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Chapter 82: You are asked to educate children. How do you start educating parents? (Three-in-one recommendation vote plus updated chapter!)
At the same time, Sun Wei's parents, who were standing in front of the TV, were even more dumbfounded!

After a long time, Sun Wei's mother's hands trembled and she muttered to herself:

"I was worrying about the mother's heart, doing the nanny's job, constantly touching myself, and finally raised an ignorant child??"

"Ugh!"

Sun Wei's father sighed and said:
"Has Lin Feng installed a camera in our house? I have been nagging Weiwei a lot, saying that you have become her personal nanny. Why doesn't she still listen to you... Oh, I said Don’t these words add fuel to the fire?”

After the words fell, Sun Wei's mother dropped a bean-sized tear on her clothes, she was very wronged:
"But I do it all for her own good. As a mother, I also hope that she will learn from the lessons of her predecessors and avoid taking some detours."

"It seems that you didn't listen to Teacher Lin Feng's words at all."

Sun Wei's father straightened his wife's body and looked directly into her eyes:
"This sentence is still bound in the name of love. If you persist in this way of thinking, Sun Wei will really be driven into a crazy beast."

"And don't forget, Sun Wei is on the verge of going crazy now. Think about the ridiculous things she has done. Think about why she was sent to participate in the show by us?"

"Honey, we only have one daughter. It was okay if we didn't know the problem before, but now we know the problem and we need to change it!"

Sun Wei's mother covered her face, sobbed for a while, and then complained:

"You absorb new ideas very quickly!"

Sun Wei's father heard his wife's softening intention, and smiled lightly:
"I'm in business! If I don't have a keen sense of smell and can't absorb new things quickly, I've been eliminated by the market a long time ago!"

"Besides, I believe in professionals."

"As I said before, we are laymen in education, why don't we listen to Lin Feng?"

Having said all this, the struggle in Sun Wei's mother's heart has calmed down a lot.

However, she still felt awkward. She had already paid so much for Sun Wei.

And this point, even Sun Wei's father, can't empathize with it.

She really sacrificed her career and time, and devoted herself to Sun Wei.

Now that Lin Feng said that she was moved by herself, Sun Wei's mother still couldn't fully accept this point of view.

And in the office scene.

Sun Wei was also shocked, with a tangled face.

After a long time, she spoke softly:
"Is it a trapped beast... Heh... Teacher, my friend can't find a way out, but her mother's sacrifice is real."

"As a bystander, you can say that her mother's dedication is self-moving, but she can't!"

"Because she is indeed a real beneficiary, and the benefits she enjoys cannot be erased."

"If she denies her mother's contribution, she will stab her mother's heart with her own hands. She can't do it."

Hearing these words, the audience in front of the TV completely empathized with Sun Wei's entanglement at this moment.

"Actually, Sun Wei is also a conscientious and filial child. Even if getting along with her mother is uncomfortable, she has to hold her nose and bear it."

"Alas!!! Is this the double-edged sword of doting? But she said it herself, she can't stand it anymore! If this tug-of-war continues like this, is it going to drive someone completely crazy?"

"This can be said to be an unsolvable problem! As the old saying goes, it is difficult for an upright official to deal with household affairs. Teacher Lin Feng is extremely smart and can see the truth clearly, so what can he do?"

"..."

Facing Sun Wei's entanglement, Lin Feng said calmly:

"I didn't ask your friend to deny mother's contribution."

Lin Feng smiled lightly:
"This problem is actually very easy to solve, let me tell you a piece of hot knowledge——"

"It is difficult for parents to protect their children. It is only the excellence of their parents that makes them successful."

"And 90.00% of successful education can be attributed to the power of 'models', and to the correctness and perfection of parents' lives."

"The problem with that friend of yours is not whether she wants to admit or deny her parents' contribution, because the crux of family education is not actually her."

After the words fell, Sun Wei's mother stared blankly at Lin Feng in the picture.

The protection of parents is difficult to make children, and the excellence of parents can make children...

90.00% of successful education can be attributed to role models, and to the correctness and perfection of parents' lives...

The crux of family education is not in the children...

Every word made her feel deafened! !
Yeah, she's also an excellent person and has a whole self.

Why did he end up as a maid and nanny who only revolves around children?
Sun Wei's father looked at his wife for a long time, and said:
"Honey... Actually Weiwei likes to draw because of your influence. She liked the design drawings you made at home when she was a child."

"Do you still remember? Weiwei's first award-winning drawing in kindergarten, she named it 'The Wardrobe', and there are five different skirts on it."

