understand man in seconds

Chapter 2
How to fall in love with a scumbag

Understand Men in Five Seconds and Understand Men in Seconds Part [-]: Scumbag

Features: The more popular with all women, the more likely to be a scumbag.But for all scumbags, no matter how tall, rich, handsome and resplendent they are on the outside, their hearts and thoughts will always be dark and narrow.

A scumbag will rob you of everything that is useful to him, and will suck up your money, youth, sex, and relationships.

Scumbags have no moral integrity, they have no bottom line, as long as they want, they can do even the most scumbag things.

A scumbag can change a lot. If he treats you well today, he will leave you tomorrow.But one thing will never change, that is, a scumbag can never become better.

Love code: It is not terrible to fall in love with a scumbag, but it is terrible to be inseparable from a scumbag.So, learn to quit.

True Stories Understand Men in Seconds Part [-]: Scumbags

In this chapter we are going to talk about scumbags.

Many girls think that the prodigal son is considered a scumbag.I just want to say that you really underestimate the types and degrees of scumbags.

Whether it is a prodigal son or a playboy, they are just a certain aspect of a scumbag. It can only be said that they have just reached the threshold of a scumbag, but they are far from entering the high rank of a scumbag.

Since the year before last, I haven't written a book for two years. I only did one thing, which is to open the WeChat column of "Lu Qi Pai Tucao", and widely accept girls' emotional help.

During these two years, I have received hundreds of thousands of letters and messages, most of which relate to my own tragic experience.

The scumbag that many people meet is the real scumbag.It's not just a trivial matter like picking up a girl, but it destroys the girl's entire life, and even the scum of life, which is completely moral garbage.

It stands to reason that when encountering such a scumbag, everyone would avoid it, but unfortunately, the girls flock to such a scumbag, even knowing that the other party will kill them, they still can't do without it.

Like moths to a flame.

I have a reader who has wasted more than ten years on scumbags.

This girl, Shen Lan, lives in Chongqing and graduated from the journalism department.

People in Chongqing and those who have been to Chongqing know that this is a very life-oriented city. The pace of life is not fast, the economy is developing well, and the hot pot is delicious, so people don't like to leave their city.Chongqing people left their hometown, as if they had lost their souls.

After graduating from university, Shen Lan found a formal reporter job in a local print media through her family relationship.In fact, it is very difficult to enter the current print media, especially the formal organization is almost impossible, and the openings to the outside world are all started with a master's degree.

Shen Lan's family still has some connections in Chongqing, but it is not easy to help her get this job.

But the problem is, Shen Lan's own job is settled, but her boyfriend's job is not settled.

Shen Lan's boyfriend Tian Ye is her alumnus, who graduated from the same level, but majored in law.He and Shen Lan are teammates in the debate club.When he was in the debating club, it could be said that he was a big hit, and his school never lost a debate competition.

This personnel setting looks a bit like "Why Shengxiaomo", but it's a pity that different people have different fates, and Shen Lan didn't meet the fate of the best man in the world.

Shen Lan started dating with Tian Ye in her senior year.

Tian Ye is the kind of boy who is super popular in college, and there is always a girlfriend around him.It was only when he was in his third year of junior high school that he was about to graduate from college, and Tian Ye didn't have any thoughts about romance. He just wanted to get his job done quickly, so he broke up with his ex-girlfriend.

And Shen Lan appeared just right. It just so happened that Shen Lan's uncle was the deputy director of a well-known law firm in Chongqing, and he had some status in the Chongqing lawyer industry.

Shen Lan helped Tian Ye talk, and it was easy for Tian Ye to enter a well-known law firm in Chongqing for an internship.

At this moment, Tian Ye felt that Shen Lan had a good family background and was smart and capable, so he began to pursue various pursuits.And Shen Lan had been secretly in love with Tian Ye for a long time, and after going back and forth, the two of them formalized their relationship.

To be honest, Shen Lan's family is very satisfied with Tianye.The young man is tall, well-educated, and he is a lawyer, a profession that makes a lot of money.Shen Lan is indeed not very good-looking, it is already very good to find such an outstanding man.

