Smile is very alluring: the charming temperament you want most

Chapter 20
Every day when she came home from get off work, An An felt her eyes were sore and her legs were swollen.Originally, this was a common problem among office workers, but she thought a little too much: why is life so difficult?Why is work so mechanical?What am I after?She had too many assumptions about life, and the illusory network environment made her yearn for a wonderful and poetic life, but the reality was not a fairy tale, she was unwilling to face it, and she was unwilling to accept it, but she was immersed in a little sadness and couldn't extricate herself.Days like this passed day after day, and every night she couldn't help crying when she thought about it.Probably melancholy has become a habit, her tears are getting more and more, and her heart is becoming more and more fragile.

Life cannot always be carried out in the direction we intended, but it is precisely because of the unknown that life becomes meaningful.Everyone will have imperfections, and everyone will encounter unsatisfactory things. If you are like An An, you are stubborn, refuse to open your heart, and keep your heart hidden in a dark corner all the time, then it will be difficult to be happy in this life.It's not because there are too many misfortunes in her life, but because she focuses on "unfortunate" and ignores those lucky things.

Just like the night always walks with the sun, happiness always accompanied by pain, if you can pay more attention to some good things, your life will be full of happiness and sunshine; if you focus on the pain, your life will only be misfortune and complaints.A calm woman will choose the most calm way of life, no matter what happens, she is ready to let herself go at any time.They know well that happiness is not created by the external environment, but emanates from the depths of the heart.

I remember that the famous poet Anwari Soh said: "Let the worldly things slip away from your grasp, don't worry, because they are worthless; even though the whole world is yours, don't be happy, the worldly things It's just that; we should find our home in our own hearts, be happier, and everything has value." Therefore, women who are in the midst of hustle and bustle may wish to learn to plant a "forgetfulness grass" in their hearts, so that It filters out complaints, drives away depression, and brings fragrance and happiness to the soul.

Wangyoucao can be a diary.When you feel down, write down those suppressed feelings.You can make a big statement about your upset, anyway, no one else can see it, as long as you are comfortable.After venting, you will feel a sense of relief. In turn, when you look back at your "writing hard" just now, maybe you will smile lightly and lock the bad mood and the diary in the drawer.

Forget worry grass, it can be a letter.If writing a diary is talking to yourself, then writing a letter is talking to others. Everyone needs friends and comfort. As long as you open your heart bravely, friends will try their best to help you share your bad mood.

Forgetfulness, can be a movie.When you are depressed, read "Happiness Comes Knocking on the Door", the path of other people's happiness may also lead you to find your own direction; when you are broken in love, read "He Doesn't Like You That Much", and let yourself see the truth , Get out of the shadow of the past as soon as possible; when you are tired, watch "Pounding Heartbeat", the warm story of childhood sweethearts may bring a little peace to the tired heart...

Forget worry grass, it can be a piece of music.Many years ago, there was a song called "Forget Worry Grass": "Beautiful life, kind people, heartache, sadness, and worry are too insignificant. You and I meet when we come and go. It is better to meet each other and smile lightly. Forget Worry Grass, Just forget it, how much do you know in your dreams, a certain island in a certain corner of the world, a certain hug on a certain day, a certain year, a certain month, a certain day, a certain year, a certain year, a certain day, a certain hug, the green riverside grass, quietly waiting for the world to grow old..." Sitting quietly in front of the bed, listening to this kind of music , the soothing melody will surely soothe your flustered heart.

Wangyoucao can also be a transfer scene.Get out of the small world, take a walk outside, let the beautiful scenery and fresh air dilute your inner irritability and unhappiness; leave the place that makes you sad and troubled, do something interesting, participate in some group activities, and get rid of depression in joy shadows.

If you woke up this morning in good health, you are happy, because a million people will not survive a week; if you have not experienced the dangers of war, you are better than 100 million people; if you have food You have food, clothes to wear, and a place to live. You are richer than 5% of the people in the world... Thinking of this, you will find that happiness is not difficult or expensive. As long as there is a "forgetfulness grass" in your heart, every woman You can live your life in peace.

Waiting for a hundred years, just for one flower to bloom
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At least once in my life, I forget myself for someone, not asking for results, not asking for companionship, not asking for possessions, not even asking you to love me, just asking to meet you in my most beautiful years.

——Xi Murong
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In "The Count of Monte Cristo", there is an unforgettable sentence: "All the wisdom of mankind is contained in these two words: waiting and hope..." Sometimes, waiting hard is just for the miracle to appear, just quietly Waiting for the day when the flower of life blooms.

