Scene language skills that college students must know

Chapter 23 Scene 23 - When expressing opinions
Chapter 23 Scene 23 - When expressing opinions
In daily communication, you often encounter such a situation, that is, you have an opinion on the views, opinions or actions of others.

You want to express your opinion.If you can properly express your opinions in communication and handle them properly, your opinions can be
Full display will inspire and help people.If your opinion is expressed inappropriately, even if it is beneficial to others, it cannot be accepted
Others accept.Here comes the question of how to express your opinion. ?
Here are a few ways to express your opinion. ?
([-]) Can't compete for words?

It is understandable that I have insights and hope to publish them as soon as possible.But you also have to give people the opportunity to speak
Yes, you can't wait, when others are talking, you just cut off the words of others and let yourself spit it out.or others

When you want to speak, you are the first to step in and forcefully squeeze back what others have said, so that you can speak freely.To express one's opinion, one should first
The cultivation you have is patience. It is not too late for you to speak after others have fully expressed their opinions, or when it is your turn.
Not only will it not reduce the weight of your speech, but it will also mobilize everyone's obedient mood.Xiao Peng is a thoughtful and insightful young man,
He has a quick temper and often has the problem of fighting for words in front of everyone.After graduating from university, he was assigned to teach in a certain school, and witnessed the school's weakness and backwardness.
The current situation of teaching is quite worrying.After investigation and thinking, he has formed some feasible opinions and is going to present his opinions at relevant meetings
.The opportunity finally came. In order to rectify the school spirit, the school called everyone to make suggestions. Many teachers responded positively and made full contributions.
ready to speak.On the one hand, Xiao Peng regards revitalizing the school spirit as his own responsibility, and on the other hand, he wants to make a good impression on others as a recruit.At
It simply put aside a few old teachers who wanted to speak, raised their voices, and spoke first.There he spit, all

People just stare dumbfounded.As a result, people not only failed to accept his opinion, but also doubted his personality.If Xiao Peng can
Putting oneself in the right position, according to the progress of the speech at that time, taking the opportunity to express one's opinion at the right time, it can be predicted that Xiao Peng will receive the reasoning.
Think about the speaking effect. ?
([-]) Do not negate the opinions of others casually?

Respect for each other is a basic principle of communication.Speaking is a reflection of people's thoughts, and respecting the opinions of others is like respecting their opinions.
personal.However, in order to highlight their own opinions and arouse others' full recognition of the value of his conversation, some people often consciously or unconsciously
Consciously belittle and deny the opinions of others.As a result, the other party's dissatisfaction and confrontation were caused, not only their own opinions were not taken seriously
, On the contrary, they will be ignored and denied, and their own image will also be derogated.When some good talkers express their opinions, they just adopt
On the contrary, they will subtly affirm and praise the opinions they have expressed from different angles, and even take advantage of the situation.

The way of answering and supplementing speeches is self-evident.In this way, others will maintain a positive and good attitude to listen to your high opinions, and you will
Your opinions have been expressed satisfactorily, and your style has also been shown.Xiao Yang felt dissatisfied with a comrade's opinion at a seminar

It's incredible, I can't help but want to refute and clarify my views.As soon as the words came out, the scene suddenly turned from hot to cold, and the comrade also had a smile on his face.
angry look.Xiao Yang suddenly came to his senses, and felt that it is important to be friendly among colleagues, and to discuss any issues without being too aggressive.

So he hurriedly stopped, cleverly changed his words, and turned the irony into truth from another angle.As a result, the medicine cured the illness, and everyone felt relieved.

The speaking scene is in harmony again.Xiao Yang also expressed his different opinions accurately and completely.In the end, everyone asks for great unity

Xiaoyi, the discussion meeting has received very good results. ?
([-]) Do you need to be humble when offering opinions?

Some people with insights and even insights like to speak passionately and appear aggressive, intending to increase the power of their speech and arouse
The shock of the listener.Sometimes this can be effective, but its drawbacks are also obvious.First, the form is too intense

, It is easy to hurt people, and it is not easy for people to accept.Second, if the words are too intense, it may lead to too much water, too much exaggerated color,
Gives a bad impression.Therefore, when expressing your opinions, it is best to keep a sense of proportion, set the tone, and maintain a humble attitude.

state.After graduating from Xiaogao University, he was assigned to a small company. The company was struggling at this time. The products had no market and the production capacity was limited.
Limited, low production efficiency, poor corporate image.From the leaders to the workers, everyone was downcast and helpless.Xiao Gao after all

Knowledgeable people can quickly see the crux of the matter when they arrive at the unit, and there are countless good ideas.But Xiao Gao didn't accept the name of the savior.