It's just that Tian Ye's family is in the northeast, and his parents can't take care of him, so Shen Lan's parents are already mentally prepared to take care of the young couple independently.

As soon as two people graduate, one will work in a newspaper agency, and the other will work in a law firm as an intern.Shen Lan's parents hastily prepared a small house for the two to live in.They also thought very simply, since they plan to live a life, they should trap this man first, and don't let him run away.This is the straight-forward fiery temper of Chongqing people, without any hesitation.

Things were going very smoothly. After Shen Lan successfully joined the company, the benefits of the unit were very good, and the job as a local news reporter went smoothly. Tian Ye really planned to take root in Chongqing. He planned to bring Shen Lan back to the Northeast during the Chinese New Year. Parents are discussing about getting married next year.

But there was a little surprise.

Due to overwork, Shen Lan's uncle had a sudden cerebral hemorrhage and fell ill in bed.As soon as this well-ranked figure in Chongqing's legal circle fell, the disciples and grandchildren under his banner immediately dispersed, and each went to find another backer.

The one who was most affected was actually Tian Ye, because the other disciples and grandchildren were all accomplished lawyers, and at worst they had worked for many years, unlike him who just entered the law firm as a trainee because of his connections.

What's more troublesome is that the largest law firm in Chongqing is in the critical stage of restructuring. Everyone knows how hard the top management will have to be if it wants to change to the partnership system.All of a sudden, Tian Ye completely became a "lonely ghost". No one cared about him. In just a few months, the original agreement to become a full-time official and the contract were all voided, and he was kicked out.

The good job was gone, of course Tian Ye was very angry. After returning home, he quarreled with Shen Lan several times, and blamed all the responsibility for his unemployment on Uncle Shen Lan's unreliable cerebral hemorrhage.

After that, Tian Ye didn't look for a job well, and he just pretended to be sad and angry at home all day long, letting Shen Lan serve him.At this time, by coincidence, Shen Lan was found to be pregnant.

Such an inch of pregnancy made Tian Ye explode. He felt that Shen Lan did it on purpose to make him unemployed, and then tied him up with a child.

God is sorry to see, Shen Lan really doesn't have this kind of scheming, it's nothing more than everything squeezed together.When the Shen family's parents saw their daughter was pregnant, they had no choice but to marry the two of them.

Preparations for the marriage hadn't started yet, but one day, the Shen family suddenly discovered that Tian Ye had run away.

That's right, he just ran away, and he packed up his belongings, took away the passbook shared by Shen Lan and him, and took away all the valuable things of the young couple.

In our words, that is the package escaped.

Shen Lan's parents were so angry that her father almost fainted from a cerebral hemorrhage.Shen Lan's mother shed tears even more, the key is not the issue of losing money, but shame.The daughter is pregnant, but the son-in-law has run away. If this gets out, how can their family behave in Chongqing?

Shen Lan was also completely dumbfounded, she was the one who was hit the hardest, one day she was still thinking about getting married, buying a house and decorating, but the next day the groom-to-be suddenly left without saying goodbye.This should be regarded as abandoning his wife and son!
In the next few days, everyone was in a mess.Shen Lan's parents even wanted to call the police and bring this kid back, but after inquiring, it turned out that Tian Ye had quietly returned to his hometown, and had already started working in a law firm in his hometown.

The thing is, after Tian Ye was frustrated in finding a job in Chongqing, his parents in the Northeast were also very anxious. After all, it is a big deal for his son to go out to study law. Now that he is unemployed after graduation, is it okay?So I entrusted my relatives and friends everywhere, tried my best, and finally got a law firm, not as a trainee, but directly signed a contract as a paralegal.

Although Tian Ye's hometown is a small third-tier city in the Northeast, it is a place he is familiar with, and he has a job right away. What else can he be dissatisfied with? Of course, he is planning to go back.

