wolf road

Chapter 31 Wolf Principle (10)
On the road to success, it cannot be smooth sailing, the key is to make every failure worthwhile.As long as we know how to make use of it, as long as we can do everything by human effort, we will succeed after failure again and again.

Someone once described the feeling of viewing rocks in Huangshan in this way: the same strange rock, different people will have different moods, you look like a carp playing with the waves, I look like a carp eating a snail, and from another angle, it looks like a carp carrying a golden turtle. The environment is created by the heart.Everything in nature is like this, so why not things in life.

Shenzhen, the icebreaker of China's reform, is now in the most critical period: land, resources, population, and environmental problems are becoming more and more serious; the strategic shift from speed Shenzhen to efficiency Shenzhen still needs hard work.In the whole country, the reform and opening up has changed from one horse to the other, and Shenzhen is facing unprecedented high-end challenges.To this, many people’s reaction is the same as Huangshan Guanshi: hoping to take off and take off on this high platform woven by difficulties, opportunities and challenges is the mainstream.But there are also some people who are immersed in the glory of the past and are arrogant;

Whether it is hard work or decadence, this reflects the level of a person's spiritual realm.Just like different people have different views on half a glass of water, pessimists will say: I only have half a glass of water left.The optimist said: I still have half a glass of water.From this, it is not difficult to explain why some people are still full of passion when they are old, and some people are prematurely old and have no hope for life when they are young.

The environment is created by the heart, and everything is man-made.As long as you work hard, you will gain something.

It's rare to fight a few times in life!When you bravely deal with opportunities and challenges with a passionate state of mind, you will find that when you meet on a narrow road, the brave wins and the schemer wins!On the road of life, we must remember this sentence: It is man-made.

be bold
We cannot but admit that wolves are the strongest in nature. They are strong because they have great capacity. Wolves will not attack things stronger than themselves for the so-called dignity when they are weak; wolves will not shake their heads and tails at their masters for the food .Because the wolf knows that although arrogance is indispensable, arrogance is indispensable. This is the strength of the strong, who can move at any time, regardless of temporary gains and losses.But he will never bow his head to flatter, and sell his personality and soul for the immediate benefit.

Sun Yat-sen has a famous saying, the trend of the world is mighty and mighty, those who follow it will prosper, and those who go against it will perish.

The ancients said that if you endure for a while, the weather will be calm; if you take a step back, the sea and the sky will be brighter.This is to say that you must have courage in life.

Let's take a look at the characteristics of bamboo. Bamboo has three major characteristics. The first characteristic is that it has a large capacity inside.That is to say, you have to be magnanimous and magnanimous when you are a person and do things.The second feature of bamboo is that each section is section by section, which means that one must be upright and upright in one's life and in doing things.The third characteristic of bamboo is that it is very straight, which tells you to be a person and do things with temperament, honesty and practicality.Learn bamboo, and your life may take a step back, instead of always being entangled in irrelevant right and wrong.

Everyone who has achieved great things in the world has a big heart.We often see some people who care about little things in our lives. Such people are extremely mediocre and ridiculous. There is a story about a brown bear that may inspire our lives.

The brown bear lives on Kodiak Island in Alaska, USA, and it is the largest carnivore in the world.Its weight is generally 500 kilograms, and its height is 4 meters. The largest can reach 700 kilograms.Brown bears mainly eat various insects, salmon and other fish, birds, hares, groundhogs and other beasts. Occasionally, they will attack large animals such as deer, bison and wild boar.Few animals can beat it in the mountains and forests.The brown bear walks slowly, but runs very fast. Many animals think it is stupid, but they are often bitten by it suddenly and become a meal in their stomachs.

However, brown bears also have a disadvantage, that is, they get angry easily.For example, when a monkey on a tree picked wild fruits, it accidentally dropped one and hit it on the head of the brown bear, and it roared to fight with the monkey.As a result, the clever monkey ran away without a trace after a few jumps. It was still shaking and biting the tree in its arms, trying to catch the monkey.

In the forest, the most cunning animal is the fox. It often likes to play tricks on such a huge but small animal like a brown bear.The fox always hides in the thick leaves, waiting for the brown bear's lumbering figure to appear, then it smashes the bear with the fruit from the tree.The brown bear would growl and rush towards the tree where the fox was staying. Just as the brown bear opened its bloody mouth to bite the tree, the fox had jumped onto another tree briskly and deftly, and continued to smash it with wild fruits. Brown bear, the brown bear was so angry that he couldn't help it.

A small monkey, a fox weighing less than 20 kilograms, and a light wild fruit would not have posed any threat to a huge animal like a brown bear, but the brown bear must care about them. Thinking about the result, he made himself so angry that he died.

In real life, there are also many people like brown bears who like to haggle over every detail with others, and end up getting tired of small things and worrying all day long.That wild fruit that suddenly fell from the tree, if you ignore it, you don't mind, the wild fruit is still the wild fruit, you are still you, nothing will happen between the two; but if you pay attention, it will You have caused a lot of troubles, and you have exhausted yourself physically and mentally. Your stinginess has also made a mess of your originally beautiful life.

