see you in spring

Chapter 40 New Year’s Nightmare [-]

Seeing that the two were about to quarrel, Han Guyu quickly intervened: "Yanzi, Jia Lie is also worried about you. I hope you can stand up soon so that you don't have to be bullied by your in-laws."

Sun Yan took a few breaths and suppressed the surge of breath.

Jia Lie knew that Sun Yan had been suppressed for too long, so as a friend, she would not care about these emotional problems with her.

She patiently advised Sun Yan as she did to Dongqing: "I can understand that in the past few years since you left the workplace, you have been out of touch with society, so you have no confidence in your own abilities and all aspects. Because Dongqing is just like you, I talk to you every day We get along with him day and night, and I see all his changes. So, it’s not like you just said that I don’t understand the situation between you and Dongqing at all. Maybe I was a little impatient just now and used the wrong words, but I really mean it. You and Dongqing are anxious. We were classmates, and no one knows better than me how outstanding you were when you were students. It makes me really sad to see you like this now. Dongqing has my reasons, so I have always I am trying to think of ways to make up for and encourage him, and you are my sister, so of course I hope you can get out of the predicament and stand up again."

Sun Yan was indeed angry at Jia Lie's words just now.But now, tears were brought out by her words again.

She sniffed: "I know you all do it for my own good, but I really don't have confidence."

Seeing that she was willing to listen to her calmly, Jia Lie quickly struck while the iron was hot: "Unconfidence comes from your own lack of strength. You can take advantage of this moment to read the book by yourself first, and slowly pick up what you have learned before while taking the exam. After passing the exam, Your confidence will naturally increase. Of course, when you go to apply for jobs, it may be difficult to apply for the original position, but if you are willing to start from the most junior position, how could those companies not want you? After all, you are also a former working person, no better than those who have just started. How much better are the graduates who really have no experience at all?”

Han Guyu also agreed: "I think what Jia Lie said is the same way. Isn't English your strong point? You should first take a business English test, a high-value certificate, and let the interviewer see your ability when you apply for the job. That way This can offset the blank period of the past few years.”

Sun Yan shook her head and sighed: "In the past few years, I have only known about children's poop and pee, and I have forgotten all the words in my mind. Last time I wrote a simple email, I had to look it up in the dictionary. In my current situation, how can I take a high-level exam? Evidence."

"Everything is difficult at the beginning. You used to be our top student in 315. Gu Yu and I both have high hopes for you."

Just as Sun Yan was about to speak, her younger son snatched the phone away.

When she looked at the phone and almost dropped it to the ground, Sun Yan got mad instantly and slapped the child twice: "Didn't you see that mom was talking? Who asked you to come over and grab the phone?"

The child cried loudly, and the eldest son was also frightened.

Han Guyu and Jia Lie on the other end of the phone quickly persuaded: "Aren't all children like this? Don't get angry."

Seeing the child crying out of breath, Sun Yan became even more angry: "If you cry again, I will throw you out to feed the wolves."

The elder son was so frightened that he hurried over to cover the mouth of the younger son, and the two children were too frightened to howl anymore.

Han Guyu criticized Sun Yan and said: "Don't scare your children like this. This kind of education will have psychological shadow on them."

Sun Yan picked up the phone, still very angry: "They have psychological shadow, what about me?"

Jia Lie quickly sat down to be the peacemaker: "Okay, okay, today is the first day of the Lunar New Year, don't cry, Xiao Tao, Da Tao, aunt will give you a big red envelope, okay, let mom buy you delicious snacks online?"

The two children nodded awkwardly.

Jia Lie handed over two red envelopes to Sun Yan and said to her: "I know you are in a bad mood, so don't take it out on the child. The person who did the wrong thing is Liu Quantao, and it has nothing to do with the child. Let's not talk about it now, you start quickly. Learn, don't be impulsive, remember to discuss with me and Gu Yu."

Han Guyu also sent a red envelope: "Yanzi, don't think too much, have a good rest."

