Be a Strong Woman: Carnegie's Book of Spiritual Growth for Women

Chapter 25 A woman can only live freely if she has a career (3)
All women who despise difficulties and dare to challenge them are brave and attractive women, even if they are in an extremely dark world, they can also take responsibility for themselves.They are not reconciled to living a poor life of begging from others. Faced with difficulties and even setbacks, they never despair, and never look for any worthless excuses.

Women should remember: If you drift with the tide, passively accept the mercy of fate, and lack the great courage to fight against misfortune, then you will eventually achieve nothing.

Create a relaxed and pleasant workplace interpersonal environment
For women, good interpersonal relationships are indispensable if they want to be recognized by their superiors, respected by colleagues, and pursue ideal career development.A relaxed and pleasant interpersonal environment can also make yourself and others temporarily forget the monotony and tiredness of work, and face every day with a good attitude.However, many people in the workplace often complain that handling interpersonal relationships in the office is very difficult. Is it really so difficult to establish good interpersonal relationships?actually not.Based on past experience, just pay attention to the following aspects in your usual work.

[-]. Be honest with your boss
In the process of work, everyone has different perspectives and ways of dealing with problems.You may have opinions on certain decisions made by your boss, and you may have disagreements in your heart, which may even turn into complaints.In this case, you must not vent everywhere, otherwise, even the facts will be changed through word of mouth. If the boss hears it, he will be angry and embarrassed, and will inevitably have a bad impression on himself.What's more, this kind of practice also exposes the weakness of one's character, which is easy to be used by people with bad intentions, which will adversely affect one's career development.

The best way is to find the boss at the right time, and choose the most acceptable language expression and sincere attitude to communicate with the boss according to his personality and temper.As a boss, he feels your respect and trust, which will not only promote the development of things in a direction that both parties are satisfied with, but also trust you more, which is much better than complaining everywhere.

[-]. Be humble and studious to old colleagues

Colleagues who came to work in the company before me have relatively accumulated more experience. When you have the opportunity, you should listen to their opinions and find something to learn from their successes and failures.This will not only help them avoid detours, but also make them feel respected and trusted.

Especially those colleagues who have deeper qualifications than themselves and are weaker than themselves in other professional aspects will be more moved.Colleagues with strong abilities will also see their aggressive side, and will naturally be willing to take care of and support newcomers.

[-]. Be kind and friendly to new colleagues

When colleagues who are new to the company are not very familiar with the work at hand, you'd better take the initiative to care for them and extend a helping hand.This often makes them deeply appreciate you from the bottom of their hearts, and they will actively cooperate and help you in future work.

Don’t be self-righteous, don’t take your new colleagues seriously, disrespect their opinions at work, or even scold them. These attitudes will hurt the other party, which will cause you to feel bad, affect your future work cooperation, and affect your boss and other colleagues. Judging you is not worth the candle.

Femininity makes you a good dancer in the workplace
Being beautiful often allows women to do a job with ease and enjoy both ways.In the eyes of most people, femininity is quite lethal at work.But the facts have proved that any successful woman does not rely solely on femininity to achieve success, they have the same outstanding professional ability as men.However, if a woman can combine charm and ability, it is difficult for her to fail.

Although there is such a prejudice in society: as a woman, if she is very accomplished and beautiful, then people mostly attribute her achievements to her beauty; Not like a woman", or would call her a "strong woman" (a woman who lacks "femininity").When it comes to femininity, people will naturally think of good looks and elegant temperament; when it comes to professional ability, what comes to mind is correct decision-making and decisive behavior.

In fact, a good appearance does not necessarily affect the decisiveness of life; an elegant temperament can also make correct decisions.Feminine charm and professional ability are not mutually exclusive.In fact, many professional women are "half water, half fire". They not only have the characteristics of gentleness, delicacy and affinity, but also are very shrewd, decisive and capable in handling things.With the unique temperament and demeanor of women, they are good at dancing in the workplace, creating successful careers and winning wide acclaim.

