Low-key life, high-profile work

Chapter 4 Don't be impatient, keep a normal heart (3)
Jackie Chan, an actor who uses his life to act.Now he is well-known, but on the road of growing from an ordinary martial artist to a kung fu superstar, who knows the blood, tears and hardships behind him.Once, Jackie Chan took over a play in which three actresses were required to fall in love with him at the same time.Jackie Chan was very happy and wanted to perform well, but he heard one of the famous actresses say to the screenwriter: "Big nose, small eyes, how can I like him?" This is not sarcasm, it is a personal attack , The actress' words deeply hurt Jackie Chan's heart.The fledgling Jackie Chan had tears in his eyes and almost wanted to give up.But he held back and bowed to the seated actress!

Later, in order to ask Gu Long, a martial arts novelist, to write a script for himself, Jackie Chan respectfully drinks with Gu Long every day.But Gu Long said: "Why would I write a script for him? If I want to write it, I have to find something better." Jackie Chan, who was drinking every day, couldn't control himself after hearing this, and cried while hugging his colleague. .

These sarcasm and sarcasm not only did not make Jackie Chan depressed, but aroused his infinite fighting spirit. More than 30 years have passed, and Jackie Chan's Kung Fu movies have been deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, and successfully entered Hollywood, becoming a household name in the film industry.

Once in a talk show, Jackie Chan looked back on the right and wrong of the past, and he was unexpectedly calm. He said: "I have experienced this kind of encounter countless times, but I am not angry. I also thank them and invite them to dinner, because if it is not for them, I won't work hard, and I won't be where I am today."

Carnegie said: "Going towards a certain goal is 'will', and it is 'qi' not to stop halfway through vigorous efforts. The combination of the two is 'will'. The success or failure of all careers depends on this." Romain Rolland also once Said: "Only turning the mood of complaining about others and the environment into a force for improvement is the guarantee of success."

In fact, sometimes we should really thank those who have kicked us.What about blows, ridicule, betrayal?They just make you see and understand the reality more clearly; they just stimulate your potential and sharpen your will, thus paving the way for you to succeed.

Without them, you may not know yourself again; without them, you cannot turn setbacks into motivation and difficulties into motivation.On the road to success, you should not only thank those "noble people" for their help, but also thank those "sluts" for trampling on them. They are the best gifts God has given you!

There is a saying that I like very much: "Don't be surprised by favor or humiliation, just watch the flowers bloom and fall in front of the court; go and stay without care, follow the clouds and clouds in the sky." , which is a realm.Whether you can do it or not depends entirely on how you look at it.

Things have many facets, and because of different situations and different cognitions, different interpretations will be produced.For all kinds of blows, if you look at it from the good side, you will see the beauty of the world and life; if you look at it from the bad side, you may experience all kinds of "qi" and unbearable.Whether it's good or bad, the decision is yours.When the objective cannot be changed, you might as well change the angle of looking at things, and you will surely find a way out.

Many years ago, Li Zhengda, deputy manager of Taiwan Canon Information's large-scale customer business department, just started doing business.One day, he entered a large travel agency to develop clients.When I handed over the business card and asked the counter lady to hand it over to the relevant personnel, the other party just said coldly: "Put it down."Li Zhengda was unwilling to give up, and came to visit again. As a result, the third time, the counter lady threw the business card and materials into the trash can in front of him, and said to him in disgust: "I got it many times. unnecessary."

This is undoubtedly a blow to Li Zhengda's confidence, who has just entered the industry and has not yet made a bill.He no longer had the courage to go on to visit the next client.

Faced with such rude treatment, many people may have given up, but that would definitely not be Li Zhengda. If he were, he would not be the deputy manager of the large customer business department of Canon Information in Taiwan today.

Sometimes, we are puzzled by some people and some things because we use our own judgment standards and use our own standards to measure others.If we can stand in the position of the other party and think about our own shortcomings, we will not be so entangled.