Look at the successful ones, none of them are like that.People like brown bears, on the small side, will slowly be swallowed up by the crowd.In general, our society does not need such people.What we need are strong men, wise men who are magnanimous.Zhou Lang of the Three Kingdoms couldn't tolerate Zhuge Liang's talents not being used by Soochow. He designed to harm Zhuge Liang three times, but failed every time, and was pissed off by Zhuge Liang.The death of Zhou Lang is really worthless. Although it is very regrettable, such a magnanimous person will not be the blessing of Soochow after all.In addition, Situ Wang Lang, Cao Zhen's military adviser, uttered wild words, thinking that Zhuge Liang could surrender with just his own words.Unexpectedly, the two armies did not move Zhuge Liang in the slightest before the battle, but Zhuge Liang scolded him, gasped in his chest, yelled, and fell off his horse to death.With such great ambition and such small capacity, Wang Lang's death made people dumbfounded.Most of this kind of people will only become the butt of people's jokes after dinner.

Those who are too small will often kill themselves.

In "Lu Shi Chunqiu", there was once such a fable titled "Bin Bei Gathered to Suicide", which was devoted to exhorting such immodest people:

During the time of Duke Zhuang of Qi, there was a warrior named Bin Beiju. One night, he dreamed of a strong man wearing a white onyx hat, a red painted hatband, and clothes made of Dongbu. Wearing brand new white shoes, hanging a black scabbard.The man berated him loudly and spat in his face.Bin Beiju woke up and found out that it was a dream.But he sat all night, feeling uncomfortable. The next day, he summoned his friends and said to them: I was brave and aggressive when I was young, and now I am 60 years old, and I have never suffered any humiliation.Now someone dares to humiliate me at night, I must find him according to his appearance, to avenge myself, if I find that person on time, that's fine, if I can't find him, I will die, so, his daily friends together He stood at the crossroads and searched for the strong man in his dream. After three days of failing to find him, he went back and committed suicide.

After reading this article, we can only say one thing, why so?There is such a sentence in Fan Zhongyan's "Yueyang Tower": Don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself, this is a philosophical attitude towards life.When you encounter problems, you should be more open-minded and think farther.There is an old saying that goes well: a general can ride a horse on his head, but a duke can punt a boat in his stomach!What we want to do is to be a general and prince in modern society, and to be a person with magnanimity.

During the Warring States Period, Lin Xiangru of the State of Zhao was sent as an envoy to the State of Qin. Because he was fearless in the face of danger, he defeated the arrogant King Qin and made great contributions to the State of Zhao, so the King of Zhao named him Shangqing.Lian Po was a general of Zhao State.When King Wuling was in power, he fought south and north and made great contributions to Zhao State; after King Huiwen came to power, he blocked east and west and made great contributions to Zhao State.In Zhao State, his contribution can be said to be unparalleled.

Lian Po was very dissatisfied when he learned that Lin Xiangru was named Shangqing, and said to everyone he met: "I have the merits of siege and field battle, so what is Lin Xiangru?"It's just a matter of mouth.Moreover, he is an eunuch who gives up his family and comes from a humble background.However, his official position is even higher than mine, how can I be reconciled?Hmph, when I see him, I must humiliate him well!
One day, Yu Qing, a well-known lobbyist in Zhao State, was entrusted by King Zhao Huiwen to meet Lian Po.After the meeting, Yu Qing first boasted of Lian Po's achievements in the field battle, then changed the subject and said:

General Lian, in terms of military merit, Lin Xiangru is naturally not as good as you; but in terms of strength, you are not as good as him, General.

Lian Po was overjoyed at the beginning, but after hearing what was said later, he became furious, and asked: "Lin Xiangru is just a Confucian scholar who gets fame by talking around."What kind of spirit does he have?Yu Qing said: General Lian, Lin Xiangru is not afraid of King Qin's power, so how could he be afraid of you?The reason why Lin Xiangru avoided you again and again was because he believed that today's Qin State is afraid of Zhao State, and what it fears is the unity between Lin Xiangru and General Lian.If the two of you attack each other, that's exactly what Qin is looking forward to.At that time, Qin State would not be afraid of Zhao State, but would send troops to invade Zhao State.That's why Lin Xiangru avoided you, General Lian.Obviously, Lin Xiangru put the country first, and put personal grievances behind.

This... Lian Po blushed with shame at Yu Qing's words.He felt unspeakably ashamed.

Therefore, General Lian, who has always been majestic and majestic, came to Lin Xiangru's mansion on foot alone to plead guilty, without a chariot and chariot, with his shoulders bare and thorns on his back.Seeing Lin Xiangru, with a plop, Lian Po knelt on the ground: Lin Shangqing, I have very limited knowledge, and I don't know that Shangqing is as broad-minded as an ocean.sin!sin!Please, Shangqing, beat me up!With that said, Lian Po took the thorns from his body and handed them to Lin Xiangru.

Seeing Lian Po like this, Lin Xiangru also knelt down face to face with Lian Po: General Lian, you and I are both important ministers of the state.The general can understand me, I am extremely grateful.

