wolf road

Chapter 32 Wolf Principle (11)
There is such a record in "Song History":

One day, Song Taizong drank with two important ministers in Beibeiyuan, and chatted while drinking. The two ministers were drunk and compared each other's merits in front of the emperor. He completely forgot the etiquette of monarchs and ministers in front of the emperor.The guards next to him saw that the two ministers were really outrageous, so they asked Song Taizong to arrest them and send them to the Ministry of Officials for punishment.Song Taizong did not agree, but withdrew the banquet and sent people to send the two ministers back home.The next morning, when they woke up from the intoxication, they remembered what happened yesterday, and they were terrified, so they rushed to the palace to plead guilty.Song Taizong looked at them trembling, and said lightly: I was also drunk yesterday, and I don't remember what happened at that time.

Taizong said this, not because he really forgot what happened yesterday, but because he was tolerant to his courtiers.It can be seen that tolerance is not only a virtue, but also a manifestation of a person's generosity.Modern leaders will inevitably encounter times when their subordinates rush at them and disrespect them. At this time, you might as well learn from Song Taizong, neither punish nor express your position, pretend to be confused, and behave tolerantly.Doing so not only reflects the benevolence of the leader, but also demonstrates the wisdom of the leader, without losing the dignity of the leader, while preserving the face of the subordinates.In the future, there will be no embarrassing scenes between the boss and the subordinates, because of your tolerance, your subordinates will be more willing to do things for you.

As a leader, you must have a broad mind that accepts all rivers and rivers.But tolerance does not mean being a good gentleman and not offending others, but putting yourself in the shoes of your subordinates. Such a boss is not a parent official, but a well-educated wise man.And as a good manager, he will try to avoid saying no, so as not to hurt the other party.They take no action, hoping that the problem will go away by itself.However, they will never say that they are afraid to face problems or surrender to employees.There is an essential difference between being bold and being cowardly.

For a person's success, tolerance has a great impact.Without tolerance, there will be no trust; without tolerance, there will be no unity and cooperation; without tolerance, miracles cannot appear; without tolerance, success will be farther and farther away from you.

The word forbearance as spoken by the ancients, in our view today, has at least two meanings:
One is tenacity and tenacity.Zhu Shi of the Jin Dynasty said: When two enemies face each other, we must endure it; the other cannot bear it, but I can bear it, so I can win the ear. ("Book of Jin Zhu Si Biography") The forbearance mentioned here is a manifestation of a tenacious spirit.The second is inhibition.Lu You, a patriotic poet of the Song Dynasty known as an ancient man, had the ambition to serve the country with his horse on the horse, and his horse on the horse.Doesn't this kind of patience embody their valuable character of tenacity and tenacity?Forbearance is a kind of vision and measurement. People who can restrain themselves, tolerate others, and treat others are deep and magnanimous, and they are the manifestation of wisdom and strategy.

In many places, temperament is also manifested in informality.Let's first take a look at the introduction to Tang Taizong Li Shimin:
Li Shimin (599-649) is Tang Taizong.The second emperor of the Tang Dynasty. He reigned from 626 to 649.

The incumbent accepts advice from the virtuous and strives to govern.Promote the system of land equalization, renting and adjustment, and the military system; develop the imperial examination system; give grace to the border, marry Princess Wencheng to Tubo Zamp Songtsen Gampo, strengthen the relationship between Han and Tibet, and make the country prosperous and the people rich. Its ruling period is known as Zhenguan rule. "Old Tang Book" said that it was far-reaching, decisive at the moment, and unconcerned about the details, which was unpredictable by the people of the time.Pulling out characters is not selfish to the party, and taking responsibility for one's career is to make the best of one's talents.

Being able to create the most powerful Tang Dynasty empire in Chinese history, Tang Taizong's magnanimity is not insignificant.

"Old Tang Book" called him informal, which may be the most appropriate comment on him.If you have a big heart, you should do what you think is a big thing. Indulging in small things and not being able to open your mind is not only not worth the loss, but also the most stupid behavior, which will not achieve great things.

