Scene language skills that college students must know

Chapter 59 Scene 59 First Date

Chapter 59 Scene 59 First Date
The first date will leave everyone with memories that will last a lifetime, and in everyone's life, the first date will always shine brightly
shining light, inlaid in his or her long river of memory. ?
What does a first date mean?It means that after a period of brewing between a man and a woman, you will be officially married as a lover.

Appears in front of friends of the opposite sex; at the same time, it also means that the boat of love has been unmoored and has begun to sail into the rippling sea of ​​love.

It also means the other party's longing for future happiness and sweet joy.Perhaps, people only think of the good side, if from another
On the one hand, it also breeds endless troubles and pains.In short, when you go on a first date, you will be given
Leave unforgettable memories for a lifetime; when you have started the first step of dating, your careful choice of future partner is a reality
displayed in front of you. ?
When dating, the place, time and topic of the date have a crucial impact on the success of the date. ?
([-]) Where is the date?
The location of the date is preferably a public place that both parties must be familiar with.Such as parks, squares, riversides, lakesides, music cafes,

Movie theaters, etc., it is best not to be alone at someone's home or in a strange place.The best place to date is a secluded and not too remote place
.Quietness can create a good dating atmosphere and facilitate conversation, while being too remote can make people feel insecure.At the same time, at a distance
Lishang should take care of the woman and try to stay as close to the woman as possible.A girl once told people that her boyfriend would be considerate, and asked her where did she come from?

It can be seen from the above that she said: "Every time he invites me, the place he chooses is very close to my work and my home, but he always travels a long way
.It's all for my convenience. "If you start from this point, the possibility of dating success is half.?
([-]) When is the date?
How to get the other party to agree to your invitation also has a lot to do with when you make the invitation.The obvious reason: if it is right

Fang already has other arrangements, and you send out an invitation at this time, and others have no choice but to say "sorry" to you.therefore,
Find out the life pattern of the other party in advance, and try to invite the other party in their free time.Allow time for appointments to allow

Avoid being unable to make appointments on time due to accidents. ?
It is vital that you don't miss your appointment.When you make an appointment to meet, you should arrive at what time.Let people wait on the street alone, there is a loss
reputation.If you are late, it will make the other party dissatisfied, and you will be out of breath, rushing to it, and it will be difficult to speak, which will make yourself feel uncomfortable.

The already tense atmosphere became even more tense, making each other unhappy.Out of respect for the politeness of the woman, generally speaking, the man

Fang should have arrived earlier.Mastering the appointment time is conducive to stabilizing emotions, reducing restraint, and creating a happy and peaceful appointment.

meeting atmosphere.For this reason, a few days before the appointment, it is necessary to properly arrange the time of work, study and work and rest.

If you are late due to an accident, you should truthfully explain the situation in order to ask for the understanding of the other party. ?
([-]) The topic of dating?
On a first date, nothing is more difficult than talking.What is the first sentence?Who will speak first?This is a key point.exist
When dating, there is often such a situation: a man and a woman sit on the ground, their hearts are like a raging fire, but they cannot burn their respective hearts.
What an anxious scene it is to sit with one lip and a long silence; the young man speaks eloquently,

The mother sat quietly at the side, one side was overly enthusiastic and acted like no one else was around, the other side was timid and shy, unable to answer, the first time they met was originally a relationship between the two.
What started as an exchange of emotions between the two parties has now become a one-sided long speech, telling people what to do; the girl speaks softly, and the questions are not
The young man was flustered, clumsy and tongue-tied, and what was supposed to be an affectionate date turned into a question-and-answer "interrogation".
The young man had to be embarrassed.No wonder so many teens turn to someone who has been there for advice on their first date. ?
The first topic on a first date is extremely important.It is said that when some young people come to such an occasion, they often write out the "lines" they have compiled before.

He recited it one by one, and said that such careful design was to arouse the resonance of the other party.In fact, this does not meet your expectations

The effect is even very dangerous. ?
Just imagine, people are here to talk about love, not to listen to speeches or watch performances.It should be remembered that happy conversation lies in the
Fang harmonious answer.Life is so rich and the land is so vast, you can start from work and study, or you can
Talking from your own experience or family life, you can also capture the interest from the things in front of you, don't give people a pretentious
The sense of momentum. ?
The successful first date of the following two young people can give us some inspiration. They all cut into the topic according to the specific situation
, and thus succeeded. ?
1?Find topics on the same or similar factors?

