understand man in seconds

Chapter 12 The Heart Stealer

He said he wanted to marry you, but he just wanted to lie to you

Understand Men in Five Seconds and Understand Men in Seconds Part [-]: Heart Thief

Traits: Under the guise of getting married, she promises a lot, but never fulfills it.The only purpose is to go to bed, everything that is good for you starts with getting you.After going to bed, his attitude will change drastically, and he will even disappear immediately.

Love code: A liar's love is just a kind of possessiveness. If you are possessed, you are worthless.

True Stories Know Men in Seconds No. [-]: Heart Thief

About going to bed is an enduring topic in "Lu Qi Pai Tucao".

Basically, every girl, as long as she is in a relationship, will have topics related to going to bed.Let's talk about why men always want to sleep with you through a few cases of complaints.

Now there is a way to pick up girls, called "I want to marry you".

Sangsang met such a suitor.

Sangsang is a fashion designer, and she looks like a model herself. She is about 1.7 meters tall, has long curly hair, wears sunglasses and leather pants, and she looks like an artist.

Not only has good looks, Sangsang also has artistic talent and talent.The works she designed were favored by many brands before she graduated, and the offers when she graduated came like a snowflake.

However, Sangsang still chose to be her own designer brand. The main reason was that her family was not short of money, so she casually invested several million in the beginning to let her start a business.

So Sangsang is now a designer and boss with a model appearance and artistic talent.

Of course, she has many suitors, and she recently met a top-notch one.

This man is quite old, and he can be regarded as the boss of a small advertising company, but he looks kind of ruffian.

Men's height is not as good as Sangsang's, their quality of life is not as good as Sangsang's, and even their tastes are far apart.

This is why Sangsang would pass him at the first sight.

However, this man is quite courageous. When he confessed his love to Sangsang for the first time, he directly stated that he wanted to marry Sangsang.

This really scared Sangsang, and she admired this man.Of course, although he is impressive, it is absolutely impossible to really marry him or accept him.

Sangsang also flatly refused at the time.But where would a man give up?Of course, it is pursuing day after day, changing ways, and spending all kinds of thoughts to please Sangsang.

At every moment, the man held Sangsang as a goddess and made offerings to him as a Bodhisattva. As long as Sangsang wanted, the man would use all means to get it.Whatever Sangsang likes, the man must make himself like it.

Sangsang naturally didn't have any feelings for that man, but it felt good to be worshiped as a goddess and as a religion, so she would occasionally go on a date with this man, have a meal, or watch a movie.

The biggest characteristic of this man is that he likes to describe the future, such as what will happen when you and I get married, what will happen to our family in the future, what school will we go to when we have children, and so on.

A girl may feel abrupt when hearing this kind of words for the first time, but after getting familiar with him, she thinks this man is quite reliable.Because for women, the appearance of the future family is actually very important, and they themselves often fantasize silently.

The family is probably the destination of a woman's life.

And where is the destination, who would not think about it?
Over time, the future written by this man was really slowly accepted by Sangsang, and she even felt that it seemed pretty good.

Here is a common problem with most women.

Women do look at the face and pay attention to appearance.

But they also have a bigger characteristic, that is, they can look at habits.

If a woman is used to seeing a certain man, she will not find him ugly.If you can still have a little sense of attachment, you will fall in love with each other almost without reservation.

A woman is a visual animal, an auditory animal, but an animal captive by habit.

As long as you get used to it, the appearance, feeling, and conditions will no longer be a problem.

Sangsang is like this, she really slowly began to accept this man, of course, this acceptance can be regarded as condescending.

She gradually used this man as a coolie. The so-called coolie is the type who is eligible to date her, but not a boyfriend.

This man loves it so much, he picks up Sangsang to and from get off work every day, although he doesn't get it in terms of status, at least in the eyes of others, he can already see the progress of the relationship between the two of them.

After about a month like this, the man began to try to take Sangsang out for a trip.

The skills of picking up girls are nothing more than a few tricks——

When a woman hates it, she stalks it to the utmost tenderness.

When a woman doesn't hate it, take her to taste delicious food.

When a woman slowly accepts, accompany her to play everywhere.

Hardly any woman can escape this trilogy of tenderness, eating and playing.

Sangsang has already gone through the two stages of tenderness and eating, and was finally forced to play this stage step by step.

If you carefully study men's strategies for picking up girls, you will find that this is simply a matter of siege.Just like in war, every inch of land must be fought, advancing bit by bit, and you can only advance, not retreat.

At that time, Sangsang didn't know at all that she had already been caught in the net and became a fish in others' net.

At that time, Sangsang just thought that she had known this man for so long, and she had always been well-behaved. She was always obedient and obedient to her, and she had been dating for a long time. If she wanted to go out to play, then go let's play!
So the two went to a place not far away and stayed for three days.

Things became very logical. On the first day, they slept in separate beds. On the second day, the man took Sangsang to drink a lot of wine. Under alcohol anesthesia, Sangsang slept with this man.

