Modern social etiquette and eloquence

Chapter 23 Speech Etiquette and Eloquence (4)
"Let's talk about our China: Confucius, Mencius, Zhuangzi, Xunzi, and other schools of thought (ancient thinkers) in the pre-Qin period were all outstanding speakers. We all know the eloquence of Li Si in the Qin Dynasty, and we also know the eloquence of the Han Dynasty. Academic conferences - Baihuguan Conference, Salt and Iron Conference, those individuals who participated in the conferences are outstanding speakers. Unfortunately, in our history, speech activities have stopped for a while, and speeches have not been valued and neglected. But it has arrived In modern times and modern times, from Liang Qichao, an idealist reformer (a large number of his speeches are included in Liang Qichao's "Ice Drinking Room Collection"), to the bourgeois revolutionist and advocate of the Three People's Principles, Mr. Sun Yat-sen (a large number of his speeches are included in "Sun Yat-sen Collection") Speeches), and later the pioneers of the May [-]th Movement, the revolutionary pioneers of our party, the predecessors of the '[-]. The leaders of the movement are all outstanding speakers. That’s why I say that speech is science, art, and weapon. You may say: ‘You’re talking about history, what about modern examples?’ Well, just now Li Yanjie’s speech Is there science? Is there art? Why is he able to make all the comrades in such a large meeting place concentrate on listening to his speech, and praise his speech with warm applause from time to time? Is there no science in it? Is there no law? Is there no art? Is it just because Comrade Li Yanjie looks pretty? I don’t think so, but has science and art. What did he promote today? What did he refute? What kind of confidence did he strengthen? What strength did he give us? Huh? Isn’t this a weapon? Maybe you said again: ‘Aren’t we just that one Li Yanjie?’ No, we already have, and there will be more, tens of thousands of Li Yanjie.”

"Our speech invitational contest lasted two mornings and one afternoon, and I listened to it from beginning to end. These young speakers are all Li Yanjie."

"The central theme of our invitational contest is 'The Party is in my heart'. These little Li Yanjies used very persuasive and moving language to make our listeners feel that the Party is in our hearts. They spoke very concretely and vividly. , has given powerful criticism to those few who tarnish the image of the party and those who attempt to shake the confidence of the party. It tells us the truth: our party was, is, and will be glorious and great in the past It is a correct party. They talked about reforms; they talked about some young friends who had encountered certain misfortunes, encountered certain difficulties, walked certain bumpy roads, and even faced certain difficulties so far, but they said, It should be treated correctly; they talked about how to learn from the revolutionary predecessors, keep up with them, and take the road of creating new situations, etc. When it comes to this place, I really want to change the name, but I am worried that I will be too old to sell the old, but my feelings make me I can't take this accusation into consideration, so I changed the name of 'dear young friends' to 'lovely children'! Little Li Yanjie and this half-old Li Yanjie have proved to the whole city and the whole country that speech is science, art, weapon, and Facing the needs of modernization, the world, and the future is our need to meet the challenges of the new technological revolution, the need to meet the year 2000, and the need to build a prosperous and powerful new China. It answers the questions raised by comrades who have doubts about speech science. Therefore, I feel that this event is of great significance. Therefore, I thought that the first such publication (Speech and Eloquence) in China appeared in Jilin City to conduct speech research. The reason for this is that our province , The strong support of the city's party and government leaders also shows that our leaders here have vision and courage to support this activity and support this work. As a language worker and educator, I also support this social work. work. I would like to express my respect and gratitude to our leaders here and to the comrades here who strive to work diligently."

"Wait for a while, our leaders here will give awards to the comrades who won the speech this time, and show their support for our work with actions. Finally, I wish this work will make great progress. I will learn from speeches and put them into practice. Speech activities can be carried out better, better carried out to the whole country, so as to be carried out to the world, and greater achievements will be achieved.”

"thank you all!"

In this closing speech, first of all, Zhang Zhigong explained the essential characteristics of this form of speech with the switch of "speech is science, speech is art, and speech is a weapon", and comprehensively summarized the deeds of famous speakers at home and abroad in ancient and modern times , to prove your argument.Then, Zhang Zhigong briefly reviewed the general content of the speech event, gave a positive evaluation of the speaker's performance, discussed the significance of the event, and completed the concluding work that must be completed for a closing speech.Finally, Zhang Zhigong expressed his earnest hope and best wishes to those who participated in this activity, and ended his speech.This is a speech full of logical force and vivid humor, which has strong appeal and appeal.

[-]. Toast: Sincere and enthusiastic, the essence is special
A toast is a ceremonial speech made by both the host and the guest for a toast at the beginning of the banquet.Toasts can play a certain role in deepening feelings, enhancing understanding, and consolidating the friendship between the host and the guest.The custom in our country is to drink first and then drink, and in some countries and nations, drink first and then wish.

