understand man in seconds

Chapter 14

Huaxin is not because she loves beauty, but because she loves freshness

Understanding Men in [-] Seconds and Understanding Men in Seconds No. [-]: Playful Man

Features: Playboys seem to like beautiful women, but even the most beautiful women will be abandoned by them after a long time.Because what they really love is not beauty, but freshness.

Therefore, the beauty in the eyes of a man with a flower heart is a passing line, and there is no absolute standard.But the pursuit of freshness is the pursuit of Huaxinnan's life.

Love code: don't become consumables for playboys.They never really take care of women, they just consume them.Beauty and youth are just the nutrients they absorb.

Real Stories Understand Men in Seconds No. [-]: The Playful Man

Do Men Really Love Beautiful Women?

This is simply nonsense.How can men not like beautiful women?
I knew a man named Feng Yunshan, who was quite honest when he was young, a literary youth who loved to write, but had no place to publish it, and later, he simply became an editor of a publishing house.

At that time, I hadn’t written a book yet, and I didn’t have the concept of a best-seller. Lao Feng was an editor at a university press, so naturally he didn’t make much money, it was nothing more than dead wages.

However, he is considered an employee of a university at any rate, and without money, it is also a legitimate job that many old people like, so Lao Feng got married before he was 30 years old.The object of marriage is the daughter of a school teacher. She is not very good-looking, but she is also a good wife and mother.

After a few years of marriage, the days were dull, and they had children. I thought they would live like this for the rest of their lives.

Unexpectedly, the book market soon surged, many private book companies rose, and bestsellers began to appear one after another.

Feng Yunshan looked at the hot eyes, and felt that he had enough resources in his hands, and his years of experience were not in vain, so he made up his mind to jump into the sea to test the water.

So he took hundreds of thousands of savings from his family and opened a book company.

From the editor of a state-run organization to the owner of a private company, the leap is too great.The pedantry of literati has become the biggest obstacle in Feng Yunshan's way of doing business.

At the beginning, I was not sure about the market, which led to a large backlog of books, and the partners withdrew their capital, and I was deceived by the factory to my death. In just over a year, the company almost went bankrupt.

Fortunately, the wife at home is virtuous, and she didn't make much trouble, so she took out the house as mortgage.With this money, Feng Yunshan was relieved.

Afterwards, things went smoothly, and I wrote several best-sellers in the whole country in a row, with an annual value of over [-] million. After two or three years, I actually accumulated a net worth of tens of millions.

With money, there is naturally status.Feng Yunshan travels all over the country, and the people he sees are all big figures from all walks of life, so his mind is inevitably a little active.

The others were also bad, and introduced him to many beauties, including celebrities, singers, and actors.

There are indeed a lot of dewy marriages. Feng Yunshan used to live a hard life before. After he became a foreigner, how could he keep it, so he put more and more attention on finding women.

I have met a lot of women, some are for his money, some are for his resources, but there will always be people who are after him.

Half a year later, Feng Yunshan met such a girl.

This girl is very beautiful, how beautiful is she?Even if girls from all over the country are counted, even those first-line female stars, this girl can probably be ranked among the top dozens.

He is about 1.7 meters tall and has a sweet appearance. He has learned to dance since he was a child, and he is already the chief of a song and dance troupe in Chengdu in his 20s. He can stick his legs to his face when he lifts his legs, and his body is as soft as if he has no bones.

This girl's family background is also good, there is a brother in the family who is in finance, and her parents are small local officials, so she is considered a very favored person in certain circles, and it can be said that she has never been in the sun since she was a child.

More importantly, although the girl is good-looking, she is still clean and self-sufficient. Others who are school girls have piles of boyfriends. She only talks about two or three, and there are no such messy things.

After the dancer met Feng Yunshan, she fell in love with him at first sight. She really fell in love with him.Because most of the rich people who are used to in daily life are extremely rude, not as gentle and connotative as Feng Yunshan.Moreover, Feng Yunshan can write poems and draw pictures, so he is really quite talented.

The little girl always worships the talented person in her mind. The appearance of Feng Yunshan makes the dancer fall in love completely.

This matter, which started from the romance, turned into Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai.