In a survey of urban professional women, it was found that among company managers, men accounted for 57.9% and women accounted for 42.1%.In other words, women rely on their own charm and ability to occupy half of the workplace.Like men, women's gender charm and professional ability are an irreplaceable part of personality charm, and femininity has profound and rich connotations.Among the large number of outstanding professional women, the ability to grasp emotions, the ability to express and communicate, and the ability to communicate and coordinate are all concrete manifestations of femininity.It seems that perhaps it is for this reason that some people call the current era "her era"!

Femininity can create a harmonious and pleasant working atmosphere.In the United States, many well-known companies increasingly value female managers.Their view is that nowadays, an outstanding enterprise should be strong and soft, and yin and yang complement each other; while traditional enterprises are too focused on "masculinity", and it is difficult to break through the "bottleneck" of development.

Only when she possesses femininity and professional ability can she be called a truly beautiful woman, and only then can she win applause, flowers and opportunities in the workplace.

Befriending famous people can help boost your career

At work, women should have the courage to associate with successful people and make themselves successful.

Only by associating with successful people and learning their concepts, advantages, and practices can you guide yourself upwards; while associating with those who are far behind yourself, it is easy for you to fall into those people.

In psychology, there is a trend psychology, that is, the psychology of making friends with, worshiping, and attaching to famous people.Most people have this kind of psychology, but the degree is different.It reflects people's desire to improve their social status and associate with celebrities on an equal footing.

Making friends with famous people can get you more tangible help.If you are determined to become famous in the business world, you must first find a way to approach celebrities in the business world, communicate with them, and establish a good relationship.Once a relationship of trust is established with you, he will consider: "Find an opportunity for this person to cultivate talents." In this way, your destiny may be greatly changed, and you may even be reborn layer by layer, step by step. into celebrity society.Maybe you haven't really realized that famous people often have far-reaching influence, and a word of approval can benefit you a lot.

A well-known public relations expert once said such a passage:

"In order to develop a career, interpersonal relationships cannot be ignored. If you take care to arrange, interpersonal relationships can develop from point to surface, and then develop into a giant tree. With the giant tree, we can rest under the shade of the giant tree and enjoy the benefits. Social status The taller you are, the more important interpersonal relationships are when expanding your career. However, you can’t take a letter of introduction to visit important people because of this. Even if you visit, they may not have time to meet you, because people who are leaders in all walks of life They usually have a tight schedule, and even if they meet, they are only short 5-minute or 10-minute interviews, which cannot be in-depth. Therefore, to create opportunities for in-depth conversations with these characters, we must find another way.”

However, another famous entrepreneur has met many celebrities through the method of "ten years of repairing the same boat". His experience is: "Every time I go on a business trip, I choose the first-class cabin of the plane. A closed space , there will be no other errands or phone calls, and you can have a good chat for a while. And the first-class passengers are all first-class people, as long as you want, you can take the initiative to get to know them. I usually ask the other party actively: 'Yes Want to chat with you?’ Since there’s really nothing to do on the plane, it’s usually not a no. So I’ve met a lot of top people on the plane.”

It is human nature to make friends with successful people, so there is no need to shrink back. You only need to show courage and wisdom to communicate and communicate with them, and constantly improve yourself from both internal and external aspects, so that you can step towards success step by step.

Winners, no timetable

Many women's pursuit of work is only to support their families, and they dare not pursue success.They said that people over forty, old and young, are exhausted every day, and their dreams have long been left in the past.However, in the journey of life, everything is possible.For successful people, there is no timetable, everything is in time.

There was a German woman who fell in love with the profession of acting since she was a child.When she was young, she was picked up by the Nazi leaders at the time and "hand-picked" as a special propaganda tool for fighting.Later, Germany was defeated and she was sentenced to prison.After serving her sentence and being released, she wanted to return to the entertainment circle she loved and was familiar with. However, the taint of history caused the mainstream film media to be wary of her and keep her at a respectful distance. The good times were wasted like this.More than ten years have passed, and her identity still cannot escape the shadow of a released prisoner. No one dares to use her, no one dares to take her in, no one even dares to marry her.Nearly fifty years old, she is still alone and lonely.