In today's society, being a person requires more courage. Don't you see, in newspapers and on TV, all kinds of news are flying all over the sky every day, true and false, false and true, especially for some celebrities, even trivial things can be hyped For big things, if you don’t have a bit of tolerance and tolerance, then you will be angry every day. If this is the case, why not be more tolerant?

As the saying goes, only when the head is big enough can it hold the scholarly fragrance of ten years of cold windows; if the ears are big enough, can it listen to harsh advice; if the mouth is big enough, can it laugh freely;Pay attention to the word atmosphere in everything, the joy of life will become macroscopic, and all the unhappiness will disappear unconsciously.

The Chinese pay attention to magnanimity as much as they pay attention to face. To be a person, one must be magnanimous and open-minded, and be tolerant of all forgivable faults of others, which can show a person's temperament and moral cultivation.The sea is tolerant to all rivers and rivers, and tolerance is great; standing on a wall, one can be strong without desires, which is the best interpretation of tolerance.

Tolerance to others is certainly an impressive quality.However, it seems that not everyone can be able to be magnanimous to others while being magnanimous to others.To be tolerant to yourself first depends on whether you have the ability to put yourself on an equal footing with others—you must think highly of yourself; Be clear about yourself; it also depends on whether you have an accurate understanding and interpretation of tolerance-believe in yourself.Tolerance and connivance, you have to distinguish the meaning of these two words.

Chinese parents have such a preference: compare your child with other people’s children, your child is more beautiful, my child is smarter, and his child is more mischievous; Chinese urbanites prefer to compare their money possessions , you are a blue-collar worker, I am a white-collar worker, and he is a gold-collar worker... In comparison with others, people are often able to forgive others, but they are very demanding on themselves. For a while, in fact, even if such a person can be tolerant to others in certain things, he is not really magnanimous.

People are more popular than others, so don't always compare yourself with others.It is certainly a proud thing to have a belly big enough to hold other people's boats; but it is even more difficult to have a belly big enough to hold oneself in, and that is the real magnanimous person.

Therefore, a truly magnanimous person is a person who is tolerant of others and himself.Tolerating others is a virtue, and tolerating oneself is also a virtue, and it is also a kind of magnanimity.

Aim high
Ambition is the direction of people's mind. "Poetry · Guanju Preface" says: "Ambition is in the heart."As the pursuit goal of life, ambition has a pivotal position.The survival of wolves can also be called the survival of mentality, and when extended to human life, it can be called high ambition.

Aspiration is actually to make a person stand up from the ground, wake up from ignorance, repent from ignorance, and stand out from the crowd.Life cannot be without purpose, life cannot be without direction.Aspiration is to give life a purpose, a direction, so that a person's wisdom, emotion and will will follow the established direction to the established goal, and finally achieve success.

There is a saying in "University": After knowing stop, you can be calm; after being calm, you can be calm;This stop is the ultimate state of life, and the purpose of life is what makes a person taller. It supports a person's value and embodies a person's dignity.

In the traditional sense of Chinese culture, aspirations and being a person are closely related and inseparable. A person's ambition not only determines a person's character, but also determines a person's wisdom in life and his future achievements.Determined, is a kind of wisdom in life.On the one hand, lofty goals are needed, as Zhuge Liang wrote in a letter to his nephew: A husband’s aspirations should be lofty... If the aspirations are not strong, the intentions are not generous, and you stay in the vulgar and stay silently in love, Always lurking in the mediocrity, it is inevitable to be obscene.On the other hand, one should not show off one's talent and self-esteem to the point of being unrealistic, that is, the so-called lack of ambition and talent. For example, Yuan Shao in "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms" thought he had many soldiers and generals, and he was born in four generations and three princes. The vast lands of Ji, You, and He thought that they were unmatched among the heroes and that the world was at their fingertips, but because of their arrogance, they were beaten by Cao Cao in Guandu and fled in embarrassment.

