understand man in seconds

Chapter 13 The Conservative Man

Conservative because you only want to be specific
Understand men in five seconds and understand men in seconds No. [-]: Conservative men

Features: Conservative in heart, conservative in body, very uninteresting in life, doesn't know how to surprise people, very shy about physical contact.

You will blush when you see a strange woman, and your first reaction must be to refuse when you meet someone else's pursuit.

When you first meet a conservative man, you will almost be stunned by him, because what he shows in front of you must be the bad side, the unacceptable side.

But only after a long time of contact, you will find out how many things he has done for you silently, but never told you.

Love code: Be sure to give time to reliable men, because they don't know how to please a woman in a second, but only know how to treat you well in a long time.

True Stories Know Men in Seconds No. [-]: Conservative Men

A friend came to complain to me before, saying that her boyfriend is too conservative.

How conservative is it?This man was forbidden by his mother to have any contact with the opposite sex since he was a child, so he never had a serious relationship until he graduated from university.

Between him and a woman, even holding hands is a grand event.

Because this man thinks that strange women are dirty, and it is absolutely impossible to exchange any bodily fluids.Kissing this kind of thing is simply outrageous to a certain extent.

He didn't start dating for the first time until two years after graduating from college.This love talk is also stumbling.

And that girl seems to be in love for the first time, so there is no question of who will teach the other, basically it belongs to the mode of two people exploring physical contact together.

I don't know how to get in touch with each other, and how much the two of them learned by themselves.Anyway, the man's first time was given to that girl. It is unknown what the effect will be and what the outcome will be.

But later, the first love went abroad, and the relationship ended without a problem.This conservative man was reduced to a single dog again.

For many years, the conservative man has been single.It's not because he doesn't have enough qualifications or no one is interested in him. His family background and job are quite good, and he has been introduced to him all the time.

But conservative men always have very high requirements. When looking at girls, they always look at them with the mentality of choosing a wife. Basically, he thinks that people who are not suitable to be wives will not even chat much on WeChat, just meet once.

Even if you think it's good when you meet for the first time, it will be difficult to continue the conversation after a few more contacts.If you don't fall in love, then this man won't even have a little physical contact.

His thinking is also very simple, because he is looking for a girl just to marry a wife, not to find a girl to express his desire.

So he never thought of taking advantage of any girl, let alone cheating her into bed.

My friend was also introduced to go on a blind date.This man doesn't know which nerve is wrong. When I met him for the first time, I thought my friend was very suitable to be a wife.

Of course, the man's external conditions and conversation are good, so the girl also thinks it's pretty good, and she can have a date.

But how did he know that after the first date, the man said very seriously that since the two of them want to date, it is for the purpose of marriage, but now he is not completely sure whether the girl is suitable for marriage, so it takes at least a few months to verify.

My friend is a beautiful girl, so she didn't get this angry, so she went home and told the introducer that she would never see her again.

This is still under the persuasion of the introducer, saying that the man has a low EQ, please bear with me, so the girl reluctantly went to meet next time.

Unexpectedly, when the man said verification, he really meant verification.The next few dates were more or less related to marriage, such as housework, cooking, grocery shopping, living habits and entertainment methods, etc.

Every date is a test of whether two people are suitable for each other.

Of course, it's not for the girl to show her skills alone, the man will also honestly show what he knows and likes first, which is very fair, but it just makes it very awkward, making the date between the two of them seem like a time after time experiment.

My friend was not used to it at first, but later found it quite interesting.She could feel that this man had no evil intentions and sincerely wanted to get married, but this way was too weird.

After a series of dating experiments, the man finally decided that the girl was marryable.Although there are many life skills and lifestyles that are not up to his wife's standards, this man intends to make up for it by learning on his own.

You see, although EQ is low, it does not mean that men are not good enough.His test is really just to get a result, not what to learn and do for women.