Her 50th birthday came quietly and sadly.That day, she was very drunk, and after waking up, she suddenly made a decision that no one could have imagined: going deep into the primitive tribes of Africa alone, collecting and filming exclusive news.

In the following two years, she overcame many difficulties and withstood tremendous psychological and physical pressure, and shot a large number of photos of Nuba people's life.These photos have established her position in the domestic photography industry in one fell swoop.

Her fighting spirit and tortuous experience deeply attracted a 30-year-old young man, who was walking with her.Their common interests and hobbies allowed them to overcome age barriers, put aside the pressure of outside public opinion, and finally came together.

In the next half a century, they stayed away from all the right and wrong in the world, and with understanding and true love, went to and from African tribes beset by wars and civil strife, explored deep into the underwater world of the Atlantic Ocean, and wrote a romantic and beautiful love story .

In order to integrate her shooting talent with the mysterious underwater world, at the age of 68, she began to learn diving.Subsequently, magnificent and colorful marine records were added to her portfolio.This underwater filming career has been extended to her centenary years old.In the end, she set a milestone in documentary films with a beautiful 45-minute short film "Underwater World", and also drew a successful conclusion to her artistic life.

This legendary woman is the only woman among the 20 most influential artists of the 100th century named by Time Magazine.Her name is Lenilee Laustahl.She tells people with her lifelong legendary experience: There is no timetable for success.As long as you maintain self-confidence and ambition at all times, even after 40 years old, you can still bear the fruits of life.

How to wear professional suits

Elegant, dignified, and elegant business suits are eternal classics, because they can give full play to the charm of ladies and ladies, and appropriate skirt clothing can fully demonstrate women's taste.

Your image represents the image of a company and an organization, and your best choice is a simple, generous, pure, and elegant style.Women's skirts have become the most tasteful and standard work clothes for female friends because of their neat form, diverse but not messy colors, and novel but not weird styles.

There are two-piece and three-piece skirts, including tops and bottoms.The tops of skirts are mostly suit styles, and there are also round neck, V-neck and other styles.Tops, also called tops, are flexible in length, either as short as the waist or as long as below the hips; bottoms are skirts of different lengths.There are not many changes in the overall suit, but the collar, cuffs, placket, hem, pocket flap of the suit top, the slits of the bottom, and the position of the edge should all be taken into account, which can fully show the meticulousness and thoughtfulness of women. In addition, others can also see your personal style from these details.

The choice of professional skirts should neither follow the trend like fashion, nor look vulgar and boring, otherwise, it will not reflect the femininity, charm, elegance and lightness of women.Therefore, you must pay special attention to the matching of the color and style of the skirt in order to highlight your taste in dressing.

Among all the dresses that are suitable for business ladies to wear on formal occasions, skirts are the best choice, and skirts are the representative of professional women's clothing in the business world.

Women's suits were first evolved from men's suits.The former is nothing more than an improved "variant" of the latter for ladies.The reason for such a "transformation" is that once the chic and vigorous suit jacket is combined with the soft and elegant feminine skirt, the two will produce a huge effect: hardness and softness complement each other, complement each other, and the big Shining splendor, skirts came into being.

In daily life, wearing a professional dress on any business lady will make her look radiant and radiant without exception.It not only makes the wearer look shrewd, capable, mature, and free and easy, but also brings out the unique charm of white-collar beauties: elegant, virtuous, and charming.

A professional beauty in a well-fitting dress gives people a strong feeling: she is so different.From her clothing, you can also see her rigorous work attitude and gentle feminine beauty.

In any case, there is no doubt that skirts have made great contributions to shaping the professional image and taste of business ladies.So far, no other dress has been found to rival the dress for "packaging" the business lady.

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