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Chapter 137: Turning children into learning machines!The parents are still complacent! (Two-in-one monthly pass plus updates)

Lin Feng's words immediately woke everyone up!

The viewers in the live broadcast room suddenly realized that all the previous incomprehensions were now answered.

“From a child’s perspective, isn’t the self-righteous concern of parents just blunt and inhumane?”

"No wonder Teacher Lin asked Zhang Xin's parents about the parent-child relationship. It turned out that he wanted to judge this. At that time, I really didn't think so much."

"That's right, when I think about my school days, when I go home every day, the first thing my parents say is whether I have studied hard. In my parents' view, that means they care about me. However, in my view, apart from studying, I am not a good person. It’s worth caring about, because the perspective is different and the feelings you get are different.”

"As expected of Teacher Lin, he is good at peeling off cocoons. Through some small talk with Zhang Xin and his son, we can see the essence of the problem through the phenomenon."

"While I admire Teacher Lin, I also have doubts. Look, parents obviously want the best for their children, but the actual result is to put pressure on their children. What is the rationale behind this situation?"

"As a child, I didn't like my parents to stare at my grades and my performance in school as soon as I got home. But after becoming a parent, I found that there were only so many things I could care about, which was embarrassing. "

"According to what you said, it can be seen that the situation in Zhang Xin's family is very common! So why is this happening?"

"Parents care about their children, but they don't understand them, so much so that they seem inhumane... Why?"

"..."

Wang Jianfeng's home.

After listening to Lin Feng's words, his parents were silent for a moment. Then, Wang Jianfeng's father slapped his thigh fiercely:
"No wonder Teacher Lin asked those questions before. It turned out to be to judge this!"

Wang Jianfeng's father looked a little excited and murmured:
"As parents, we will definitely not harm our children intentionally, but sometimes we are so obsessed with authority that we really don't realize the problem. Teacher Lin figured it out in just a few words. It's amazing!!"

Wang Jianfeng's mother heard her husband's words and nodded:

"I feel happy when I think that Teacher Lin will teach us this way when we come to my house next!"

The couple looked at each other and felt anticipation.

Teacher Lin’s ability to see through phenomena to see the essence will definitely help their family!
After the anticipation, Wang Jianfeng’s mother looked at Lin Feng in the picture and asked her husband doubtfully:

"However, I think Zhang Xin's father's starting point was for his son's good, but in the end it ended up like this... why?"

After saying this, Wang Jianfeng's mother looked at her son carefully.

Their treatment of their children is probably very different from Zhang Xin's father's treatment of Zhang Xin.

Wang Jianfeng's father knew the meaning of his wife's unfinished words. He was silent for a moment, and then said with a smile:

"Don't think about it, just wait for Teacher Lin!"

"it is good."

After the two of them finished speaking, they returned their attention to the live broadcast.

As Wang Jianfeng listened to his parents' conversation, a slight smile appeared on his lips.

Teacher Lin Feng is really amazing. By giving Zhang Xin family some guidance, he can also make his parents start to reflect.

Moreover, the questions he asked seemed scattered and without purpose, but in the end, they were all valid information from him.

admire!

However, after admiring him, Wang Jianfeng also had a trace of doubt:
"Why do we all want the best for each other, but the final result is not satisfactory?"

With this doubt, Wang Jianfeng stared at Lin Feng in the live broadcast.

……

Live live.

Wu Peng heard Lin Feng's words——

"You just want your child to study hard, don't play games, and don't allow him to relax."

"But in the child's eyes, this is not caring, but inhumane."

Many things in my mind suddenly connected together.

No wonder Teacher Lin would ask Zhang Xin the same question as his father.

Isn’t this just collecting information from different angles?
Wu Peng looked at Lin Feng with admiration:

"Teacher Lin still has a way! Moreover, this kind of situation has happened in my family before. My father didn't know how to care about me, so he gave me money and forced me to study... Alas, it seems that this buddy Zhang Xin is still Something similar to me."

But after sighing, Wu Peng began to wonder again:

"I want to be good to my son, and my son wants to be good to me. My family is like this, and so is Zhang Xin's family. But why did he become so unkind and incomprehensible in the end?"

……

And at Zhang Xin's home.

Zhang Xin huddled in the bedroom, staring at the live broadcast, feeling extremely moved.