Feng Yunshan thought it was a one-night affair, but after a long time, he found that this girl really has a lot to love, not to mention her appearance. He has met so many so-called beauties, but no one can surpass her.

Moreover, after this girl followed Feng Yunshan, she changed her past pampering and started to wash her hands and make soup. She actually planned to give up her career and concentrate on being a housewife.

Feng Yunshan was immediately confused.

Think about it, it's not easy for a girl who is so good-looking and looks like a fairy to fall in love with him. People don't care that he has a wife at home, and they are willing to pay so much, and even sacrifice their own careers.

There is only one thing in Feng Yunshan's mind, that is, what more can I ask for.

Now that they are completely in love, of course Feng Yunshan has to go home to solve his wife's problem.

It stands to reason that a wretched wife will not go to court, but when things have come to this point, no matter how you look at it, your own wife can't be compared with the girls outside.

Regardless of appearance, family background, or feelings, they are not on the same level.

Of course Feng Yunshan felt guilty in his heart, but the guilt belonged to the guilt, it didn't mean he would just stop there.After numerous mental preparations and rehearsals, Feng Yunshan finally spoke to his wife.

I thought it would be difficult, but who would have thought that after listening to Feng Yunshan's words, his wife just let him move out with a sigh.

A few days later, his wife drew up a divorce agreement.It's not too harsh, the house, car, and children are given to the woman, and the company and cash belong to Feng Yunshan.In comparison, Feng Yunshan still has an advantage.

The wife made only a small request, to meet the dancing girl.

It's been about two months since I saw this side.The dancing girl thought about it so many times, she even thought about being scolded, beaten and humiliated.

When they actually met, she was still surprised by the middle-aged woman who came from a small family and had no outstanding qualifications.

She looked at the little girl, sighed, and muttered: "Repent to teach my husband to seek a title!"

The little girl didn't understand.

She asked again, today she is old and ugly, and is not worthy of this man, but one day in the future, will this man go to someone else because the little girl is ugly and old?

The little girl understood this sentence, but she said confidently that she was so beautiful, and probably not many people in this world could be more beautiful than her, so she didn't worry about it at all.

Feng Yunshan's wife, oh, is now an ex-wife, and she didn't get too entangled in this issue. She just gave the little girl a list, which included Feng Yunshan's taboos, habits, etc. There were almost a hundred items.

The ex-wife left, and the little girl married Feng Yunshan as a matter of course.

Marriage is naturally loving.

Sometimes for a man, it's not that he doesn't want to live a good life, he just wants to live with someone he thinks is suitable.

This is a very cold and even harsh thought, but to these men, it is nothing more than human nature.

Feng Yunshan and his new wife have lived a peaceful life for seven years. They also have children of their own, and the former dancer has become a 30-year-old young woman.

But she still remembered what Feng Yunshan's ex-wife said that day, if one day she is not so good-looking, ugly, old, what should I do?

So she desperately takes care of herself. As long as it is related to maintaining beauty, she will try it. When she was only 30 years old, she took sheep placenta, and used all kinds of expensive masks and skin care products on her face every day.I would rather not work hard, but also get enough sleep.

These things, of course, are useful.

Although she is over 30 years old, she still looks exactly the same as when she was in her 20s. Practicing yoga for a long time has also allowed her to maintain a soft figure when dancing.After giving birth, the figure has not changed at all.She even performed a special operation to remove the scar from the caesarean section.

At least she can proudly tell everyone that although it has been seven years, not only has she not become ugly, she has even become more beautiful.So she was very relieved that Feng Yunshan would never leave her, and there was no possibility of cheating on her.

But this confidence did not last long.

At the time of the seven-year itch, she always felt that her husband was a little strange, mainly because he had less and less time to go home.I used to be able to come back three or four days a week, but now I can count on one or two nights.And when he came back, he slept with the child and didn't want to touch his wife.

What's even more exaggerated is that once she asked her husband to accompany her to bed, but found that the man didn't respond.

When will a man lose interest in his wife?The woman was a little anxious immediately, so she began to ponder.

She is very confident in her appearance, because even after she got married and even gave birth to a child, there were still men chasing and hooking up, many of whom were better than her husband.Those crazy ones could almost die for her.

