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Chapter 81 Self-moving education!Taking care of children has become serving children (three-in-one reward plus more chapters!)

After Sun Wei made up her mind, she focused on waiting for the lunch break at noon.

She thought very clearly that it would take an afternoon for Teacher Lin Feng to explain Wu Peng.

Then I probably can't figure out anything just by relying on the poor recess time.

Finally, Lin Feng ended his morning lecture.

He had just returned to the office and drank a few sips of water when he heard the door behind him being pushed open with a "squeak".

Sun Wei's pink blue head stuck out:

"teacher LIN?"

Lin Feng was actually waiting for him, because he had already noticed Sun Wei's absent-mindedness when he was in the lower grades in class.

"Sun Wei, sit down, what's the matter?"

Lin Feng casually pulled over a stool, and very peacefully motioned for Sun Wei to sit down.

The placement angle of this stool is also very particular.

It neither made the two of them face to face, which increased the pressure on Sun Wei, nor was it too far away, which increased the alienation of both parties.

This sideways sitting made the unexplainable anxiety in Sun Wei's heart gradually subside.

After a pause, Sun Wei said:
"Ms. Lin, I have a friend who told me a lot about her."

"But I don't know how to help her. I want to tell you, please help her analyze and analyze, can you?"

"Huh? Yes, you can tell."

Lin Feng nodded without any surprise on his face.

It was the audience in the anchor room who ate melons.

"I hope you know, I have a friend = me, hahahaha!"

"Sun Wei still wants to save face. I'm sorry to say that I have encountered difficulties and don't know how to solve them."

"Hahahaha, it's hard for Teacher Lin Feng. The expression on his face is still serious. If it were me, I would smile first as a sign of respect."

"What difficulties is Sun Wei facing? Too much money to spend?"

"Money can eliminate 90.00% of the difficulties in the world. Sun Wei's problem is the one percent that money can't solve. Teacher Lin Feng has taken on a tricky job!"

"..."

In front of the TV, Sun Wei's mother, who had been paying attention to the program, immediately called her husband in the study excitedly:
"Husband, don't be too busy. Teacher Lin Feng and Weiwei are talking! Come and see!"

Sun Wei's father snapped, closed the document in his hand, took three steps and two steps at a time, and rushed to the living room.

"Is it finally our child's turn?!"

The two of them sat on the sofa anxiously and watched the live broadcast.

At this time, Sun Wei thought about her words and said:

"My friend, she's a little... weird."

"That's right, she was a premature baby. When she was just born, the hospital issued two critical illness notices. Fortunately, she was rescued in the end, but her health has not been very good."

"In order to take better care of her, her mother quit her job and changed from a well-known fashion designer in China to a full-time housewife."

"Teacher, you don't know, my friend's mother was originally a woman who was obsessed with design, aura and aesthetics, but in order to take good care of the child, she gave up all her hobbies and devoted herself to the child."

"When her child doesn't eat well, she goes to a chef to learn cooking skills, and a Chinese medicine doctor to learn how to regulate her spleen and stomach. When the child reaches school age, she will memorize all the content that needs to be memorized in the child's textbook in advance, and then on the way to class, Randomly check the child's recitation status. If the child wants to make up lessons, she can first go to all the training institutions on the market to listen to the courses, select the teacher she thinks is the best, and pay a high price to invite her to her home..."

Hearing this, Lin Feng had a slight taste.

If Wu Peng is a free-range child, then Sun Wei is a child strictly controlled by parents.

One tube is too loose, one tube is too tight.

The end result is that both children have problems...

When the audience in the live broadcast room heard it, they also felt a little emotional.

"Poor parents in the world! Sun Wei has a very good mother, but after all she has done, why does Sun Wei still...well, you know."

"It can only be said that it's not easy for parents these days. Not all efforts can yield positive flowers, but there is one thing to say, Sun Wei and Wu Peng are still different. Once she starts to wake up, her future is still very promising. .”

"I am a fan of Wu Peng's mother. I don't accept it. Wu Peng has already started to change. This silly boy is just a little empty-minded!"

"..."

While the audience was discussing, Sun Wei's confession continued:

"My friend is very grateful for the mother's contributions. Without her, there would be no mother."

"However, I don't know when it started, but things slowly began to change."

"Um……"

Sun Wei pondered for a long time before clarifying her thoughts and said slowly:

"The first time my friend had a conflict with my mother, it was actually because of a very small matter, so small that my friend didn't understand why my mother was so angry that day, it was unreasonable."