There is a plant called Puya flower in the world, which grows in an inaccessible place at an altitude of more than 4000 meters on the Andes Plateau in South America.Its flowering period is only a short two months, but it is extremely beautiful when it blooms, and it is extremely desolate when it withers, and the entire flower plant will wither.However, few people know that Puya flowers have to wait a full 100 years for this short two-month flowering period.

Is it worth waiting for just two months to bloom in 100 years?Puya flower has never thought about this problem, it just stands quietly on the plateau, silently absorbing the energy of the sun, silently absorbing the nourishment of the earth, and striving to create its own bloom.It has waited for 100 years, proving the beauty and value of its life with the once-in-a-century flower.

Sometimes, women are like Puya flowers, waiting steadfastly for the most beautiful moment in their lives.Waiting for relatives who have been separated for many years, waiting for friends who have not heard from them, waiting for children who have been away from home for a long time and have not returned, waiting for a chance to show themselves, waiting for a love that makes their hearts throb... Before their wishes are fulfilled, they put Hope lies in the future.Waiting teaches women how to choose and let women understand the value of waiting when they are wandering alone.Even if there is no ending, at least there is a process.

Her mother used to be an excellent military doctor. When she was just entering high school, her mother injured her right hand in an accident, and bid farewell to the operating table ever since.Since then, she has made a wish: to be admitted to a certain military medical university and continue her mother's previous career.

However, the sky fails to fulfill people's wishes.She repeatedly failed to reach the admission line of that university in the college entrance examination.My mother took all of this into consideration and advised her to stop in moderation, and the same goes for other medical universities.She said: "No, I will enter that university, because you came out from there. This is my greatest wish. I did not perform well in this exam. I can wait for the next time. As long as I persist, I will definitely I can pass the exam." The mother sighed and didn't say anything more.You know, this is the second year she has repeated her studies, and she is taking the college entrance examination for the third time.

In desperation, her mother could only let her continue tutoring.In fact, her grades are very good, if not for entering the military medical university she likes, she should be a "junior" student.Seeing that girls of her age are all about to graduate from college, she is still fighting day and night in the college entrance examination army.

In the fourth college entrance examination, many people thought that she should have gotten her wish.Because of the last college entrance examination, she only missed two points.Unfortunately, this time she failed again.The family advised her to give up and settle for the next best thing, but she should not.She doesn't mind the accusations and ridicule outside.For her own wish, she walked into the repetition class again.

Finally, Huangtian pays off.This time, she got her wish and entered the gate of a certain military medical university.The year she entered university, many of her peers started looking for jobs.But she didn't regret it, she studied hard, and then went to Ph.D.At that time, many of her college classmates were married and had children, and their life and work had stabilized.They feel that it is not necessary to study for a Ph.D. It is the same if they have the current diploma and work hard in the future.Faced with other people's doubts, she smiled lightly.

After graduating with a Ph.D., she was selected by a military hospital in a first-tier city with her own ability and became a doctor.There, she also met and married the other half of her life.Although many of her former classmates entered the society before her, they are still worrying about the mortgage, sighing about the instability of their jobs, and worrying about the depreciation of their diplomas. All these, the girl is waiting time and time again. And persistence, have been obtained.

The girl in the case is very young, but she has a heart that is not impetuous.No matter in the face of repeated failures, opposition from her family, or doubts and ridicule from people around her, she sticks to her own direction. If everything is not in place, she would rather look for opportunities and wait for the next success.Transform in adversity and be strong in suffering.

Of course, life is not a fairy tale, not all waiting will have an ending, and not every ending will meet your expectations, so perfect.Waiting is like a novel with an open ending, the author is yourself, but the ending is not up to you.You just get it done, and the ending may or may not be what we envisioned.After all, many people's waiting was in vain.This kind of waiting is probably the most unacceptable.

Wang Baochuan waited for his husband in the cold kiln for 18 years. This story has long been familiar to people.Just ask: How many 18 years does a woman have?Wang Baochuan, in the best time of her life, endured hunger and hunger, digging wild vegetables to survive, without spiritual pleasure, let alone material enjoyment, life is no fun.But after she tasted all kinds of suffering in the world, what she got in return was an unforgettable injury.

After her husband joined the army, he was captured by the enemy, and later recruited as a son-in-law, and he lived a happy life.He has everything a man pursues in his life.But waiting for his lover in his hometown, with little clothes and no food, he thought he had found a lifelong support, but he missed his life.He has indeed become climate, but it does not belong to her. She sacrificed herself, but this greatness has become a waste.

