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Chapter 7 The Poor Boy

Being poor as a teenager does not mean being poor all your life
Understand men in five seconds and understand men in seconds No. [-]: Poor boy
Features: Around the age of 28 is the trough of life, regardless of money, career, family, basically nothing is smooth and successful.But no matter how many setbacks he encountered, he never gave up his courage and dreams, and always moved forward.

Such poor boys will have exponential success after the age of 30, and the person who accompanied them through the lowest valley must be the most grateful person in their life.

Love code: A poor boy may become a white-eyed wolf, but he may not, it depends on whether you are willing to take a gamble.

True Stories Know Men in Seconds No. [-]: Poor Boy
There is an old saying in China that it is better to bully the white-headed man than to bully the young and poor.

Bullying the elderly is of course not good.But this common saying means that the three words "young and poor" cannot be insulted.

Let's use a small case to understand what it means to be young and poor.

The heroine, Chenchen, graduated from the Chinese Department of a certain university. When she graduated, it was less than 2000. The college students at that time were not as worthless as they are now, so they could be regarded as the son of heaven.

Chen Chen had been in love since he was in college. The man was Wu Yun, the president of the college poetry club, and he could be considered a talented type.He started writing novels and scripts in college. Although he has never published it, everyone knows that he is talented.

In college, Wu Yun was the focus of the girls' attention, while Chenchen was after him.Wu Yun and her became a couple, making Chenchen the focus of the university.

We have been in love for two years, and the relationship is very good.After graduation, Wu Yun wanted to stay in school but failed, and finally entered the city cultural center.Chenchen saw that Wu Yun had taken root, so he stayed in this city.

The two have just graduated, and they have to rent a house and live, and they are very nervous about money.Wu Yun had just entered the cultural center, and the money he received every month was pitifully small, and the two people's families were not well-off financially, so there was no way to take care of them.

Originally, Chenchen was thinking of looking for a job slowly until he could find a suitable one.The so-called things she likes are nothing more than TV stations, newspapers and the like.

But at that time, laid-off workers were looking for food everywhere, and every unit was full of people, so there was no job for her.What's more, Chenchen doesn't have the talent like Wu Yun, she is nothing more than a young girl pretending to be a literary artist.

After about half a year, the life of the two of them was really tight. Wu Yun had to support himself and Chen Chen, and he really couldn't survive financially, so he proposed to let Chen Chen find a job to make the transition. one time.

But it's not so easy to find a job. Fortunately, Chenchen has a good face and is a college student, so he finally found a job as a wine salesperson.

Wine sales are not beer sales.The beer promotion is in the bar, wearing short skirts or something, which doesn't look so high-end.

At that time, red wine was not available to ordinary people.Selling French wine is a relatively high-end job.

Chenchen needs to wear a formal business attire, chat and socialize with all kinds of people who drink red wine in the winery, and then sell them box by box, and even sell en primeur to them.

At the beginning of this job, Chenchen was very dissatisfied. He thought that if he was in sales, he would be a salesman?There is no future at all.

But slowly, she discovered that this job has a very big advantage, that is, it allows her to meet people.

Chenchen is the kind of person who firmly believes that as long as there is interpersonal relationship, everything can be done.This is almost the older generation's understanding of Chinese socialization.

And those men who buy red wine are basically bosses.The people who come to drink red wine with the bosses are basically of some social status.

After working for less than two months, Chenchen discovered that this world had opened a door to her. This door led to a colorful world, and that world was exactly what she had always yearned for.

Chenchen began to fall in love with this world, which she called the high-end circle, which is commonly known as the upper class.

Once entering this world, Chenchen felt that his door had also been opened.Her life has entered a brand new platform from now on.

She hadn't seen these before, so she didn't understand.

Now she knows that, in fact, she should belong to this circle by nature, she should live a prosperous life, associate with people of status, carry a famous bag, ride a luxury car, and go to high-end places.

But the problem came again.

She comes into contact with such people and things, but she has no way to live such a life.

She drank red wine with others during the day and chatted about business worth hundreds of millions, but drank porridge at home at night, worrying about what to do with next month's rent.