"When I was going to school that morning, there was a car accident about 600 meters away from the school, and there was a traffic jam. My friend was anxious to go to school, so he told his mother that it was such a small distance, so I could just walk there."

"In my friend's opinion, it was just a few hundred meters walk to school, but her mother actually parked the car in the middle of the road, got out of the car with her, and wanted to carry her schoolbag and hold her hand. past."

"Teacher, you also know that the road is not owned by my friend. Leaving the car in the middle of the road will worsen the traffic jam. My friend felt that this was completely unnecessary and felt a little ashamed, so he got into a fight with his mother. "

"But from her mother's point of view, she doesn't even want her car anymore. Even if her driver's license is deducted points, she doesn't care. She sacrificed so much for my friend. Why doesn't my friend want to listen to her?"

"Anyway... In the end, the family car was impounded, and my friend was late for school."

"After this incident, my friend suddenly realized that she could actually do many things by herself, but her mother never let her do it."

"For example, she doesn't need her mother to wake her up at all. She can set the alarm clock by herself and wake up by herself when the alarm clock rings. But her mother will always be at the door on time and wake her up."

"Also, my friend can do things like washing her face and brushing her teeth by herself, but her mother always has to test the water temperature by herself, and always squeeze out toothpaste for my friend..."

"It's the same for serving rice and vegetables. It seems that in her mother's eyes, my friend is like a child who will never grow up and needs her care forever."

Sun Wei babbled about the details of how she got along with her mother.

The audience in the live broadcast room sighed endlessly.

"Isn't it? It's all like this, why is the child still not satisfied? I think it's pretty good!"

"If I have such a mother, I must have smashed the merits accumulated by countless wooden fish in my previous life."

"I can't figure it out. I really can't figure it out. Why can Sun Wei become what she is today with such a good mother and family background? Wu Peng became like this because no one taught her well, and Sun Wei is obviously not."

"How can I say this? I suddenly realized that education is really difficult! It's so easy to get blamed!"

"..."

Lin Feng patiently listened to Sun Wei's ramblings, and many problems were hidden in these trivial details.

"Teacher, in fact, in the end, my friends gave up on themselves a little bit, so it was very uncomfortable!"

There was sadness in Sun Wei's voice, but more confusion:
"In front of her parents, she has no self. She must do everything according to their parents' wishes, from the temperature of water to the amount of toothpaste, to the books she should read and the line of work she wants to pursue in the future."

"As long as what she wants to do is not what her parents want her to do, she will be hindered by all kinds of soft, hard, explicit, and secret..."

"The most common thing her parents say is that we have removed countless obstacles for you. You just need to listen to us and do it. But why don't you do it? Can your parents still harm you? ??”

"These words overwhelm my friend!"

"Later, my friend broke out and started to confront his parents and teachers. When they said something east, my friend went west."

"Since then, she has become an ignorant child, a problem child and a problem student."

In front of the TV, after Sun Wei's parents listened to Sun Wei's confession, the two looked at each other, and they both saw incomprehension in each other's eyes.

"This child, you can say that she doesn't understand my painstaking efforts. She also knows that I gave up the fashion design job I love, and everything revolves around her. You can say that she understands my painstaking efforts, and she refuses to be obedient. Is it weird?"

As Sun Wei's mother spoke, her eyes turned red, feeling aggrieved.

Why is raising children so difficult?

It’s not this, it’s not that, it’s really easy to get blamed.

Could it be that only when Sun Wei becomes a mother in the future can she truly empathize with her own mother? ?

Sun Wei's father knew his wife's heart knot, so he gently hugged her and comforted her:

"The child is still young, so teach her slowly. You see, she can speak to Teacher Lin Feng now, which means there is still hope."

"As parents, don't we end up swallowing all our grievances and hard work for the sake of our children? Look at it more openly."

Even so, Sun Wei's father still let out a sigh.

Raising children is really hard!

I don't know if Lin Feng can teach this eccentric child well.

……

In the office, Sun Wei looked at Lin Feng nervously and asked him:
"Teacher, do you think my friend is sick? Okay, I have to do it!"

After speaking, Sun Wei looked at Lin Feng anxiously.If he nodded, he agreed that her friend was really doing a good job.

It means that Lin Feng is actually similar to outsiders, so this conversation is actually unnecessary.

But in Sun Wei's heart, she was still hoping that Lin Feng could help "this friend" find the crux of the problem.

Facing Sun Wei's question, Lin Feng nodded and said:
"It really does work."

"what?"

