Be a Strong Woman: Carnegie's Book of Spiritual Growth for Women

Chapter 18 Women are like flowers, don't lose their natural style (1)
There are no ugly women in the world, only some women who don't know how to make themselves beautiful.

style is more important than beauty

Outward beauty largely depends on whether you have smooth skin.As the years go by, the external beauty will gradually fade, and a person's style will not fade even if she gets old. Style is a kind of beauty that never goes out of style.

Women's fashion designer Lai Kavakubo firmly believes: "Style never gets old. Therefore, I think creating a style for yourself is more important than external beauty."

There are many women who can attest to this, and although they are no longer particularly beautiful due to the irresistible laws of nature, their style still makes them very attractive.

Mitchell, a woman editor with a vivacious nature, is an outstanding representative of these ladies.One of her friends said: "To be honest, she is not beautiful, but no one thinks she is not beautiful, because she knows how to design herself." Mitchell is a very elegant lady.In a photo taken in 1938, she is wearing tight black trousers and carrying a leopard-print bag, looking so fashionable and outstanding, it seems that the photo was just taken today.

Mitchell is a creative lady.Her definition of style is: "Style means inventing for yourself."

Style is reflected in everything we do every day.It’s not just our bodies that define our style, it’s also the things we use every day: portfolios, ballpoint pens, calendars, walkmans, envelopes or key chains, bicycles, cars, etc., all of them Can express our style.

The few trendy items you use match your style.You should pay attention to the effect of using them from the beginning and never ask to keep them forever.These matching items play a practical role in establishing your style.For example, painted or plastic handbags are more popular these days, and you can buy one, no matter what material it is made of.The price of these things is not high, and if one day it breaks or becomes obsolete, you don't have to feel bad.

Beyond that, you should have a few favorite trinkets that will last a long time and make a unique addition to your style.Regarding the charm of these trinkets, Mrs. Carnegie wrote in her book: "I want it to embellish my personality." She believes that we must continue to learn, and these inconspicuous little ornaments that have accompanied us for many years Jewelry builds relationships.We should call them our most beautiful companions.

We should not only have some cheap trinkets, but also some good quality.Because the better the quality of these accessories, the longer they will last.

A smiling woman can conquer the world
Recently I was at a dinner party in New York where one of my guests was a woman who had just received an inheritance.She seemed eager to make a pleasant impression, spending a lot of money on mink coats, diamonds and pearls, but she didn't notice the expression on her face.She looked so mean and selfish.She didn't understand that what pleased the eyes of the men was the temperament and demeanor shown in the expressions of the ladies, not her graceful and luxurious attire.

Si Huabo once told me that his smile is worth 100 million yuan.Perhaps it is this truth that he is implying.Schwab's achievements today should be attributed to his personality, charisma and special ability.The most endearing factor in his personality is his beguiling smile.

A person's actions are more expressive than his words, and the smile on people's faces can say this: "I like you", "You make me happy", "I am very happy to meet you"!
Why do people like dogs so much?I believe it is the same reason.You see how they like to be near us, and the natural delight with which they see us makes people like them.

A personnel manager at a very large New York department store said: "I'd rather hire a girl with a cute smile who hasn't graduated from elementary school than a doctor of philosophy with a cold face."

If you want others to receive you with a happy and joyful expression, then you must first treat others with such an expression yourself.

The ancient Chinese were full of wisdom. They had a saying that you should cut out and stick in your hat.The motto is: "Don't open a shop if people don't have a smile on their face - 'Don't open a shop without a smile'".

We talked about opening a store just now, and there are a few words in the advertisement for the Colin Company that Freck Ivan did, which contains a revelatory philosophy.

The Value of a Christmas Smile:
It doesn't cost anything, but it has a lot to gain.

It benefits the receiver and loses the giver.

It happened in an instant, but the memory of it lasts forever.

No one with money would want it.And poor people get rich because of it.

It can create a happy atmosphere in the family.In business transactions, it can create a good impression.Among friends, it is a kind greeting.It brings rest to the weary, light to the despairing, sunshine to the mournful, and relief from troubles to nature.There is nowhere to buy it, nowhere to ask for it, nowhere to borrow it, let alone steal it...it is of no use to anyone until you get it.

If in the last minute rush of Christmas, our clerk is perhaps too tired to give you a smile, can you please leave yours?
Because he who doesn't give people a smile needs others to smile to him.