"I still remember that she once secretly told me that she would make all five skirts for you to wear, and asked me to keep this a secret, but later, for some reason, she didn't seem to make those five skirts..."

Hearing this, Sun Wei's mother burst into tears!

Because she knows why!
It was when she discovered that little Sun Wei started to secretly move the needle, thread and scissors, she was afraid that Sun Wei would get hurt.

Not only did he criticize Xiao Sun Wei for not saying anything, but he also packed up all the tools and threw them out.

She, I regret it! !

However, things have developed to this point, how to save it?
After a long time, Sun Wei's mother said:
"Husband, how about we contact the program team and ask Teacher Lin Feng how we should teach Weiwei?"

……

In the school office, Sun Wei was immersed in thinking.

Regarding Lin Feng's words, understanding it from her perspective is to learn from her parents as role models.

But in practice, as a player in the game, she found that she had nowhere to start.

Mom, who gave up her job, revolves around her every day.

She was stunned to find that she didn't know what to learn from her.

Because my mother was doing everything, but she didn't seem to be doing anything, so she couldn't grasp the point.

Dad is an excellent entrepreneur.

But she didn't know at all what kind of state her father was in when he was working.

Just knowing that Dad often stays up late and goes on business trips, there is no way to learn from it.

At this moment, Sun Wei felt a little lonely.

They are obviously his parents, why have they become the most familiar strangers?

The more Sun Wei thought about it, the more distressed she felt, but Lin Feng took the initiative to speak and interrupted her thoughts:

"Sun Wei, if you want to solve this problem, you still need to communicate with your friend and her parents."

"Problem solving is a two-way street. Your friend doesn't need to compromise unilaterally, but to convince her parents to improve their homeschooling methods."

After hearing these words, various emotions surged in Sun Wei's heart.

Now she is touched by the news. This is the first time that someone understands her from her perspective.

But more than anything, I am still helpless.

Since the problem does not lie with you, it means that you are powerless to solve the problem.

She went to tell her parents that "there is a problem with your education method", not only will she not get a little attention from her parents, but she is more likely to get criticism and accusations.

It can only exacerbate family conflicts!

Lin Feng looked at Sun Wei who lowered her head and said nothing, sighed softly, reached out and patted her pink blue head gently:
"Sun Wei, I will leave the matter to you to resolve."

"You're a kid, why do you need to think so much?"

"Okay, it's getting late, you can go back and have dinner."

"Well...thank you teacher, I'm going back to eat."

Sun Wei nodded, bowed her head and walked out.

Looking at Sun Wei's back, Lin Feng looked thoughtful.

Sun Wei and Wu Peng are different, they have completely different educational backgrounds.

For Wu Peng's family, the focus of education is on Wu Peng.

But for Sun Wei's family, the focus of education is actually on her parents.

I hope that what I just said can be passed on to Sun Wei's parents.

If there is an opportunity, it is best to communicate in person.

All these require finding the right opportunity...

Just as Lin Feng was thinking, Sun Wei's parents watched Sun Wei leave the office and let out a soft breath.

"Husband, Weiwei has left now, why don't we contact Teacher Lin and ask how to teach Weiwei."

"Well, since Mr. Lin said that the problem lies with us, we must find out and prescribe the right medicine."

Sun Wei's father heard this and nodded in agreement.

At this time, Liu Yong, the director of the program group, was scratching his head helplessly.

He heard Lin Feng's words very clearly, and it was precisely because he knew it very clearly that he was embarrassed now.

Because the current highlight of his show is that these children from the city have changed after receiving Lin Feng's education?
That kid Wu Peng seems to have been taught by Mr. Lin.

But for Sun Wei, now it is said that the problem is actually Sun Wei's parents?
In other words, Teacher Lin does not need to educate Sun Wei, but to educate her parents?
But Teacher Lin couldn't get in touch with them, wouldn't this problem be very difficult to solve!
"How about I come forward to contact Sun Wei's parents?"

As soon as Liu Yong had this idea, he shook his head and said:

"Now the ratings are all supported by Teacher Lin himself. If he doesn't plan to contact Sun Wei's parents now, wouldn't it be a mess for me to command blindly in the middle?"

Liu Yong vacillated and was extremely entangled.

At this moment, the phone rang, leaving him stunned.

This is a special phone number to contact parents!

At this time, whose parents will it sound?

He answered the phone and saw that they were indeed Sun Wei's parents!
Liu Yong was instantly overjoyed, and quickly picked up the phone.After exchanging pleasantries, the director's voice sounded in the headset of the big cameraman in the office:

"Group C camera, go ask Teacher Lin, Sun Wei's parents want to ask about education, can I ask Teacher Lin to answer the phone?"