Facing Sun Wei's disappointed gaze, Lin Feng smiled lightly:
"But I'm talking about your friend's parents, Zuo, really Zuo."

Lin Feng shook his head, looking regretful.

Listening to the whole story, it turns out that Sun Wei's parents are typical self-motivated parents.

This kind of parents are not very good at empathy, they only know to pay according to their own wishes, regardless of what the child's real needs are.

In addition, because Sun Wei was born prematurely, the parents subconsciously believed that Sun Wei would always be weak and needed special care.

Although from the beginning, taking care of Sun Wei really required more dedication than a full-term child.

But her parents forgot that after the dangerous period passed, the child's body is getting better and better.

At this time, the continuation of this kind of "exquisite care", coupled with the fact that I am easily moved by myself, has led to the current situation.

I hope that Sun Wei's child's thoughts will be the same as her body, and under her own care, she will get better and better according to her own wishes.

Sun Wei's health is getting better and better, but she is also human and has her own independent thoughts.

Once Sun Wei doesn't conform to her parents' ideas, her parents will fall into self-pity-why have I paid so much, but you still haven't been moved?

But at this time, the child is no longer a child, but a tree in the hands of the gardener, fixing and pruning it in the hope that it will grow into the perfect look in his mind.

However, after all, people cannot be trees that can be pruned at will.

No, the two sides began to wrestle...

At this time, it was Lin Feng's words that stunned the audience who were still criticizing Sun Wei in the live broadcast room just now.

What does Lin Feng mean, is that Sun Wei's parents did something wrong?
How is that possible? !
For Sun Wei, not to mention giving up work, Sun Wei is always the first in life.

If this kind of person is not a qualified mother, who else in this world is qualified to be a mother? !
"Oh my god, the mother who brought Sun Wei in, I'm afraid she's going to die of anger when she receives such an evaluation from Teacher Lin Feng."

"??? In my understanding, those who are not qualified to be parents are those who don't treat children as human beings and abuse them, right? What did Sun Wei's parents do wrong??"

"Things must not be so simple. We all know that Sun Wei is not talking about her friends, but about herself. Maybe Teacher Lin Feng wants to open Sun Wei's heart in this way? It is true that the sword is going to the wrong side!"

"The possibility you said cannot be ruled out, but it is too much and a bit uncomfortable."

"That's right! I'm a mother who puts the child first. I wake up every morning to make breakfast for the child. Since the child was born, I have never slept in. With Teacher Lin Feng's evaluation, I have already started to get angry. "

"Is it a mistake to pay too much?? What should parents do??"

"Teacher Lin Feng doesn't have children. He is not a father, so talking about parents is a bit too extreme and the method is wrong."

"..."

In the living room of Sun Wei's house, Sun Wei's mother had already been petrified.

After a while, she exclaimed in disbelief:

"Isn't it? Teacher Lin said I did it?"

"Don't be impatient, Lin Feng probably wants to stabilize our daughter's emotions, and it's not like you don't know how difficult our daughter is."

Sun Wei's father held down his wife who was jumping a little.

Based on his understanding of Lin Feng, he was not a teacher who would criticize anyone without reason.

Now that you have spoken, you might as well listen carefully.

……

Office of the Education Group.

Ouyang Yun was writing his own comments at the end of a document and signing his name.

Then, he picked up the phone on his desk and summoned his secretary:
"There is a document that needs to be issued."

The secretary came in holding a mobile phone. After entering, he did not pick up the documents Ouyang Yun mentioned first, but said:
"Team leader, Lin Feng made something shocking again."

"is it?"

Ouyang Yun smiled lightly, disapproving.

He was used to Lin Feng like this, or in other words, he had absolute confidence in Lin Feng.

The amazing words are just because Lin Feng's cognition is far beyond the level of the public.

No fuss.

"You can send this document down first. As for what Lin Feng said, just read it by yourself when I eat."

Facing the calm leader, the secretary put away her phone and took the document.

But when he saw clearly the content of the reply, his eyes widened!

"Group, group leader, will this push Lin Feng too high? Do you want to... think again?"

"No, I've made up my mind, besides, Lin Feng can afford it."

Ouyang Yun waved his hand to the secretary:

"go a head."

The secretary nodded and left.

Ouyang Yun took out his mobile phone and skillfully opened the live broadcast of the program group.

As soon as he opened it, he heard Lin Feng's voice:
"Follow the mother's heart, do the nanny's work, keep moving myself, and finally raise an ignorant child."

"This is a common reality for many parents today."

