Smile is very alluring: the charming temperament you want most

Chapter 22 Don't be vain, I like the long stream of water (2)
He is a painter, and he met her on the train.She was sitting opposite him, and he had been drawing her. When he gave her the drawing, they knew that they lived in the same city.A month later, she decided that he was her other half.In that year, she married him, and she seemed to realize a beautiful dream.However, life after marriage is like a struck match, which gradually dims after being lit.

He is informal, not good at communication, advocates freedom, and likes to live without restraint.Although she is as well-behaved as a lamb, he still feels that marriage binds him.They still love each other, and he has good conduct and never flirts.She reluctantly divorced him, but took away the key to the house.She no longer cared if his hair was disheveled, didn't care if he stayed up all night, didn't care where he went or who he was with, she just went to tidy up the room as usual and clear up the garbage.And him?Used to her occasional visits, and he loved her more than before, candlelight dinners, excursions, rose beds, which she had not enjoyed in love and marriage, and now it was hers again.They are no different from husband and wife, except that the red marriage certificate has become a dark green divorce certificate.

Later, he became a well-known artist, and each drawing turned into dozens of banknotes. She helped him manage and manage it, and they lived like that until he was diagnosed with terminal cancer.

When he was dying, he took her hand and asked her why she would accompany him all her life without regret.She tells him that love outlasts marriage.The marriage is over, but the love is still there, that's why she will stay with him for the rest of his life.

Love is longer than the length of marriage. After marriage is over, love can continue. Love does not depend on the form of marriage, but on the content.A writer once said such a wonderful metaphor: "Love walks in the world, like a wild horse wandering on the grassland, and needs a rein to lead it home. Perhaps God is partial, or a man is careless. This rein is held in into the hands of a woman."

Indeed, God gave the world to men and the family to women. Good men try to change the world, and good women try to purify men.For a woman, if she can manage her marriage well, it can be regarded as a great achievement in life.However, driving is not driving a horse and cart, only relying on whips and shouts to keep the cart going.A whip cannot tame a man, and harsh accusations can only make a man more indifferent.Only love is the rein that can really hold a man.

In life, some people are staged stories of hasty gatherings and partings, and some people feel the warmth of supporting each other until they grow old.Susu and her husband have been married for 15 years, and they are as loving as ever.When girlfriends see Susu, they will inevitably say: "How did you subdue your husband? He is doing so well in his career, and he is so energetic. He has always been devoted to you. It is really rare!" When hearing these words, Susu always smiled knowingly, only she knew what tied her husband's heart.

In fact, in the third year of Susu's marriage with her husband, her husband had an affair.That woman was her husband's first love. In order to go abroad, she did not hesitate to cut off contact with her husband and followed others to study abroad, but was abandoned in the end.The husband was deeply attached to his first love, so they relived the old dream after the woman returned home.Just when Susu was about to "fulfill" them, her husband was found to have testicular cancer... An affair incident was calmed down by the sudden illness, but Susu felt very uncomfortable.She wanted to leave at first, but she couldn't bear to see her husband face the serious illness alone.Susu decided to accompany him to treat his illness.Fortunately, her husband's illness was discovered in time, and the doctor indicated that the cure rate was very high, which strengthened Susu's confidence and gave her husband the courage to face life.

God favors those who love life. After nearly two years of treatment, the husband finally defeated the terrible disease.When the doctor told them the good news, her husband suddenly burst into tears in front of Susu.He felt that he was sorry for Susu, but Susu forgave him tolerantly, because she loved him, so she never left him.The husband who has passed through the death line once seemed to be a different person. He showed unprecedented love and cherishment for life, and he was determined to achieve a career in his field of work.

In a blink of an eye, more than ten years have passed.Susu's husband already has a small business of his own. Although he is very busy with work and has a lot of entertainment, he will bring a gift for Susu every time he returns from a business trip.The outside world is still exciting, but his heart is already very calm, and he will not easily make ripples, because no matter how beautiful the scenery is, it cannot compare to the good wife at home, and no matter how tempting the momentary love is, it cannot compare to the sincere love of his wife .

Marriage is not the strongest bond, and Susu and her husband still face a third-party crisis after they get married.However, Susu moved her husband with her sincere heart and unyielding true feelings, and exchanged her love for his heart.Love, like an invisible rope, will always be a life-saving straw when the lover suffers.