When she was working, she received ladies with 10,000+ famous bags, and accompanied them to discuss the fashion of luxury goods this season, but when she got home, she had to go to Taobao to buy cheap high-quality imitations, so that others would think that she could still use them.

When she directed people to send boxes of red wine to the mansions of the rich and looked at the sports cars in the garage, she had to take the bus home, and sometimes even had to walk a stop or two.

Under such circumstances, Chenchen hated her life after returning home more and more. She tried her best to integrate herself into that high-end circle and break with her original life.

But how could she break it?No matter how high-end the people she knows, the monthly income is only a few thousand yuan, and her husband is even less. In the Qingshui Yamen of the government, it is very good to have more than 1000 yuan when you first enter.

Chenchen began to be dissatisfied with Wu Yun.Now Chenchen has finally discovered that it is useless for a man to be talented, it is even more useless to be able to write poetry, and literature and art are useless.

Look at those men who graduated from primary school, they can still make a lot of money, and they can still be very rich.

Since this is the case, art and talent are not as good as others who know how to do business!

Chenchen has a lot of complaints about Wu Yun, and wants him to buy various gifts for herself, and try her best to improve her life, otherwise she will break up.

In fact, Wu Yun has plans and arrangements for life. He feels that the two of them are still young, and the most important thing is to pursue their dreams. If they don’t fight now, there will be no time and energy in the future. , it’s never too late to make money.

Wu Yun's plan is to stay in a government unit for a while and earn a dead salary. Anyway, his work is quite leisurely, and he just has time to write scripts and novels.If one day the script or novel became popular, I would quit my job and become a professional writer; and if it didn’t become popular, then at least I would have a job with serious qualifications.

This idea can be said to be both safe and aggressive, and it is also a seasoned move.

Chenchen was very dissatisfied, what she wanted to see was the change in front of her, not the possibility of the future, let alone any hope.

Those so-called high-end people, the biggest influence on Chenchen is that they don't believe in the future, but only believe in the present.Chenchen felt that this was right, those so-called talkers of hope were always fooling around.

So she felt that Wu Yun's plan was just an excuse, an excuse he made.

Chenchen asked Wu Yun to resign immediately and start a business, and change the lives of the two of them within one year, otherwise it would be impossible to continue being together.

Wu Yun and Chenchen quarreled for a long time, but they couldn't convince the girl in the end.He loved each other very much, but in desperation, he really resigned.

Then, I went to open a so-called wine agency.

Wu Yun took money from his family, borrowed money from classmates, friends, and even teachers, got a so-called wine agent through Chenchen, and opened a small shop.

However, business is not so easy to do.

Wu Yun has no business experience at all, and opening a store means losing money immediately.And Chenchen believed too much in his ability, thinking that those former guests could be easily pulled over.

But where did she expect that the so-called rich people are often the most realistic group of people.The reason they were polite to Chenchen and even made friends back then was because she was not bad looking and she was in that top-notch wine cellar.

Now, Chenchen has left the top wine cellar, opened such a small and shabby store by himself, and is also the boss of her boyfriend, why should she give face?

Or give face at most once, why should you patronize again and again afterwards?

Chenchen didn't understand that, in fact, doing business is never based on interpersonal relationships, but on genuine goods at a fair price, so that everyone feels that they are not at a disadvantage.

If she wanted to take advantage of others and let them send money to her, she would have to pay the corresponding price.But if she has a boyfriend by her side, that's even more impossible.

The young couple's business failed after less than a few months.

And the result of this failure was very tragic.

The money that the two of them took from home was fine, but the money they borrowed from friends and classmates put a heavy burden on them.More importantly, both of them resigned to start a business. Now the business has failed, with no income and no job. They have nothing and are in debt.

In comparison, Wu Yun may have suffered a little more. He was originally a regular employee of a government unit.Although at that time, the official establishment was not as rare as it is now, but it was also a rare thing to wait for once a year.Now that he has resigned, he will never return to the system in his life. In other words, the official path is completely cut off.

The business failed, Chenchen was depressed for a few weeks, and then went back to other wine cellars to work as a salesman.After all, she has experience and clients, so it is not difficult to find a job.

But Wu Yun really couldn't find a job.

He has no talent, no work experience, and he is still a man, so how could he be given a chance!

There was really no other way, Wu Yun had no choice but to go to the repertory theater and become a security guard.

