striking up a conversation on the Internet, instead of "bad matchmaking" regardless of the occasion, location and time as the experts say.In the process of chatting up online, if we cannot bear the blow of being rejected, we will easily lose confidence, and it is also not conducive to the learning of online chatting skills.

There are many ways to strike up a conversation online. Here we have summarized some common and effective methods used by masters of "talking up online" for your reference.

First, make full use of network tools

Professional chat software includes Langma UC, Netease Paobao, Yahoo! Messenger, Sina chat, Microsoft MSN, Taobao Wangwang, and foreign ICQ.In addition to the above, software with similar QQ chat functions also includes PP Diandiantong, Kugou, and POCO.There are also websites and forums, such as Jiayuan.com, Taonan.com, Baihe.com, Marrywo.com, Renren.com, and so on.A small investment in a dating website yields a big return, and the humanized settings inside make us more selective.

Second, be brave to take the initiative

Whether it is the real version or the online version, we should keep in mind the kingly way to strike up a conversation, which is to take the initiative and wait for the result.Don't think that you are a diamond king or a limited edition beauty, don't think that you are more handsome than Andy Lau or more beautiful than Fan Bingbing, just waiting for others to come to you, this is almost impossible on the Internet.Therefore, when using these network tools, you have to be brave to take the initiative, and ask for contact information immediately after you have achieved results, such as QQ numbers and so on. The more the better!If you can get a mobile phone number, then you have successfully taken the first step.

Third, focus on accumulating experience

The focus of online chatting is to slowly run in, which is a skill suitable for everyone.In this regard, interaction is a must!This will allow us to accumulate experience and technology in the continuous running-in, and our self-confidence will also be greatly enhanced.Internet chatting is not effective for everyone. Some people may not chat with you, and you may not be happy after chatting.

Fourth, treat network information rationally

Rational treatment of network information is not only a technical issue, but also a matter of principle and attitude.With the continuous development and progress of the times, the network has almost become an indispensable part of everyone's daily life.Everyone learns about society and the world from the Internet, and communicates with others through the Internet, such as chatting up online, and can also share information through the Internet, such as downloading music and online games.It can be said that the Internet provides a lot of convenience for everyone, and also makes our life more fun.However, with the popularity of the Internet, some bad phenomena also occur, that is, Internet rumors.Some Internet promoters, through malicious promotion and speculation of some bad information, mislead Internet public opinion, form "Internet violence", and cause great harm to society.In this regard, the most important thing is that we should treat Internet information rationally, maintain a due skeptical attitude towards some extreme Internet topics, and not blindly follow the trend, follow others' opinions, and treat them rationally.We should be more vigilant about some online information, especially those related to people's livelihood issues, and we should not believe one-sided words. Once we encounter such rumors, we must always pay attention to government information and understand the correct situation.There is an old saying: "Rumors stop at the wise." As long as everyone treats the dissemination of information on the Internet rationally, then our Internet will be a clean and happy life platform.

Extended reading: Several issues that need attention in "networking"
(1) You must be sincere when "net dating", otherwise it will be easier to be mistaken for a liar.

(2) We must explore the objects of "network", and we cannot treat all objects as a kind of person.People you haven't met are mysterious, so you need to adapt to the situation.

(3) Focus on the other party, and the topic should revolve around the other party, so that she feels that there is no sense of distance between you and her, so that you can better "network match".

(4) In order to ensure the smooth progress of "online dating", the language of chatting up must not be frivolous.Otherwise, no matter how kind you are, you will be blacklisted.

(5) Don't let the strike-up go too fast.Picking up a conversation too quickly can feel unreal and has little chance of success.

(End of this chapter)