Fashion belongs to fashion, beauty belongs to oneself

"Only choose the most right, not the most expensive" is a sign of mature consumer psychology, and the "most right" mentioned here is the most suitable.What is suitable?One is something that can be matched with the clothes you already have in your wardrobe; the other is to find new fabrics, new colors, and new styles that make your eyes shine and suit you very well. This is also a good product for wandering.

The standard of good clothing should be able to highlight your beauty and characteristics, rather than highlighting the clothing itself.If the eyes of others are not due to your overall charm, but are attracted by eye-catching clothing, then this clothing is not your clothing.

Fashion is not the truth, and we don't need to be regarded as the ideal of life, let alone pursue it deliberately.When you look at fashion with a cold eye, you will find that fashion is actually a very indifferent thing that will not affect the quality of life.

Fashion does not listen to you, nor to him and me.Fashion is free and unrestrained.It's like the fragrance of flowers that you breathe while walking in the evening, like the ethereal and clear songs you pick up when you climb the mountain in the morning.Fashion makes you know, let you know, but can't chase, can't manufacture.However, fashion will tell you that it is not out of reach.Just do whatever you want, just do whatever you want.The essence of fashion is still life.Don't deliberately lead fashion, fashion is born for your mood.

No one can really say what is fashion, unpredictable is its temper.

After many years of blooming and fading, the fashion of blinding eyes has become more and more mature. The sign of this maturity is that more and more women are no longer blindly "collaborating" with fashion, but have an understanding of fashion. Personalized options.

In addition to the human body, the mind and spirit are even more important. It is the quality of a person. If it is transformed into basic necessities of life, it will definitely bring a refreshing feeling and show the most real, simple and natural side of personal life. : The most authentic smiling face, the most relaxed posture, the most kind and natural dress.The beauty that I recognize the most is also facing my own eyes. I wear it for myself, just for my own happiness, joy and satisfaction. What fashion is more intoxicating than this?In fact, dressing up is like being a person and dealing with the world, and what you pay attention to is the inadvertent revelation and harvest.

What kind of connection is there between the body wrapped in fashion and the passion surging in the soul?The body is divided into fat and thin, and the soul is different in vulgarity and elegance, so how can these different souls be included in the same popular model?
Being popular doesn't have to be for you.Clothing and cosmetics have popular colors. If you want to keep up with the fashion, you must wear clothes in popular colors that can keep up with the trend.However, all the talk that encourages you to buy trendy clothes and cosmetics comes from clothing design departments and makeup companies, not necessarily based on your needs.

Life belongs to you, and beauty also belongs to you. There is only one you in the vast sea of ​​people. Is there anyone else in the world who can share your loneliness and beauty.In the final analysis, this is a woman's realm problem.

Natural beauty is hard to beat the "three treasures" of makeup

When men want to show their attractiveness to women, they shave their faces clean, comb their hair straight, wear their most spiritual clothes, and groom themselves...

We shape ourselves the way we are used to.We create an image ourselves, and then perform self-beauty according to the image we "created".For example, there is a short female secretary in a certain company. She often has a sad expression, wears loose clothes and pants, and has a plain face.The female secretary was slightly obese, about 20 pounds over her normal weight.Although her facial features are not lacking in sweetness, her skin is fine, fair and delicate, but no one will take a fancy to her because she did it on purpose.

Another employee has a particularly ugly figure. No matter what kind of sports she does or what kind of clothes she wears, it is difficult for her to change her indecent figure.But she dressed up every day carefully, wearing beautiful silk blouses and exquisite skirts, and she was full of looks.Still, she can't be called beautiful and pretty.But over time, she started to attract the attention of others.

Putting powder on the face, drawing eyebrows and applying lipstick are the "three treasures" of makeup.With these "three treasures", ordinary-looking women can dress up very well without extra effort.If 90% of women know how to make up, the appearance of women will be greatly improved.

Our appreciation ability will be reflected to the outside world through our grooming and dressing.So, lack of skill in this area is not acceptable.If you want to master makeup skills, you must practice boldly and constantly.Remember, good makeup can reflect a person's inner beauty, thereby attracting attention and admiration from others.

A mature woman does not feel that makeup is something unnatural, nor does she feel resentful about spending money on it.And what everyone needs to know more is how to use cosmetics.If you really don't know how to use cosmetics, start learning!
Find a professional makeup artist, even if it costs a little money, it's no big deal, ask this professional makeup artist to teach you.When a professional makeup artist gives you makeup, you should seize the opportunity to ask for more advice and practice makeup according to the method taught.The technique of makeup should be practiced constantly!practise!Practice again!