Xiao Li is a young man who loves literature. He said this when recalling the first date: An enthusiastic colleague introduced me to a
A girl, but when I was full of hope, I saw a short, plump, dark-skinned girl coming to the appointment, and my heart skipped a beat.
It was cold all of a sudden.Out of politeness, I was going to deal with her a little bit before saying goodbye. ?
I walked side by side with her intently, thinking about the words to decline in my heart, but there was a sound like a silver bell in my ear.girl

After reporting my name, after a few soft notes, I talked about my situation from the introducer.She said she was more
The first time I read my article in a newspaper supplement.After hearing this, I couldn't help but feel a little proud.I know she is an engineering student, think
It wasn't until she was fluent in literature.When we met for the first time, there were many polite elements in the words, and my heart was still hot: this is not
Just my literary like-minded friends?I glanced at her quietly: the chubby round face is rosy in black, with a pair of small
His eyes were narrowed into two thin crescents, his hair was a little yellow, but neatly permed into a flying wave.I gradually open
Chatterbox, we talked a lot, very speculatively...?
Just imagine, if that girl didn't choose a literary topic that Xiao Li is interested in based on the same and similar factors, and she could talk about it well

To be honest, will Xiao Li make a big change from wanting to "say goodbye politely" to "talking very speculatively"?It also implies a
A clever way to find a topic. ?
2?Find topics from the specific scenes in front of you and around you?

A notable feature of face-to-face direct communication is that both parties are in the same time.When there is nothing to say,

You can find topics and draw interest from the sights you see and the objects around you.If the other party flips in silence

If you read a book, you can intentionally ask: "What kind of book is this? It's so thick? It looks like you must like reading, right? Now

, many young people are keen on watching TV, listening to music, singing karaoke, chatting at parties, etc. These are beneficial cultural life
life, but reading must not be neglected because of this..." In this way, the conversation will continue, and some very meaningful things will be discussed.
content.From the scene outside the window, the change of the weather, the furnishings of the room, the clothing of the other party, etc., it is also easy to see the scene in front of you.

Easy to find topics to talk about. ?
When Wang Jian talked about his date with Jie, he wrote: Jie is a quiet and elegant girl.First date with Jay, heart

I can't help but feel uneasy.Walking side by side with her on the campus tree-lined road, I was so cramped that I had nothing to say.Language stuff is like a myriad of things

The silk thread was twisted together in a mess, which made me flustered.The street lights sometimes lead our figure to the front, sometimes to the

Behind my back, I seem to be laughing at my cowardice. ?
After two concise greetings, Jie stopped talking and kept silent, only the sound of steady footsteps could be heard.we are finally in
Sit down on the stone bench in the garden room.I plucked up the courage to break the silence, but I looked at Jie and muttered, not knowing what to say

... At this time, a very conspicuous little thing caught my attention.That's a snow-white corsage, don't clean that dark black corsage
On the clothes, like a star in the night sky, it is pleasing to the eye.I immediately felt that I could start with this corsage...?
Jie usually has no carvings, and she has never seen her wearing a corsage before.I realized the mystery: it was a wonderful hint, it told

Tell me Jai takes this first date as seriously as I do.In this way, the corsage became an opportunity for us to have a long talk.until the middle of the month
God, we just walked back home.When we broke up, there was still a feeling of unfinished business, looking forward to another date...?
Wang Jian succeeded. Didn't he break through the specific things in front of him when he first dated? ?
3?Start by talking about yourself?
In the first contact, everyone has certain intentions, so you can ask questions and answer according to your intentions, and you can ask questions about what you want to know.
What can I ask.But when doing this, pay attention to two points: don't form a series of cross-examinations, and don't pry into the other party's privacy.