The proud son of a college student, the president of the school club at that time, even stayed in the system, and finally became a security guard.

Wu Yun hasn't been unable to bear it yet, and it was Chenchen who couldn't bear it first.

She couldn't accept the fact that her boyfriend was a security guard at all.And just at this time, a rich man was pursuing her.Chenchen made up his mind to break up with Wu Yun.

Wu Yun tried to persuade him for a long time, and even said that he would get married immediately, so that Chenchen could see his future changes.He is a person with dreams and drive, as long as he takes time, he will make Chenchen live a better life.

But Chenchen couldn't listen to these words, she just cared about what she saw in front of her eyes, he was just a poor boy, and he was a poor security guard, how could he compare with a rich man?
Chenchen broke up with Wu Yun without hesitation, and became a rich mistress.

This incident has almost become a tragedy until now.

If Wu Yun didn't have much fighting spirit, he would probably be reduced to this for the rest of his life, or he would go back to his hometown and spend the rest of his life under the care of his parents.

Fortunately, he is indeed a person with goals and ideals.

While working as a security guard in the city's repertory troupe, Wu Yun watched countless plays, including performances by domestic and foreign artists, and read many books. He was quietly writing a play about a play.

Several years later, by some chance, his script was seen by the group leader.At that time, the group leader was shocked.Maybe Wu Yun's script wasn't that good, but a script written by a security guard can actually rank among the first-class, which can already drive everyone crazy.

The head of the group decided to give Wu Yun a chance, rehearsed his script into a small drama, and performed it in a small range.Unexpectedly, the effect turned out to be very good. It won the love of many audiences and won some small awards.

Wu Yun was directly promoted by the group leader to become a screenwriter for the drama troupe, and the first thing he did after he got the job was to contact Chenchen and tell this woman that he already had a decent job, and he would slowly realize it. In his dream, he can already marry the other party and let Chenchen live a good life.

But unfortunately, at that time, Chenchen happened to be replaced by the fourth rich man.

That's right, Chenchen and the rich man he was with at the beginning had already broken up.But it doesn't matter, since she has let go and is in this circle, she doesn't have to worry about no man liking her.

So I changed men all the way, and every time I was a mistress for those men with families. As long as she was given enough money, a villa and a luxury car, she would be willing to accompany them and let them take care of them for a long time.

In a few years, Chenchen has saved millions of dollars in savings, and also has a house and a car. She has lived the life she wanted at the beginning, with famous bags and luxury cars every day, and she can go to high-end places at any time.

How could a woman in this environment be moved by Wu Yun's small progress?
Wu Yun proposed to her without even caring about what she had done in the past few years.But Chenchen felt that she and Wu Yun were already two completely different people.

Even if Wu Yun already has a job as a playwright and earns tens of thousands of yuan a year, he is still a frog in a well.

How could he know that Chenchen could drink a certain man's tens of thousands of dollars of red wine in one night, and after one night, he could get a certain rich man's bag worth tens of thousands of dollars!
In Chenchen's view, this is the difference between heaven and earth.

After Chenchen rejected Wu Yun, he told all the sisters in the circle about it.Everyone felt that Chen Chen was doing the right thing. A poor person like Wu Yun would never be able to get into their circle for the rest of his life.

Someone put it more harshly. She said that sisters are a famous brand that people like Wu Yun can never afford.

This sentence probably encouraged a whole generation of women, but unfortunately, these women have never understood that the point of a famous brand is not expensive at all, but word of mouth.

All in all, another year has passed by.

Chenchen continued to hang out in that wealthy circle, she had changed nearly ten men, and she was almost 30 years old.

To be honest, Chenchen wasn't a particularly good-looking type in the first place, it was only because of his youth and freshness that men liked him.And as she gets older, her advantage no longer exists.

Moreover, the men in the circle all knew that she had no job, didn't know anything, was just a social butterfly, and privately called her a bus.

Unless he is a newcomer to the circle, no one is interested in Chenchen.

Looking back at the past few years, Chenchen seems to have been living a wealthy and extravagant life, but what has he actually left behind?Some men gave her a house, but they took it back after breaking up, and there were even wives who came to the door to ask for the house back.