How dare you come to plead guilty!

Seeing Lin Xiangru's magnanimity, Lian Po said sincerely with tears in his eyes: Lin Shangqing, I would like to form a life-and-death friendship with you, even though I cut my throat, my heart will not change!

What is Renjie?People like Lian Po and Lin Xiangru are real heroes.During the Warring States Period, the Zhao Guoguo was so powerful, which was inseparable from the outstanding talents of Zhao State.It is a virtue that Lian Po can bear the burden and plead guilty. As the prime minister, Lin Xiangru has a high position and authority, and he does not care about Lian Po and is courteous everywhere, which is even more generous.In today's society, with such generosity, what else can't be done successfully?In our work, if we can have the same personal qualities as the ancient Lian Po and Lin Xiangru.

Then, success is not far away from you.

There is an old saying in China that a small amount is not a gentleman.Regardless of success or failure, gains and losses, whether a person's tolerance is large or small can fundamentally reflect a person's quality.At least, if you are more tolerant and tolerant, you will not be very annoying, because everyone hopes that the person they associate with is a magnanimous person.Who doesn't want to be a likable person?However, it is not so easy to achieve a large number of adults. In addition to having a optimistic attitude towards life, you must also have strong self-control.For example, Han Xin's humiliation in the crotch was not supported by the will to not be angry for no reason, so why didn't he draw his sword in anger?Where does self-control come from?Come from life.First of all, you have to aspire to train yourself to be a large number of people and put it into practice.Secondly, you must always insist on exercising your mentality. With a good mentality, a person will naturally have good qualities, and then you will also have a generous tolerance. With enough tolerance, success will come naturally. arrive.

Let's look at an example:
During the Warring States Period, there was a man named Fan Ju in the State of Wei.He wanted to help the king of Wei to make suggestions and govern the country, but his family was too poor to have the capital to recommend himself, so he had to work in Xu Jia's mansion first.Once, Fan Ju followed Xu Jia as an envoy to the state of Qi. King Xiang of Qi had heard for a long time that Fan Ju was talented, so he sent someone to bring him gold, cattle and wine as a token of respect.Xu Jia was furious, thinking that the reason why the king of Qi gave Fan Ju a gift was because he had told the people of Qi the secret of Wei.After returning from Qi State, Xu Jia reported Fan Ju to Prime Minister Wei Qi.If someone with a small temper would have quit, Fan Ju remained silent.Wei Qi got the secret report and was furious, so he asked his military generals to beat Fan Ju severely with a stick. Fan Ju's ribs were broken and several teeth were also knocked out.Fan Ju pretended to be beaten to death. Wei Qi saw that everyone was dead, so he asked his subordinates to roll up Fan Ju with a mat and throw it into the toilet.

This kind of insult is not counted, Xu Jia and others went to the bathroom after getting drunk, and took turns peeing on Fan Ju.At any rate, Fan Ju was considered a famous man in the world, but in such an embarrassing situation, he endured the humiliation and asked the guards to help him throw him into a mass grave as a dead body, and finally saved his life.Later, when Fan Ju arrived in Qin State, he was worshiped as prime minister by Qin Zhaogong, and he was a marquis for life. He helped Qin State make suggestions and made great contributions to the strength of Qin State.

Putting other things aside, we can't but admire Fan Ju's magnanimity.Those who achieve great things must be patient.From another perspective, the purpose of being so tolerant is to let time and facts speak for themselves.Time can tell everything.Forbearance is a virtue, the mistakes of relatives, the misunderstanding of friends, the credulity caused by rumors, the right and wrong created by rumors... At this time, anger will not make all these mist disappear, and anger will not turn into spring rain, but temporary patience will Can help restore your due image, get fair evaluation and praise.Then you can go back to doing what you want to do with peace of mind.What a wonderful thing to do.

There is a story about Six Foot Alley, which happened in the middle of Qing Dynasty:

It is said that Zhang Ying, the prime minister of the current dynasty, and a servant surnamed Ye were both from Tongcheng, Anhui.The two are neighbors, and they both want to build houses.In order to fight for the land, the two had a dispute.Mrs. Zhang wrote a letter to Beijing and asked Zhang Ying to intervene.After all, the prime minister has extraordinary knowledge. After reading the letter, he immediately composed a poem to persuade the old lady:
The family letter from thousands of miles away is only for the wall, so why not give it another three feet?The Great Wall is still there today, but Qin Shihuang is nowhere to be seen.

Zhang's mother is also a sensible person. After seeing Zhang Ying's letter, she immediately moved back the wall three feet. Seeing this, the Ye family felt ashamed and immediately moved back the wall three feet.In this way, a six-foot-wide alleyway was formed between the courtyard walls of the Zhang and Ye families, which became the famous Six-foot Alley.In fact, many things in the world are like this: a fight will not work; give way, six feet alley.

People in ancient times were still able to do this. Today, when dealing with right and wrong between colleagues and neighbors, shouldn't we look further and become more open-minded?

Temperament contains the virtues of patience, tolerance and informality.We can read many such stories from the long river of history.We humans are also constantly learning from the experience and lessons of the ancients.

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