Lin Feng looked at Sun Wei and sighed:

"You, my friend, when faced with all the sacrifices made by your mother, it's not that you don't understand, but that you feel suffocated with no words to express, right?"

"She is an independent individual with her own ideas, but whenever her ideas are inconsistent with her parents' ideas, her parents will always say - 'Look at how hard my mother is for you'. Force her to obey."

"It worked out well at first, she did think she was wrong and she shouldn't make her mother feel bad for having her own thoughts."

"However, as you get older and see a wider world, your friend wants to try more and more things. You can't say wrong or right about these things, because she hasn't tried them at all. , I was stopped by my parents."

"And the way her parents stopped her was to bind her in the name of love, always saying what they sacrificed for your friend, why your friend doesn't know how to be grateful."

"In the long run, your friend will feel very uncomfortable, but there is nothing you can do, because everyone will use this trick when she has her own ideas and refuses to listen to persuasion, and the mother's contribution is too real, and there is no way to ignore it. "

"So, she can either resist, as you said just now, if her parents say east, she insists on going west, or she can resist passively, such as obedience to obedience and disobedience, and she will not pay for her life when she is angry."

"However, she also feels guilty for doing this, so she will reflect on herself, am I a weirdo?"

"Where is she a weirdo, she is obviously a trapped beast, a trapped beast with nowhere to go, a trapped beast driven to madness."

"In the end, I don't think it's surprising that your friend is fighting against the whole world, and I'm stressed."

Having said that, Lin Feng looked at Sun Wei with compassion:

"Many parents don't understand. This is just a self-motivating carnival for parents."

"People who are immersed in this kind of self-impression do not realize that they are actually hurting their children and themselves at the same time."

Lin Feng's words fell, which immediately aroused the thinking of countless viewers in front of the TV.

"Holy shit, goosebumps are up!! Crying, Teacher Lin Feng really understands me! For example, my mother called me yesterday to complain that the house was too hot. I told her that there is air conditioning in the house. Ask her to turn on the air conditioner, so as not to get sick due to heat, but she said that it is not easy for me to earn money, and if I can save a penny, it is a penny, but I don’t turn it on! This is not a self-impressive contribution, what is it to hurt yourself?! Really If something goes wrong with the heat, neither her body nor my wallet can afford to be hurt!!"

"My family is the same, my mother is like this! She never eats meat at the dinner table, and always says that she gives meat to our children, which makes us feel guilty! But our family does not lack those pieces of meat. She often just couldn’t finish the last few pieces of meat and left them, and she would get angry again, saying that we wasted, that she was pitiful, and kept picking up leftovers to eat. She often said that her life was hard, and she ate leftovers every day. I still don't understand her... I'm really speechless, why do you do this?"

"This reminds me of my third year graduation party. My dad sent me to school. I went out to buy something and found him waiting outside the school. As soon as he saw me, he kept emphasizing that he was waiting there. After a few hours, I finally said that I was guilty, so I had to get on the bus and go home, and I didn’t attend the last dinner with my classmates and teachers. In fact, I have been very uncomfortable and regretful. My dad can obviously go to his own business first, and just pick me up when the time comes, if not, I can also take the bus home by myself, but he just wants to smoke outside and wait for those hours!"

"I remembered a story I once saw. A family was eating out. The mother kept picking up food for the child and persuading the child to eat. The child said: Mom, why do you love to serve others so much? The mother said: You are still young, I Of course I have to take care of you. The child said: You are serving, not taking care of. The father asked: What is the difference between serving and taking care of? The child said, taking care of is something I don’t know how to do. If you do it for me, serving is what I can do. You still help me do things. I know why Sun Wei is so uncomfortable, because Sun Wei does not want her parents to serve her like this. What she hopes is to grow up under the care of her parents, but obviously, her right to grow up Deprived of it by parents.”

"My God, after reading your speech, I am really convinced by Mr. Lin Feng. He is right. People who are immersed in this kind of self-moving are double harming themselves and their families!!"

"As soon as I was disobedient, all the seven and eight aunts in my family jumped out. What was said was that my parents did something for me, but I didn't appreciate it. Just listening to their words, I thought I had done something It's an outrageous thing, but I just think differently from adults!"

"..."

PS: Originally, regarding the question of Sun Wei, the author wanted to write about "the dangers of parents' moral kidnapping of children through self-motivated education."I would like to thank Qidian reader [Yuanshi Tianzun Master] for his comments a few days ago, which gave the author new inspiration. The view in the text that "in family education, parents only need to take care of their children, rather than serve them" comes from this reader comment of.

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