At that time, Shen Lan told him that she was pregnant, and Tian Ye suddenly thought that if his girlfriend became pregnant, he would be forced to stay in Chongqing, and it would be impossible for him to return to his hometown to work.

After thinking about it, Tian Ye made up his mind to make a clean break with Shen Lan, so there was a scene of leaving without saying goodbye and fleeing in packs.

After learning the truth, Shen Lan's parents were so angry that they fainted. They asked their daughter to break up with this bastard and kill the child.

But what Shen Lan thought was exactly the opposite. She actually understood Tian Ye quite well, and even felt that Tian Ye's decision to return to his hometown was right.She couldn't part with the fields at all, and she also couldn't part with the child in her stomach.

So Shen Lan decided that she would go to the northeast to find fields.

You see, this is the first characteristic of a scumbag:
When they make a particularly irresponsible and scumbag decision, they will show up as a weak person, as if they have no choice but to hurt you and give up on you. In the end, you have to sympathize with him.

Shen Lan became the woman who was hurt by the scumbag but still sympathized with him, so she really disregarded her parents' objections and flew all the way from Chongqing to the Northeast to join the man in her heart, the father of the child.

Tian Ye picked Shen Lan up, but when she walked into Tian Ye's house, Shen Lan felt something strange.

It's not about the family background. The condition of Tian Ye's family is mediocre, but he is a city resident and lives with his parents in a two-bedroom apartment, which is acceptable.

It was the attitude of his parents, which was not what Tian Ye said before. He accepted Shen Lan very much, agreed to marry, and regarded Shen Lan as his daughter-in-law. On the contrary, his eyes were full of contempt and dissatisfaction.

At that time, Shen Lan still had the excitement of meeting her lover, but she didn't feel it.Only later did she know that Tian Ye's parents looked down on her from the very beginning because she sent her to the door and ran after the man.

But Shen Lan always felt that she was pregnant and had a marriage contract with Tian Ye, so it was logical to live in his house.

After staying for less than a week, Tian Ye had a showdown with Shen Lan.

He excused that everyone was still young and wanted to do business, so he proposed to break up.

How could Shen Lan break up with him?Of course, he tried his best to redeem it, and even asked Tian Ye to put forward conditions, no matter what he wanted, Shen Lan could agree.

Ordinarily speaking, if Tian Ye was decisive at this time and drove Shen Lan home, it might not be considered a particularly scumbag, because after all, he still let her live.

But at that time, Tian Ye was so desperate to hear from Shen Lan that her uncle's condition had improved, that he thought about having a backer in the legal profession, so he planned to continue using Shen Lan for a while.

Tian Ye put forward several conditions for Shen Lan to continue being together. First, Shen Lan must leave Chongqing and come to a small town in the northeast to accompany him; second, he must live with his parents, and they cannot be separated even after marriage; Lan must get rid of the child, and cannot use the child to drag down his career.

If this kind of condition was put forward, as long as it was a woman, it would be impossible to accept it, but Shen Lan actually accepted it.

She probably loves Tian Ye too much, knowing how scumbag the other party is, but she really can't let go, so she concealed all these humiliating terms, and really agreed to it.

Shen Lan went to have an abortion alone, and even paid for the abortion by herself.Tian Ye said that he had no money, and it was impossible to get money from his parents, so Shen Lan had to use his own living expenses for surgery.

After the operation, she lay in Tian's house for three days, but Tian Ye's parents disliked her lying down and not doing work, and began to try every means to get Shen Lan to do housework.

Shen Lan had no choice but to get up and start working. Unexpectedly, moving things up and down caused her wound to bleed profusely, and she was sent to the hospital, where she almost died.

With such a big incident, Shen Lan's parents must have flown over, and they dragged their daughter back without saying much.Shen Lan recuperated for half a year before she regained her vitality.

As soon as Shen Lan recovered, she quickly flew to the northeast again, wanting to continue to be with Tian Ye.

For the sake of Tianye, Shen Lan also quit her job at the Chongqing newspaper and went to Tianye's city to find a job with a very low salary.

