Scene language skills that college students must know

Chapter 61 Scene 61
Chapter 61 Scene 61
Perhaps, the most difficult thing in the world is falling in love.It is unclear whether the vine is entangled with the tree or the tree is entangled with the vine, just as Samuel said.
Saying: "Its success depends on two people, and one person can make it fail." When you are proposed by someone you don't love

, should be calmly rejected.Rejection is a matter that requires rationality and wisdom. On the one hand, it cannot be rejected because of the other party's enthusiasm.
Feeling soft-hearted for a while, against one's own wishes, on the other hand, one cannot only care about one's own feelings without paying attention to attitudes and methods, so as to

As for hurting each other's feelings and self-esteem.In order to achieve the above goals, it is necessary to learn from and learn some methods of rejection, art

Reject courtship gracefully. ?
([-]) Execute the question and refuse?
When the other party woos you, if you really don't like the other party, you must refuse the other party's love.But direct refusal often hurts
Harm the other party, then you can use the topic or the topic of a third party to make use of the topic to achieve the purpose of tactfully refusing.under

Just two examples of this: ?

The writer Sanmao fell in love for the first time when he was in the liberal arts college. When he graduated, Sanmao asked the other party to "give a promise of marriage" and made up a "fairy tale

"Claims that Spain still has another boyfriend, and has completed the formalities and air tickets to go abroad, "It depends on whether you are determined to keep me here!" "special
I didn't know that this remark hurt the other party's self-esteem, so the man took the opportunity and said: "Then, I wish you a pleasant journey!"
The netizen closely followed her confession of "going through the formalities", and cleverly answered the words to express her rejection, which was both decent and did not damage the dignity of the other party.
, While saying one thing and another, he kicked the "ball" back quietly. ?
When the opponent rejected Sanmao, he made excuses on the spot.Sometimes the purpose of tactful refusal can also be achieved by using the mouth of a third party.writer

Lawrence once fell in love with the farmer's daughter Jesse, however, he retreated under the intervention of his mother—?
Lawrence: Our...friendship, isn't it a bit off? ?

Jesse: I think it's normal.I don't understand what you're saying...?
Lawrence: I mean, my mother and my sister talked last night, and they said we either got married or we broke up. ?
Jesse: I've seen that your mother doesn't like me. ?
Lawrence: No, don't you think that... She said, I'm not being fair to you, because I'm preventing you from liking other people,
I've thought about it, and I don't think I can love you like a husband loves his wife.Of course, I might do that in the future, what?

When I do it, I'll tell you. ?
Lawrence's confession was both pure and cunning.He cleverly used his mother's topic to express his views, making people think that he
Loving the mother is better than loving the lover, achieving the purpose of tactfully refusing. "There is too much distinction between white and black with you, even if you don't have a blind date, you will never be light."

The difference can be expressed through the mouth of others, so naturally it will not make people feel contemptuous. ?
([-]) Side-by-side rejection?
Faced with the expression of love from someone you don't like, it will be embarrassing if you refuse it directly when the two are alone.At this time, you can be on the other side
In group situations where you are also present, by showing your other friends how you respond to the suitor, you can reject the suitor on the sidelines
.As a suitor, the other party will realize the fact that he has been rejected according to the reaction he gets, and he will no longer be ashamed to persist

. ?
There was a girl who was courted by a fine young man, but the girl was only fond of him, not in love with him.How

How to reply to the young man without hurting his self-esteem?The girl came up with such a way: one day, a few classmates got together

We chatted about love and marriage together, and the girl and this young man were among them. The girl took advantage of this topic and said: "People have
Love at first sight is said, I think it is too desperate to gamble on the happiness of a lifetime at first sight. "Then he changed the subject and said, "No
However, if someone proposes to me in the future, and I like it, I will answer him within three days, and if it exceeds three days, it means that I disagree.

"The move was very successful, the young man heard the ambiguity, and rationally gave up his pursuit of this girl.?
The girl explained at the class reunion that if she meets a suitor she likes, she will reply within three days.lad heard this

He knew that the girl's delay in responding actually meant rejection, so he made a wise choice. ?
([-]) Conditional selective rejection?
Both parties in love always have expectations and requirements for each other.One of the parties expressly puts forward the conditions that the other party is difficult to meet.

If the other party either gives up or does what is required (certainly unable to do it), for the party who shows love, it is tantamount to
After being rejected, you have to say "goodbye".Please see the following example: ?