Since there is no problem with appearance, what is the problem?
She found a way to go to the man's company and found a few employees to do the investigation.Of course, employees are unlikely to betray their bosses, but there are always a few disgruntled female employees who can bring out some truth when they speak.

Over time, this girl found out the truth of the matter. It turned out that Feng Yunshan had really cheated.

And this is not an ordinary cheating, but the kind of dating and living in a serious way.

It turned out that Feng Yunshan's company was getting bigger and bigger, and he met a so-called beauty writer. This beauty writer was good at writing, talented, and the sales of books were very high.

For such a writer, Feng Yunshan will naturally get closer.The two of them had meals, dates, and came and went, and they actually looked at each other right.

Maybe it's a girl born in the 90s who is more open about marriage and love, so she doesn't care whether Feng Yunshan is married or not, she just cares about occupying his heart, his time, and even his desires.

So the beautiful writer asked Feng Yunshan to rent a house and buy a car. Basically, during this time, Feng Yunshan lived with the beautiful writer.

This relationship is very arrogant, and everyone in the company knows that the beautiful writer is the boss's wife. She can make decisions in the company's affairs, and the boss listens to her more than himself.

The dancers were shocked to hear this fact.

Although she robbed someone else's husband, she never thought that cheating would happen to her.

Isn't it said that men like beautiful women?And she is a beauty, and she is still the top beauty.

The dancer ran to take a look at the beautiful writer.

Maybe there are too few women among writers, and there are even fewer beauties, so those who are a little bit pretty are all beauties.

Although the girl is good-looking, she is only 1.6 meters long and her skin is slightly dark.It looks good to ordinary people, but it is nothing among the real beautiful actresses and singers.

If the appearance of a dancer is 90 points, then this beauty writer is at most 70 points.

But why do those with 70 points beat those with 90 points?
No one can figure this out.

In the end, the dancer and Feng Yunshan spread out to have a chat.This man is not very entangled, he also pondered carefully.

Maybe it has nothing to do with being pretty, he said, but just because of its freshness.

Dancers are of course good-looking, and they also have face when they are taken out. If it is only from the perspective of appearance, few people can surpass them.

But what's the use?When you look at it long enough, when you have enough time, when you stare at it every day and countless hours, no matter how good-looking people are, they become ordinary people.This ordinary is not a decline in beauty, but that this kind of color can no longer make men sexually motivated.

That's right, what Feng Yunshan said was indeed true.

It is true that men like beautiful women, but this beauty is not based on the fact that women are beautiful, but on the sexual impulse of men.

A woman is beautiful when a man is sexually attracted to it.

Conversely, when a man no longer has sexual impulses towards the woman, the woman is not beautiful enough.

You always think that facts are facts, but in fact you are wrong. Facts are relative terms.

A dancer is sexually arousing to any man, so she must be beautiful.

But in front of Feng Yunshan, because he was too familiar with her, he couldn't have a sexual impulse, so compared to Feng Yunshan, she was not so beautiful.

And what about the beautiful writer?There is indeed a huge difference in appearance, in the eyes of many men, it is a world of difference, but to Feng Yunshan, it is new, he can have a strong sexual impulse towards beautiful women he has never seen or slept with.

This is the secret of men liking beautiful women.What they like is not real beauties, but fresh women.

So you think that Feng Yunshan cheated because of the beauty of the dancer, you are right, but one-sided, freshness is much more important than beauty.

Zhou Xingchi and Zhu Yin were so close at the time, and Zhu Yin's beauty was simply the best in Xiangjiang.

But in the process of filming, Zhou Xingchi still cheated on Karen Mok.How many people think Karen Mok is more beautiful than Athena Chu?

This has never been a question of absolute value of beauty, but a question of relative terms.

So no matter how well a dancer grooms his face, no matter how young he makes himself, no matter whether he maintains himself like a fairy, it is useless.

Feng Yunshan will still cheat, this time it is a beautiful writer, next time it may be an actor, singer, model, or even an ordinary passer-by.

As long as that person is a beautiful woman and a fresh person, it's fine.

After reading this story, you will understand how outrageously wrong we often say that men like beautiful women.

Men like beautiful women, but they prefer fresh beauties.