Instead, speak cautiously, speak modestly, and exchange opinions with everyone in a deliberative and suggestive tone.The result quickly won the letter

Ren, his opinions were quickly adopted, and his prestige was also established. ?
([-]) Don't be stingy in your words?

When expressing your own opinions, you should just state your own opinions and opinions, calmly, and use words carefully, and don't have words in your words.

Insinuation, sarcasm and sarcasm between words.It is undeniable that other people's opinions may not be accurate, and some are not good for you, but talking
It is a kind of communication and negotiation in itself. Everyone expresses their opinions, and the truth and falsehood are revealed.That kind of cynicism, in the words

The thorny way is obviously unfriendly, it is difficult to achieve the purpose of exchanging opinions, and it will also lead to the formation of an antagonistic relationship between the two parties.right
Others are derogatory and do you no good.A football fan association organized a football club, everyone is passionate fans, so
The atmosphere is very warm.Xiao Teng has a deep understanding of football and unique insights. Seeing that everyone has finished talking, he stood up abruptly,
Talking freely, everyone felt that his insights were unique at first, and they listened attentively, but soon they didn't like it.It turns out that Xiao Teng

When expressing his opinions, he mocked everyone's conversation to some extent in a vague but definite way,
And the more he talked, the more tasteless his words became.Everyone was uncomfortable listening, and couldn't find any reason to find fault with Xiao Teng.Xiao Teng Yang
They were complacent, but the fans were unhappy, and finally everyone broke up unhappy.Since then, Xiao Teng has also become a character that everyone dislikes.

([-]) Can't let go of the root and seek the end?

Of course, when expressing one's opinion, I hope that others will listen to me, and I hope to get others' attention and attention.But whether it can be fulfilled depends mainly on others.

As a speaker, what you have to do is to improve your speaking level and cognitive ability, so that your opinions are enough to attract the attention of the audience
and shake.When some people express their opinions, they don't pay attention to considering and optimizing their opinions.

Control the audience's obedience attitude and emotions.Xiao Liao is a young cadre who was recently sent to work at the grassroots level.At first those grassroots
Department of
Xiao Liao has a sense of freshness, so Xiao Liao always "instructs" when speaking at the conference.And when Xiao Liao said in an official voice three

At four o'clock, everyone held their breath and listened carefully like elementary school students.But as time went by, Xiao Liao's report was easy to speak.

Well, there is no such effect anymore.Of course, Xiao Liao wanted to get back the good feelings he had in the past, so he forced his straight eyes and stern
expression
, leaning forward, vigorous gestures, and a loud voice urged everyone to listen to his "teachings" as carefully as before.but everyone
He only restrained himself for a moment, and soon ignored him again.After so many times, Xiao Liao not only failed to fulfill his wish, but also suffered a lot because of it.
To everyone's denial and criticism. ?
([-]) To be able to hear negative opinions?

After you express your opinion, the audience will have different reactions, some positive and some negative.of course you care

Response, but must keep a cool head, can't be delighted with the good response, but hold a negative attitude towards the negative opinion.

Xiao Wei is a promising young man, and he is dedicated to the development of the unit, so his achievements are also outstanding.meeting in the unit
In the meeting, Xiao Wei often takes the opportunity to express his opinions, often with shocking and extraordinary utterances.But some people in the unit can't see
Xiao Wei even has a feeling of jealousy, so some people criticize and criticize Xiao Wei's speech from time to time.Whenever this happens, Xiao Wei does not
Think of it as a problem with yourself, but listen with an open mind, sincerely ask for advice, and seriously reflect.In this way, some colleagues who deliberately find fault

On the contrary, I felt sorry, and the opinions I raised became pertinent, and I gradually developed a good impression of Xiao Wei.And Xiao Wei's speech level has gradually improved.
Become mature and perfect.

(End of this chapter)