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Chapter 136: How many children were crushed by the parent’s words that I was doing it for the good of my children? ([-]-in-[-])

As soon as Lin Feng said this, the audience in the live broadcast room immediately understood what Lin Feng meant and started discussing.

"It's true. Look, one side is a parent and the other side is a child. In this relationship, when the children know that whatever they do is useless, wouldn't they just not speak up?"

"So, Zhang Xin understands his father, but his father doesn't understand him!"

"That's the truth! Look, Zhang Xin's father just said that he understood Zhang Xin's loneliness, but what he said was, why didn't he give up the game even when he was lonely? Obviously he still doesn't understand!"

"I have the right to speak on this! I have personal experience. Once I had a fight with my parents because I was too uncomfortable. My parents' attitude became much better in those two days, but two days later they still repeated the same rhetoric and continued to talk. From time to time, he deliberately mentions in front of me that the children of such and such a family are better at reading and obedient, and his parents won’t talk back.”

"From then on, I no longer have any heart-to-heart conversations with my parents because I understand that they will not really understand you. They will only think that they are doing it for their own good and that they are right."

"It can be said that the parents are not wrong, and the children are not guilty, but we are not suitable. The parents have not become a safe haven that the children are willing to rely on, and the children have not been able to live a life of obedience."

"I have always believed that every child has his or her own ideas, which are different. We should not force a child to change himself excessively and live like those so-called 'model children'."

"However, every child will be denied by his parents when he grows up. The warm and flawless heart of a child will gradually become cold, and the phrase 'I love you' will change from a statement to a question."

"Oh, I feel a little uncomfortable after reading your text. I give you a hug."

"Thank you for your hug. I just hope Zhang Xin doesn't fall into this predicament like mine."

"..."

In front of the TV, Wang Jianfeng's parents never expected it.

Lin Feng would say something like this that subverted their perceptions.

Because before this, the couple thought that the child's disobedience was due to rebelliousness during adolescence.

Therefore, I cannot listen to my parents’ hard advice and cannot stand their strict control.

However, now they knew it after listening to Lin Feng's analysis.

It turns out that children understand their parents!
Wang Jianfeng's father suddenly realized something at this moment. He glanced at his son and said:
"Actually, what Teacher Lin said makes sense. There is a generation gap between us and our children because of the age gap."

Wang Jianfeng’s mother nodded:
"Think about it carefully. Sometimes, do we have misunderstandings? Alas, parents are not saints, and there are also things that are wrong."

The two looked at each other, then looked at Wang Jianfeng.

They are all looking forward to their son's response.

I wonder if what the child just said to them spoke to the child's heart?
Facing the eyes of his parents, Wang Jianfeng remained silent.

As Lin Feng explained, he already resonated with Zhang Xin.

That's what he is!

Faced with his parents' stubbornness and control, he knew that the starting point was for his own good.

However, just because the starting point is good, it does not mean that the result will be good.

In the past, he also resisted and tried to reason with his parents.

But those words from my parents——

"You have no children, so you don't understand the heart of a parent!"

"Do you think I want to control you? I'm afraid you will regret it in the future! It will be too late by then!"

"The salt I've eaten is more than the rice you've eaten! If you don't listen to the old man's advice, you'll suffer a lot!"

"..."

Faced with these words, what can he say?What else can be said?
He can even predict what his parents will say next when faced with what he says...

Thousands of words, in the end, just turned into a long sigh:

"Ugh--"

This sigh fell in the ears of my parents, and a trace of sadness arose in my heart.

Now, there was no sound in this small room.

Everyone was staring at Lin Feng in the picture, each thinking about his own thoughts.

……

And at the live broadcast.

Wu Peng nodded heavily after listening to Lin Feng's words.

If he said he understood, it must be that he knew his father better.

Thinking about those years, in order to attract his father's attention, he used various tricks to test his father and studied him thoroughly.

Thinking of those ridiculous things, Wu Peng lowered his head and muttered:

"My dad always says that he knows me very well. As soon as I take off my pants, he knows what to fart. But dad doesn't know. I can make him angry, which is also a skill..."