Upon hearing this, the cameraman quickly stepped forward to convey the director's intention.

Lin Feng raised his eyebrows slightly. He was still thinking about this just now, and now he got a call? !

"It just so happens that I have time now, so take it."

Lin Feng nodded in agreement.

As soon as Liu Yong agreed, he hurriedly ran towards the school frantically with his mobile phone in his pocket.

At this moment, Sun Wei walked slowly because she had something on her mind, and did not go very far.

Seeing that the director of the program group ran into Lin Feng's office so anxiously.

Now her curiosity arose:

"What could make the director so anxious?"

She immediately changed her pace, quietly hid outside the office and began to eavesdrop.

At this moment, the director handed the phone to Lin Feng.

I just heard a cautious female voice coming from the other side of the phone:

"Hello, Teacher Lin, I am Sun Wei's mother."

"I, I want to ask you for advice, how should I bring Sun Wei back on track?"

On the other end of the phone, Sun Wei's parents sat upright with their hands on their thighs.

They stared awkwardly at the phone on the coffee table with the loudspeaker turned on.

Lin Feng was stunned for a moment, then smiled calmly and asked:
"Excuse me, as Sun Wei's parents, where do you think Sun Wei's life should be on the right track?"

After the words fell, Sun Wei's parents were immediately dumbfounded by the question.

"This... is..."

Sun Wei's mother hesitated, but Sun Wei's father gave a clear answer:

"We just hope that Sun Wei will listen to us, study hard, and inherit the family business in the future, so that our hard work as parents will not be in vain."

"Teacher Lin, everything I do is for the benefit of my children. What we have come to today is not what we wanted."

"Well, I can understand your thinking."

Lin Feng nodded and said.

However, the next second he changed the topic:
"Father Sun Wei, you said that you are doing everything for the good of the child, but can Sun Wei accept this kind of good?"

"Why must Sun Wei obediently listen to you and grow up according to your wishes?"

"Sun Wei, this little sapling, you all knew before that there is no way to make her grow into the shape you want, but you still constrain her persistently."

"Don't you feel that you are unknowingly restraining her too much?"

At this point, Lin Feng sighed.

He slowed down his tone before continuing:
"Whether it is a parent or a teacher, their original intention is to hope that their children will do well. We have the same position on this."

"However, Sun Wei is an independent individual. She has a sound personality and can think about problems by herself."

"At this time, we use the concepts of our generation to force her to grow up according to our standards in order to obtain so-called happiness. Isn't it too cruel?"

"Children are not our appendages!"

"Let me give you an example, Father Sun Wei, if your parents say they are doing it for your own good, can they interfere with your business decisions?"

After Lin Feng finished speaking, Sun Wei's father said reflexively:
"That won't work!! Besides, it's inappropriate to compare this kind of thing. My parents can't keep up with the times now, and I should be the one who makes the decision."

"is it?"

Lin Feng said with a faint smile:
"But in this world, those who can keep up with the times or influence the development of the times are all new generations!"

"Father Sun Wei, think about it, is this the truth?"

After the words fell, Sun Wei's father fell silent.

Lin Feng continued his efforts and added fire:

"You know, in the woods, the small trees that are sheltered by tall trees are all malnourished."

"Because while providing security, the big trees also rob the saplings of sunlight and nutrients."

"At this time, the young saplings want to get more sunlight and nutrients, so they can only find a way to break through the shelter of the big tree, and the final result is that they grow in strange shapes!"

"Sun Wei's various behaviors are both a breakout and a cry for help. You should think carefully about it!"

After the words fell, Sun Wei's parents fell into silence.

After a long time, Sun Wei's father spoke dryly:

"Mr. Lin, I understand."

"What you mean is that we, as parents, cannot use our own ideas to define our children's happiness, nor can we impose our own ideas on our children."

"As the bird grows older, it will eventually leave the nest..."

There was bitterness in the words, but also a bit of relief.

As a successful businessman, Sun Wei's father has always been willing to accept different ideas and things, not to mention that Lin Feng made sense in every word.

The audience in the live broadcast room heard the interaction between the two and nodded.

"In this way, I understand why there is a saying that the rich are not more than three generations? Because many previous generations are too protective of the next generation, so that the autonomy of the next generation is too poor. After the previous generation passes away, the descendants will also guard the I can't live in the family business anymore."

"Mr. Lin Feng is right. The young people of each generation are the ones who can keep up with the world and influence the world. The older generation uses old ideas to suppress it forcibly. The final result is that when they can't protect their children, they will sigh in vain. Not as good as a generation."

"Sun Wei's father deserves to be such a successful businessman, his ability to accept is very strong!!"

