Beauty and Marriage

Chapter 180 Original Ecological Family

Why is Sand Painting teacher unwilling to start a family?Because she grew up in an original ecological family!Since I was a child, I can't choose what I want to do, or even study, according to my own wishes.Her father said that it is useless for a girl to study well, so the education of the sand painting teacher is not high, not because she is not easy to learn, nor is it because her learning ability is not good, but the family has never supported her to study. I have to help with housework and other work to assist men, and these can only be regarded as my duty, not credit!If you do it well, you won’t be exaggerated. If you don’t do it well, you will be told that you can’t even do it right!

The boys in the family are different, they can choose what they want to do.Even if it is not study, but play, you will not be asked to share housework.

It sounds like the secularism of the old society, but the sand painting teacher was also born in the late 70s, which seemed quite normal in the 70s. Didn’t my mother not have a serious teacher when she was learning sewing?If it was a boy, he would definitely learn from a teacher seriously.

Although the status of women has been raised after the reform and opening up, it is not so easy to change one thing in everyone's inherent concepts. It will take a long process. Until now, many people are still not used to the status of women. Improve, including women themselves, no?Many mothers-in-law feel aggrieved, saying how filial and angry they were when they were daughter-in-laws, but now it’s terrible to say a few words about daughter-in-law!Don't say a few words about your daughter-in-law, you don't dare to say a word if your daughter-in-law says a few words.Because the son can't be a daughter-in-law's family, the son was very obedient to his mother!The current daughter-in-law has turned against her, and instead takes care of her son!If the mother-in-law squeaks, it will be the son who will be angry.

Therefore, the mother-in-law used to rely on her son to bully her daughter-in-law vigorously.Now the mother-in-law caters to her daughter-in-law for the sake of her son's family harmony! Women in the 60s were really pitiful!

And the sand painting teacher in the 70s just experienced a transitional period of changes in the status of women!On the one hand, he is enduring the experience of being summoned and despised, and on the other hand, he already knows that this is unfair and needs to be resisted!It's just that the resistance at that time was useless in her family!She will only be scolded by everyone for being lazy, sick, incompetent, and not decent!

Which girl doesn't do housework, which girl doesn't know the general idea, which girl is restless every day! 20 years old and still haven't found a partner!

The family introduced someone to her and never asked her if she would like it!The family thought it was good, so they let her get along with others, and only after talking about it did they know if it was suitable. After she said it was not suitable, the family said that she only had that condition, so she could choose what to choose!

I asked my mother, was this really the case in their day?

My mother said that it will definitely work out if I get married, otherwise I will be gossiped, and it will be hard to find later!

In this way, I fully understand why the sand painting teacher has not been looking for it!No way!If it is not suitable and cannot be returned, it will suffer for a lifetime!Therefore, she doesn't really want to be alone, but is afraid that if she meets an inappropriate person, she might as well be alone!

At least, I won't work hard for a lifetime for a person I don't like.Her mother, all the girls in their family live like this.She doesn't want to!She doesn't want to spend her time serving others every day, she also wants to do something that lifts her spirits, and she also wants to be a person who is applauded by others, instead of listening to other people's legendary stories every day.

However, being ordered around by others all day long, she has never seen many things at all, and she has never known what she wants to do!
If you don't know what to do, but you don't want to work every day, you have committed a serious crime!
The family let her get married and found her an excellent family, saying that the family conditions are very good, and she doesn't need to do anything when she gets married, as long as she does the housework well!Then, Teacher Sand Painting left the house without saying a word!She believed that she had made it very clear that she didn't want, didn't want to, didn't like, and hated doing housework!She hates being called around every day and doing housework that others think she should do. She also wants to have her own time to find the meaning and value of her life!
At that time, when she left home, although she had no education, no place to go, no one who understood her, and no help, she was not afraid or worried at all.If life can only depend on others, then why be afraid of losing your life!
Barefoot people, there is nothing to be afraid of!A girl of a certain age has such thoughts, is it her problem?
Fortunately, this world is not as pessimistic as she thought!The outside world is really as wonderful as she imagined, but it is not as helpless as written in the lyrics. She feels more comfortable outside than at home. The air is no longer heavy, but exudes a faint fragrance!
She found a job selling mobile phones. It is not difficult for young girls to get a job to support themselves outside!
Although standing at the counter all day is really tiring!Every day when I get off work, no, I already feel that my feet are not my feet before I get off work, and it hurts!
At the beginning, for the sake of beauty, the high-heeled shoes I bought with a lot of money didn't last a week, but they were replaced by 30 yuan a pair of work shoes on the street.Because people have limits, for a person standing at the counter, the limit of enduring high-heeled shoes is only a week!During this period, the grinding on both sides of the feet, the broken skin and bleeding on the heels of the feet, and the pressure on the toes... all reached the limit.

Work, no matter what type of work people are engaged in, will suffer a certain amount of pain, and it is not easy for everyone!It's just that everyone can and is willing to bear different degrees!

Teacher Sha Hua felt that all the pain at work was bearable, at least she could have a way to adjust it, but she had no solution for the family!How could they not take her seriously and not understand her so much!Why should her life be as mediocre as they thought!They also feel that what they see through themselves is that they don't know their own situation!

Anyone who is born can judge that her life is like this, and she can only live like this!
So as soon as someone told her to settle down and live a steady life, she would jump up anxiously!She is afraid that her life will be dark from now on, she is afraid that she will be entangled in the trivial matters of life, and she will really spend her life mediocrely.

However, no matter what you do, a person always has to start a family, there is no conflict!She feels conflicted!Very conflicted!Because she didn't believe it, someone tried to understand her. At that time, she had neither education nor skills!

(End of this chapter)