Scene language skills that college students must know

Chapter 63 Scene 63 Visiting Father-in-Law for the First Time

Chapter 63 Scene 63
If you have a girlfriend, you will encounter things like going to your girlfriend's house to visit your future father-in-law.First time at the door is critical because

The family and relatives who are girlfriends will take this opportunity to conduct a comprehensive inspection of you.So you have to give

Make a good impression on the other party.But there are still many people who are too cautious when they first come to their girlfriend's house, dull and dull, and not good at talking

, thus failing to do so.At this time, you need to master some skills and methods of conversation, decent manners and good eloquence often
can often make your first visit a success. ?
([-]) Greetings politely and warmly?
When visiting for the first time, it is necessary to pay attention to clothing and appearance, but also to prepare for the answer and conversation, and to have a "word" in mind. ?
After entering the door, you should greet warmly first, such as: "How is your health?"
It's so hot, the elders should take care!The health of the elders is the wish of our juniors! "I've wanted to visit Erlao for a long time, but today I can
I am very glad to meet you. "When the other party offers tea, you should stand up and take it with both hands, and thank you. For example, say: "Thank you, I will give you tea today.
The family is in trouble! "When the girlfriend introduces the family members, she should answer the appropriate address and nod and smile to show respect.

It is better to call the girlfriend the same as the girlfriend, such as: "Dad", "Mom", "Big Brother", "Second Sister" and so on. ?
([-]) lead to the appropriate topic?
When meeting for the first time, both parties will feel restrained.After exchanging pleasantries, there is often silence.At this time, the topic will be brought up.There are various ways of doing this:
A local material.Take a close look at walls, windowsills, tables, etc.Celebrity calligraphy and paintings on the wall, chrysanthemums on the windowsill, chrysanthemums on the table

Clay figurines in Wuxi... can draw topics from them.Because they often reflect the taste and hobbies of the owner, and can make the owner tell his many things.

more joyful
Come quickly.When a young man came to his girlfriend's house for the first time, he found that the teacups, tea trays, dishes, etc. in her house were all blue and white porcelain.

This is the topic: "This blue and white porcelain is simple and elegant, so beautiful!" This sentence made the girlfriend's father very happy.he is beaming
He introduced the blue and white porcelain from all over the collection one by one, and the talk was very speculative.The girlfriend's mother jokingly said: "Talk about

Speaking of blue and white porcelain, this old man can have three days and three nights to talk to each other! "The previous restraint was swept away, replaced by a kind and natural atmosphere.
.Another method is to avoid familiarity.To lead a topic, start with what the other party is most familiar with, and avoid things that are unfamiliar to the other party. "Three sentences
Staying true to one’s work” means that people often talk about familiar things, but their words are dull when talking about unfamiliar topics. For example,
: "You always like to practice Tai Chi, which is a good thing!" This can lead to a lot of words from the other party and make the conversation go smoothly.Another

The method is to change the subject at the right time.When you see a child in your girlfriend’s house, how old is the child?Where to study?What game do you like?etc.
.This will also get the adults to say something.In addition, you can also talk about the news, chat about the weather, etc. in the cold. ?
([-]) To answer questions frankly?
When the girlfriend's parents ask questions, they should be able to narrate and explain, and their attitude should be respectful, their voices should be lower and softer, and their speaking speed should be slower.talk one
Sentence, layer by layer, make it clear.When encountering a problem that you don’t understand, remember not to pretend to understand.Some people think that it is embarrassing to be ignorant when answering questions.
If you are affectionate, you will be ridiculed by your girlfriend's parents.In fact, people who dare to say "don't know" are often popular;
Okay, it's self-defeating, but it makes people laugh.Honesty is the basis of narrative explanation.In addition, the views on certain issues related to girlfriend's parents

When there is a disagreement, it can be discussed later, and the future will last forever, so don't argue when you first visit.Disputes on the spot often lead to unhappiness.

([-]) Talk to different types of women's parents?

When you first visit the door, you should have an understanding of the characteristics of your girlfriend's parents in all aspects, and use different methods for different types.