What if it is worn out, even if it is a beautiful woman?Owning it is worthless.It hurts to say this, but it is a fact.

They have defeated many hosts and actors, but lost to those who are far inferior to them. They always feel wronged, but really, there is no need to feel wronged.

Because in the eyes of men, they are old, and everyone else is new.

So be it, nothing more than the humanity of men.

Finally, let me talk about Feng Yunshan's fate.He and the dancer finally divorced, and he didn't get together with the beautiful writer.Two years later, Feng Yunshan got AIDS.

At the end of his life, no woman was by his side, only his money was with him.

I don't know if Feng Yunshan will remember when he was dying, when he was an editor in college at the earliest time, he was dull and lonely.

At that time, he was talented, had a wife and children.

Perhaps, that moment was the happiest time in his life!

5 minutes to identify the beauty in a man's eyes

I said before that men like beautiful women, but they prefer fresh beauties.

There is a question involved here, that is, what is considered beautiful for a man.

If we have enough life experience, we will often encounter such a situation. Many girls say that women are beautiful, but in the eyes of men, they look ugly.

And the beauties that men crazily like and pursue are also extremely ugly in the eyes of many girls.

Why is there such a big gap?

Because there is an essential difference in the aesthetics of women between men and women.

This difference is the difference between the starting point and the foundation.

A man thinks a woman is beautiful because she can trigger a man's sexual desire.That's right, sexual desire is the basic criterion for a man's beauty for a woman.

And women feel that a woman is beautiful because the other party can make them feel good and happy.Emotional love is the starting point for women to appreciate women.

That is to say, when a man looks at a woman, first of all, the woman has to make him desire. As long as there is desire, then this woman is good-looking.Therefore, when two average-looking women who are almost the same appear in front of a man, the woman with more revealing clothes will be considered better-looking by the man.

Women are just the opposite.When they see a girl, if they find that the girl is flashy, cool, handsome, or has a personality, they will be very happy and think that the girl is good-looking.And for some women with seductive and exposed looks, they will feel that they are aggressive, but they will find them unattractive.

This is the gap between men and women: one starts from sexual desire, and the other starts from preferences.

From this point of view, it is easier to understand the behavior of the playboy.

He finds so many women just because these women can more or less arouse his desire.

In the world of men, the so-called beauty is not a beauty pageant, nor a ranking list, but a passing line.

As long as he passed this passing line, it was acceptable to him.

Therefore, there is actually no aesthetic difference between men, only the difference in the bottom line of aesthetics.

Some girls are liked by some men and rejected by others, just because the aesthetic bottom line of the former part is low.

After understanding this important characteristic of men, it is of great guiding significance to girls.

You should understand two things:
First, beauty is required.As long as there is beauty, it can make you smooth in many things, and there will be very little resistance.You must know that a man's aesthetics is based on sexual desire, and a man will make various concessions for his own sexual desire, even if it is just to look at it.

However, beauty is not enough to rely on. Just because you are a little more beautiful than others, you must not feel that your capital can last forever.Because beauty is a passing line, and those who pass the passing line are almost the same, even if there is a little difference, it is not far away.

So there are always some girls who praise, as long as they look beautiful, everything will be fine.But there are always some girls who think that being good-looking is actually useless.The problem lies in this passing line.

As a woman, always remember that beauty is not for men.Your beauty is your wealth, your luck, and the fruit of your life.

Managing your own beauty is to make you better and more radiant, not to please men.

Controlling men with beauty is only a superficial and basic practice.Beauty is your stepping stone and a passport, but you really have to move forward, whether it is emotion, work, or career, and ultimately rely on your own ability.

It might make things easier for you, but that's about it.

Those who use beauty to seduce people will always be hurt by beauty.

Addendum: How to Prevent a Man from Playing Around

The girl mentioned above is a silly girl.

This time we will talk about a smart girl and see how she does it.

By the way, let's learn that although all men are bothered, not all men are really good at implementing it.

Xiao Qing is a very pungent Sichuan girl.

Anyone who really understands Sichuanese knows that the girls there don't look tough, on the contrary, they look extraordinarily gentle.