When she woke up the next day, no one knew if Sangsang had any regrets, but for many girls, if they were willing to travel with a person and have sex with this person again, then even if they regretted it, it would not be too much , the most is to follow suit!
So on the third day, they officially established their relationship.The man was very moved, and made all kinds of vows and wishes to treat Sangsang for the rest of his life.

After the two returned from their trip, they officially began their relationship.

Generally speaking, if it is a serious relationship, even if a man wants to change, it will take a long time. What about the passionate love period, just kidding, no matter how you fall in love, it will last half a year or a year.

But the strange thing is that this man quickly changed as soon as he came back.

First of all, he no longer picks up Sangsang from get off work, that's fine, Sangsang is not the kind of girl who has to be waited upon.

Then the man never mentioned the matter of cohabitation and marriage, and he used to talk about it every day, it was simply that Sangsang didn't agree and he couldn't get up on his knees.

In the end, even the number of dates has been greatly reduced. In the past, we had to meet every day, but now, we just meet once every two or three days, and then find a hotel to sleep with.

And even this frequency is decreasing. After a few months, it becomes once a week to see each other, then sleep once, frantically toss Sangsang once, and the man finds various excuses to leave, sometimes even unwilling to eat. eat.

Sangsang really didn't understand.

She really looked down on this man in the past, and later used him as a long-term worker and slave.But after committing herself to him, Sangsang really thought about marrying him, planning to have a good relationship and realize the future that the two of them had talked about before.

Sangsang always feels that in the whole love relationship, the man is the active one, and she is the more passive one, so as long as she becomes active, the relationship will go smoothly.

So when she came back, Sangsang tried her best to adjust her mentality and become more active. She even hinted to the man several times that they could live together together, and even if they didn't buy a house, they could just rent a house.

What's maddening is that the man turned a blind eye and didn't hear it.

If it's just indifference, then that's fine. Not long after, Sangsang heard from others that the man was dating girls everywhere again, and even boasted that he didn't have a girlfriend.

Sangsang was completely dumbfounded.

But after being stupid, Sangsang didn't fully figure it out.If it is said that the man loved a lot and pursued fiercely in the past, after experiencing this incident, Sangsang was driven crazy by the jealousy in her heart, and she suddenly felt that this man was really the love of her life, and she was Absolutely not without him.

So Sangsang ran to find this man, hoping to win back his heart.

The man was really touched, he was really saved by Sangsang, and even apologized to Sangsang.

The two finally started living together.This cohabitation, the status of the two people was completely reversed, the man became the passive and strong side, and Sangsang became the weak side.

Sangsang stayed at home all day, cooking for men and helping them with housework. In the name of letting men have no worries, she even ignored her own career.

When women do this kind of thing, they can always move people at the beginning, but later they are regarded as normal things.So Sangsang became a housewife as she worked, and she didn't even know how she became a housewife.

If you become a housewife, it's fine if you can keep the man by your side all the time.

This man has only been obedient for half a year.After half a year, he started to make money from various relationships introduced by Sangsang. After earning money, he went to nightclubs all day to socialize, and there seemed to be quite a few women outside.

Sangsang is now deaf to what's going on outside the window, even if someone tells her how her boyfriend is, she can't believe it.

But that man went too far, first impregnated Sangsang, then brought a girl home, and made out with that girl on the sofa in front of Sangsang.

Sangsang almost collapsed, although the girl still couldn't do this kind of thing in front of her pregnant girlfriend and left angrily, but the man still blamed Sangsang and almost drove Sangsang away go out.

In the end, Sangsang knelt down to the man and only begged him not to drive her away.

The above paragraph is a story we received in Lu Qi’s WeChat.For the sake of privacy, the names and identities of the parties have been withheld, but the general plot is like this.

Through this tragic story, we can analyze the psychological changes of a large group of men.

Sangsang was originally very noble, she is a fashion designer, she has a model-like figure and appearance, and she has a very good family background.

With such conditions, she could have ignored that man, and she actually looked down on him very much.

But why did the noble Sangsang turn into a woman kneeling in front of this man in just one year?

This is the turning point from heaven to hell!

Why would a noble princess become a slave to hell?
Has Sangsang's external conditions changed?
She is still a fashion designer, still talented, still has the appearance and figure, and still has a good family background.

But what has she changed?It's just a state of mind.

She went from being pursued, adored, pampered, to being owned, enslaved, belonging to someone.

So I often say that the worst mentality of Chinese women is the mentality of "sexual subordination".

When the man hasn't slept with the woman, they are equals and don't feel like they have any great relationship with each other, neither belongs to the other.

But once in bed?
The man would feel that the woman already belonged to him, that he possessed the woman.

And a woman will also feel that she already belongs to this man, she belongs to this man.

This happens not only physically, but mentally as well.

The mentality of "sexual subordination" can manifest itself in many ways—

For example, after going to bed, I have various attachments to men, and after going to bed, I have a deep love.

