Be a Strong Woman: Carnegie's Book of Spiritual Growth for Women

Chapter 22 Talented and fragrant, women are talented and self-satisfied (2)
Mrs. Schreck is a little famous piano teacher.Among her students, there was a girl named Bebetty who had very long nails.If you want to play the piano well, long nails are a hindrance.Mrs. Schreck knew that Betty's long nails were a hindrance to her ability to play the piano well.But it was clear that beautiful, carefully manicured nails were extremely important to Bebetty.So when she started teaching her lessons, Mrs. Schreck didn't mention the nail problem at all, and didn't want to discourage her desire to learn the piano.After the first lesson, Mrs. Schreck felt the time was right and said to Betty, "You have beautiful hands and beautiful nails. If you want to play the piano as well as you want and as well as you can Well, you can trim your nails a little bit shorter, and you will find that it is so easy to play the piano well. Bebetty, think about it carefully." Bebetty smiled at that time and made a grimace.Surprisingly, when Bebetty came to her second class the following week, she actually got her nails cut.

In fact, Bebetty's nails are very beautiful. It can be said that it is very difficult to order her to shorten her nails, but Mrs. Schreck conveyed such an emotion: I know it is not an easy task to shorten your nails, and I sympathize with you , but you will be better compensated by your musical gains.

The attitude and tone of a person's speech directly determine whether the cooperation between the two parties can go smoothly.On the journey of success in life, eloquence will be your lifelong partner.In order to gain a foothold in society, a woman must know how to be flexible, and she must know how to speak with her heart, so that she can do things well.

Women who can speak are the most outstanding, who can fully display their talents and survive and develop better.A successful woman will definitely shine with insights in her speech, giving people a sense of wisdom, incisiveness, and depth.As a woman, if you don't have a beautiful appearance, don't worry about it. You can add points to your temperament and charm by constantly practicing and improving your eloquence.

To spit out lotus flowers, you must have enough background
Many women, with friends, or in conversation with strangers, often have nothing to say, and complain, bemoan their innate eloquence, or complain that they are too timid.In fact, this kind of thinking is very one-sided. Good eloquence is not born, and it does not mean that you can be bold enough. Good eloquence requires sufficient background as a foundation.

Who ever saw an illiterate woman spit out lotus flowers?Good eloquence is based on profound knowledge.If you break away from this fundamental, speech will become "water without a source, tree without roots", tasteless, and how can it convince others?
Jin Baili is a third-year student. Her favorite thing to do is to go to the library. She likes to read all kinds of books, and she likes to study various subjects.Although she is a girl, she will not let go of political and military books that men love to read.These books have greatly broadened her horizons and allowed her to understand all aspects of knowledge, so she always speaks clearly and convincingly.Later, she represented the whole school to participate in the debate contest held in the city and won the first prize.There are "goods" in the stomach, and the words can be convincing.

If you have a bucket of water, it's easy to give someone a glass, but if you don't have water in your bucket, how can you give it to others?The same is true for speaking, you must have knowledge and connotation, so that it is possible to speak wonderful words.Although speaking requires certain skills, it is also closely related to the amount of knowledge a person has mastered, as the saying goes, "there is a poetic spirit in one's belly".If the knowledge is not broad enough, no matter how good the eloquence is and how many skills you have mastered, you will not be able to convince others.

Meticulous thinking, humorous and witty answers, and accurate expressions all undoubtedly come from the extensive knowledge in the mind.That kind of rambling and meaningless rhetoric is not good eloquence.Only when a woman has connotation can she spit out lotus flowers, and her witty remarks will fascinate everyone.

So, how can women improve their connotation?Women have connotations, that is, they must have background.The background is obtained by cultural accomplishment, it is best to have a good knowledge of astronomy and geography, the wider the knowledge, the better.Specifically, more efforts should be made in the following aspects:
[-]. Women should not only be fashion spokespersons in clothing, but also keep their knowledge updated at any time, closely following the pulse of the development of the times.

[-]. It seems that most of the people who like to read newspapers and news are men, and as women, they can't get away from those political events that seem to have nothing to do with them.