After the test, the man formally asked the girl to fall in love and presented him with a diamond necklace.The girl thought about it again and again, but she still felt that the man was actually pretty good, so she agreed.

After falling in love, the dating between the two became quite normal, and the man also fully demonstrated the quality of a good man. No matter how many demands and actions the girl made, he tried his best to treat her well, and he was very resigned.

But the girl is still a little dissatisfied, or there are quite a lot of dissatisfaction.

She just felt that this man was really uninterested, and his basic performance was in things like physical contact.

For example, this man can't kiss, very good at kissing.At the beginning, he also showed that he often kissed, but in fact, what he called kissing was just a kiss on the forehead and cheek, and it was very passionate when he touched his lips.

Under the strong request of the girl, the man also occasionally tried tongue kissing.But his so-called tongue kiss is nothing more than sticking out his tongue, and then it doesn't move anymore like a stick, and all the movements have to be done by the girl.

This is almost drunk, okay?Although the girl doesn't have much love experience, she has never met such a man.Even if the previous boyfriend wasn't the most lustful, he wouldn't hide his desire when he was in love.Wanting to go to bed after falling in love is the most normal behavior of a man.

So the girl really thinks whether this man is frigid, gay, or not interested in women.

Later, I forcibly pushed the man down once, only to realize that he is actually very normal, just conservative.This man was still very wronged after being pushed down, and he had a feeling of "I am yours from now on, and you are responsible for me".

The girl was really speechless. She felt that this man was not like a man several times, so she wanted to break up. No matter how her family and friends tried to persuade her, she always felt that something was wrong.

We broke up many times, but the man refused again and again, and the two sides were pulling each other.

But by chance, the girl discovered a man's secret, which completely changed her perception of men.

It turned out that there was a woman in the man's work unit who had been pursuing him.

This woman is very good-looking, and she is a host in the work unit, with a slender figure and a pretty face.She didn't know which nerve was wrong, but she liked this man so much that she was so obsessed and intoxicated.

The man who got his nerves wrong was also this man. When he saw a beautiful woman, he was not at all tempted. He somehow decided that she was not a good match and was not suitable to be a wife at all, so he repeatedly refused.

In the end, the woman made it clear that I just want to sleep with you, even if I don't have any status.

To what extent is the man so desperate that he actually moved his mother out and asked his mother to chat with the girl, saying that she should not be a mistress, that women should respect themselves, and so on.

The host was so ashamed that he rolled on the ground, and finally had to resign.

This thing happened when the man was in love with my friend.If it were someone else, I'm afraid he would have shown off all these things a long time ago, flaunting how loyal he is.

But this man didn't even mention it at all, because in his philosophy, this is what he should do.Now that you have a girlfriend, you must be honest with others.No matter how bad my girlfriend is, she is still a treasure, and no matter how good another woman is, she is also trash.

After this incident, and seeing the man blackmail the host in various ways, and make all kinds of bad words at each other (gentlemen's demeanor is really useless on suitors), my friend finally understood.

It turns out that if a man really has a shortcoming, he will have an advantage, and the advantages and disadvantages always complement each other.

The ex-boyfriends did have various interests and desires, but they brought all kinds of flirtatiousness, and they couldn't move when they saw beautiful girls.

Not to mention that the beautiful host wants to post back, even if they don't know each other, they will still be begging for nothing to hook up!Loyalty is simply wishful thinking for a man who is interested and open.

But the opposite is true for conservative men.Yes, they don't have fun, they don't know how to sleep, they don't know how to kiss, they don't know how to surprise.

But at the same time, they will not hook up with other girls, they don't know how to cheat, they only know that they are devoted to their wives.It's not that they haven't tried desire, but that they have no desire for women other than their wives.

This is determined by the values ​​​​of a conservative man, and it is the principle of being a man and doing things that goes deep into his soul.

After my friend thought about this, he still decided to get along well with this conservative man, because the physical contact and the interest in life can actually be improved, or even get along well.