After Li Zhengda did this, he calmed down and began to think over and over again what he did wrong.Later, he told himself: "Instead of wasting time being sad, it's better to cheer up and visit the next one." So, he went back to the itinerary of developing customers.

Life is like this, it gives us joy, it also brings us pain, but it's all part of our growth.In the face of difficulties and setbacks, wouldn't it be a pity if you fall down and become helpless?But what if you switch perspective and approach them not as problems but as things to solve?Things are a neutral word, there is no good or bad, as long as you think of a way, everything can be solved!

Wisdom
Stupid people will only get angry, but smart people know how to strive for success, achieve themselves, and win dignity!Learn to live up to expectations, make timely turns, reverse thinking, and let yourself become a smart person!
Accept your imperfect self
Everyone is imperfect, there are positive and negative sides; there is sunshine and darkness; there is success and there is failure.Which side is the real you?In fact, each side is the true self.

For most people, they don't want to touch those blemishes and blemishes, others won't accept and like them, and they can't face them themselves.Therefore, in order to achieve their own perfection, they pretend and cheat at all costs.

The result is that even if you achieve success and glory, you have to bear tremendous psychological pressure behind it, fearing the day when you will be exposed and everything will be wiped out.

The negative and dark side is also a part of life, only by accepting it sincerely and embracing it, can you live a complete life!Pursuing perfection is a beautiful state; accepting imperfection is a noble state.

60 ATP Tour titles, including 8 Grand Slam titles, are part of the illustrious record of American professional tennis player Andre Agassi. On September 2006, 9, at the US Open, the 3-year-old Agassi lost 36:1 to German player Benjamin Becker and announced his retirement, ending his 3-year career.

The last game ended in defeat. Even so, it did not obliterate the image and status of the tennis legend in the hearts of the fans. The fans still paid attention to, worshiped and cheered Agassi.

When the fans were still crazy about it, in November 2009, Agassi broke the news in his autobiography "OPEN", revealing a lot of his unknown side, and this side is not glamorous and worth showing off.

The day Agassi's secrets were revealed to the world, everyone was shocked. Those who admired him said he was dark and dirty, and those who loved him were puzzled and disdainful... What are these secrets?

Hate for tennis: It turned out that Agassi was forced to take up tennis, and the person who forced him was his father, a very violent man.Agassi had to go to the court to practice at the age of 4-32 ball baskets, 300 balls in each basket, 11 ball machines, one every two or three seconds, from different angles.In this way, Agassi's daily task is to hit thousands of balls, 365 days without interruption.Agassi is full of resentment towards his father. He hates tennis, but he can't stop playing tennis!

Smoking meth: In 1997, Agassi resisted the temptation to use meth.He was later notified by the ATP that he had failed a drug test.If he is confirmed to use prohibited drugs, the consequences will not only be a 3-month ban, but more seriously, his career may end there.In this case, Agassi lied. He wrote a letter to the ATP organizing committee, claiming that he drank a "poisoned" drink, and ATP believed it.

The glorious image of a tennis prodigy was ruined by himself.It is often said that family ugliness should not be publicized.It's too late to hide, why are you so bold, risking being criticized, being ridiculed, or even being abandoned by fans, to commit a scandal?

Faced with doubts, Agassi explained: "Looking back on the past, the success of my career is gratifying, but I think that facing the true self is the real thing to be proud of. If the crown of a tennis star is a gorgeous flower, Then a clear soul is an indispensable stream in life. I am not willing to give up the clarity of a stream for the beauty of a flower, just as I am unwilling to give up being a brave person in order to fulfill the myth of the tennis boy.”

Agassi is a real man!Why do you say that?
Because facing the real self is much more difficult than we imagine.

For another example, I often see such a storyline: a child born in a poor mountainous area, driven by knowledge to change his destiny, after studying hard, successfully got the admission notice of the university and became the only college student in the whole village to go out. Be the pride of your parents and the envy of your peers.People who go out in this situation will have a strong sense of inferiority in the process of integrating into the city and campus.In order to change the rusticity and not to be despised by the city people, they used the hard-earned money earned by their parents to indulge in urban fashion and show their wealth, just for a little vanity.