"Teacher Lin, you really spoke my mind!"

Apart from being moved, Zhang Xin was also a little curious.

Obviously, Teacher Lin spoke to me for the first time today.

And I kept talking to the teacher about the game the whole time, and my dad told me all the other information.

Why does Teacher Lin understand me so well?He even knows himself better than his father!Simply amazing!
Zhang Xin thought about it again and again, but couldn't figure out why.

And in the living room on the other side.

Zhang Xin's father, who was on the line, suddenly felt enlightened after hearing Lin Feng's words.

It turned out that all along, his concern for Zhang Xin was from the wrong angle and turned into forcing the child.

In the end, Zhang Xin became what he is now, addicted to games and neglecting his studies.

This situation is called——

If you use the wrong method, your efforts will be in vain!
After realizing this, Zhang Xin's father said gratefully:
"Hey, Teacher Lin, I'm really confused by the authorities! This kind of thing is just like a layer of window paper. If you can't pierce it, you can't see clearly!"

His words were full of admiration for Lin Feng.

The problem with their family is that he turned his concern into pressure.

He thought that by doing this he was pushing Zhang Xin forward, but he didn't expect that the end result was that he was forcing Zhang Xin to escape reality and go into the game world...

After figuring this out, Zhang Xin’s father asked for advice sincerely:

"Teacher Lin, as a parent, I sincerely hope that my children will be well. I now realize that the things I did before were inappropriate, but my starting point is indeed for the best of my children."

"But why is it that my child not only doesn't appreciate it, but also thinks I'm unreasonable? I don't want to get further and further away from my child!"

Hearing what Zhang Xin's father said, Lin Feng nodded.

There is no parent in the world who is willing to go further and further away from his children. It is normal for Zhang Xin's father to ask this question.

However, the answer behind this cannot be told directly to the parents, but the parents need to be guided to understand the root cause step by step.

So, Lin Feng said:
"Dad Zhang Xin, let me ask you a question first."

Zhang Xin’s father nodded subconsciously:

"You say."

"I want to ask, when did Zhang Xin start to feel strange?"

Lin Feng smiled slightly and said:
"For example, I gradually started to stop talking and communicating with my parents, and would shut myself in the house silently."

After Zhang Xin's father thought about this question seriously, he said:
"Fifth...sixth grade, yes, probably around sixth grade. At that time, I started to lock myself in the bedroom."

After saying this, Zhang Xin’s father quickly added:
"But at that time, he didn't play games. He only played games in the first half of this year."

Lin Feng sighed softly when he heard this. Zhang Xin's father still didn't grasp the point.

So, he said directly:
"It should have been when you were in the fifth or sixth grade that there was a problem with your family education. It only broke out when Zhang Xin went to junior high school and was exposed to games."

After the words fell, the audience in the live broadcast room were stunned. "Huh? Did I miss something?"

"Damn it, didn't I hear the part just now?"

"How did Teacher Lin come to this conclusion?!"

“I’m shivering, I don’t understand!!”

"..."

Outside the screen, Wang Jianfeng's house.

Wang Jianfeng's parents also widened their eyes in surprise and didn't understand the situation for a while.

"Ok?"

Wang Jianfeng’s mother gently pushed her husband:
"Did you understand?"

Wang Jianfeng's father shook his head and said nothing, with confusion between his brows.

Wang Jianfeng sat next to his parents and bit his lip.

In this way, Zhang Xin's situation is similar to his own.

However, I have always been suppressed by my parents.

It wasn't until I went to high school in the county that I got rid of this shackles and came into contact with games, and that's when I exploded.

……

Zhang Xin’s home.

Zhang Xin, who was watching the live broadcast at this moment, was shocked.

"How come Teacher Lin is right again?!"

Because, it was indeed when he was in fifth or sixth grade that he felt that he couldn't get along with his parents.

At first, I vaguely didn't want to go home, but when I was at home, I could still maintain my normal state.

Later, when I returned home, when I heard my parents talking, I felt very tired and didn't want to answer the conversation.

Later, I don’t know why, but this feeling of not wanting to talk was brought to school.

As a result, he slowly began to become a little withdrawn...

Just when Zhang Xin was indulging in his memories.

in the living room.

Zhang Xin’s father felt puzzled and murmured:

“When I was five or six years old, there was a problem with my family’s home education??”