After Sun Yan exited the video call, Han Guyu immediately told Jia Lie: "I seriously suspect that Yanzi has depression."

Jia Lie thought for a while, then shook his head and said, "No way, she was angry about Liu Quantao."

"Think about it, with Sun Yan's temper, how could she take out her anger on her children? And just now, you just persuaded her to go to work, and she immediately became anxious with you. Such an explosive and angry temper is not what she wants at all. She is in a normal state, and she is very unconfident. No matter how others cheer her up, she feels that she is not good enough. These are the symptoms of depression."

Jia Lie still shook his head: "She just stayed at home for too long, and she was stimulated by the affair."

"Let me tell you, many people with depression are mistaken for being stimulated. In fact, they are indeed stimulated. It is long-term, repeated and non-stop stimulation. Think about it, Yanzi worked hard to raise two The children have to serve their mother-in-law and brother-in-law. Even if the mother-in-law doesn't help, she still stirs up trouble every day. This kind of long-term denial and torture is enough to make many women prone to depression. Now she finds that she and Liu Quantao have problems in their relationship. , this was the last straw that broke the camel's back, with so many things coming together, can there be no problem?"

Hearing Han Guyu's analysis, Jia Lie also became worried: "Then if it is really depression, what will Yanzi do?"

"I can only accept treatment and get out of my own way." After Han Guyu finished speaking, he began to scold Liu Quantao again. After finishing the scolding, he sighed: "The three of us in the dormitory, from school uniforms to wedding dresses, envied many people. But who could have known that in just ten years, their marriage was already in jeopardy. Now you are the only one who is still strong. You and Dongqing must continue to be good, otherwise I will really no longer believe in love. ."

Jia Lie couldn't laugh or cry: "Don't talk nonsense. If Sun Yan gets back on her feet, I will support her divorce. But on your side, I really don't understand what the problem is between you and Zhou You, why do you have to divorce? Woolen cloth?"

Han Guyu sniffled: "What else can it be, my child."

"But the problem of children is not just a matter of one day or two. We have been together for ten years, and we are getting divorced because we have no children? Do you think it is really because of this? Have you had a good talk with Zhou You?"

Although Jia Lie was so angry that she wanted to support Gu Yu's divorce, now that she sees Sun Yan like this, she really doesn't want to see all the sisters in the dormitory divorce.Maybe what Yan Zi said is right. After a hundred years of cultivation, the friendship of more than ten years should not be given up so easily.

"Not only have we talked, but we have also argued several times." Han Guyu said angrily.

"I have read an article before, saying that if two people already have a good emotional foundation beforehand, then because they have been together day and night in the past, their relationship will be better, because things will be easier to communicate. If we talk about this paragraph Problems arise in a marriage during this period. In fact, there are problems in this marriage from the beginning, and the problems are very serious. In this case, when two people spend a lot of time together, these problems that are usually carefully hidden will become Exposed."

Han Guyu glanced at the kicked-in door and took a deep breath: "That's right. There are very serious problems between him and me. The child is just one of the reasons. The most essential reason is that he is not like before. Love me like that.”

Jia Lie was almost overwhelmed by her words: "Sister, you have been married for ten years, no matter how deep your love is, it has become a family relationship. Isn't it normal that he doesn't love you before? How old are you? How old are you?" Are you so entangled in this kind of thing that you want a divorce?"

"You don't understand." Han Guyu said quietly, "The reason why he insists on getting a divorce this time is because he doesn't love me anymore."

"..." Jia Lie was silent for a few seconds and asked, "Is he the same as Liu Quantao?"

Han Guyu interrupted her: "No, there is no third party between us. When I said that he didn't love me before, I meant that his love for me was [-]% before, but slowly, he put his love on me. Put it on the game, put it on fishing, put it on hiking with his friends. His love is distributed to the sky, and also to the sea. It is distributed to the distance, and it is also distributed to her. It is said that his love is divided into four parts, then I am only one quarter of it. I can't compare with the sum of the three quarters. If we have children, I may be able to tie with the children. Now ,I lost."

(End of this chapter)