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Chapter 168 Master the skills of communicating with children!Have fun homeschooling! ([-]-in-[-])

Just when Zhao Shengrui was feeling anxious, his parents nervously held each other's hands in the living room.

Zhang Liufang's nails dug into her husband's hand until it hurt, and she nervously confirmed:
"Lin, Teacher Lin is looking for us?"

"Ah."

Zhao Zhixing nodded, not knowing what to do.

Now, he has realized that there is something wrong with the way the couple educates their children.

But, as thought before.

I know what I did wrong, but I still don’t know what the correct way is.

Regarding this, how would Teacher Lin teach them as a couple?

Also, the child is coming out soon. Do you want to talk to the child while you are holding the phone?

When Zhao Zhixing thought of his children, he felt filled with self-blame.

The couple upholds the concept of doing good for their children and sets an example for them everywhere, trying to inspire him to make more progress.

But he didn't expect that he could hurt the child like this.

Zhao Zhixing felt heartbroken when he thought of the child's debilitated state.

When he thought that his child became like this because of his and his wife's inappropriate education methods, he felt even more uncomfortable.

Zhang Liufang thought of the same thing, and the two looked at each other, their eyes full of sadness and uneasiness.

Then, Zhang Liufang said:
"How about... we knock on the door?"

"Okay, be more proactive."

Now that things have come to this, they can only bite the bullet and move on. No matter what the outcome is, they and the couple will have to bear it.

In the live broadcast room, the audience heard Lin Feng's words and looked at Zhao Shengrui, who looked confused, and they understood.

"This child doesn't know how he should face his parents next."

"Yes, I just 'complained' to Teacher Lin."

"After he just said bad things, he has to face his parents immediately. He deserves to be worried, haha."

"Stop teasing the children. The next focus should be on Teacher Lin educating the parents, right?"

"Hehe, if you say that, I'm going to get carried away."

"What would Teacher Lin say to Zhao Shengrui's parents? Criticism?"

"That shouldn't happen, right? When did Teacher Lin ever criticize parents?"

"Didn't Teacher Lin criticize you? You fake fan! [Dog Head]"

"Don't be clever. The key to this matter is not how Teacher Lin educates parents, but how to guide parents to correctly motivate their children."

"Yes, I have already taken out my notebook. I will take notes later."

"..."

While everyone was discussing enthusiastically, there was a knock on the door.

Zhao Shengrui's hand holding the phone shook.

Before he was ready to face his parents, had his parents already knocked on the door?

Think of it as a live show, and think of the TV in your living room.

Zhao Shengrui pursed his lips tightly, and all he could think about was——

Have your parents listened to the entire conversation between yourself and Teacher Lin? ?

The answer is yes. At this time, Zhao Shengrui felt embarrassed and uneasy.

Lin Feng also heard the knock on the door on the other side of the camera, looked at Zhao Shengrui's subtle expression, smiled slightly, and said:

"Sheng Rui, it's okay. Just trust the teacher, okay?"

Zhao Shengrui glanced at Lin Feng, calmed down, and walked towards the door.

At this moment, his parents were also guarding the door with great anxiety, hesitating whether to knock on the door again.

Just when Zhao Zhixing raised his hand again, Zhang Liufang held him down and shook his head:

"Don't rush, Sheng Rui also needs time."

Zhao Zhixing put down his hand and sighed in his heart.

That's right, maybe the child is embarrassed?

At this moment, the door suddenly opened.

A family of three looked at each other face to face.

Zhang Liufang and Zhao Zhixing opened their mouths, wanting to say something.

Zhao Shengrui suddenly lowered his head, handed the phone to his mother, and said:
"Teacher Lin wants to talk to you."

Then he turned around and closed the door so fast that there was a faint hint of escape.

Zhang Liufang and Zhao Zhixing looked dejected.

At this time, Lin Feng's voice sounded:
"Sheng Rui's parents?"

The two people quickly stopped looking at the door and focused on their cell phone lenses.

"Mr. Lin, hello."

Lin Feng looked at the couple, nodded slightly, and said directly:
"I just talked a lot with this kid Sheng Rui and found some problems."

"In the process of education, you have a misunderstanding, which is to constantly emphasize that other people's children are good, trying to encourage Sheng Rui to work hard."

"But what you don't know is that when children are growing up, the presence of 'other people's children' from time to time is not an incentive. Instead, it hides the risk of psychological distortion in children, but it can be resentment or low self-esteem. "

After hearing Lin Feng's words, Zhao Zhixing and his wife immediately flashed their son's decadent figure in their minds, and their noses felt sour.