After Ollie and Rose fell in love, they dated every day on the 131 steps.Later, Ollie was promoted by the company with a bright future;
Sent abroad by the Tourism Bureau, the future is alluring.who with whom?The two had to have a showdown on the steps. ?
At this moment Rose knelt down and said, "I think the day when we meet again is near." Ollie said, "You said, never leave me

.Rose said: "Ollie, give me your hand, marry me, go to France together, and I will earn money for you to write novels..." Ollie
Leigh said: "But, after going to hell for a year, won't you be buried forever?" Rose said: "Don't be afraid, don't you believe it?
I?Listen, this is the first and only time to propose, and I'll give you a minute to decide, and my knees are already sore. said Ollie
: "Then, get up!" "If I get up, it's time for me to leave here. Our love will never come again, no

In the future, I will come to see you on this step every year, at the same moment as today. said Ross. ?
The two broke up.Rose's brilliance is that although she uses her own conditions as a bargaining chip to decline, she chooses to propose marriage

formula to express.It is precisely in the kneeling of "I will give you a one-minute decision", and in the promise of "I will come again every year",

The other party felt the warmth of parting.The golden moment of passionate love has passed, but the lingering words make people think of chants, which dilutes it
The loss and melancholy brought to each other by breaking up. ?
([-]) Intentionally misunderstood rejection?
Many people like to express love with flowery words and cryptic metaphors.If we want to deny it, we can deliberately make
Look confused, pretending not to understand the connotation of the other person's words, but understand it from a vulgar and superficial level.The opponent is winning

After knowing our reaction, on the one hand, you will feel dumbfounded, and on the other hand, you will gradually understand that your side is actually refusing

. ?
For example, a young man wrote a love letter to a girl, which said: "You are the sun that gives me infinite warmth;
My infinite poetic moon; you are the Big Dipper that guides my direction; you are the morning star that calls the morning for me..." See you, girl
After the letter, I learned from others that the young man is usually a little impetuous and flashy, so I don't want to accept his love, but I can't

Let the young man be too embarrassed and unable to step down.She wrote a letter back, saying: "Your letter is really well written, but, I

I'm not interested in astronomy at all, and I don't want to learn more about it, so I'm sorry for disappointing you..." Actually, a little
Anyone with a sense knows that the metaphor in the young man's letter is a confession of love, but the girl deliberately interprets it literally as "God's love."
Literature", the young man also realized that this kind of "misplaced understanding" is a kind of implicit and slightly ironic rejection.?
([-]) Rejection of comfort and concern?
Some people say that besides love, help is the most beautiful verb in the world.Can give the other party necessary help or relief when cutting off the tangle of vines and trees

, isn't it also a kind of beauty?After the female major general Hu Feipei was widowed, she reunited with her old comrade-in-arms Bao Shilu in Shanghai and talked about the past
During the incident, Bao was caught off guard and asked to remarry with her.The female general said calmly: "I'm sorry, I have made up my mind

No more rebuilding families.As a comrade-in-arms, welcome to Beijing as a guest.If you were married by then, come with madam, I

It must be warmly received. "A man in a certain unit wooed a female colleague, and the girl declined in the letter to her, while expressing "

I will try my best to find a partner who is better than me." From the rejection of these two women, the other party also felt a little different
Friendship, a few wisps of warmth? ?
Of course, if you can find the key to open your heart in the other party, and care about the other party with an empathetic attitude, it may be easy to make them feel happy.

Get rid of the shadow of lovelorn.Reporter Fan Changjiang once participated in the Anti-Japanese Volunteer Army, and because of the collapse, he was exiled in a grassland family and stayed in the country for two months.

Unexpectedly, she fell in love with the cheerful shepherd girl "Three Aunts". When herding herds to the edge of the Great Wall, the two had to break up.

At that time, the third aunt was reluctant to part with Fan Changjiang: "Can you take me there?" Fan Changjiang said: "I am going back to Peiping to study!" "

Take me, I also go to study. "The third aunt is still reluctant to part. Fan Changjiang had to tell her: "I am a poor student, I rely on

You can only study if you are supported by your family. " "Then I'll be a servant." "The third aunt still insisted. Fan Changjiang had to move out of her family:

"Are you willing to part with your mother and younger brother? Besides, will your father agree to be a maid?" Third Aunt fell silent.So, two
When people break up, "you are ashamed and silent, and it is difficult to express your deep meaning in front of others", such a refusal that puts yourself in the shoes of others is so ingenious.
Can you not give the other party much nostalgia and longing for the parting of family affection? ?
([-]) Praise and blessing rejection?
The so-called "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder", once people fall in love with someone, this person must be the most perfect image in their hearts.Therefore, if