Consistent, bold practice can make your makeup skills outstanding.When you are familiar with a makeup method, you might as well come to some new tricks from time to time.A woman may be accustomed to a certain way of makeup for many years, until she is too old to use this way of makeup.This is not worth advocating.Why stick to a few poor common methods?There are many ways to make up, just like our clothes, they are colorful.May wish to try other makeup methods.As long as you are bold and careful, good at observation and comprehension, you will be able to dress up charmingly with different colors.

The secrets revealed by clothing

Everything about you is written on your clothes.

William Saul, an American presidential etiquette adviser, said: "When you walk into a room, even if the people in the room don't know you, they can make the following ten inferences from the appearance of your clothing-economic status, education, trustworthiness, social status, maturity, family economic status, family social status, family upbringing, successful people, and conduct.”

Clothing covers nearly 90% of the body area. Often when we haven't seen or observed the other person's appearance and have no time to speculate on the other person's mental state, the large area of ​​clothing has already given important hints.We live in a "street culture" that passes by in a hurry. Whether you like it or not, the first impression you make on others will play a decisive role in future social interaction.Your sense of credibility, and your place in the hearts of others throughout life, is often established through initial impressions.

In the fast-paced life, it is difficult for people to engage in second, third and long-term relationships with people who are not interested in the first relationship.This potential force beyond personal ability affects the future of people.Today, we are in a society that emphasizes individuality, equality, and freedom more and more, and clothing has stronger social and cultural attributes.It is obviously branded as a social symbol, and it has created all kinds of people and classes with different styles with its unique aesthetic function.

Clothing is the concentrated materialization of people's taste, emotion, mentality, personality, etc. Clothing is also an art. Like learning other arts, it also needs to understand basic common sense and correct practical application.

Good use of clothing is also a kind of ability.The reason why some women are outstanding and charming is that in addition to their self-cultivation and temperament, their sensitivity to fashion trends and control over clothing modifications seem to have a natural and unique ability to control.In fact, the most important thing that dominates this control ability is personality, and clothing is the image expression of thought and personality.No matter what style is popular, these women can use their own thoughts and personalities to dominate their own expression style. What they are best at is to maximize their strengths and avoid weaknesses, and they can choose clothing and attire that highlight their body shape and temperament.Individual women have individual spirit, they like to express their individuality, they also like to constantly try to innovate, and they like to feel different from others.Over time, it has become more and more creative, but it has become more and more unique in flavor and temperament.

Some women who lack personality, even though they are full of famous brands, are still empty, soulless and charming, even vulgar and annoying.Personality is the connotation of a tasteful woman, a spirit of a charming woman, and a vivid social symbol of you.

Weight control, what a woman should do in her life

Make staying in shape the most important thing in your life.

The difficulty of weight control is much higher than that of weight loss. The difference between weight loss and weight control is that weight loss is staged; weight control is long-term, year after year.Many women are able to lose weight, but it is difficult to maintain weight control. Once a whim occurs, they take weight-loss pills and take weight-loss treatments, and almost go on a hunger strike.Although it may be effective in the short term, it is difficult to persist. Not only can it not maintain a good body shape, but it may also damage your health.

Maintaining your weight doesn't happen overnight.First of all, you have to formulate a diet plan for yourself, and implement this plan very strictly according to your physical conditions.Your plan can't be overly complicated, it's hard to stick to complexity.The following three points are what you must pay attention to:

Long-term control of food intake.When you are young, your food intake can be controlled at [-]% to [-]% full, but after middle age, [-]% to [-]% full is much more.You can't feel full, and as long as your food contains the right amount of the big five, you can't have more.The deficiencies can be made up by supplementing high-quality healthy foods such as vitamins and trace elements.It is extremely difficult to insist on controlling food intake. Many people can insist on reducing food or dieting for one or two meals or for a period of time, and then eat a big meal. This is a taboo for body shape control.The stomach has a stretching function. When your food intake is kept within a certain range for a long time, and the stretching of the stomach is also in a corresponding balanced state, you will reduce or no longer have excessive hunger, and weight control will become something your body can adapt to. Virtuous circle.

Avoid high-fat and oily foods.If you are still young and in good shape, you can still enjoy this kind of delicious food a little bit, but it must be controlled after middle age.Women must have perseverance if they want to be beautiful. The body is almost the beauty that you are most capable of mastering. Don't ruin your future of beauty by satisfying and indulging your taste for a while.

(End of this chapter)