At this time, Lin Feng's words continued:

"In Sheng Rui, what I see is the latter."

"You must know that if an adult makes a child believe that he is incompetent, a dark cloud will fall over his soul and he will fall into a state of timidity, apathy and fear."

"When this happens, children develop an internal barrier, which is low self-esteem. And when this feeling leaves a shadow in the child's mind, it will prevent the child from participating in social life."

"If you think about Sheng Rui's current situation, you will understand."

Lin Feng's words and Zhao Shengrui's figure gradually overlapped in the couple's hearts.

Tears burst into my eyes all of a sudden!

The reason why Zhao Shengrui is depressed and locked up in the house is directly caused by them being parents!

When they think of this, their hearts feel like needles pricking them!
After a long time, Zhang Liufang choked and said:
"Teacher Lin, I know I was wrong, but, but the current situation..."

Having said that, she couldn't speak any longer.

Zhang Zhixing took a deep breath and took up the topic from his wife:
"Teacher Lin, please teach us, what should we do now?"

Seeing the two people's uncontrollable reactions and humbly asking for advice, the audience in the live broadcast room was moved.

"Zhao Shengrui's parents actually care about their children, but the method is wrong."

"From this point of view, this couple is better than Guo Yucheng's father a hundred or a thousand times!"

"I don't know why, but I felt sad watching it."

"Alas! The method is wrong. The harder you try, the more you fail."

"Don't cry, I believe Teacher Lin can definitely show your family a clear path!"

"..."

And the children who were separated from their parents burst into tears when they heard their parents' words.

Zhao Shengrui always knew that his parents loved him, but they used the wrong method, which made him feel great pressure.

At this moment, he heard the regretful words from his parents asking for advice.

He couldn't help but look at Lin Feng on the phone, his face full of doubts and expectations:

What would Teacher Lin say?
In such a short time, can Teacher Lin teach my parents about such a big problem?

At this time, Lin Feng had already given the answer:

"As parents, the most important lesson now is to learn how to motivate your children correctly."

After the words fell, Zhang Liufang and Zhao Zhixing looked stern at the same time, looking at Lin Feng with anticipation and nervousness.

Lin Feng felt their seriousness and tense emotions, smiled slightly, and said:
"Don't be nervous. This matter is difficult to say, but it's not difficult at all."

"In this way, I will give you a specific scenario to explain."

Specific scenario?
Zhang Liufang and Zhao Zhixing looked at each other, feeling slightly reassured.

Teacher Lin has simplified it, so you should be able to learn it, right?

Zhao Shengrui suddenly became interested——

Teacher Lin’s suggestion is interesting.

At this time, Lin Feng then spoke:

"Sheng Rui's parents, please tell me first, what is the range of this child's usual grades?" "It ranges from ten to thirty in the class."

Zhang Liufang didn't know why and answered honestly.

Lin Feng nodded and asked them a question:
"If Sheng Rui came home happily one day and said to you, 'Mom and Dad, the test results are out, guess how many I got?', what would you say?"

As soon as the question came up, Zhao Zhixing answered subconsciously:

"Elated?? Then No.1!"

After the words fell, Lin Feng almost couldn't hold his breath.

I knew the parents’ answer would be outrageous, but I didn’t expect it to be so outrageous!

Then, he also saw Zhang Liufang nodding fiercely on the side.

Lin Feng could only ask the two of them with a helpless smile:

"???Do you really think this answer is appropriate?"

"what?"

"Ok!"

Looking at the confident couple, Lin Feng spread his hands and smiled:

"Hey, it's no fun for you to say this."

"The child is in front of you and happily says, 'Guess now.' This emotion is high. You are the first when you come up. What do you want the child to do?"

"If you really get the first place in the exam, your emotions will be released immediately."

"If you are not number one, not only will your emotions be released, but you will also give people a bucket of cold water!"

"Why do you two bother?"

After the words fell, Zhang Liufang and Zhao Zhixing looked confused.

The live broadcast room was already filled with laughter.

"Hahaha, 'Mom and Dad, guess what I did today?' 'Oh my God!'"

"I can't hold it any longer! Hahaha."

"Hahaha, automatically bring in the Northeastern accent, I can't do it anymore."

"Damn it, I asked you to imitate it, but you went beyond it!"

"Laughing Mouse! Teacher Lin's imitation of children's tone is so cute."

"Teacher Lin can't stand it any longer! What a treasure for these parents!"

"..."

When Zhao Shengrui saw the interaction between his parents and Lin Feng, he smiled at first, then fell silent again.

