Be a Strong Woman: Carnegie's Book of Spiritual Growth for Women

Chapter 31 Gratitude and Cherishing Blessings, Living Gently with the World (3)
Regardless of the path ahead, we must enjoy all that life presents to us.

Life is a big classroom, all kinds of knowledge are placed in front of you, you can absorb and choose, and you can get what you need in this treasure house; life is like a blank paper, waiting to be painted and painted, you can Walk out a successful track according to your own wishes; life is like a cup of boiled water, you can savor its taste carefully, or you can brew Longjing, mix it with milk, or add coffee according to your own requirements...

To enjoy life, we must be optimistic and open-minded.The pressure of life often makes us bear too much burden; the complex and changeable social status quo brings us various setbacks and tribulations.If you want to survive and develop quickly, if you don't have optimism, you will be easily depressed, eroding your vigor, and useless;Therefore, being positive and open-minded is the best way to survive.

Enjoy life and have a happy state of mind.In the face of any difficulties and setbacks, just put a smile on them, and the pressure of work and the troubles of study will disappear with a happy mood.To enjoy life, we must learn to appreciate.Benedict said: "It is not a virtue to be favored by others, but to repay the favor. When he actively devotes himself to the work of gratitude, virtue arises." Therefore, maintain an aesthetic attitude to look at everything in the world, and you will find that life Very beautiful.

A grateful heart will bring us endless happiness.Being grateful for every possession in life can make us content and happy.Gratitude is not to show off, not to stagnate, but to regard all possessions as a kind of honor, a kind of encouragement, a positive action that produces rewards in deep gratitude, and share one's own possessions with others.The heart of gratitude makes people vigilant and active, loves life more, and their creativity is more active; the heart of gratitude makes people open their minds to the world and devote themselves to benevolent actions.People who are not grateful will never know how to love, and will never be loved by others.

As Kant said: "On a clear night, looking up at the sky, you will get a kind of happiness, which can only be experienced by a noble mind."

Take a moment before going to bed every day to think about what you are grateful for today.For example, a smile from a lover, a greeting from a neighbor, these are all manifestations of love in life, and they are all worthy of our gratitude.If we can feel the love in it, we will be filled with gratitude, and our life will become lovely, beautiful and fulfilling.

Everything in the world has its ingenuity and freshness.Enjoy life, life will be more optimistic and unrestrained; smile life, life will be more splendid.If we can be grateful for everything we have in life, we can truly appreciate the joy of life, the warmth of the world and the value of life.

love makes life beautiful

What sets our lives apart is that we live in groups.Living in groups gives us the opportunity to communicate with each other.Through the heart-to-heart communication and collision, let the emotions take root and germinate slowly, and there will be love in the world.A life with love is a happy life, and a life with love is not lonely.Love makes life better!
The emotion of love is the source of all noble emotions.Think about it, how much love do we have?How much love do we have for flowers and grass, friends around us, relatives, lovers, and work?Love is the source of strength for us to love mankind, love others, and love the motherland in the future.A person without love is a person without a future.Love is priceless, no matter what you do, you must have love.Only with love can one enjoy the true feelings of life, and only with love can one feel the greatness of human beings.Love is like sunshine, which can melt any iceberg; love is like honey, which can make a dry heart taste sweet.

Love, the foundation of kindness.Some people say that people can't be too kind, if they are kind, they will be bullied and suffer.In fact, only those who are truly kind and truly loving can have the love of others and receive help from others.We live in a group, and it is very difficult for anyone to succeed outside the group.Someone once made statistics on the Nobel Prize winners, saying that some of the early Nobel Prize winners were individual fighters, and won the Nobel Prize by the efforts of individuals or a few people to complete the project.But now almost none of the Nobel Prize winners are obtained by individual labor alone, but must be a group or hundreds of people, or even more people to tackle the same subject.Of course, the final winner is one of the representatives.

We live in an interdependent and interconnected society.Going to the society, without good interpersonal relationships and popularity, it will be difficult for us to truly achieve the glory of life.Psychology divides people into two categories, one is called popularity, this kind of person is liked by everyone, and everyone is willing to help him; the other is called dislike, and people hate him very much.I believe that we all don't want to be disgusted, and we all want to be popular.A very important prerequisite for being popular is to have love.A caring person will be considerate of others, will be good at understanding others, will know how well others are warm, will extend a hand of friendship when others need help most, and will help others when they are most difficult.Therefore, learning to love, learning to love others, loving parents, and friends is an important factor for being a human being and succeeding in life.

Cherish more when you are loved

Learn to cherish: Nothing in life is given to us for granted.In your life, it is a very happy thing to meet someone who knows how to love you with your heart, or someone who is worthy of your love with your heart.Maybe, you think that what you have is often not the best, so you don't know how to cherish it, but after losing it, you will regret it too much.

Women should know how to cherish and treat themselves well, and don't shed tears for love.

When he is not with you, you have to take care of yourself and don't complain about his "absence".Because, you have grown up, and you are no longer a little girl who needs the company of adults everywhere.

Instead of torturing yourself when you're having a fight with him, try to make yourself happy.Because it is very normal for two people to quarrel occasionally.When you all sleep together in a cold coffin after a hundred years, will quarrels become a beautiful past?

When he travels a lot because he is busy, you have to understand him and support him.Because, he worked hard to make you live a better life.

When he can't be by your side, you must firmly believe that the hearts of the two are together.Because suspicion will only create a gap in your relationship.

When he washes the pots and dishes, washes vegetables and cooks for you, give him some encouragement and praise.Because, his heart also longs for your approval and gratitude.

When he tolerates the mistakes you made, don't ignore your mistakes, learn to change, and make the same mistake as little as possible.Because, after all, having too many mistakes is not a good thing.

When some of his behavior makes you feel uncomfortable, you should say it directly or tactfully, and don't make a big scene.Because, apart from making people lose their minds, quarrels cannot make people correct their shortcomings.

When his desk is messy and untidy, please help him tidy it up patiently, or remind him to tidy it up.

When he is working seriously or reading a book, don't always disturb him on purpose, but give him some time and space to enjoy being alone.

When he is sick, you should not neglect to take care of him, give him some care.Because he cares about your tenderness very much.

When he is too busy for you, you don't take it all for granted, but be grateful.Because everyone's contribution is eager to return.

When he puts an umbrella on your head in the rain to protect you from the wind and rain, remember to hug him tightly.

When he disagrees with your point of view on something, you have to believe that people think differently, and don't force him to accept your point of view.Because, no one likes to be forced to think by others.

When he chats with his friends, don't interrupt his conversation easily, respect him and his friends.Because men care more about saving face, and no one likes women who make trouble for no reason.

when he……

In short, if you are being loved, you must know how to cherish it.Respect him like you respect yourself, cherish the love in front of you like you cherish your once-in-a-lifetime life, and what you will gain will be endless love.

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