Zhang Xin’s father recalled crazily, asking if anything special happened at that time.

However, after much thought, there is only one conclusion -

No!
So, he quickly asked:
"Teacher Lin, how can it be traced back to such a long time? Moreover, nothing special happened in my family at that time. Where is the catalyst?"

Lin Feng sighed softly and said softly:
"The pressure to enter higher education is a problem that our children have to face from the first day of school."

"Zhang Xin's father, and through our previous chats, we can know that your family attaches great importance to Zhang Xin's academic performance."

"The fifth and sixth grades are when the pressure for high school entrance exams is greatest."

Lin Feng pointed it out directly and said:
"At that time, you should have often warned and cared about Zhang Xin's study situation, and taken a lot of measures to ensure that the child could enter school smoothly, right?"

When Zhang Xin's father heard this, he nodded honestly:

"It is indeed the case……"

“In those two years, in order to give my children more time to study, I personally drove my children to and from school.”

"Communications with teachers have become more frequent. I often ask about my children's situation at school, for fear that Zhang Xin may fall behind."

Speaking of this, Zhang Xin's father scratched his head with some doubts:

"There's nothing wrong with what I'm doing, right?"

Lin Feng raised his eyebrows and said helplessly:
"That's exactly the problem."

"Zhang Xin's father, didn't you notice? Your pressure on Zhang Xin started from this period."

After the words fell, Zhang Xin’s father said in confusion:

"Ah? Teacher Lin, why do I put pressure on my children every day when I pick them up and care about their studies? Why is Zhang Xin becoming more and more alienated from me just because of this?"

After saying this, he still felt a little aggrieved, so he added:
"It is precisely because of my efforts that Zhang Xin was able to enter a key middle school and rank among the top [-] in the school."

"But why do I become so unkind to Zhang Xin?"

After hearing what Zhang Xin's father said, Lin Feng answered:

"Dad Zhang Xin, every child has always been close to their parents since they were young."

"At this time, the relationship between children and parents is very simple and harmonious."

"When a child gets a piece of candy, give it to his parents to try first. Parents' expectation for their children is simple and healthy growth."

"Think about it, at this time, children are not studying, nor are they playing games on computers or mobile phones. They are just fragrant and soft cotton-padded jackets for their parents, and parents have no requirements for their children."

Having said this, Lin Feng changed the topic and asked a question:
"But when did things start to change?"

When did the change occur? !
Zhang Xin's father, who kept nodding his head, was stunned for a moment and couldn't think of anything for a moment.

However, before he could answer this question, Lin Feng himself gave the answer:
"It started to change after I went to school."

"Since starting school, all parents will unconsciously start to make demands for their children."

"How are you in Chinese and mathematics? Do you have accurate pronunciation in foreign languages? Do you get along well with your classmates? Do you listen to the teacher?"

"With this series of problems, it is undeniable that the original intentions must be good, but this is also a disguised form of putting pressure on children."

Speaking of this, Lin Feng sighed:

"At this time, when children want to get close to their parents and maintain the previous harmonious relationship with their parents, it will be difficult to get around a corner."

"That is - how is your academic performance now?"

After saying this, Lin Feng gave an example:
"For example, it's the same housework. When Zhang Xin was four or five years old, he would help you wash the dishes and mop the floor. You would be very happy immediately and say that the child is sensible. In that scene, the father is kind and the son is filial."

"And what about those two years? According to you, you don't let your children touch housework."

"This leads to when the child is ready to get close to you and build a good relationship by doing housework as before."

"The positive feedback he received before suddenly turned into negative feedback! He went from being a loving father and a filial son to being ungrateful."

"You will emphasize to your children that if you don't do this, we won't be happy if you do this. If you want to make us happy, you can only study well."

"During this process, won't your children become more and more alienated from you, and end up locking themselves in their rooms and reading books every day?!"

When Zhang Xin’s father heard this, it seemed like this?
However, before he could think about it, Lin Feng continued:

"However, in the eyes of you parents, this change means that your children are not as playful and impetuous as other children, and can stay in their rooms by themselves and concentrate on studying, so they don't pay too much attention to it, and they are even complacent about it! "

After finishing speaking in one breath, Lin Feng sighed heavily:

"Little did you know, my child has turned into a learning machine!"

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