The best way is that if you want to know about the other party's situation, you should first talk about your own situation, and you can expand your open area
Use the domain to urge the other party to expand the open area, so that it is easy to find many topics to talk about.If you want to know about each other's amateur life

, You can ask the other party: What hobbies do you usually have?What do you like to do in your spare time?But it is very likely that the other party only said "like

Traveling, listening to music, so I won’t say it anymore. Then you can talk about your hobbies in a specific and detailed way.

Some, this will arouse the interest of the other party and make the conversation congenial. ?
4?Can childhood memories bring the two closer together?
In addition to the topics mentioned above, what other topics can make the two sides talk speculatively? ?
Memories of childhood should be the best subject matter.When talking about these topics, each can feel strongly that the two live in the same life.
The feeling of similar interests in this era and when they were young, let the two enter the boundless fantasy world together, and then the two sides merged into one.
A sense of harmony.In addition, telling about one's childhood past can also imply the meaning of the heart, because only in front of close people

People are willing to confess their childish and innocent childhood.Therefore, when dating, you might as well induce the other party to talk about childhood experiences

and experience, and the more specific and detailed this kind of memory is, the more vivid the memory can be evoked, and the deeper the contemporaneous experience of the two is, which makes
People believe that these topics will make each other talk more and more speculatively.And it is inevitable to talk about family matters between the discussions, and it is also possible to

Use this to understand each other's family environment and family members.It can be said that it is fun to use childhood topics as a means to seduce each other.

Fun and effective. ?
5?Looking for something to break the silence?

We sometimes encounter this kind of situation, that is, the topic of both parties is interrupted and there is a sudden silence.This taste is really uncomfortable.

Just imagine, when the two parties are talking happily, the topic is suddenly interrupted, and they don't know how to continue.If the conversation is happier, this kind of
The embarrassment is even worse in silence.At this time, both sides bowed their heads and remained silent. In this case, you might as well just speak up.

"Hey! This peaceful atmosphere is really good!"?
After saying this, no matter how long the silence is, it will become enjoyment. Occasionally, the eyes will meet each other, and the affection will be exchanged.
But it will not be embarrassing. On the contrary, there will be a feeling that "silence is better than sound at this time". ?
If a girl goes on a blind date with a guy, after the blind date, both parties are satisfied, so the first and second dates begin
, When it comes to the third date, it is often impossible to find the topic for a while, because many topics have been discussed in the first two dates.this
You might as well say "It's nice to be with you, even if you don't talk!"

Come and break the embarrassment. ?
The above are just some topics on the first date. Young men and women who fall in love should adapt to the situation and never stick to the rules. ?
You can talk about anything in the first conversation, but you must never get into "substantive" issues easily.Only "silly boys" would

Confession on the first date: "Ah, I love you so much! Will you marry me?" Such a question is a big spoiler. "Good rain knows the time

Festival, when spring is happening. "A ripe melon naturally falls off, but a forcefully twisted melon is naturally bitter.?
Girls like to be praised, there's no denying that.When you talk to her for the first time, you hint at her affection, talk about women

words of praise, then her hope is assured. ?
The famous scientist Huxley said: "For women, being courteous and courteous is a correct way to win their favor."

"Ignoring them, belittling them and distrusting them is a fatal blow to them." This is very thorough.you like

If you can do it, then the first conversation with her must be very smooth, and there will be gratifying progress. ?
The most important thing to talk about on a first date is the word "sincerity".Some young people like to "hide and seek", play tricks, use "hide and seek"

"Diplomatic rhetoric" to talk, but not willing to show their true feelings in a realistic manner.

The long time is exaggerated and inaccurate, while the short time is covered up. As a result, it will often leave the other party with an exaggerated and false feeling, which is not conducive to
It is not good for mutual understanding and emotional communication, and even cause unnecessary misunderstanding. ?
Therefore, from the first sentence you speak, you must be honest with each other.Sincerity leads to spirit, sincerity can exchange heart with heart, heart

Heart bond.Sincerity is the most precious thing in love.Sincere words do not lie in their eloquent and gorgeous words, but in their sincerity
In the same way.When you unreservedly tell everything about yourself (strengths, strengths, weaknesses, shortcomings and even mistakes)
At that time, as long as the other party is a sensible person, you will be able to knock on the door of the other party's heart smoothly, in exchange for a sincere heart.
heart.

(End of this chapter)