No matter what happens between husband and wife, if you want to continue to live together and care about each other, there is nothing that cannot be solved.As long as there is love to give, no matter how difficult it is, we can go through it together.Happiness is not far away, as long as there is a concern of love, everything will be full of meaning; with a concern of love, there will be courage and motivation to fight hard.When we are always thinking about doing something for the people we love, our life will be enriched by it; when we want to do better, our life will be perfected by it.

The best love is to stay together plainly
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If you don't want your other half to leave you one day because you "figured it out", you have to think about whether you should make a little change?After all, it is a big homework for couples to do it for a long time.

——Anonymous

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As the saying goes: "Being in love is easy and getting along is difficult." When you are in love, everything is very simple, just talk about love, there are gorgeous roses, there are romantic candlelight dinners, and each other is trying their best to show their good side, willing Inclusive of each other, more willing to appreciate each other.Married, life is no longer simply you and me, but your family and my family, it is a matter between two families.After each other finished the love journey, the tense nerves suddenly relaxed: we are husband and wife, we are our own people, we don't have to worry about it anymore, we can be ourselves calmly.As a result, each other's true nature was gradually revealed, and the initial sweet wedding period was passed, followed by a long period of running-in.

Sensible and mature women accept this process calmly. They get along well with their lovers and go through this stage together.And some women lack a correct understanding of marriage, have poor psychological endurance, and find it difficult to adapt to the psychological gap before and after marriage. When they enter the marriage break-in stage, they feel desperate and feel that marriage is simply the grave of love. It makes love and lover go away. In the same way, negative thinking is produced under the influence of gloomy psychology, which prompts the marriage to disintegrate.

In this world, there is no inherently suitable marriage.Any marriage needs to be carefully managed. Only when a woman manages her own marriage well can she be able to spend her life happily with her lover.

Someone said: "There are two kinds of women in the world. One kind of women will regret no matter who they marry. Doubt each other; another kind of woman, whether she marries a member of Congress or an ordinary worker, will have a happy life, because they know how to use a sincere love to maintain the marriage relationship, and use tolerance and understanding to manage their own lives.”

When Fang Yi got married, she felt that she was the happiest woman in the world.In a flash, five years have passed, and this woman, who was secretly glad that she met a good man, feels that life is like a pool of stagnant water, boring, boring, and without passion.When we are in love, we are often accompanied by sweet words, but now, because my husband is busy with his career, he often comes back very late. After a tiring day, he simply packs up and goes to bed.

Fang Yi, who felt more and more depressed, mentioned her feelings to her mother and told her "grievance".Unexpectedly, her mother told her: "In this world, any marriage is like this, daily necessities, rice, oil and salt, each other is like relatives, it is impossible to always be like that when you are in love. A man should have his own career, and you, as a wife, must understand him." , Be considerate of him. In the past, he was very considerate to you, but now he just pays in a different way. In his heart, it is still to love you and your children better, and your home, so that you can live a happy life. A better life. If he doesn't, do you think the family will be stable?"

After listening to her mother's words, Fang Yi suddenly realized.It turns out that married life is like this, each other is a family, understand each other, support each other, and strive to live a good life.As for my "grievances", I thought of them myself.After that, Fang Yi began to learn to communicate with her husband. When he was frustrated and weak, she stretched out her warm hands to help him walk through that lonely journey together.Even if it is a storm, she will accompany him to tide over the difficulties, soothe his wounded heart, encourage him to challenge himself with a positive attitude, and overcome himself with the courage to move forward.No matter what occasion she is in or what situation she faces, she tries her best to protect her husband's interests.Fang Yi knew that as long as she and his heart were united, exerting energy in one direction, and maintaining a high degree of consistency externally, she would be able to overcome all difficulties in life and reach the end of life.

Love is the most beautiful thing in this world, nothing can compare with the dignity and sanctity of love.Because there is love in the heart, there will be emotion, and there will be a true and pure expression.Love is the spark of the collision between people's hearts, which affects you, me and him.As long as marriage is based on love, it can move toward deeper maturity and rationality.As long as you have love in your heart and manage your marriage with your heart, you will surely have happiness.

Women should make their minds broad and open-minded, learn to care and take care of others' feelings, stick to their own principles of life, and maintain their marriage with heart and love.As long as you believe that your love is sincere and you can love your significant other wholeheartedly, you can have the happiest marriage in the world.The world needs warmth, life needs to be touched, and husband and wife need to be honest. True love is the blending of hearts, even if it is a moment, it is eternal.In a limited life, in a limited married life, cherish your lover, cherish your family, and tolerate him with kindness, so that life will not become boring and empty.A woman who manages her marriage well is equivalent to managing her life well.