In fact, at that time, Tian Ye had already found a new girlfriend, but the conditions of the new girlfriend's family were not very good, and Tian Ye encountered a new problem.

He applied to a very famous law school in the United States, and even gave him part of the scholarship.For a Chinese, this is already a very remarkable thing.

Although American law is different from domestic law, there are so many multinational companies and international law is widely used. As long as Tian Ye graduates from a well-known American law school, his future is not as simple as a small lawyer. The annual salary is nothing, not to mention the possibility of staying in a big law firm in the United States.

This kind of opportunity, probably an ambitious man would not let it go!It's a pity that Tian Ye didn't get the full scholarship, and the tuition fees of the law school are outrageously high. Although he can still apply for a tuition loan, he has to prepare at least a few 10 RMB in cash. Expenses will not be less than 2 yuan.

Tian Ye's family did not have this money, nor did Tian Ye's new girlfriend's family.

So Tian Ye had to use all the resources. At this moment, Shen Lan ran to Tian Ye and wanted to get back together with him.

Tian Ye accepted Shen Lan very excitedly and gratefully. The two spent several nights as a newlywed, and then Tian Ye talked about the predicament he encountered with grief.

At this time, what else can Shen Lan say?She is full of love for the field, and now that the man is about to have a future, she really has a sense of honor.So there is no need for Tian Ye to say anything, she must have taken all her wealth out.

But Shen Lan herself is also a college student who has just graduated, and she hasn't done anything to make money. It is a great thing to be able to spend tens of thousands of yuan in cash.

But the fields are not enough. His family can spend up to 15 yuan, and they will add it up. There is also a gap of 30 yuan for Shen Lan.

Shen Lan didn't delay at all, she rushed back to her hometown in Chongqing the next day and asked her parents for help.

To be honest, her family's conditions are good, and her parents can afford hundreds of thousands.But his parents hated Tian Ye deeply, so how could they help?
Shen Lan wept bitterly and said a lot, but her parents were still indifferent.

In the end, Shen Lan knelt on her parents' bedside for a day and a night, and almost passed out from dehydration. Her mother was so distressed that she begged her father together.

The result of the discussion between the two elders is that Shen Lan can be given 30 yuan, but this is her dowry. Whether she marries or falls in love in the future, the family will not give any more money.

After Shen Lan transferred the money to Tian Ye, the man didn't delay at all, he didn't even bother to meet Shen Lan, and flew to the United States to apply for school in a hurry.

Shen Lan has already resigned from her job in Chongqing, so she can only stay in the Northeast alone, doing a job that is very boring and difficult to support herself, relying on her mother's support on weekdays.

Tian Ye contacted again, showing great gratitude and love to Shen Lan, which made Shen Lan feel better.Tian Ye promised her that he would marry her after returning to China.

Shen Lan finally felt that everything she had paid and done was worthwhile, because love will give, and as long as there is love in return, then all of this will be fine.

But Tian Ye encountered a new predicament.He is very busy with his studies in the United States and has no time to work at all.The living expenses plus other loan repayments cost at least tens of thousands of RMB per month.

It was impossible for Tian Ye's family to bear it. After hearing this, Shen Lan gritted her teeth and promised that she would settle the money. Tian Ye only needed to study hard and take good care of herself.

Where can Shen Lan earn tens of thousands of yuan a month?Parents have made it clear that they will no longer support her, and if they can give her some living expenses, it is her mother who secretly stuffed money from her own house.

For her lover, and for the seemingly bright life of the two of them in the future, Shen Lan went all out.

She resigned again, bid farewell to the Northeast, and went to Beijing to become a medical representative, specifically, to sell prosthetics.

Sell ​​prosthetics!
Shen Lan lived in a superior family environment since she was a child, with no worries about food and clothing, and no hardships.In college, she entered the journalism department because she likes journalism and has her own journalism ideal.After graduating from university, although she was a newspaper office that she relied on, she was still a full-time employee with a press card.

But now, for the sake of her lover, she has completely given up her ideals and her own future, and would rather be a prosthetic salesman.

But this business is really profitable.