With different coping methods, only by prescribing the right medicine can success be achieved.

1?More vain parents?

Some parents are more vain. They are not too demanding on whether a man has talent or not, but they are very concerned about whether he has money.
Subconsciously, they hope to use their daughter as a cash cow to attract wealth and treasure for themselves, so that they can show off in front of the neighbors.

Such parents, if you do have financial strength, you might as well satisfy their vanity.If you do not have strong financial resources, then

Be generous on your first visit, while being persuasive in your words and hinting that you don't have money right now.
But in the future, there may be a lot of money, making them full of longing for your future financial strength, and you are very young, maybe
You are really rich, so you will not flatly reject your daughter's association with you just because you are a poor boy, so you must
Confessions: ?
"Uncle, aunt, please accept my little favor, I wonder if you like it??

Since I met Mina, I have taken her to KFC several times. I wonder if you are interested and when you are free

Let's go together, my treat. ?
Our next door Dabao brags in front of me all day long: He has played with so many girls, but in fact he just has a few bad money.
Looks have no looks, and those who want status but no status, look poor!If I had money, I wouldn't spend my life like him, I'd work
company, start a business, and become a wealthy businessman with status in the society. When the time comes, buy a building for your two elders and take Mina out
Go around, buy whatever she wants, delicacies from mountains and seas, but now I can only make do with 'KFC'..."?
Although the above confession is suspected of talking nonsense, but you have expressed your views and pursuits from the side, so although they are not very
I am very optimistic about you, but I will not turn you away from now on. ?
2?Parents who are more concerned about academic qualifications and career development prospects?

Some parents of the woman, they may not make too high demands and picky on the appearance and family background of the future son-in-law, but they are more concerned about the education background.
and career development prospects are more concerned, so when they inspect you, I hope you can continue to improve your studies and achieve

to higher education; or career pursuits and aspirations to achieve something, if you have ambitions in these two areas

If you are really working hard, then they will think that you are a talented person, have full confidence in your future, and entrust their daughter to you.
You, they will be relieved.Take a look at a positive example: ?

"Uncle, aunt, are you okay??
A while ago, I went to work during the day and went to university at night. I was really busy. I was able to make a special trip to visit you after the exams these two days.
You won't be offended, will you? ?
Xiuling and I met when we were in Ye University, and it has been more than half a year now, what do you guys think of our relationship?I

Our factory set up a technical research team, I signed up, and I can join this team when I graduate from night university and get a junior college diploma.

The members of the technical team are all the most experienced experts and technicians in the factory. I think I can learn from them.

A lot of useful knowledge and experience, uncle, what do you think? "?
I think that as long as the parents who advocate knowledge, love hard-working and hard-working young people will listen to the performance of the future son-in-law
After whitening, I will definitely appreciate you from the bottom of my heart. ?
3?Contented parents?

Some parents themselves are good husbands and good wives.
So, as long as he has a healthy body and a pure heart will do.Marry your daughter to him, and hope he will be subtle, considerate,

A good husband is enough to satisfy such parents.For parents of this psychological type, as long as there is enough
Express how you love their daughters in words, and you will definitely love and take care of their daughters in the future so that they have nothing to worry about
Just worry.When you confess your love to such parents, you can be honest and honest. You are really lucky to meet such parents-in-law, so
So as long as you truly express your love for their daughter, you will hit their heart. ?
"Hello, Uncle and Aunt! Although Pingping and I have known each other for less than a month, it seems presumptuous to visit you now, but I
I think Pingping is a very good girl, and I think her parents must be very good, so I can't help but come to visit you, you won't blame me
Not sensible? "?
"In six days, it will be Pingping's 24th birthday. This year is her birth year. We must celebrate it well. My parents are superstitious.
, said that it can avoid disasters and avoid evil, that is, wrap her in a red belt or wear red shorts, I don't know if you believe this, I am going to give her
Pingping is celebrating her birthday, and I will also get together with you two elders, so that we can visit and take care of each other in the future, I don’t know what you think

? "?
The above confession seems to be too much to take the initiative to invite the woman's parents to meet her own parents within less than a month of dating.