The main content of the toast includes the following aspects.

(1) Review the good past of the interaction between the guest and the host.

(2) Make positive comments on the existing cooperation achievements between the two parties, and look forward to the future of mutual relations with an optimistic attitude.

(3) Make good wishes and raise a glass to invite congratulations.

The basic requirements for a toast are as follows.

(1) The form of the toast is not limited, and the length is flexible. It can be longer on more formal and grand occasions, and shorter on smaller informal occasions such as family dinners, friends, and classmates.

(2) In order to make the toast really play a role in deepening understanding and enhancing friendship, the speaker must have a deeper understanding of the history, current situation, customs, habits, etc. of the other party, so as to win the recognition and favor of the other party.

(3) Sincerely praise the warm hospitality given by the other party, praise the other party's strengths, achievements and other aspects, and stimulate the other party's sense of honor and pride as the host.

(4) If the toasts made by foreign guests can grasp the differences between Chinese and foreign wine cultures and draw topics, it will appear natural and cordial.

For this reason, we specially excerpted Premier Zhou Enlai's toast at the banquet welcoming US President Nixon's visit to China, so that everyone can experience the charm of wonderful blessings.

"President Nixon's visit to my country at the invitation of the Chinese government provided the opportunity for the leaders of the two countries to meet directly, seek to normalize relations between the two countries, and exchange views on issues of common concern. This is in line with the wishes of the Chinese and American peoples. It is a pioneering move in the history of Sino-US relations."

"The American people are great people. The Chinese people are great people. The people of our two countries have always been friendly. Due to reasons known to everyone, the exchanges between the peoples of the two countries have been interrupted for more than 20 years. Now, after the joint efforts of China and the United States With hard work, the door of friendly exchanges has finally been opened. At present, it has become the strong desire of the people of China and the United States to normalize the relationship between the two countries and strive to ease the tension. The people, and only the people, are the driving force for creating world history. I believe that, The common aspiration of the people of our two countries will come true one day.”

"The social systems of China and the United States are fundamentally different, and there are huge differences between the governments of the two countries. However, such differences should not prevent China and the United States from respecting each other's sovereignty and territorial integrity, non-aggression, and non-aggression. Establishing normal state relations based on the Five Principles of Interference in Internal Affairs, Equality and Mutual Benefit, and Peaceful Coexistence should not lead to war. We noticed that President Nixon also mentioned in his speech before coming to China, 'What we must do is to find Some way that we can have our differences without being enemies in war.' We hope that by having a frank exchange of views, clarifying our differences, and trying to find common ground, we can have a relationship between our two countries. New beginning."

This blessing not only has rich substantive content, but also expresses warm and sincere emotion, friendship and hope.

In order to make the atmosphere of the banquet relaxed and active, the Prime Minister talked about the past Sino-US relations in a subtle and euphemistic way, "Due to reasons known to everyone, the exchanges between the peoples of the two countries have been interrupted for more than 20 years." The Prime Minister also quoted Nixon's words, Said that the two countries should seek common ground while reserving differences.

This toast is not long, but it is a model of diplomatic toasts.

[-]. Wedding Speech: Joyful, Grand and Lively

A wedding speech is a speech given at a wedding ceremony.Generally, it includes speeches by the host, speeches by colleagues and friends, speeches by relatives and speeches by newcomers.Wedding speeches are more and more widely used in wedding ceremonies. A good wedding speech can enliven the wedding atmosphere, exaggerate the fun, and make the wedding more grand, warm and pleasant.

The main content of the wedding speech includes the following aspects.

(1) The host's speech generally includes: announcing the start of the wedding ceremony; self-introduction; introducing the personality, hobbies, work unit and love history of the bride and groom; requirements and hopes for the couple after marriage, etc.

(2) Speeches by colleagues and friends generally include speeches by the guest of honor and speeches by friends. The main contents include: congratulations on the wedding of the couple;

(3) Speeches by the relatives of the newlyweds generally include thanks to the guests, hope that everyone will take care of them in the future, and please enjoy entertainment, etc.

(4) The main content of the newcomer's speech is to express gratitude to everyone for coming; to express the joy at this moment; to briefly describe how to live a good life in the future, etc.

Basic requirements for a wedding speech:
Wedding speeches are required to be concise and popular, lively and lively, to heighten the atmosphere, to be solemn and harmonious, to adapt to changing circumstances, to be healthy and enthusiastic, and to be civilized.

The following is a wonderful wedding speech, delivered by the master of ceremonies.

Dear relatives, guests and friends:

The wedding of Ms. Deng Hong'an from Changsha Mansion and Mr. Liao Shuzhi from Hunan Institute of Education begins now!
Friends, please remember the special day of January 1992, 12, because this day will present a new couple in front of you.In China, which has a long history of 5000 years of civilization, "12" has always been an auspicious and happy number, so today's sky is very beautiful, with gentle wind blowing and light rain moistening the heart.Why don't the love conceived and the marriage concluded in this season of good weather not thrive!