Shen Lan is in Beijing, shuttling through various hospitals, trying her best to please every doctor, and then going to see clients one by one to help them try prosthetics.She can quickly load and unload, judge quickly, talk to people, and talk nonsense.

In a few years, Shen Lan seemed to be a completely different person.

In the past, she was a pampered and pampered young lady, but now she can talk nice things to people for a long time for any penny, and she is extremely humble and flattering.

Shen Lan did earn a lot of money, but besides her own living expenses, almost every penny was sent to Tian Ye.

She didn't know how extravagant and flamboyant Tian Ye lived in the United States, but even if she knew, she would feel that everything was fine, because this was what she wanted, and she just wanted her man to live a life of superiority .

In three full years, Shen Lan has transformed from a young reporter who just graduated to a well-known gold medal salesman in Beijing's pharmaceutical industry.She even became the first-level agent of the personal identity of the prosthetic company in Beijing.

Finally, three years later, the field study was over, and he stayed in an American law firm for several months as an intern. He originally wanted to find an opportunity to stay in the United States, but he was defeated by the fierce competition in the United States, so he obediently It happened that a top domestic law firm in Beijing wanted him and was willing to give him the status of junior partner within two years.

After Tian Ye arrived in Beijing, he naturally lived with Shen Lan.In the beginning, Shen Lan was the one who raised him, so the relationship between the two of them would naturally be fine, and they were even talking about getting married.

Shen Lan plans to buy a house, Tian Ye must write her name on it.Although the two of them were not married, they just wrote it, and Shen Lan didn't think there was any problem at all.

After that, Tian Ye asked for money for himself for a while, and for his family members for a while, all of which were Shen Lan's expenses.It's been another two years in Beijing, but Shen Lan is actually raising Tianye.

Finally, Tian Ye gained a firm foothold in the law firm, and he also became a junior partner. With stable clients, his income was getting higher and higher, even surpassing Shen Lan's income.

Tian Ye's attitude towards Shen Lan is getting worse and worse.To be honest, after Tian Ye became a partner, he was already a real diamond king.He has the experience of studying in the United States, has a career as a lawyer, and has a career in a law firm. No matter where he is placed or in which circle he is, he is very famous.

And what about Shen Lan?Although she still makes some money, after all, she is a prosthetic seller.

Tian Ye didn't care why Shen Lan became a prosthesis seller, anyway, he just felt that Shen Lan was no longer good enough for him.

Moreover, this woman is almost 30 years old, and her age is gone.Men are more valuable as they get older. No matter from which angle Tian Ye thinks about them, he doesn't think the two are compatible.

So Tian Ye began to alienate Shen Lan, and even bought a house by himself and moved out.

Shen Lan could also feel the changes in the field, but she still believed that a man would always be a little grateful. She had paid so much, and the other party had already promised to get married at the end of the year, so how could she go back on her word?
Shen Lan has already notified her relatives and friends of her marriage news, and also regards Tian Ye's newly bought house as her new house, even when the man refuses to let her go to the room, it is regarded as a surprise for her by the man.

Shen Lan just waited there foolishly, waiting for the wedding day to come.

Time flies, more than half a year passed quickly, Shen Lan was preparing for her wedding, but Tian Ye has never been involved in this matter.

Until the end of the year, a girl from Tian Ye's unit suddenly called Shen Lan, she was vague, but she just reminded her vaguely that Tian Ye was getting married today, and then hung up the phone.

Shen Lan was stunned.

Shen Lan's subconscious first reaction was, my husband is getting married, why don't I, the bride, know about it?Are you going to give me a surprise?
She was indeed immersed in the sudden joy, but as time went by, her heart became colder and colder.

It took almost 15 minutes for Shen Lan to wake up from the surprise fantasy she had fabricated.

That's right, there are surprises in a marriage proposal, surprises in a confession, how can there be surprises in a wedding?
Which wedding does not require the bride to plan, organize, and manufacture by herself?Doesn't the bride herself need to be beautiful?Don't need to buy a wedding dress?Don't you need to send invitations to your relatives and friends?
Only when she thought that she had never sent invitations to relatives and friends at all, Shen Lan finally came to her senses.