Thinking of this, Wu Peng secretly smiled again.

However, he quickly stopped smiling and looked around like a thief.

These words cannot be heard by the program team.

Any deliberate mischief and testing in order to attract his father's attention are all in the past.

Because of Teacher Lin Feng's enlightenment, both he and his father understood each other and no longer needed to use the same tricks as before.

He just wants to get along well with his father, learn more skills, and respect his father in the future.

……

Zhang Xin, who was in front of the screen, looked at Lin Feng in the screen in surprise.

Teacher Lin seemed to be able to read minds. He obviously kept silent, but he actually learned the true thoughts in his heart from his silence.

Teacher Lin was right. He did know that what he did was wrong, and he also understood his parents.

At the beginning, he still wanted to have a good communication with his parents, but after a few conversations, he realized:
I understand my parents, but my parents don't understand me.

They will even blurt out when they express their understanding of them:

"Since you already understand our good intentions, why can't you just do it?!"

Under this kind of questioning, communication ultimately ends in failure.

Gradually, he no longer wanted to communicate with his parents.

Gradually, he became silent towards his parents...

And in the living room at this time.

When Zhang Xin's father heard Lin Feng's explanation, he felt that what Teacher Lin said was really reasonable.

However, looking at myself... I really can't empathize with Zhang Xin or understand him.

Otherwise, we wouldn’t have come to this point!
So, Zhang Xin’s father spoke:

"Teacher Lin, I understand what you mean. I really can't empathize with Zhang Xin... I just want to ask, how can I understand the child?"

Lin Feng pondered for a moment and then said:
"Dad Zhang Xin, this means you haven't penetrated deeply into the child's heart." Not penetrated deeply into the child's heart?
Zhang Xin's father frowned and stared at Lin Feng in the screen without blinking, looking forward to his next explanation.

In the picture, Lin Feng opened his mouth to explain:

"Dad Zhang Xin, think about it, if it were you, at school, the teacher would always think that you didn't do your best, and would always criticize you. Then, you wouldn't get along well with your classmates. At home, my father would see you coming over. I said a few words to you, and after finally listening to it, my mother came over to say a few words to you again..."

"Can you be happy in this situation?"

After hearing Lin Feng's words, Zhang Xin's father imagined it and felt a little confused.

Because when he was a child, his parents had been busy making a living and making money for him to study. They would not have urged Zhang Xin to study like he did...

Zhang Xin's father was lost in thought. Lin Feng didn't hear the response, so he knew why. After shaking his head and sighing, he continued:

"Zhang Xin's father, let me ask you, Zhang Xin came home and told you that the test score rankings came out, and this time he was ranked in the top [-] of his grade. What would you say?"

Zhang Xin’s father opened his mouth:

"You want to keep working hard and try to get into the top [-]?"

After hearing this, Lin Feng sighed and said:
"Yes! Your eyes are always focused on the so-called top [-] goal. You cannot see the child's current efforts, and you have been suppressing and denying him."

Speaking of this, Lin Feng couldn't help but smile bitterly:
"Then, you will pass on this expectation to the teacher, resulting in Zhang Xin not being recognized by you at home and by the teacher at school. Will the child become more and more uncomfortable over time?"

The more Lin Feng spoke, the lower Zhang Xin's father's head lowered, feeling ashamed and surprised at the same time——

Has Teacher Lin installed surveillance in my home? ?
At this time, the same idea also appeared in Zhang Xin's mind.

He recalled the time when he happily went home with his report card and told his father:
"I have made progress in this exam!"

But when my father took the report card, instead of praising him, he frowned and said dissatisfied:
"Is progressing ten places called progress? Zhang Xin, I've assigned you to be in the top [-] of your grade..."

Then, my father would point to his scores in a single subject and start telling himself his next plan:
"I didn't do well in the English test. It seems that I still need to sign up for an English training class. I have made progress in math. It seems that the supplementary lessons are effective. I need to keep up my efforts..."

Every word is spoken to myself, but there is no self in every word.

