Wisdom Book

Chapter 20

take care of your own business as much as possible
Keep your business to a minimum so that you won't be humiliated by others.Self-respect comes first, and then you earn respect.Be strict with yourself in everything, don't indulge yourself, go only when invited by others, and never come uninvited, so that you will be treated kindly by others.You take the initiative to take responsibility, you will insult yourself when things fail, and no one appreciates things when they succeed.Nosy people are easy targets for humiliation, get involved in things they shouldn't be involved in, and end up in a mess.

Don't self-destruct because of other people's bad luck

If a person is in a deep quagmire, he will definitely seek help from others, just to find a fellow sufferer to comfort himself.People in trouble always hope that someone can help them solve their problems. At this time, the people who lend a helping hand are often those who dismiss them when they are in good times.Think twice before helping a drowning person, because in order to help them, you must first put yourself in danger

Don't be overly obliging
Don't be responsible to everyone, or you will become a slave to others.Some people are born luckier than others, and they take pleasure in doing good deeds, and letting others receive his favor.In fact, freedom is more precious than any gift that deprives us of it.Rather than having many people dependent on you, it will make you happier to be independent of anyone.The only advantage of having real power is that you can use it to do more good.You should remember not to take responsibility as a favor, because in most cases, it is someone else's trick, just trying to put you in the passive position of the recipient.

don't act when emotional
Don't act when you are emotional, if you do, you will lose everything.When a person is emotionally out of control, his behavior is often not representative of himself.Reason is always lost to passion.At this time, you should find a calm and prudent third party, because when the parties involved are confused, the bystanders can see clearly.Once a prudent person realizes that his emotions are about to get out of control, he will immediately control it and let it subside gradually, otherwise he will act recklessly because of a momentary impulse.A momentary loss of emotional control can bring a lifetime of regret, as well as the anger of others.

Advancing with the times and striving for success

Our judgment, reasoning, and all, depend on the environment to make decisions.Don't have the slightest hesitation when the time is right, because the time has no patience to wait for you.Life should not be bound by rigid dogma, of course, those about basic moral principles are not included here.Don't be satisfied with the same environment, because tomorrow you may drink the water you despised today.Some people always have some ridiculous ideas. They expect the environment to obey their own whims and help them succeed, instead of changing themselves to adapt to the current situation.A wise man understands that the root of prudence is to follow the trend.

Frivolity is the most unbearable humiliation for a person
Frivolity is the most unbearable humiliation for a person. From the day he is regarded as an ordinary person, he becomes no longer noble and noble.Frivolity is the antithesis of reputation.Just as calm people are considered to be superior to ordinary people, frivolous people are considered inferior to ordinary people, so they cannot command people's respect.Frivolity can damage a person's personality, because frivolity is the exact opposite of seriousness.Even after the age of forty, the frivolous person has no inner self-cultivation, although after years of tempering, he should have become cautious.The defect of frivolity, though common and not new, invites extreme contempt.

Love is different from love

Under normal circumstances, if a person wants to gain the respect of others, he should not let others like you too much.Compared with hate, love is more fragile, and love and respect can never be integrated together.So don't be too intimidating, and don't be too lovable.Favor makes people familiar, and familiarity leads to the gradual erosion of respect.Therefore, let others respect and love you, not be loved by others.

learn to see through people's hearts

The wise man guards against the traps of the mean with good judgment and keen observation.To gain insight into others, you need good judgment.Knowing a man's character and character is more important than knowing the properties of ores and herbs, and it is one of life's most subtle arts.You can distinguish metal by listening to sound, and you can distinguish other people by listening to words and deeds.A person's words can tell whether he is honest, but his actions can reveal more.Extreme prudence, deep observation, keen discrimination and sound judgment can make you gain in this area.

Put your personal qualities above your job requirements

Let your personal qualities take precedence over job requirements, not the other way around.No matter how high your position is, your personal qualities should be higher than it.Your talents should become more prominent as you move up the ranks.Small-minded people can easily get into trouble and lose their reputation as their positions and reputations are gradually diminished.What made the great Augustus proud was not that he was a prince, but that he was a great man.To do this, we need a lofty spirit and down-to-earth self-confidence.

be mature

Whether a person is mature or not is reflected in his clothing and appearance, but more importantly is his behavior habits.The value of precious metals is reflected in their physical weight, and the value of human beings is reflected in their moral weight.Mature people can be decent in words and deeds, and treat others with courtesy, so as to gain people's respect.In a person, equanimity is the outward expression of a mature mind.It is a quiet solemnity, but one that is often dismissed by fools as dull and dull.If a person can have this kind of mature mentality, then he must keep his word and do things.Maturity can make a person perfect, and whether a person's personality is perfect depends on his maturity.When you stop behaving like a child, you are able to develop a sense of majesty.