But when it comes to personality, Chuanmeizi is the first-class strong, otherwise, there would be no such thing as "scratching ears".

Xiao Qing is such a Sichuan girl, she is not tall, she looks gentle and gentle, but she has never compromised on anything.

She also got Xiao Qing's boyfriend by herself.Originally, it was just a boy whom he met occasionally, and he had a girlfriend, so Xiao Qing forcefully pried the wall away.

How to put it this way, it is indeed immoral to pry the wall, but the foundation that can be pried away is always unstable!
Xiao Qing's boyfriend is a handsome guy, how handsome is he?Probably standing with any idol star, her boyfriend can be slightly better.

Such a handsome guy is of course very popular with girls.Basically, girls who see this man can't help but blush.

With such a popular boyfriend, it stands to reason that Xiao Qing should be very nervous.But she is worthy of the personality of a Sichuan girl, and she is not worried at all, and she is fully sure that she can eat and live with her boyfriend.

This is indeed a world of looking at appearances. No matter how closely you watch, such a handsome man will always show his face.

Occasionally, Xiao Qing's boyfriend would accompany clients to a bar. When discussing business outside, many girls and even waiters in the bar would ask him to add WeChat.

There are a bunch of beauties on the phone, and it's impossible for this guy not to chat. It would be a lie to say that there is no ambiguity at all.

It's been said that men are bothered. This is a person's mood swings and human nature.

So seeing a charming girl would more or less make his heart flutter.Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I still chatted with girls in a fart!
Xiao Qing firmly believes in a well-known "face-to-face theory" (see my previous book), that is, when a man is always looking at his mobile phone or computer and having fun, he is ambiguous.

So when her boyfriend was having fun with his mobile phone for several days in a row, Xiao Qing became vigilant and took action.

She forcibly registered her fingerprint password on her boyfriend's iPhone, that is to say, she could open his boyfriend's phone at any time.

This move does not seem to be very powerful. It is much less powerful than asking to delete people or not to chat on WeChat, but its deterrent effect is huge.

Because the point of managing a man is not to manage him once, but to deter him in the future.

It's easy to take care of it once, and it may be fine if you press it a little bit.But to make a man feel that you are staring at him forever and not dare to do anything wrong, that's amazing.

Because Xiao Qing can turn on his boyfriend's mobile phone at any time, this man always has the sword of Damox on his head, and he dare not really mess with others, let alone have any substantive hook-ups.

Of course, this trick is not enough.

Xiao Qing then started the strategy of showing affection again.

She prepares intimate photos of the young couple every day, takes selfies together every moment, and then asks her boyfriend to post them on Moments.

This trick doesn't seem to be very aggressive, but it is very effective in letting people around the man know that he is in charge, and he is also very loving.

This is to keep most of the brazen girls out of the door.Of course, it doesn't work for those who have no face or skin.

But Xiao Qing still has the last nirvana, which is to control the man's time.

Xiao Qing installed GPS software on both mobile phones on the grounds of knowing each other's safety, so that the two can know where the other is at anytime and anywhere.

So when a man works overtime at night, Xiao Qing will know immediately.And if she doesn't work overtime, she will dominate the man to death.

After a few years of peace like this, Xiao Qing and her boyfriend got married smoothly, and after that, Xiao Qing became pregnant.

At this time, many girlfriends around me began to make strange remarks, saying that they are so tight on men, and they can’t keep an eye on them all the time when they are pregnant; they said that men are most likely to cheat when their wives are pregnant; they also said that they are pregnant. If you can't even control yourself well, it's impossible to control men anymore.

Xiao Qing was not worried at all.People thought she was big-hearted and didn't expect it, but Xiao Qing was so confident.

Not long after she became pregnant, Xiao Qing recuperated at home.At first, everyone thought that she had herded her husband to herd sheep, but they didn't expect this man to become more and more busy, and he was completely directed by Xiao Qing.

Xiao Qing's husband used to be able to go out for one or two nights every week, but now he has to go home after work every day, to serve the pregnant woman, do various housework, prepare things for the baby, and even make recipes, etc. Can't get enough of it.