"Why didn't I think that Sun Wei's various resistances were actually asking for help? Teacher Lin Feng really understands students very well!!"

"..."

Everyone was talking in the live broadcast room. The director watched the discussion closely and felt happy.

At this time, Sun Wei's mother's voice came from the other end of the phone:

"Mr. Lin, I understand the truth, but I..."

There was a pause, and it seemed that there was something difficult to say:

"Study hard, learn business management in the future, and then inherit the family business, shouldn't this be Sun Wei's smooth path and the right track? After all, you also know... Our family's situation is indeed different from other families."

Lin Feng paused, he understood what Sun Wei's mother meant.

With such a large family business to inherit, and such a flat avenue to reach the sky, no matter who looks at it, what is it?
Sun Wei's conditions can be said to be better than most people in the world, why bother to start all over again?
However, what Lin Feng wants to say is, what if this child's wish is that he wants to take another path?
Parents' coercion at this time is more cruel to children than wind, frost, and swords!

Moreover, even from another perspective, since the family conditions are already so good, there is no need for children to consider their own financial situation.

Isn't it a happy scene for children at this time to go into battle with light clothes and chase their dreams?
Lin Feng knew where the obsession in Sun Wei's mother's heart came from, so he said softly:

"Mom Sun Wei, I heard from Sun Wei's description that you are a full-time mother, right?"

Lin Feng spoke calmly:

"I personally have no prejudice against the profession of full-time mother or full-time father."

"However, in order to cultivate children into talents, I do not agree with the practice that at least one of the parents must accompany and manage the children full-time."

"The first reason is that when you quit your job to take care of your children, you are spending time with your children every day. At this time, if your methods are unscientific and your family education methods are incorrect, then the result will be that you spend time with your children. The longer the time, the worse the children will be taught.”

"The second reason is that when one person pays for another person, even parents who pay for their children will feel a huge sense of sacrifice. Look at me for you, I lost my job, my career, and my money—when this huge sense of sacrifice lingers in my heart, the person who gives will think that the child should fulfill all the wishes of the giver, Otherwise, it is a waste of cultivation, this kind of obsession means that the child must become the property of the giver, once there is a slight violation, the family will jump around and fall into serious internal friction."

"There is also a third reason. A child's learning is only a stage in his life. Learning is not the whole of a child's life. He also needs to make a long-term plan and development for his life. Then, the child needs to see his parents Occupation, career, sense of accomplishment and social value in this world, at this time, mothers or fathers who stay at home full-time will have obvious shortcomings, and it is difficult for children to see a so-called "role model" from full-time parents! "

"In other words, Sun Wei's mother, you are a full-time wife. If you become Sun Wei's role model now, then Sun Wei's life goal may be the same as yours, to become a full-time wife."

"Is this what you want to see?"

After Lin Feng's words fell, the audience in the live broadcast room fell into deep thought.

"I'm going to be a mother soon, but I'm very busy with work. I still want to give up work and concentrate on raising my children. Now, Teacher Lin Feng's words have reminded me!"

"As a class teacher, I advise you to listen to Teacher Lin Feng, because I have already discovered that the children brought up by full-time mothers or full-time fathers in our class have early anxiety. Now it seems that it should be parents who sacrificed too much I am too old, and I always talk about it in my child's ear, which puts too much pressure on the child, so if you really want to take care of the child full-time, please consider carefully."

"Ms. Lin Feng's words are great! I was relieved immediately. The moral kidnapping brought about by this kind of self-moving sacrifice is really terrible. My wife, I didn’t have a job for a year, but what I got in exchange was all kinds of unhappiness! It’s exactly the same as what Teacher Lin Feng said!! I will have a second child in the future, and I won’t be full-time anymore. I still have to work.”

"I agree that everyone should have their own career. Children need to see the social value of their parents and let parents be role models for their children!"

"..."

Not only were people in the live broadcast room asking, but Sun Wei's mother was also confused.

Because Lin Feng poked at her secret thoughts——

She indeed hopes that Sun Wei will obey her words, even though her starting point from the beginning was not that she wanted Sun Wei to become her appendage.

But she can't lie to herself, she just hopes that Sun Wei can be worthy of what she has done...

Now, Sun Wei's mother could no longer be stubborn, and she couldn't help thinking:
The harm of full-time work is clear, but the problem is that I am already full-time, what should I do now? ?

However, although she has been away from the workplace for many years, Sun Wei's father's contacts and face are there, and it is relatively easy to return to the workplace.

Thinking of this, Sun Wei's mother asked hesitantly.

"Mr. Lin Feng, should I find a class right now?"

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