Later, when Cao Cao raised his troops to attack Jizhou, Yuan Shao was so angry and anxious that he vomited blood and died. "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms" has a special poem discussing this kind of people with improper ambitions:

For many generations, the princes have established their names, and the young people are full of spirit.There are three thousand heroes in the air, and there are millions of heroes in the sky.A sheep with quality and a tiger can't celebrate their accomplishments, but a phoenix with a chicken's guts can't accomplish anything.I feel more pity for a kind of sad place, the two brothers Tuyan who have a difficult family.

Not only must you have lofty aspirations, but you must also have a realistic process of hard work. This is a kind of wisdom in life.Confucius, the founder of Confucianism, was very creative in his determination. "The Analects of Confucius Weizheng" said: I have five out of ten, and I am determined to learn.The original intention of studying Confucius.Confucius would not have had a high status at that time if he studied but did not become an official.But when Confucius saw that in an era when rituals collapsed and music deteriorated, emerging rulers continued to emerge. In order to demonstrate the rationality of their governance, the emerging rulers often invoked traditional theories to explain the correctness of their actions.He hoped that more scholars could influence and transform the rulers by mastering the Tao, so he took explaining the Tao as his main task, which was later research and lectures.Aiming high will lead to a fulfilling life. Confucius focused his life on academics, and finally became a great master of his generation, praised by future generations. His life was also considered to be very fulfilling.

In the real society, many people have their own ambitions, but they dare not set them up and lack enough confidence in themselves.In fact, we should firmly believe that our aspirations should be lofty, and if we want to aspire, we must set up big aspirations.As the saying goes: Where there is a will, there is a way. As long as we have a firm goal and make unremitting efforts for this goal, one day, we will make the goal a reality.

Copernicus is a famous scientist in Poland. In order to confirm the theory of the sun center, he was not afraid of the autocracy of the feudal church and dared to put forward his own correct thesis. He finally overthrew the earth-centered theory supported by the Christian Church, and with perseverance, he completed the great work "On the Celestial Spheres" before his death, making a great contribution to the future study of celestial bodies.

Chen Jingrun, a great mathematician in my country, created Chen's theorem.Chen Jingrun set his ambition in middle school, and he must prove Goldbach's conjecture, win glory for the motherland, and make contributions to the scientific cause of the motherland.For this reason, he has been studying hard and studying hard. During the period when Lin Biao and the Gang of Four were rampant, he braved the wind and waves, endured the torture of diseases, persisted in research, and was unremitting. Finally, he partially proved Goldbach's conjecture and opened the door for mathematical science. Cleared the restricted area and won honor for our country.

In the 5000-year history of China, there are countless historical figures who aspired to become talents. They all became outstanding figures in the society at that time, and their aspirations also inspired people at that time and future generations today.

In today's society, we can also find many examples of aspiring to be successful.However, there are also some people who often aspire, but once they encounter difficulties, they shrink back again. They are unwilling to work hard for their aspirations, and as a result, they achieve nothing.Such people do not have their own lofty and firm ambitions, their unswerving goals of struggle, their style of bearing hardships and standing hard work, and their valuable spirit of dedicating themselves to science. You will never be able to enjoy the joy of success if you don't get the kind of happiness you get through hard work.

Aim high and make life full of confidence.During the Three Kingdoms period, Zhuge Liang and his friends Shi Guangyuan, Xu Yuanzhi, Meng Gongwei and others avoided chaos and studied in Jingzhou. Although they were all highly talented, they did not have the opportunity to enter official careers. Therefore, discussing the future of life became a frequent topic for them.However, because they all have lofty aspirations, they always have confidence in their future.