It's enough to have your own happiness
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The art of marriage is this: don't expect your husband to be a god with a halo and your wife to be an angel in flight; don't expect each other to be perfect, but to develop resilience, patience, understanding, and a sense of humor.

——American modern writer Peterson
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There was a young and handsome painter who had a wealthy family and married a gentle and considerate wife, and lived a very prosperous life.But he was depressed all day long, and always felt that his life was less than others.

One night, he met an old man.He complained to the old man, saying that he had everything but happiness.The old man smiled and said: "I understand." So the old man ruined the painter's handsome appearance, took away his painting talent, left his family with nothing, and his wife left him.

A month later, the old man saw the painter again.At this time, he was dizzy with hunger, struggling on the ground.Seeing this, the old man gave him back everything he had lost.

Another month passed, and the old man went to see the painter again.He was painting in the garden, and his wife was watching from the side. The two were talking and laughing, and they were very affectionate.Seeing the old man, the painter couldn't help thanking him, because he knew what happiness was.

It is the general psychology of people to know how to cherish something after losing it, and to realize how happy the former self was.

It's a pity that the story is a story, it can make the painter regain it, and many things in life, once lost, it is difficult to return to the past, and if you miss it, it will be a lifetime.Many women in the emotional world often turn a blind eye to their own happiness and are dissatisfied with their current life. They always feel that there is less romance, less material luxury, and less... In short, they feel that they are not happy enough. I can't find the shining point that makes me happy in my daily life, and my eyes are full of other people's happiness, which casts a layer of dust on my soul.

According to legend, people came to this world to find happiness, but God quietly hid happiness in people's hearts, but did not tell them.As a result, there are many people in the world who are looking for happiness in a hurry.I didn't focus on my heart until I was tired, tired, and my heart was no longer impetuous. At this time, I suddenly felt happier than ever.At this time, I also discovered that everyone has happiness behind their backs, but I have been staring at other people's happiness and forgot to feel my own happiness.

At the [-]th graduation anniversary party, Ran was as gorgeous as a peach blossom, radiant and full of mature female beauty, which made all the ladies present envious.Even so, Ran was not too happy after the party.

Seeing Ran's silence, friend Lin felt very strange: "Big beauty, you are the focus of attention every time you get together. You stole the limelight. Why aren't you happy? Could it be that extreme joy begets sorrow?"

Ran sighed: "Hey, what is there to envy. Have you seen S? He is full of jewels, drives a BMW, and owns an LV; look at L, he bought a new duplex house, and the house price in that area is 2 More than one square meter; and H, her husband has now become the leader of the bureau..."

Lin smiled, pushed her and said, "Is that because of this? You really only see thieves eating meat, but you don't see thieves being beaten. S dresses well, but she's been married for ten years, and she can't conceive a child; L The house is big, but her husband can't go home several times a month, and he is also very rough, quarreling every time they meet... Looking at these things from another angle, everyone has their own difficulties, but not everything Can you tell me! What are you worrying about? Your work is going well, your family is healthy, your husband is capable and considerate, and your son is smart and good at studying. Although you are not rich and wealthy these days, you can still be considered well-off. How many people envy you That's it!"

Hearing this, Ran suddenly felt that she was ridiculous, and she said with emotion: "That's right, after hearing what you said, I feel that I have always been quite happy."

Ignoring the existence of happiness, but complaining that life is not happy, this mentality is not unique to Ran.Life is originally simple, and happiness does not always come with vigor and vigor. Being able to live a peaceful life is already a great blessing.The happiness of others we see in our eyes may be just a shell of happiness, and only the person concerned knows how it feels.If you take your own happiness and hope for the happiness of others, and even infinitely exaggerate the misfortune of life for this, and try your best to pursue the unknown result, you will often lose what you have in the end.

Whether life is happy or not depends on whether you are really satisfied.If you know how to let go of the original noisy mind and savor the details of life with your heart, you will find that quietly guarding your own happiness is the greatest abundance.

She thought that her married life was the two-person world she envisioned, with only two people clinging to each other.But when she really walked into the siege, she had a lot of things to consider—car, house, job, support for the elderly, and various insurance expenses. She suddenly felt panicked, and sometimes even quarreled with her husband irritably.

(End of this chapter)