Isn't it tiring to live like this?Tired, but they are stubborn!Because dissecting yourself and uncovering the scars will hurt, you will see ugliness, and you will lose the so-called aura.

Jung once said: "Rather than be a good person, I would rather be a complete person." There is no perfect thing in the world, just like two sides of a coin, beauty and ugliness, good and evil exist at the same time, you can't just be good, Don't be evil, just be beautiful, don't be ugly.This requires us to face up to our own evil and ugliness, and to accept our imperfect side.

To get out of poverty and gain wealth and success, you can use your hands and wisdom to create; to gain the respect of others, you must first respect yourself.Because we cannot change the environment and family we were born in, the only one we can change is ourselves.

Many people are born with golden keys, wear famous brands, carry famous bags, and ride in luxury cars, but you may be just a child from an ordinary family, can you compare?Is it necessary to compare?Yu Minhong, the founder of New Oriental, is a farmer's son. When he first entered Peking University, he also had this kind of mentality: Why does he have everything, but I have nothing!

Can you stop with nothing?Yu Minhong said in a speech: "Life always moves forward, and we have to go on for a lifetime. When you are eight or ninety years old, you don't know what life is like. The only thing you can do is to persevere." Yu Minhong From a farmer's son to Peking University, and to today, he has traveled a long way.He didn't give up because he had nothing, but he was proud. He encouraged himself to read a lot of books and start a business. Even if he succeeded, he still kept the simplicity of a farmer.

Wisdom
Pursuing perfection is a beautiful state; accepting imperfection is a noble state!The negative and dark side is also a part of life, only by accepting it and embracing it can you live a complete life!
Keep a balanced mind between gain and loss
A person's life is like a game of chess. To make every move in life well, a wrong move may be a lifelong mistake.Maintaining a normal mind is a kind of awareness of life, a state of life, which can help you succeed in your career and realize the value of life.

The world-famous Marie Curie is a person who is indifferent to fame and wealth.She has won various bonuses 10 times, 16 various medals, and 107 various honorary titles in her life, but she doesn't care at all.One day, a reporter came to her home for an interview, and suddenly saw her little daughter playing with the gold medal that the Royal Society had just awarded her.The little girl threw the medal on the ground casually, picked it up again, and threw it out again.The reporter said in surprise: "Mrs. Curie, getting a medal from the Royal Society is the dream of many chemists. How can you play with your children?" My child, honor must not be taken too seriously, otherwise nothing will be achieved."

Madame Curie's mentality towards fame, wealth and honor is a normal heart, and it is with this normal heart that she can quickly get out of the predicament of life and achieve such great scientific achievements.

Waldner and Wang Liqin compete for the bronze medal in the Olympic table tennis men's singles.With a serve error by Waldner, the game was over and Wang Liqin won.Waldner did not leave immediately, but picked up the ball and threw it upwards, looking for the feeling of serving, and reminiscing about the reason for the mistake just now.Waldner treated the defeat in a game with a normal heart.In the subsequent Olympics, Waldner never made a wrong serve.From this point of view, temporary gains and losses are not so important, only a normal heart can reverse the defeat.

Keeping a normal mind is a solid line of defense against greed and integrity. "Don't be surprised by favor or disgrace, just watch the flowers bloom and fall in front of the court; if you have no intention of going or staying, look at the clouds rolling and calming in the sky." These words contain profound life philosophy.To maintain an ordinary heart, one must not be happy with things, not sad with oneself;

Wisdom
The world is developing and life continues. We must maintain a sense of balance between gains and losses, let nature take its course, and be content and happy.Only by standing in the ordinary, being content with the ordinary, and enjoying the ordinary, can one write an extraordinary life in the ordinary.

Don't let small things delay your trip
Some people say: "It is often not the high mountains in the distance that make people tired, but a grain of sand in the shoes." Indeed, when we face strong winds and waves, we often raise our spirits to deal with them, and for life, study, and work. The little troubles and annoyances I encountered in my life were exhausted.

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