At that time, in order to invite Zhuge Liang to come out of the mountain, Liu Bei, a corporal, paid three visits to the thatched cottage, so that Zhuge Liang quickly made a grand counterpoint, told Liu Bei the three-point strategic plan, and followed Liu Bei into the life of political and military struggles.After participating in the Battle of Chibi, capturing Yizhou and Hanzhong, suppressing the rebellion in Nanzhong, and conquering Wei from Qishan, he died of illness in the Wuzhangyuan Army in 234 AD.Before he died, Zhuge Liang sent a letter to Liu Chan and said: Chengdu has [-] mulberry plants and [-] hectares of Susukida, and my children have more than enough food and clothing.As for ministers working abroad, there is no other scheduling. They take food and clothing with them, and they all look up to the officials.If the minister dies, don't let the year have surplus silk, and there will be surplus money outside, so as to bear your Majesty.This shows that Zhuge Liang did not have too many requirements for personal life, salary, and official position.His ambition is to realize the ideal state of being the emperor's teacher.This kind of ambition is naturally a lofty ambition, which is not understandable by ordinary people, but for future generations of scholars, Zhuge Liang's lofty ambition has an extremely significant and far-reaching influence on them.

In modern enterprises, it can be said that there are many managers who do not seek to make progress. Whether their achievements are large or small, they refuse to move forward and just lie down and sleep.Liu Chuanzhi, the former chairman of Lenovo Group, said: Why Lenovo can grow bigger is because Lenovo has lofty aspirations.Only when you think about it can you do it, but you can't even think about how to do it.But knowing is difficult and doing is easy. How to cross the river, you must first think clearly, and then cultivate your own quality.

In a person's life, there are always moments of pride and moments of frustration, just like a small boat sailing in a big river, there will always be times when the wind goes smoothly, and there will always be times when the wind goes against the water.When the spring breeze is proud, no matter what you do, you will be able to do everything with ease, and your wishes will come true, and honor and money will come right away; but when you are frustrated, it seems that God is against you. .

In fact, in life, there are fewer times when you are frustrated and more times when you are proud. However, what people feel the most is often the unsatisfactory.People are only used to enjoying themselves. When they are proud, they don’t think anything of it, and they even think it should be so; Life is hard.Looking at all the frustrations in the world, the biggest one is the setbacks in career, and the unfulfilled ambitions.Whether you are struggling in life or frustrated in love, you can find a way to escape. Only when you are not going well in your career, and you are full of passion but unable to display your talents, are the most irritating.No matter how clever and good strategy you have, and no matter how profound knowledge you have, I'm sorry, even if you don't need it, what you say is useless.So what if you are educated?What about the ability to actually work?Without Bole looking for you, you can only be an ordinary horse.No wonder Chen Ziang, a great poet of the Tang Dynasty, lamented: “I don’t see the ancients in the past, and I don’t see the new ones in the future. Thinking about the long distance between heaven and earth, I’m so sad and weeping alone!”It can be seen that the poet is full of enthusiasm for serving the country, but he has nowhere to display it. How sad his heart is.

We can understand the mood of the poet.According to Lu Zangyong's "Biography of the Chen Family", Chen Zi'ang was demoted in Wu Youyi's army at that time because he proposed different combat strategies.As a result, the poet ascended the Jibei Tower, recalling how King Yan Zhao honored the virtuous corporals and reused Le Yi in the Warring States Period.

If we can raise our level of thought a little higher, we may think about the vastness of the universe, the passage of time, and what kind of actions an individual can perform in the endless vastness of the universe and the long river of time. Isn't this life wasted?Compared with the boundless time and space, personal power is too small, and it is a mentality to worry about gains and losses, and it is also a naive thing to worry about your talents.So what if Le Yi met King Yan Zhao?When King Yan Zhao died, he was forced to flee to Zhao.Whether a person is proud or frustrated, it is always inevitable. As long as one has a correct estimate of one's ability, one will not be too concerned about temporary gains and losses, but should set his sights farther and set his ambitions higher.

In life, it can benefit the society at that time; after death, it can be heard and passed on to future generations. This is the wish of a man of insight.To be mediocre and to be obliterated is tantamount to denying the value of one's own life.

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