Reckless, but in their eyes, it is really hard to be infatuated with you. Although in their eyes, you may still be a little childish, but your

Your sincerity and responsible attitude will make them happy, and at the same time you have shown your care and thoughtfulness, how can they be dissatisfied with you?
What do you mean? ?
4?Parents who rely on their son-in-law for retirement?

For parents who have only one daughter or have daughters but no sons, they are generally reluctant to marry their daughters into someone else's family
, they count on their daughter to take care of them, so they naturally hope that their son-in-law can become their son-in-law.
I have a lot of hard work, so I hope my son-in-law is diligent, winking, and willing to endure hardships. If there is no condition to live together, it is best to come and go frequently.

It does not make the two elders lonely and helpless, so they tend to pay more attention to these aspects when choosing a son-in-law.If you fancy someone like this

For the daughters of our daughters, we must be mentally prepared for this, and at the same time, we must try to impress them with diligence, honesty, simplicity, and calmness.
impression.If you can please them, you will benefit yourself because they will treat you like their own son
Once you have any worries, they will do their best to help you, and the care and warmth they give you will never

It is less than what your parents gave you, plus a wife who loves you very much, although you have put in some mental and physical effort, what you get will be far

Far beyond what you have given, you will be the real owner of such a family, so it is best to say little when you visit such a family for the first time

Do more, watch words and expressions, and try your best to display the ability to do housework and manual work, such as buying coal, buying noodles, or pulling gas tanks, or

Pick up and drop off when they go out and return, etc.Let them fully feel the difference between having you and not having you. ?
"Hello, Uncle and Auntie! I heard Lingling say that Auntie is not feeling well, so I came back with Lingling to see a doctor. Like you

For people of our age, if there is any illness or the like, it is best to go to the hospital for a good examination and treatment, and you can't resist it all the time. "?
"Although it's my first visit, please don't meet outsiders, just treat me as your student or apprentice, if you need help
, just open your mouth, not to mention that Lingling and I have at least this level of relationship, and we should do anything to help you. "?
"My mother knows a good doctor. When will I take you to have a good check-up, so you can rest assured."?
"Winter is coming, why don't I help you buy some coal while you have nothing to do today?"?
From the above examples, we can see that when visiting such a family, first of all, don’t look outside yourself, be sincere and truly treat yourself as a family
If you are a member of the family, they will surely welcome you. ?
When visiting your girlfriend's house, there are still some conversational taboos: ?

Avoid being glib?
Speak plainly and speak from the heart, like a pool of clear water, clear to the bottom, not artificial or slippery.For example, some furnishings in the room are not
If you like it too much, don't pretend to like it.Otherwise, speaking insincerely will become slippery.Just avoid talking about it.It must be possible indoors

Find something that you really like, and talk about it in a way that you can speak about, because you really feel about it. ?
Second avoid self-boasting?

If you don't show that you are smart, you are smart; if you don't exaggerate your virtue, you are virtuous.Never try to win the favor of your girlfriend's parents

Blow your own horn, that's bound to backfire. ?
Three taboo timid?
It should be generous and natural, answer the answer that should be answered, and ask the question that should be asked.Generosity is the expression of self-confidence and self-esteem.Such as
If he blushed before opening his mouth, he was afraid that he would be embarrassed if he said something wrong.In fact, the more you are afraid of making mistakes, the more you will make mistakes;

It will make the conversation smooth.You have to think that even if you make a mistake or two, you can apologize generously, wouldn't you be fine?Timid and shy
The taboo of talking to strangers is also the taboo of first-time girlfriend's house. ?
Four avoid foul language?

Facing the girlfriend's parents, those uncivilized mantras and impolite language must be quit. ?
One last reminder: When you first come to the door, you should say goodbye at the right time. Before leaving, you should say goodbye politely: "Goodbye!"

Tired all day, thank you! "I'll come and visit the two old people later." "wait.

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