[-]. Knowledge, experience, emotion, life, etc. can enrich a woman's heart. These "nutrients" are the source, infiltrating a woman's appearance through blood vessels and meridians, and improving her taste and connotation.

Dreams will make a woman's life sing all the way

Every woman has a dream, a dream is a kind of romance in a woman's nature, and a complex of reluctance.Every woman has a dream about clothing. A beautiful dress and a cute doll are all beautiful dreams.

Every woman has an aristocratic dream.Deep down in every woman's consciousness, she hopes to become a princess or queen, to be aloof and sought after by others, and TV movies about palace boudoir or gorgeous life have always been loved by women.

Every woman has a dream of traveling far away.Those unforgettable places in the memory drove them to watch and pursue them all their lives.

With dreams, your life will be richer and fuller, and your life will become more beautiful and confident.

However, most women in modern society, especially those who have entered the siege of marriage, unknowingly find that their education is getting higher and higher, the things at hand are getting more and more, the work is getting more and more busy, and their income is getting more and more. There are many, but dreams are getting weaker and weaker, and even one day, looking at the beautiful Barbie dolls in the window, you will sigh with emotion, was this ever my dream?

[-]. Women cannot live without dreams, women are beautiful because of their dreams

A woman may not be beautiful, poor and humble, but she must have a dream. As long as the dream exists for a day, there will be more hope in your life.

[-]. Women should stick to their beliefs, life is wonderful because of dreams

Women's dreams are different from men's. Women's lifelong dreams are mostly focused on emotions, marriage, family, children and other fields.In real life, no matter how high or far they fly, a small number of successful women still can't get rid of the temperament of a little woman in their bones, and they can never get rid of the entanglement of emotional family.

A woman's dream is the fastest-changing in her life, and the flower of a woman's romance withers the fastest.When a girl becomes a woman, the woman's expectation of love is mostly transformed into running and maintaining the family, watching and even spurring her husband.When the child grows up day by day, the woman has forgotten herself, her family or her husband.At this time, women's own life dreams have long been discarded, and women place all their expectations and aspirations for the future on the next generation, including their own unfulfilled dreams.

In fact, it is unnecessary. Women also have the right to stick to their dreams and the freedom to work hard for their dreams.Even with gray hair, a woman should have a dream.Pick up the forgotten dream, put it in the wishing bottle of the soul, and then insist on getting closer to the dream.

[-]. Think rationally, dream emotionally
There is a kind of woman who is very happy. They know how to face reality and dreams, and they will handle everything around them properly.Such a woman, when dealing with life, will use a romantic and simple way; when dealing with the confusion in reality, she will think rationally and take the overall situation into consideration.In one sentence: think rationally, dream emotionally.

Rational thinking also includes judgment on some things.In the ever-extending life, learn to recognize the world little by little, learn to think about problems from multiple angles, learn to see the essence of things clearly, and then form your own values ​​little by little, form your own standards for judging right from wrong, and find The persistence in my heart.

Some people's dreams may be far away, some people may still be wandering and choosing among many dreams, some people may have just realized one of their dreams, and are preparing for the next new dream.But in any case, a woman must have a dream, and the dream will make a woman's life full of joy and excitement.

Thought is the inexhaustible source of a woman's life
Modern women should not only be beautiful, but also thoughtful.Even if they can't surprise men, with their keen insight into fashion, they will make men unforgettable at a glance.

People will grow old and lose their beauty.And thoughts will only become more refined and mature with the accumulation of rich experience and experience.To be a full-fledged woman, even if she loses everything, even if she stands alone and helpless on a deserted street, she will know what she will do next and what she will pursue.

Women should not be shy in front of their men.Women can act like a baby, pretend to be stupid, and get angry, but they can't live without their own thoughts.Both love and being loved need wisdom to capture.If you are not always a woman with a plump body, then you have to work hard to be a woman with a plump mind. The plump body may become bloated, but the fullness of the mind is always your proud charm.

