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Chapter 34 Scene 34 - When encountering irrational behavior

Chapter 34 Scene 34 - When encountering irrational behavior
In daily communication, for some reason, the other party often behaves recklessly, irrationally, or even foolishly and thoughtlessly.

Consider the consequences.At this time, you have to calm down and use your eloquence and communication skills to dissuade the other party.

Avoid serious consequences or losses that may be caused by irrational behavior, and on the other hand make the other party give up their actions.only then you

Dissuasion is real dissuasion.The following introduces several dissuading skills when the other party shows such irrational behavior: ?

([-]) Grasp the key point to make the other party give up irrational actions?
Sometimes, the reason why our sincere persuasion is unsuccessful is that in many cases it is because we have not grasped the other party's stubbornness to act on our own

harm to oneself. "Hit a snake and hit seven inches", grasping the loss of the other party's vital interests will make his heartstrings vibrate
, Prompting him to think deeply, so as to give up his negative and wrong actions. ?
Snacks such as melon seeds and peanuts are not allowed to be sold in front of a certain theater, for fear of polluting the environment and affecting the appearance of the city.There is only one who is nearly six years old
Xun's old lady can be an exception.In the words of the theater manager: "This old woman is old and sharp-tongued. People call her Tie
Mouth is hard to deal with, so I have to close my eyes. "One day, the city was going to check the sanitation, and the theater manager Xiao Wang asked the old woman to go back to the house.
Avoid it, and say: "Old lady, move the stall quickly, you are not allowed to sell anything here today." "It was allowed to sell in the sky, but it is not allowed today

Sell, has the world changed again? "The morals of the world have not changed, and the inspection team is coming." ""The inspection team is not allowed to sell things?inspection team
Are you allowed to eat when you come? "The inspection team is here, and the land is not clean and you will be fined." "Xiao Wang emphasized his tone." The land is not
Cleanliness is none of my business, he eats too much fat and poops, can he be fined for selling the meat? "Xiao Wang was speechless, and retreated angrily.
The old master Liu who handles bicycles then came over and said: "Old sister-in-law, at your age, it's never too late, and you can
How much money do you earn?The inspection team is here, and if you really want to fine you, can you still fight a lawsuit?Besides, inspection teams don't come every day,
You have to eat food every day, but you have to do business every day. ""Ok!Older gingers are more spicy.OK, I'm going, I'm going. "old

The grandmother moved the stall away while talking and laughing. ?
In this example, two ways of persuasion, one failed, the other succeeded, which is very learned.The reason why the administrator Xiao Wang persuaded
It's useless to argue against it if you can't stop it, because he just talked about abstract principles blindly, but he didn't patiently talk about it from the perspective of an old woman.

Help her analyze the pros and cons.The old master Liu knew this. He pointed out to her that only the test of

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The bad consequences of making small profits in front of her and disregarding long-term interests made her truly realize the unwiseness of her stubborn behavior, so she was convinced
The persuasion was accepted orally. ?
([-]) Use analogy to dissuade the other party?

Using analogy to dissuade the other party is to compare this behavior with a certain behavior that has happened before, and get the same result, so as to obtain the same result.
And make the other party realize the irrationality of his behavior and give up the original behavior.This method is a relatively implicit dissuasion
method, the other party generally has a higher comprehension ability.Here's an example of this: ?
Father Zhu Shi of Qi State in ancient my country was killed for rebellion.King Xuan of Qi was also planning to kill his entire family in one sitting.Father Zhu Shi's Clan

I had to ask Ai Zi for help.Ai Ziqi said to King Xuan: "Fu Zhu Shi harbored evil intentions and conspired to rebel. Your Majesty killed him in public.

It should be, but it was only Father Zhu Shi himself who did this bad thing, his clansman did not participate, and he was not guilty.Your Majesty

To exterminate the entire clan, can this be said to be what a benevolent king should do? King Xuan of Qi argued, "This is not me.

The meaning is clearly stipulated by the laws made by the previous kings. There are such words in the "Government Code": "Everyone who is in the same family as the rebel
must be killed without pardon. '" Ai Zi retorted: "I also know that the king did it out of necessity, please listen to me again.

To say a few words, in the past, the son Wu was the close relative of the king, and if the son Wu defected to the state of Qin, the king became the clan of the rebels.
If the laws made by the previous kings, the king should also sit down and question the crime. King Xuan of Qi quickly stood up and said, "You don't have to say any more, I will

Just forgive them. "?
It is not difficult to see that Ai Zi used analogy here to make King Xuan of Qi give up his wrong approach.That is, Gongzi Wu committed the crime of rebellion, according to the previous