Shouldn't love happen before bedtime?After having sex, love suddenly comes. Isn't this sexual subordination?

Another example is that once you go to bed, you have to marry this man. After you go to bed, you feel that you are not clean, so you have to obey this man.

This is to bind going to bed with one's own life affiliation, and to regard possession as a destination.

"Sexual subordination" has been the mentality of Chinese women since ancient times, and it can be regarded as a legacy of feudal society, which has not been cleaned up until now.

And this kind of "sexual subordination" mentality not only makes women harm themselves, but also makes men form a psychological advantage.

So, do you think that a man wants to sleep with you because he loves you?
Wrong, when a man wants to sleep with you, apart from venting his desire, the more important thing is to possess you.

This is the abnormal psychology of men under the mentality of "sexual subordination".They will regard the matter of going to bed as a seal.

After knocking this seal on every woman, he will feel that he owns this woman.

Therefore, a considerable number of men, when they pursue a girl, don't think about how to love each other well at all, but how to trick the girl into bed.

Sangsang met such a man.

As soon as this man met, he chatted with Sangsang about various futures, marriage, and children.Is this true love?

Women may regard this as true love, but if you think about it carefully, it is possible for a man to fall in love with you before he knows you, but is it possible to marry you?

They didn't know each other at all, and they just said they were getting married when they met for the first time. This was not true love at all, but frivolity.

In fact, from the very beginning, marriage has become a means for men to pick up girls.

And their purpose is by no means really to get married, but just to go to bed.As long as they go to bed, their task is completed, and at that time, who still thinks about the promise of marriage that they once promised!
Looking at all the means of that man, including talking about marriage, picking him up and going to and from get off work, sending warmth in various ways, and taking food everywhere, they all have one purpose, which is to make Sangsang stop hating him and accept him slowly.

But after it was really acceptable, the man didn't delay for a day, and soon the map met him, and he was about to take Sangsang out for a trip.

Single men and women go on a trip, or the kind of pursuit of each other, isn't the purpose just to go to bed without embarrassment?
Identify men in 5 minutes and understand men in seconds No. [-]: Heart thief

Of course, some men may disagree, thinking that every man wants to have sex with a girl, but there are people who will marry and live a lifetime, how can they be beaten to death with a stick?
Of course it can't be killed with a stick.

The difference between true love and lying to bed can be clearly seen through the following three points:

1. True love and liars both want to marry you, but true love will not have all kinds of rhetoric from the beginning, they will slowly get in touch with you and get to know you, only when they find that you are really the one they want to marry Will speak out.

But liars are just the opposite, they don't have time to understand you, they always give people hope at the first time, and deceive directly.Because their purpose is only to lie to bed, to possess, and they don't care about the future at all.

2. Both true love and liars will make promises to you, but true love is not just talking about it, some of them just do it without saying it, and some of them do it without saying it, but they all have one thing in common, that is, they will really do it.No matter what you promise, even if you are not able to do it, you will accumulate it bit by bit, and do it bit by bit.

Liars are just the opposite, they just talk but don't do it.When you question them, they tend to blur the focus with more rhetoric.You think you have got a lot, but when you think about it carefully, everything is just a verbal promise without the slightest realization.Some girls like to fall in love with their ears, that's why they fall for these scammers.

3. Both true love and liar want to sleep with you, it is determined by man's desire.But the biggest difference between the two is the performance after getting out of bed.

True love may also be eager or longing before going to bed, but after getting out of bed, there will not be much change.Because for them, nothing more than turning uncertainty into certainty.I can let go of some unresolved thoughts in the past, and from now on, I only need to fulfill my promise.

So true love will treat you better after getting out of bed, will do more for you, and will work hard with you to realize your future.

And what about liars?After they get out of bed, they stay in the same state for a few days to a week at most, and then they will change their appearance rapidly.Some people may still have a stage and change a little bit, but more people become another person in an instant.

The reason is very simple, the purpose of the liar is to deceive you.Since you have already been tricked by him, why waste time on you?Of course, the sooner you leave, the better.

After reading the above three points, you can clearly understand that what Sang Sang met was not true love at all, but a liar.

Therefore, there is no question of how to redeem, how to move, or how to retain a man.Sangsang couldn't keep this man at all, let alone kneel down, even if he knelt down there to die, it wouldn't be able to stop the man from leaving.

And the goal that the man wanted to achieve was the result of the whole story - he just wanted to look at Sangsang who was once aloof, kneel in front of him, and pray for him to turn around.

How sad.

When you meet such a person, don't think that you can lower your posture to get the other person's change.

A bad guy is perpetually bad, and he cannot be changed.

The more a woman lowers her posture, the more she lowers herself into the dust, the less she will be valued and respected by the other party. In the end, it is nothing more than being stepped deeper into the mud.

Zhang Ailing once wrote that famous saying, if you like someone, you will be humbled into the dust, and then bloom.

But what about the results?

She was trampled in the dust by Hu Lancheng, and never bloomed again.

(End of this chapter)