If you want to reject the other party's kindness, you should persuade the other party to open your eyes: first praise the other party's appearance and heart, and then point out

In fact, I am very ordinary, but with the other party's conditions, I can find a more ideal and suitable object than myself.hear this
With some sincere comments and blessings, after the other party is rejected, their hearts will suddenly open up and new hopes will arise. ?
For example, the dignified and beautiful girl A has a nostalgic feeling for the ordinary-looking boy B.Facing girl A's admiration, B said

: "You are both smart and beautiful. A girl with all kinds of reds like you can be said to be cute, but I can honestly say that I already have

love someone.Besides, I am also an ordinary-looking person. I heard that there are many young men who are looking after you.
?I firmly believe that you will be able to pick a good man among many young men. "?
This refusal, the words are earnest, the love and being loved are vividly expressed, the sincere emotions are beyond words, simple and kind,
So the girl no longer fell in love with him. ?
([-]) A frank refusal?
As far as breaking up is concerned, it is always cruel to tell the truth, and it is also a form of self-examination to seek forgiveness from the other party.

clever
method of polite refusal.Dumas fils's letter to his lover broke up his relationship with him, explaining his plight of high debts: "I'm not rich enough to
Love you as I wish; nor am I poor enough to be loved as you wish.Let's forget about each other - you
It is to forget a name that is quite cruel to you, and I am to forget a happiness that I cannot afford! "The writer's brief
Liang Chou not only rejects love, but also avoids further life tragedies, how enlightening are his words and deeds! ?
When love conflicts with other things you love, no amount of tongue-in-cheek can beat telling the truth, because you can't help yourself.

deceiving.Once, the writer Andersen happened to meet three sisters in a carriage. After he paid the fare for them, the eldest sister Ye Lin

Na warmly invited this fellow traveler to visit her home.The writer also had a good impression of her, so he visited her the next day.Ann after meeting

Tusheng praised: "Who, in order to immortalize your face, carved you into a Diana goddess!" Yelena replied
Said: "That's the sculptor Carlova!" Andersen said: "Oh, I'm here to say goodbye to you." "I recognize, you are
Fairy tale writer Andersen.It seems that you are afraid of the fairy tales in your life and lack the power and will to love. "Elena looked at Ann

in vain. ?
"That's a heavy cross. My love only exists in fairy tales..." Andersen said apologetically. ?
"Then you go. Free yourself! If you are old and suffering in the future, just say one word, and I will go to your side!" The girl

Covering his face and running away, Andersen clearly pushed away the courting hand. "Heartbroken Guanshan doesn't explain it, and the curtain hooks under the waning moon."although
However, the girl's heart has cooled down like a waning moon, but we can vaguely feel the strong and mellow aftertaste of rejecting love for the sake of career. ?
([-]) Looking back on painful rejection?
After people have experienced an emotional ups and downs, their psychological wounds cannot be healed immediately.say goodbye at this time
People show love very carefully.If you meet an unsuitable suitor, you can't force yourself.At this time, you might as well confess the past
The shadow of my life has not yet dissipated, I am not ready to make a complete emotional contribution to anyone at the moment, I hope the other party can understand our difficulties
place.In this way, it not only rejects the feelings that one does not want to accept, but also avoids being targeted at the other party, so that it will not be too much in the heart.

Yu sad.Please see the following example: ?

After Chen Mei broke up with her, she was depressed for a while. As a good friend, Li Qiang often came to comfort her.As time went by, Li Qiang found himself deeply
He fell in love with Chen Mei deeply, so he asked her to marry him.Chen Mei did not expect that Li Qiang, whom she had always treated like a brother, would propose such a
request, I had to say: "I am very grateful for your care and love for me for so long. But a emotional setback left me

The hurt I have suffered is too deep, and now I have not recovered from the pain in the past, I just hope that I can adjust myself, I don’t want to
I'm so sorry for stepping into the vortex of love again so quickly...?
Although Chen Mei was moved by Li Qiang's care, it could not heal her trauma. Therefore, Chen Mei frankly confessed to him
I don't want to fall in love at the moment, so I politely rejected him. ?
When you meet someone you don't love who shows love to you, you must be cautious, neither go against your original intention, nor hurt others.
Hurt the self-esteem of the other party, remember: being loved by others means that you occupy an important position in the eyes of others.You have to according to the actual situation,
Learn from the above methods and skills, and be flexible, and you will definitely handle it properly.

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