People who belong to the same family as the son Wu should also be punished according to the laws made by the previous kings, but the king and the son Wu are from the same family and did not ask himself
Therefore, the family members of Zhushi's father should not be imprisoned because of his father's crime of rebellion.
Compared with the rebellion incident of Zhu Shifu, the rebellion hit the vital point of King Xuan of Qi, which undoubtedly shows that one should not sit together
The truth of Shifu's clan forced Qi Xuanwang to put down the butcher knife. ?
During the Warring States period, Qi State wanted to attack Wei State, but Chunyu Kun wanted to dissuade it.So he found King Qi and had a lively negotiation with him. "

The Korean black dog is the fastest dog in the world, and the eastern cunning rabbit is the fastest rabbit in the world.Korean black dog chase

Chasing the cunning rabbit in the east, I ran three times around the mountain. The rabbit tried its best to run ahead, and the dog tried its best to chase after it.As a result, the dog and the rabbit
Weary, both died on the way of running.When a farmer saw it, he took advantage of it without any effort. "Qi Wang listened
After reading this story, I was very interested.

Then Chunyu Kun changed the subject again: "Your Majesty, now Qi and Wei have been at loggerheads for a long time, which has made the soldiers miserable and the people happy."
Exhausted, I am afraid that the powerful Qin and Chu will follow closely and enjoy the benefits of the peasants! "The king of Qi thought it was true.
Therefore, he stopped attacking Wei. ?
Chunyu Kun persuaded the king of Qi not to discuss the facts, but to use analogy to let the other party draw their own conclusions.together
Wang also gave up the irrational behavior of crusade against Wei. ?
([-]) Use reason to make the other party give up irrational behavior?
When a person takes negative actions, the consequences will inevitably directly or indirectly damage the interests of those around him.grab the relationship
, when dissuading the other party, use emotion and reason, connect the negative actions of the other party with the possible consequences, and expand

The scope and intensity of the impact of major actions make the other party realize the responsibility on their shoulders, and thus consciously suspend negative actions.

There is a township enterprise factory manager surnamed Zhang who has always been excellent in his work and popular with others, and the profits in the factory have always been good.
However, he was cheated once, and the factory lost a lot of money and was on the verge of bankruptcy.He just stayed in the room and sulked, didn't eat anything, and no one
not see.The wife took the psychological tactic of patiently saying "reasonable", she said: "Old Zhang, now you have not had any water or rice for two days,
He also threatened us with the words of dying or living, you don't think about yourself, you have to think about me and the children!people say you are human

You are honest, broad-minded, and serious about your work. This time, everyone knows that you have indeed been cheated, and there is nothing you can do about it.everyone is
Trust you, understand you, and still respect you.Old Zhang, what is this little setback?When you set up the factory, you started from scratch

, so many difficulties have not troubled you, this time there is something wrong with the factory, just let us live again, let's start from the beginning again

?I know that this matter will not trouble you, you must have figured out a way to re-establish the factory, and you have also figured out how to help the public security bureau and the court arrest fraudsters.
A good idea to punish criminals.But you have to eat, drink, and take care of yourself!Everyone is worried about you!These days, I also

Can't eat, can't sleep well.Lao Zhang, please open the door, or the child and I will close the door and sit here with you
Don't eat, drink or sleep, if we die, we will die together.But no one will say that we are heroes, they can only say that we are escaping from reality

Really poor thing.Lao Zhang, you..." The wife's words were reasonable and subtle, and finally touched her husband's heart.
After speaking, the husband opened the door. ?
([-]) Dissuade from the interests of the other party?
From the standpoint of the other party, from the perspective of caring and loving him, clarify the benefits of accepting opinions and stopping current actions
, then the other party will happily accept dissuasion, so as to achieve our goal. ?
A soldier was demobilized when he came back from visiting his home.It turned out that his family borrowed 10 yuan to start a pig farm, and he was asked to go back and grow the farm.quite a lot

People talked to him and criticized him, but it didn't work.One day, the instructor came to him and said straight to the point: "You want to go home and start a pig farm.
Get rich by labor, have ambition, I support you! When the soldier heard it, he was happy: "You agree with me to go?" "The instructor smiled and said:

"Do you know how to manage a pig farm, what are the advanced technologies for raising pigs, and how to sign an economic contract?" Then he talked
The deeds of a soldier who became a well-known entrepreneur in the local area after being demobilized through self-taught in the dual-purpose personnel training class of the army. "I need to

If it's you, I won't leave. Our army has a modern pig farm, and you can go there to learn on the spot.otherwise, go back now

, The pig farm failed, and it was too late to regret it. "When the soldier heard this, he opened his eyes and happily accepted the instructor's opinion.?
In some negative actions, the parties involved are just to vent their emotions, fight for a breath or show off their courage for a while, without weighing the pros and cons, judging
Considering the situation, without considering the feasibility and actual effect.When discouraging the unwise actions of this type of people, we can change our perspective,
Don't analyze from our point of view, but stand on the other side's foothold, pointing out that our actions will only benefit the other side, if you don't listen
dissuade
, If you insist on going your own way, it is tantamount to falling into your own trap.

(End of this chapter)