Xiao Qing sniggered there, a woman who cheats on her husband when she is pregnant is a woman who has no means, of course a woman with means knows how to use pregnancy to manage her husband, there is no reason to suffer and suffer, men can be free on the contrary, of course they have more work Need a man to carry it!

What's even more exaggerated is that in the past Xiao Qing didn't care about the money the man made, but now that she is pregnant, she confiscated the man's salary card for the sake of the child's future.

Now everyone can see that this husband is firmly held by Xiao Qing.Being so busy during pregnancy, a man will of course be even busier after giving birth. Probably, in this life, he will never be able to escape the palm of his wife.

Xiao Qing is sometimes proud, and will teach others a trick or two.

For example: There is no man who is careless, but let him not have the capital to be careless.

How to stop a man from bothering to cheat?

That's right, if a man wants to cheat, he has to pay the cost.

And the cost of this kind of derailment is the prerequisite for implementing his love.

There are several costs for a man to be successful and carefree——

The first is self-condition.

For example, if you are single, handsome, talented, good at singing, good at writing, and eloquent, these are all considered to be outstanding in your own conditions.

Sometimes, we always think that only good-looking men can pick up girls, but we are completely wrong.

Only some girls will only pay attention to the man's appearance, and many women are moved by the man's talent and language.You know, there's nothing better than sweet talk and flair for picking up girls.

So if you want these men not to cheat, you have to cut off the way for them to show their own conditions.

When he's single, he goes to show off his affection together, if he's handsome, make him look ugly, if he can speak well, don't let him go out to hook up with people.

The purpose is one, the best side of a man can only be shown to you, not used to pick up girls.

The second is the time condition.

You have to know that for any man, even if he is as handsome as the sky, it still takes time to pick up girls, cheat on him, and spend his time.

Some people think that the times are open, and it only takes half an hour to go to bed.

Big mistake, don't demonize this era.

In the more progressive era, people pay more attention to inner touching and beauty.

So if you want to sleep with girls without picking up girls, you have to spend money and go whoring directly.

Even if it's a one-night stand, you have to go to the bar and sit all night, right?
Therefore, time is an almost inevitable condition for a man to be bothered.As long as he can kill a man's time for picking up girls, even if he has ten thousand desires to cheat, it won't work at all.

The way for a smart woman to deal with a man is to encourage him to do a good job in his career.

Spending time chasing girls is ruining families and wasting money.And spending time on making money and doing business is to protect the family and make money, what a deal!
The third is money conditions.

It must cost money for a man to cheat. Even if he is really in love, he still has to spend money, eat, go shopping, watch movies, and rent a house.

It's normal to spend twice as much money than usual, and it's not considered money for women.

Therefore, an important means to prevent men from picking up girls is to control money.

Just like there is a special budget in the unit, you can also make a monthly budget for men.

This budget might as well be a little tighter, and the scale should not be too wide.

Then you will find that apart from normal living expenses, this man basically has no possibility to go out and spend money.

Because for most girls, a man who is not handsome can be tolerated, a man who is dull can be tolerated, but it is difficult to tolerate a man who is stingy.

And it doesn't matter whether this stingy and stingy is active or passive.

Many women always go to several different extremes when facing a man's flirtatiousness.Either I firmly believe that my man will not be bothersome, and it is impossible to like others at all, or I find out that my man has cheated, and I cry and don't know what to do.

As the old saying goes, everything is forewarned, and nothing is foregone.For one thing, you must first prepare for the bad, and then have sufficient means of preparation, so that the unwanted result will not happen.

If you are optimistic about everything first, and then feel overwhelmed when there are bad results, then life will definitely slide into darkness.

Don't think that preventive measures are too scheming.It's right to have a scheming heart, isn't the silly girl defeated by a scheming person?

If you are not scheming now, the man will be snatched away by someone with scheming.

What's more, what kind of scheming is it to manage people, time, and money?It is nothing more than a normal family management method.

Finally, use a paragraph to summarize the man's love and prevention.

Why do men bother?It's not because I love beautiful women, nor because I have strong desires, but because I have too much free time, so I pursue fresh girls.A man is always playful because he doesn't have too much pressure in life, so he has money and time to pick up girls.If you want a man to not bother, then spend all his money and make him always busy for life.Pressure is the best management for men.

(End of this chapter)