But the change of values ​​is too difficult. As the saying goes, the world is easy to change, but the nature is hard to change. A man's worldview and values ​​are formed since he was a child. If there is no particularly important event, it is particularly difficult to change.

So what is the most important thing in married life?

Is it occasional happiness, or long-term single-mindedness?This may be a dilemma.But girls who have really experienced scumbags and unreliable men will know how to make choices.

To put it bluntly, a woman's marriage is where she hopes to find her life's destination.Since it is a destination, of course it must be stable.

Stability and love are a woman's greatest hope.As for the others, whether they are doing well, whether they are handsome or not, whether there are any surprises, these are all details.

All the details can be adjusted a little bit, but only when the foundation is stable can the details be improved.

Therefore, conservative men do not look beautiful, but in fact everything is beautiful.

5 Minutes to Identify Men's Criteria for Men Going to Bed

In fact, going to bed is a very normal thing.

From a psychological point of view, all true love is triggered by sexual psychology.That is to say, sex is the foundation of love, and it is impossible to have love without sex.

Does purely platonic spiritual love exist?Maybe there is, but when we study Plato now, we are more inclined to be gay or fourth sexual orientation, that is, asexual.

Therefore, things like spiritual love should not be classified as our ordinary people's love category!
Both men and women have love for going to bed, but there are obvious differences between the two.

For example, in the above case, many girls may not understand very much, if a man does not love Sangsang, how can he sleep?
Even if Sangsang was good-looking, in so many previous stories, as long as she was a girl, many men would try their best to get into bed. Is there any reason to sleep if she is not so good-looking?

Here it involves a point where men and women are not the same.

That's what the premise is for a man to have sex with a woman.

What we are talking about here is to exclude a very small number of people and look at the problem with the vast majority of groups.

There is no doubt that the prerequisite for a woman to go to bed is to have feelings.

Although everyone's situation is different, some girls are willing to have sex after meeting people, while some girls are willing to go to bed after a long time.But except for a very small number of people, basically everyone has the same premise, that is, they have to like that man.

Because for women, the beauty of sex is not entirely physical, but psychological.If a man is not what she likes (not necessarily to the extent of love, but at least to like), then it is difficult for her to have thoughts and pleasure.

Therefore, even if a woman is very unrestrained and wants it very much, she is not likely to go to bed with a man directly for the first time (except for one-night stands every day), at least she has to go out with a few more times, and when she has a feeling, she will half push and half give up.

This is the premise for a woman to go to bed, to like, to have ideas, to have a vision for the future, and to have feelings.

But men are different. The premise for them to go to bed is basically not because of feelings, but because of desire.

Up to this point, we have read many short stories, and in almost every story, there will be a man who cheats on a girl, and some of them find a girl for a long time without getting tired.

Some of them don't like that woman at all, some just met, and some even hate each other.

But when it was time to go to bed, he was never soft.

why?

Because there are a considerable number of men who don’t care about going to bed, and the only thing that can affect them is desire. This is what the saying goes, thinking with the lower body.

And think with the lower body, what is the point?Appearance, grooming, sexiness, of course.

So men have a triple standard theory.

There are three criteria for a man to choose a woman: the first criterion is to choose a wife, which is the most demanding, virtuous, docile, kind, beautiful, and housekeeping.The second criterion is to choose love. The standard of love is considered medium, but at least it must be gentle, beautiful, understanding, and everyone praises it.The third standard is to go to bed. The standard for going to bed is the lowest. Basically, it only needs to be good-looking or sexy, and even as long as the man thinks it is good-looking or sexy.

The third standard has more lower limit extensions. If a man is drunk, his aesthetics may completely break through the lower limit.There are even some men who have no lower limit of aesthetics at all, as long as they are a woman.

With the existence of such a triple standard, you will find that whether a man will actually cheat or hook up with girls has nothing to do with his aesthetic judgment or the basis of love.

This is fundamentally a question of a man's values ​​and worldview.

(End of this chapter)