The man also gave her a lot of money, but she wanted to buy luxury goods, rent a luxury villa to live in, and drive a good car, so in the end she didn't have much left.

In the month before Chenchen's 30th birthday, she sorted out her assets. She only had 10,000+ deposits and a house of famous brands that passed the season. Others were either rented or borrowed, and she had nothing.

What's even more frightening is that she hasn't learned any skills or work experience in these years.In other words, as long as she leaves this circle and men, she has nothing.

Chenchen ushered in his 30th birthday party with such fear.And at this party, several women said that they would introduce a fresh tall, rich and handsome man to Chenchen.

Sure enough, they did not break their promise, and brought a newly listed film and television company owner, who was said to be in his thirties, and was truly tall, rich and handsome.

This boss didn't seem to like playing very much before, but this time he was dragged into the circle for the first time because of his affection.

As the birthday star, Chenchen was of course dragged out to grandly introduce to the boss.

When the two met, they were stunned.

It turned out that the boss was Wu Yun.

Although seven or eight years have passed, Wu Yun is not much different from before. He still wears glasses in such a refined manner, but his clothes are much better than before, and he looks like he has experienced vicissitudes, so he is more confident.

Chenchen felt as if she had been hit by a bullet. Over the years, she felt that she was living in the upper class, so she never paid attention to how Wu Yun's life was.She just regarded Wu Yun as a poor boyfriend she once had, something she did wrong when she was young and ignorant.

But the Wu Yun he saw now was the focus of everyone's attention. Chen Chen's so-called high society was rushing to curry favor with Wu Yun.

Surprised, Chenchen didn't dare to continue talking about the past with Wu Yun. She hid beside her and listened to other people's evaluation of Wu Yun and his so-called legendary experience.

Back then, after Chen Chen and Wu Yun broke up, Wu Yun was depressed for a long time.He wasn't even interested in writing novels, and he didn't have the energy to work. At that time, he had just transferred to a screenwriter for a repertory theater troupe. How could he be so messed up?The leader was furious and asked him to go home and suspend him for several months.

During those few months, Wu Yun got drunk every day at home, and he was so drunk that he dreamed of death. He felt that this life was over, with love gone, job gone, and dreams gone.

This was the lowest point in Wu Yun's life. No matter how many years later, whenever Wu Yun recalled that time, he would sigh deeply.

Fortunately, at that time, not everyone gave up on him.There was an actress from a drama club who admired Wu Yun, especially the drama he secretly wrote, so she voluntarily came to take care of Wu Yun.

She cooks for Wu Yun, washes clothes for Wu Yun, buys him various daily necessities, and even forces him to take a bath and go for a walk.

To be honest, the actresses in this repertory troupe are a little prettier than Chenchen.It's just that at that time, Wu Yun's mind was full of lovelorn, not only was he ungrateful to him, but he also cursed and despised him for meddling in other people's business.

The actress also cried and was sad.But it took a long time to take care of Wu Yun. She really fell in love with Wu Yun, so she didn't leave, and continued to be Wu Yun's inexplicable nanny.

For five full months, the actress has been giving.In the next few months, Wu Yun was already so poor that the girl paid for his meals.

Later, Wu Yun's parents came over, saw this scene, taught Wu Yun a lesson, and forced Wu Yun to marry another girl.

On the contrary, the actress was reluctant. She felt that she was in love with the other party, but why would she come to the forced marriage?So he turned around and left freely, and continued to perform dramas.

Non-vegetation, ruthless Practice makes perfect?Seeing the girl like this, Wu Yun regained consciousness instead.

He was emotionally hurt, not an idiot, who is good and who is bad, can't he tell the difference?

After Wu Yun recovered, he returned to work in the repertory theater troupe. He began to devote himself to creating a script, and the prototype of the female lead was that girl.

The play was a huge success, and the actress rose to fame throughout the drama world.During the last performance, Wu Yun proposed to the actress on stage.Under the attention of all audiences and actors, the two finally came together.

After marriage, Wu Yun finally found an opportunity to display his talents. He produced many excellent works, not only dramas, but also scripts for TV dramas, which became popular one after another. In less than two years, he established his own studio.

Later, it happened that TV dramas were booming, and several of the dramas created by his studio were all blockbusters of the year. Wu Yun's studio quickly became a company.