Eighteen years later, Xue Pinggui came back and met Wang Baochuan and his wife, who worked together with Princess Daizhan.Unfortunately, 18 days later, Wang Baochuan died, and she couldn't make this "happiness" last long.

When Wang Baochuan left this world, he didn't just smile and close his eyes after his wish was fulfilled, but found that his faith was shattered.Although she has been singing a one-man show during the long wait of the past 18 years, her waiting is painful, but not absurd, because she has love in her heart, and she sticks to the most sincere feelings.The ending is not satisfactory, but people will lament Wang Baochuan's loyalty and despise Xue Pinggui's ruthlessness. Wang Baochuan's long 18-year wait is her best comment on her love.

Someone compares waiting to a hollow circle, even if it is empty inside, it does not affect its value of existence.Women, wait quietly for everything you think is worth it!No matter what the ending is, it is worthy of those years of waiting.If it is good, it is called wonderful; if it is bad, it is called experience.At least this long wait will create a calm heart and make you extraordinary.

Spring goes and spring comes again, flowers wither and bloom again
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Time will always pass, let time flow away your troubles!

——Anonymous

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Living in the city, facing the complicated life, we will encounter too many troubles, and sometimes we can't figure it out for a while.Some people get entangled in it and cannot extricate themselves, so life has so many troubles, unhappiness, and pain.In fact, what we need most is to maintain a calm attitude, because nothing in the world is eternal, and nothing is unchangeable. Time is the hand of the years, and life is changed by the ups and downs!

Indeed, many things that seemed to be invariable in the past will undergo unprecedented changes over time, and many emotions that could not be let go for a long time will find explanations in the slow precipitation.Therefore, don't be extreme or overthinking anything, you might as well leave everything to time.Time never stops, all the pain in the world, including life and death, will be quietly dried by time one day, believe in time.

Yili was originally a happy woman, but for a period of time, unlucky things happened one after another. Her husband died of illness, and soon her son died in a plane crash.A series of blows broke her heart. She didn't know whether she could persist in the future, and she was depressed all day long.Later, she missed the time when her husband and son were alive, and she was sad because of the nostalgia, and she fell ill.

After learning about Yili's condition and living conditions, the attending doctor said to Yili: "Your condition is too serious and you need to be hospitalized for a long time. But you have no money... Let me see it this way. From now on, you can live in This hospital does odd jobs and cleans patients' rooms every day to earn your medical bills." There is no better way to live anyway, and in the current situation, it seems that I have no choice at all.So, Yi Li began to keep busy with the broom in her hand, cleaning every corner of the hospital.

Time flies, and gradually, Yili finds that she no longer misses her husband and son so much, and her inner peace is restored.Loneliness and worries were eliminated, and Yili's body got better.During the three years, due to frequent contact with patients, Yili knew the patient's psychology well, and was hired by the hospital as an escort. Later, Yili also became a psychological counselor of the hospital. She felt that her new life was about to start up.

You see, time is the "good medicine" to heal all wounds.Many times, the hurdle that we thought we couldn't get past at the moment, we looked back after a period of time and actually skipped it easily; the moment we thought we couldn't make it through, actually endured and endured it, and it passed naturally.

Spring goes and spring comes again, flowers wither and bloom again.Time makes deep things deeper and shallower.The greatest magic of time is that people don’t worry about all known and unknown difficulties, and inexplicably believe that it will give the best answer to everything. Such an indifferent attitude can often solve many problems. It is the reason to leave everything to time.

There is a manager of a large company who often receives letters of complaint from agents.These complaints are usually irresolvable and not appropriate to refuse.He coped by stuffing the letter into a filing cabinet marked "To Do."He said: "An answer should be given immediately, but I understand that if the answer is tantamount to arguing with him, the result of the arguing is nothing more than saying 'you are wrong' to people, so it is better not to deal with it for the time being." What is the final result of the matter?He smiled and replied: "I take out these 'to-do' letters every once in a while and put them back in the file cabinet. Questions are either past or unanswered.

Giving everything to time is not negativity, but a life wisdom after experience.

In short, if you want to do something, and the name of this thing is to forget, then time is the best help; when you have to forget, but there is nothing you can do, time is the best help; Time is the best antidote for decision, dilemma, and wandering.One day, everything will have an answer.If you are facing a difficult time in your life, don't be discouraged, time will heal the pain for you.

Time is the "good medicine" to heal all wounds, please wait patiently.Spring goes and spring comes again, flowers wither and bloom again, time will bring the peace you want, on the road.Leave everything to time, and take a stroll in the courtyard to watch the flowers bloom and fade.

(End of this chapter)