A thinking woman is a confident woman.They show their personality, but not too much; they believe in their knowledge and cognitive ability, firmly believe in their ideals and aspirations, know how to continuously learn and pursue new knowledge, so that they can continue to improve.When difficulties arise, they are fearless in the face of danger, never complaining or pessimistic, and will not only use tears as a weapon to defend themselves, but believe that they can solve difficulties, and at the same time actively seek reliable solutions and methods.The gentle and virtuous woman has a confident and persistent temperament, but she has a firm and tenacious heart under her softness.

Thoughtful women are objective and fair women, they do not follow the crowd, and always maintain a calm mind and attitude towards the world.They are knowledgeable, educated, and understand social dynamics and knowledge trends. In the complicated social circles, they never easily ask people what is right and what is wrong.They have their own set of philosophies of life, which are completely different from those women who travel in cities with reinforced concrete structures, and are even more different from those women who wear heavy makeup in singing and dancing halls.They pay attention to appearance, but not flirtatious; they pay attention to polite, but not too affectionate; they pay attention to emotion, but not cronyism.In life, she always speaks with facts and never makes judgments. Such a woman is a man's right-hand man.

Thoughtful women can tolerate others, respect their choices, and will not impose their own values, outlook on life and worldview on others.They can put themselves in the shoes of others, understand others from their point of view, and help others as much as possible.Even if they think differently from others, they will not try to change others, fully understand the thoughts and habits of others, and guide them wisely when needed.Men have a very high opinion of such a woman. If she is a wife, she is a good wife; if she is a partner, she is a trustworthy friend.

A thoughtful woman has a complete and independent personality, and believes that there is beautiful love in the world.Dare to admit mistakes and shoulder responsibilities.Financially, she does not depend on anyone.In the spiritual world, she is not a man's appendage.She knows how to enrich her heart through making friends, reading, traveling, exercising, and entertaining.Emotionally, she believes that this world has eternity, and she knows how to cherish emotions and manage her life.In the face of difficulties and setbacks, she does not make excuses or avoid them, but faces them bravely, makes improvements by herself, and turns setbacks into motivation to move forward.A woman who has the courage to take on her responsibilities without evading or shirking is full of charm.

Thoughts are beautiful, thinking women are lovely, and the halo of thinking can illuminate every dark corner.Don't stop your thinking, don't just use your eyes and ears to feel the world, use your brain, use your thinking.In every arc you walk out, there is the light of your thoughts flickering.

The voice is a woman's natural instrument
Psychologists believe that voice determines 38% of a woman's first impression.When people can't see you, the quality of your voice, pitch, variation in speech rate, and expressiveness determine 85% of your speaking believability.Voice is a woman's natural instrument and a melody that passes through a man's soul.Whether it is beautiful or not depends on how you grasp and control it.

Life is moving towards a space of diversity.Facing an increasingly rich life, it is impossible for you to be present in everything.It is very realistic to use voice to handle official business, talk with friends, and even linger on the phone with a lover who is separated in two places.Future society may clearly separate the telephone world from the real world, and at that time there may be "beauties" who specialize in surviving on the telephone.Everything in the future will become very simple, refreshing and direct, and the sound will largely resolve the troubles of reality.

People who have watched the movie "Amelie" like the heroine Emily very much.Emily can win people's love. In addition to her innocent and beautiful image, her immature language full of childish voice also played a key role.Even if you don't see Emily, but you hear her childlike voice, you will imagine her as a childlike, beautiful and lovely woman, because of the role of voice.

Sound is emitted by internal organs and reflects many states of the human body, such as emotions, emotions, age, health status, preferences, and so on.Some people say that "the voice is the naked soul of a woman", and the voice can reveal a woman's spiritual world.Voice is the most beautiful melody of the body. It is natural and enduring, and it can become more and more beautiful with the efforts of the day after tomorrow.Many women know how to dress up, wear clothes, use perfume, and learn etiquette, but they don't know how to make good use of their voices.

We often have the experience that the same words may have very different effects when spoken by different women.Because their voices and intonations are different when they speak, their emotions are naturally different when they speak.Some women have beautiful bodies, but when they make a sound, men want to run away.A calm tone and a tepid conversation can bring people a sense of trust; while a high-pitched voice can easily make people feel frivolous and unreliable.

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