No wedding at all.For Shen Lan, it is impossible for her to have a wedding.But what about Tian Ye getting married?
Shen Lan couldn't figure it out, so she started calling Tian Ye's mobile phone and calling Tian Ye's home, but they were all turned off and no one answered.I called Tian Ye's family again, but no one answered.

Shen Lan was helpless, so she began to ask her mutual friends with Tian Ye.After all these years, she still knows some colleagues and friends in the field.

But the strange thing is that none of this group of people who were very polite in the past answered Shen Lan's calls.Shen Lan persevered in calling again and again, and finally a few people answered the phone, but they still hesitated and refused to tell her the truth.

Until I asked a female colleague in the field.The other party was really angry, seeing Shen Lan's pity, so he revealed the truth.

The fact is that Tian Ye is really getting married, and it is at the hotel where Shen Lan wants to hold the wedding.And the bride is not Shen Lan, but another second-generation official girl.

Those friends in Tian Ye were all attending the wedding, but no one dared to tell Shen Lan, and even everyone avoided Shen Lan for fear of irritating her.

Shen Lan didn't believe it, how could she believe it?After hanging up the phone, she sat there blankly for half an hour.

In her mind, she kept thinking over and over again, thinking about the days before she and Tian Ye.Although Tian Ye didn't come here very often recently, it wasn't that he didn't communicate with her. He even had sex with her three days ago.

Shen Lan really couldn't believe that the man who was nice to her before would suddenly marry someone else.And they used to have a marriage contract, so it doesn't count?

Shen Lan finally decided that she would go to the scene to take a look.But for some reason, she felt weak all over, and it took a lot of effort to put on her clothes and drive out.

When she arrived at the hotel, Shen Lan glanced at it from a distance, and saw a large wedding poster of the bride and groom hanging there.

Shen Lan burst into tears like rain.

Then she also saw Tian Ye leading the bride there to welcome the guests.The two seem to be completely married, harmonious and tacit.The guests who came and went also behaved very naturally, as if they had known that they were a couple.

Shen Lan completely collapsed.She was full of thoughts, it should be her standing there, it should be her standing there.

When she drove back in a daze, she didn't know what kind of car she was driving, and when she woke up, it was three days later and she woke up in the hospital.

Seeing the tears on the faces of my parents and listening to their narration, I realized that I had a serious car accident and almost died. After several rescues, I stayed in the ICU for several days before I came back to life.

In the past few days when Shen Lan had an accident, Tian Ye didn't respond at all, and even went on honeymoon like a normal person after knowing that Shen Lan had crashed the car.

Shen Lan's father had a high blood pressure attack and was hospitalized for half a month afterwards.Seeing her mother gaining an unknown amount of gray hair, Shen Lan burst into tears.

But in her crying, she was still saying that she couldn't bear it, she couldn't bear it, she couldn't bear her feelings, she wanted him back.

Identify men in 5 minutes and understand men in seconds [-]: Scumbag

Tian Ye is undoubtedly a scumbag.When you have seen such a scumbag, you will understand that breaking up, cheating and so on are simply pediatrics.A real scumbag will kill people, and if he does, he won't feel any guilt.

Do you understand?If the prodigal son has no heart, then the scumbag has a black heart, a dirty and stinking heart.

They not only hurt people, but also intentionally hurt people. In order to get a little profit, they want to drain you, your family, and all the resources around you.

From the perspective of a bystander, everyone can clearly see how scumbag this man is.But why can't the people in the game feel it at all, and even love the scumbag so crazily, so that they have no complaints or regrets?

That's right, this is the first characteristic of scumbags: women will always love scumbags.

There is a saying that everyone knows that men are not bad and women are not loving.In reality, we see the same.

But why?

Don't everyone know that the scumbag is bad?Of course you know, even if you can't feel how bad a person is, you can at least feel your own pain.

There are many reasons why a woman still loves a scumbag even in pain.