The parents who gave birth to me.Here today are the parents of the newlyweds.In order to raise this new couple, they have worked so hard.Now let the newcomers bow three times to their parents, thank them 12 for their nurturing grace, and wish the four old people a long and healthy life!

Friends who help me.In the past days, all the friends here have given the new couple a lot of selfless help, and they expressed their 12 gratitude!Now and in the future, they still hope that friends will criticize and teach in good faith, and sincerely support and encourage them.Now please allow this couple to bow three times to all friends!

Sublimation depends on ourselves.Destiny is always in your own hands.Now invite the newcomers to pay homage to each other, and wish each other to surpass their predecessors and surpass themselves with a sprint speed of [-] meters!

"I hope that people will live a long life and share the joys and joys of thousands of miles", this is just a kind of good wishes.Today, this kind of good wishes will be realized on the two of them: try to see the beauty of eight thousand miles!
Now, please raise your glasses to the 120 million years of happy life of this couple, cheers!

Wedding ceremony is the most festive and most attention-grabbing ceremony in people's life.It will not only be valued by the bride and groom, parents of both parties, but also close attention by relatives and friends.Whether a wedding is successful or not, the wedding host plays an important role.An experienced and excellent wedding host can make the wedding ceremony go on in an orderly manner and control the scene in a beaming atmosphere.

The master of ceremonies in this wedding speech linked the weather of the day with the festive wedding. How can the people attending the wedding banquet not be jubilant when they hear such blessings?

Fourteen, mourning words: Solemn and solemn, mourning

A memorial speech, also known as a eulogy, is a style of speech that is read by a person of certain status at a memorial service to commemorate the life achievements of the deceased and express condolences to the deceased.The function of the words of condolences is to make an evaluation of the life of the deceased, to encourage people to turn grief into strength, to learn from the precious spirit and character of the deceased, and to cheer up and continue to do their jobs well.

The main content of the words of condolences includes the following aspects.

(1) Write down your grief over the deceased.

(2) Introduce the identity, position, cause of death, time, place and year of death of the deceased before his death.

(3) Tracing back the main life achievements of the deceased and making appropriate evaluations.

(4) Expressing sorrow and regret for the death of the deceased, encouraging the living to turn grief into strength, learn the quality and spirit of the deceased, and move on.

The basic requirements for tribute words are as follows.

(1) In view of the special occasion where the words of mourning appear and the main purpose of mourning the dead and inspiring the living, the speaker should make the statement in a sad and positive tone.

(2) The speaker should have a relatively comprehensive grasp of the life of the deceased, and make the speech meaningful based on detailed and specific information.

(3) Under normal circumstances, the shortcomings and mistakes of the deceased are not mentioned. If it is necessary to mention them, they should try to use euphemistic and subtle ways, not only taking care of the mood of the family members of the deceased, but also making the words of condolences really play a role in motivating the living.

(4) For those who have a close relationship with the deceased or who respect the deceased very much, if they can properly use the second person to address the deceased and run through the whole text, it will have a deeply moving effect.

(5) The speaker can grasp the typical examples that can fully reflect the moral quality of the deceased to make comments, expounding certain viewpoints or philosophies, which will enable the living to receive a deeper education.

(6) Emphasize the unfinished will of the deceased to stimulate the responsibility and self-motivation of the deceased.

The impromptu memorial speech of former U.S. President Lincoln——"Speech at the Inauguration Ceremony of Gettysburg National Cemetery" is the perfect work among the memorial speeches. The excerpt is as follows.

"ladies and gentlemen":
"We are met on a great battle-field of that war. We have met to dedicate a portion of that field, as a final resting place for those who here gave their lives that that nation might live. So. It's entirely fitting and appropriate that we're doing this."

"But, in a larger sense, we cannot dedicate, we cannot consecrate, we cannot hallow this ground. The brave men, living and dead, who fought here have made this ground Sanctified, which is far from our meager power to add or subtract. The world will seldom notice, nor long remember what we say here today, but the world will never forget the brave men who What was done here. Rather, it is we who are alive who should dedicate ourselves here to the unfinished business which men have so nobly advanced..."

In the simple and simple language of this tribute, Lincoln's strong and sincere affection is permeated between the lines, which makes people admire and move people to tears after reading.He said: "People in the world will not pay much attention to, let alone remember what we said here for a long time, but they will never forget what the martyrs did here." The words are deeply imprinted in people's minds, making people unforgettable and admirable.Lincoln's true feelings are soaked in his speech, which is tragic but not sad, full of pride in the deep, and exciting in the mourning, which has a strong appeal.No wonder the American "Cincinnati News" commented at that time: "This is the right words in the right place. No matter how you look at it, it is perfect. It is a speech that is famous all over the world."

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