After becoming a company, a group of investors swarmed in and worked together to increase the value of the company.At that time, Wu Yun's team had become the biggest dark horse in the domestic TV drama industry. The actors were scrambling to get on the show, and the TV station wanted to buy the drama at any cost. The increase was several times for three consecutive years, and this was the reason for the subsequent listing.

Wu Yun went from penniless to the chairman of a listed company within a few years, that is simply a legend.

Chenchen listened to everyone's chattering introductions, and his heart was overwhelmed, and he really didn't know what to say.Everyone is envious of that actress, saying that she has good eyesight and can see a man's future and so on.

Little did he know, Chenchen regretted it so much that he was about to die.

She was the first to be with Wu Yun. It was she who said that Wu Yun would never be successful, and she was the one who abandoned Wu Yun to pursue glory and wealth.

But now, the real glory and wealth is Wu Yun.

There is no need to say more about the result of this matter.Even if Chenchen could lower his face and run to Wu Yun for reunion, there is no possibility at all.

This is a typical example of not knowing "don't bully the young and poor".

Identify men in 5 minutes and understand men in seconds No. [-]: Poor boy
What is juvenile poverty?
That is when a man is penniless, has no career, no house, no car, and nothing when he is young.

This often happens within a few years after graduation. Few men can be lucky enough to succeed in their careers all at once.Most of them just came out of school, holding fantasies and persistence, and then hit a wall in various ways.

The first characteristic of poor young people:
It generally appears before the age of 30, around the age of 28, which is the lowest point in the life of most men.Everything they wanted to do failed, their jobs were at the bottom, they had no money, and their prospects seemed like a dream.This is the most common period of youth poverty.

Because at that time, there was a period of time after graduation, and I had already abandoned the fantasies of my student days, but work required qualifications, society required experience, and making money required opportunities, almost nothing.

Coupled with this age, it is the time when men most want to fall in love and get married, so they need to spend even more money.

Therefore, if you have experienced a man's 28-year-old, you have probably experienced the trough of his life.Being able to accompany a man through his most difficult years, although it is impossible for people to be grateful for the rest of their lives, at least, it will make people miss you for the rest of their lives.

The second characteristic of juvenile poverty:
No matter how poor these men were at the time, they never gave up the courage and dreams in their hearts, so they still crawled forward in the most difficult environment.

If you see a man overwhelmed by difficulties and never having the courage to move forward, then he is not of this type.

The boy is poor, but he moves forward bravely.

The most important thing for a man is loyalty and courage.If there is no loyalty, then no matter how rich you are, it is useless, because it is not yours, and nothing is meaningful; if there is no courage, then no matter how good the conditions are, it is useless, because one setback and blow can completely get down.So, when a man is only good for you and full of hope, what is there to pick?Hope and single-mindedness are the greatest advantages of a man.

The third characteristic of juvenile poverty:
He will succeed in the future.The so-called poor youth means being poor when you are young.If you are still poor when you are old, you are not called poor as a teenager, but poor all your life.

According to common observations, after the age of 30, a man's income will increase exponentially, even about ten times that of before the age of 30.

For most men, his career will take a leap after the age of 30.This is the experience, the qualifications are enough, and the people are smart enough.

The degree of leap is related to the man's effort.People who work extraordinarily hard, more than a hundred times; people who work hard generally, more than ten times; people who don't work hard at all also increase.

The fourth characteristic of juvenile poverty:
Not necessarily loyal, but mostly grateful.

People who have been poor and miserable, generally will not forget their experience.No matter how rich and powerful you are in the future, you will often regard your difficult life as a fortune, or even the most precious experience.

Therefore, if you have been with a man when he was poor, he may not be loyal to you, but he will generally be grateful.

Here is a sentence about the loyalty of men.

Whether a man is loyal or not has nothing to do with his success or not, and it has nothing to do with whether you spend long nights with him.

This is the nature of man.

And what we have seen is that among the group of people who spent their youth and poverty, nearly half have cheated, but nearly half of them have not cheated.

It depends on whether you see the bad half or the good half.

There is no man who is always honest, perhaps, there is only a shrew who can live with men forever!

(End of this chapter)