That's what parents are like. When you are the happiest, a basin of cold water is in front of you.

In this situation, how should Teacher Lin guide parents?
Zhao Shengrui continued to stare at the phone screen.

In the picture, Zhao Zhixing and Zhang Liufang came to their senses from their dazed state and spoke cautiously:
"This...Teacher Lin, what should be the correct approach?"

Lin Feng suppressed his smile and pointed:

"If it were me, based on the child's usual scores, I would first guess twenty."

? ? ? ?
Zhao Shengrui's parents looked incomprehensible.

Twenty people, the kid is so happy, is there any need to guess?

Lin Feng nodded at the two of them:
"Think about it, how will this kid Sheng Rui respond to me at this time?"

"How to respond?"

The couple looked at Lin Feng blankly. How did they know?

Then, Lin Feng imitated the tone of a child and said:
"No, no, you can guess further!"

"Oh~"

Hearing this answer, Zhao Shengrui's parents nodded.

The child is in high spirits, which is definitely not his usual performance. This reaction is indeed correct.

"Teacher Lin, isn't this question coming back again? This time, how do you guess?"

Zhang Zhixing asked quickly.

"At this time, I will lift it up a little and say to the child——"

Lin Feng pretended to be a parent:
"Let me think about it...is it eighteen?"

What is the reason for this?
Facing the confused looks of the couple, Lin Feng smiled slightly:
"If you guess incorrectly two times in a row, the child will become anxious. What will be his reaction at this time?"

Lin Feng instantly switched to a child's tone:
"No, no, guess further, guess."

After he finished speaking, he changed into a parent's tone:

"At this time, I will continue to mention it a little higher-fifteenth or thirteenth?"

After saying this, Lin Feng smiled slyly and looked at Zhao Shengrui's parents:

"I have failed to guess correctly three or four times in a row. Guess, is it the children or the parents who are anxious now?"

Zhao Zhixing thought for a moment and laughed out loud:

"Of course the child is anxious!"

Zhang Liufang also figured out the taste and chuckled:
"The child must be anxious."

"That's right, if the child is anxious, the parents don't have to be anxious..."

Lin Feng looked at the two of them and said meaningfully:

"...Actually, the key to this issue is not whether the parents can guess the ranking correctly."

"It's about parents understanding their children's emotions."

"As a parent, when I come up and say No. 1, my child didn't get the exam, so I can only tell you 'no' with a sad face."

"Furthermore, even if the child really gets No. 1 in the exam, your happy mood will be shattered by you all at once."

Lin Feng waved to Zhao Shengrui's parents repeatedly, shook his head and sighed:

"No need, really no need."

"Guess No. 1 when I come up. How can you succeed as parents?"

Seeing Lin Feng like this, Zhang Liufang and Zhao Zhixing laughed.

At the same time, the two of them realized it as they both nodded.

My son is tired of how much he usually does.

If parents are uninterested, their children will certainly not want to communicate!
At this moment, the audience in the live broadcast room were leaning forward and slapping their thighs.

"When a child is anxious, parents don't have to be anxious."

"Routines, they are all routines! Hahaha."

"This method is amazing! I will try it on my son when I get back."

"The art of language, according to Teacher Lin, has reached its peak!"

"I understand something from this example, why are children unwilling to communicate with their parents? Because parents focus on efficiency and quickly guess and give up, but what Teacher Lin pays attention to is the fun of communication, which is very different."

"Damn it, Teacher Lin's trick can be used to guide parents in the opposite direction! If my mother asks me again today to guess how much she won playing mahjong, I will do just that!"

"Awesome, you've got it all figured out, right?"

"If you play like this, Teacher Lin, stop teaching anymore, you will stifle these people who are trying to learn!"

"Hahaha, I wonder what Teacher Lin will say next? Obviously he hasn't finished teaching yet!"

"What happens after the child reveals his ranking?"

"..."

Amid the joyful laughter of the audience, Zhao Shengrui also smiled a long-lost smile.

In fact, the example given by Teacher Lin actually happened in his home.

And his parents did guess No. 1 at that time...

God knows how much he longs to have a pair of parents who don't pour cold water on their children.

Thinking of this, Zhao Shengrui felt a new sense of melancholy——

In the conversation that day, after he revealed his ranking, the next words his parents said were——

What a shame, it would have been better if it had improved a few points.

It's really like pouring ice water on me again after my heart has become cold.

Zhao Shengrui's eyes were full of anticipation and anxiety.

"Will Teacher Lin still respond to this scenario and teach parents?"

(End of this chapter)