First, talk about what kind of men women find attractive.

Is it Gao Fushuai?Is it a literary man?
No, the man women find most attractive is the one they can't control at all.

Sometimes, it is a high-ranking idol, and sometimes, it is one's own boss.

And scumbags are precisely the kind that women can't control the most.

Sometimes you feel like you've got the situation under control, but the scumbag will suddenly disappear, or suddenly cheat, leaving you hit without any preparation.

The second characteristic of scumbags is also their greatest advantage, that is, they have no moral integrity.

When a man has no morals, he can do anything.As long as it benefits them, they can do whatever they want.

Therefore, Tian Ye can ignore a woman when she is pregnant, use a woman when he needs money, and get rid of a woman when she is worthless.

Not only are they selfish, they are bad.Even a selfish person would not intentionally harm others.But as long as they are beneficial to themselves, it doesn't matter even if others die.

This is a terrible thing, because the behavior of most people is controllable and predictable, and it will be carried out within the norms of society.

To put it bluntly, everyone else has a bottom line, but a scumbag has no bottom line.

The third characteristic of scumbags is their variability.

This is also an important reason why women love scumbags.For women, honest and well-behaved men are actually unattractive because they have not changed.

And scumbags are the ones who change the most. They can love you to death one second, and they can marry someone else the next.

Even, they can change their faces many times in one day.

Such a man is fatally attractive to women because there are too many changes.

When this man loves you, you will feel warm.And when you feel the warmest, he will suddenly become cold.

Which woman would be willing?Naturally, she was not reconciled, and she had to work hard to get the man back.

The more unwilling you are, the more you cannot leave this man.

Therefore, beside many scumbags, there are silly girls who can't live without him.

The fourth characteristic of scumbags is that they can never change.

Many girls, after meeting scumbags, always have an illusion that sooner or later they will change, and sooner or later they will be moved by their sincerity and dedication.

But in fact, a scumbag can never change.

Because the more you give, the better you treat him, the scumbag will feel that his scumbag is actually good for him.And as a person with no bottom line, as long as it is good for him, why not continue to scum?

There is only one way for scumbags to change, and that is that they can get greater benefits.

But in fact, when men are worse, women treat them better.

This allows men to scum unscrupulously.

Women's kindness to scumbags is actually to encourage and pamper them.

Finally, let's talk about how to leave the scumbag.

In fact, in our life, it is really hard to say that we will not encounter scumbags at all.Life is so long, who would not meet a few scumbags?
So it doesn't matter if we meet, but we must know how to distinguish scumbags and learn to leave scumbags.

After reading this chapter, it shouldn't be a big problem to distinguish scumbags.

But how to leave the scumbag has become very difficult.

Like we said before, the scumbag a man is, the less likely a woman is to leave.

This matter is like taking drugs, knowing that taking drugs is bad, knowing that drugs are harmful, but there is no way to quit.

Because the dependence on scumbags is as physiological as the dependence on drugs.

For any physical dependence, there will be no natural withdrawal and separation.At this time, the only thing you can do is to mobilize all your willpower and use force to quit.

If you find that the person you fall in love with is indeed a scumbag, then you will have to carry out a series of withdrawal work.

First of all, cut off all contact methods, not just blocking WeChat, Weibo and phone calls, even the communication channels of your friends who are the same.Because scumbags will almost certainly contact you from time to time, and women tend to soften their hearts, and after being contacted, it is easy to get back together.

Second, is to keep yourself busy.If you're not busy enough, all you can think about is the other person.When the human mind is free, it is easy to daydream, but only when you are busy and you have no time to think about it, will you slowly forget.

Finally, you must meet new members of the opposite sex.Even if it's not for a relationship or a date, it's okay to find some men to hang out with, have dinner or watch a movie with.When you have enough good men around you, there is no need to feel sorry for yourself.And full self-confidence is precisely the key point for a woman to quit a man.

All in all, scumbags are very dangerous, and the longer you go, the deeper you will fall.

The only way out is to quit.

(End of this chapter)