Viewpoints cannot be biased
Everyone forms opinions differently based on their own interests and always thinks they are right.In fact, most people's judgments are influenced by their own will.We often see two people arguing, each expressing their views, and each thinking they are right.Truth is principled, it cannot have two faces.If this happens, you should deal with it carefully. While carefully considering the other party's point of view, you should also carefully revise your own point of view.Sometimes you might as well think about the problem from the perspective of the other party, and study the reasons for the formation of their views. Only in this way, you will not blindly condemn others or prove yourself in a muddle.

Less bragging, more practical work

Many people who are not qualified to be proud are always the easiest to be proud.They often create a myth that makes everyone feel mysterious and unpredictable.They are like chameleons, all they want to do is to win people's applause, but they only end up being laughed at.Vain people are a nuisance, crawling about like ants, stealing the scraps of other people's exploits.People with greater achievements will abandon their vanity, and they will not show off everywhere.Do what you should do in a down-to-earth manner, and ignore what others say.Don't sell your credit, but give it away.Don't go against human nature, show off your nihilistic achievements everywhere, and let those in the know laugh.It is better to be a real hero than to look like a hero on the surface.

be a man of great talent
Noble qualities make great men.A person of noble character is far better than a group of mediocrity.There are people who always make their belongings, even common household appliances, the best possible.Greatness of soul is what great men seek.With God, everything is infinite and eternal; with a hero, everything should also be grand and solemn. Only in this way can all his words and deeds show extraordinary majesty.

Pay attention to every gesture
A prudent person knows that all his actions will be observed secretly, or will start to be observed soon.He knew that even if it was a secret discussion, others might know about it, and he knew how easily bad news could spread.Even when he is doing things alone, he will act cautiously, as if the whole world is watching him.Knowing that everything will eventually be known, he acted as immediate witnesses to those who later learned of his actions.A man who wishes the world to observe him all the time will not care if his house is searched.

Three things that make a person otherworldly
Profound knowledge, keen judgment and refined taste are the three elements that make a genius.It is good to be thoughtful, but it is even better to be good at reasoning and to have a deep understanding of goodness.The intellect should be kept sharp, not procrastinated in doing things, it should be the fruit of a rational nature.A person has the strongest will at the age of 20, the most intelligent at the age of 30, and the most judgmental at the age of 40.Some people's minds are like cat's eyes, the darker the place, the clearer they can see.Some people can keenly grasp the key points of things, no matter how cumbersome things are, they can sort out the clues and complete it in an orderly manner.As for refined taste, it can make one's life full of pleasure.

make people feel hungry

It often makes people feel hungry, even if it is a fine liquid, it should be removed from its mouth in time.Value depends on a measure of need.When you are thirsty, you can only satisfy it appropriately, not completely solve it.The less of a good thing, the more it makes it better.If the same thing is displayed twice, its value will drop rapidly.Too much joy is dangerous, it will lead people to hate you.Stimulating appetite by maintaining hunger is the magic weapon of pleasure.If you want to whet another's desire, keep him eager, not over-enjoyed.Waiting often doubles the happiness for people.

A thousand words and one sentence: Be a saint

Thousands of words and one sentence: Be a saint, this sentence is more important than any words.Virtue is the link linking perfection, the center of all happiness.It can make you prudent, wise, wise, sensible, intelligent, brave, considerate, prudent, happy, honorable, honest... and finally become a perfect hero.Health, wisdom, and prudence, these three things will make you happy.Virtue is the sun of this universe, half of which is made of conscience.Virtue is so beautiful that it not only wins the favor of God, but also the favor of all beings.There is nothing lovelier than virtue, and nothing more hateful than vice.Everything but virtue is false.A man's talent and greatness are determined not by luck but by virtue.With virtue you have everything.It makes us loved in life and remembered in our death.

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