Gradually, he felt very tired, as if he was climbing a mountain road that would never end.

After realizing this, I felt very discouraged and had no motivation.

So, I started playing games.

Slowly, it developed to the point where I was tired of studying...

Zhang Xin was lost in his memories, but Zhang Xin's father in the living room was ashamed and didn't know what to say.

However, Lin Feng did not give him a chance to speak, but continued:

"Your child's grades are above average, and you have a good intention to hope that your child will make a breakthrough."

"But, have you ever considered that Zhang Xin is pressured by his studies at school and pushed and pressured by you at home? Will Zhang Xin be happy when he faces this situation?"

Zhang Xin’s father shook his head subconsciously:

"Won't……"

Hearing Zhang Xin's father's answer, Lin Feng nodded:

"So, at times like this, he will find a place where he feels more comfortable and hide."

"This will lead to addiction to games and escaping from reality."

After Lin Feng finished speaking, the audience in the live broadcast room suddenly realized.

"It turns out that Zhang Xin is addicted to games because of this!!!"

"What Teacher Lin said makes so much sense. There is a lot of pressure at home, and there is also a lot of pressure at school. If you escape into a game, at least you will have a place to stay."

"That's how my parents put pressure on me. They never saw my progress. They just said, if I work harder, I can do whatever I want. It felt like I could catch myself. If you press hard, your hair will fly into the sky!"

"Teacher Lin, stop talking, the memories of my death are starting to attack me!! I got first place in the math test, and my parents said that I also need to make up for my Chinese... In short, I am never satisfied."

"6. Same world, same parents. I was first in the class, and he asked me why I couldn't be first in grade."

"I used to dream that my mother was sitting next to me in the examination room and kept saying, "You have to work hard. You must be admitted to a key university this time." Then I would break out in a cold sweat and wonder why my mother could do so well in the examination room. I came in, woke up with a shock, and then remembered that I had already passed the exam."

"..."

In front of the TV, Wang Jianfeng's parents were lost in thought.

Do we usually treat our children this way?

Under this kind of deliberate thinking, many details that were previously ignored were dug out.

When he was in junior high school, Wang Jianfeng ranked first in his class. What they cared about was whether his total score would help him get into a key high school in the county.

After reaching high school, the children couldn't keep up with English, so they kept focusing on this subject.

If you take first place in your grade in mathematics, what they say is, look, if you can take first place in mathematics, it means you are not stupid, so why can't you improve in English?

All these things add up...

This kid is also under a lot of pressure!

Thinking of this, Wang Jianfeng's mother glanced at her husband and said with some guilt:
"Dad, we seem to be doing something wrong."

Wang Jianfeng's father nodded.

"We used to have a single-minded focus on a certain goal and ignored a lot of the children's progress."

After a long time, he sighed again:

"But we do this to promote the all-round development of our children! Isn't this wrong?"

After the words fell, Wang Jianfeng, who was sitting beside him, felt hot in his eyes and felt sour and numb in his heart.

He felt the same for Zhang Xin's experience, but there was nothing he could do! !
Judging from the behavior of his parents, Zhang Xin may have reconciled with his father, but he may not be understanding from his parents.

Thinking of this, Wang Jianfeng sighed inaudibly and continued to watch the live broadcast, wanting to see what Zhang Xin's father would react next and what Teacher Lin Feng would say.

Zhang Xin's father now understood what Lin Feng meant and knew that he was putting too much pressure on Zhang Xin.

But what's wrong with that?I came here this way too!

Moreover, compared with me back then, Zhang Xin's current conditions are much better. Shouldn't he build on my foundation and work harder than I did back then? ?

Then, Zhang Xin’s father sighed:

"Oh, Teacher Lin, but I do this for the sake of my children..."

After the words fell, Lin Feng shook his head, sighed, and said:
"That's why I'm saying, you don't understand how much pressure a child is under."

"You just want your child to study hard, don't play games, and don't allow him to relax."

"But from the child's perspective, this is not caring, but inhumane and constantly putting pressure on him!"

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