understand man in seconds

Chapter 17

Especially poor men are not only playful, but also of low quality

Understanding Men in Five Seconds Chapter Seventeen: Garbage Man
Characteristics: Garbage men generally have poor conditions, whether it is appearance, career, or family.The point is that they don't want to change their living conditions at all, and they don't have any fighting spirit for the future.

Trash men are generally lazy, narrow-minded, and aimless.But at the same time, they will be jealous of people who live a good life, and they will also have a lustful heart.

Because trash men don't need to struggle, they have enough free time to pick up girls.

The probability of their cheating is not lower than that of high-quality men.

Love code: Don't sympathize with him because of his difference, because after you commit yourself, he will still look down on you.

Real Stories Understand Men in Seconds No. [-]: Garbage Man
I know a girl named Lily.

Lily is not very good-looking, she is basically fat and cute.

Lily's family background is good, her parents are both doctors, so she is considered a wealthy family, and she is regarded as a respectable person among her family and friends.

Growing up in such a family, reading books will naturally be good.After graduating from a prestigious university in China, Lili went to the UK to study for a master's degree for a year, and after returning to China, she took a doctorate degree in the Department of Art.

After reading the book, Lily entered the media as an editor.Her parents bought her a house and a car in the city, which is basically considered a success, and she usually has no worries about food and clothing, and there is no pressure.

The biggest pressure is falling in love and getting married.

Generally, girls who are good at studying are late in love and late in marriage.Others who graduated from college may have been in love two or three times.But Lily is going to study for a master's degree, and then to study for a doctorate when she comes back, and when she settles down at work, she thinks she can fall in love, but she turns out to be 28 or nine years old, close to 30 years old, and looking back, girls in their early 20s are already grabbing It's a man, she doesn't have much competitiveness in this market.

So I had to go on a blind date.

For many so-called "leftover women", blind date is the biggest way to find a man.

I have to say that the family background is good enough, which is also very advantageous for blind dates.Lily's parents quickly organized a huge blind date group for her, there were more than a dozen in number.

There are many elites in the business and academic circles among them. If they are put outside, everyone will be robbed by a bunch of girls.

Lily met a bunch of people, some were satisfied, some were not.However, Lily is decent-looking, her family background is good, and she has a high degree of education. Most of the men on the blind date are interested in her.

So things quickly turned around and it became Lily picking the man again.Just at this time, one of Lily's high school classmates also came to pursue her for some reason.

This high school classmate is Lily's long-term suitor.In fact, I have confessed since high school.But because she looked so ugly, Lily didn't think about it at all.

Later, when Lily was admitted to university, this male classmate originally wanted to go to university, but his grades were not good enough, and he only got three, so he had no choice but to pursue it at a distance.

Lili went abroad and came back to study for a Ph.D. At that time, the male students didn't even dare to pursue her.

Some time ago, at the high school reunion, Lily met with the big guy, and found that the male classmate didn't come to attend.After asking, I found out that he had been doing poorly and was ugly. Everyone didn't like him, not even the classmate reunion called him.

Lili listened to her classmate talking about how bad that male classmate was, why she couldn't find a girlfriend, why she couldn't make money, etc., but she felt sympathetic to him in her heart.

After the class reunion ended, Lily sent a text message to the male classmate to ask how he was doing.The man came back almost full of gratitude, and asked Lili to have dinner.

I will meet you in a few days and say you are going to a five-star hotel for a buffet.It was only when Lily arrived that she realized that the male classmate had arrived on an electric bike, and had even dressed up quite seriously.

Seeing that the other party doesn't seem to be able to afford a high-end restaurant at all, and insists on coming with her, Lily's heart is both warm and funny.In the end, he didn't eat the buffet in a five-star hotel, but dragged the other party to the noodle restaurant next door to eat a bowl of Pian Erchuan.

The meal was very enjoyable for both of them, and it also inspired the love buried in the male classmate's heart for a long time.After returning, the two chatted on WeChat, and the male classmate also secretly expressed his intention to pursue it.

At this time, Lily and her family screened several times and had already identified two outstanding boys.One is a senior executive of a certain group, close to 35 years old, foreign nationality, after marrying him, he can go abroad to settle at any time.

The other is a university professor, the youngest professor and scholar in a first-class university in recent years. He is intellectually elegant and has a bright future in the domestic academic circle.

These two people, no matter their family background, self-cultivation, career prospects or appearance, are very good.

From the point of view of Lily's parents, it's okay for the daughter to choose any one, anyway, it doesn't matter which one she chooses.

At this moment, Lily didn't know which nerve was wrong, and she didn't choose both, but agreed to the male classmate's pursuit.

This time, everyone was dumbfounded.

Lily's parents didn't come to their senses at first, thinking that their daughter had a better choice!But after the news got out, several of Lily's classmates came to visit the house, so they got a thorough understanding of the situation.

When the parents knew that their daughter had given up the two big rich and handsome men and chose a trash man whom no one else liked and who had never been able to marry a wife, the two elders immediately exploded.

Being a mother is full of tears and snot.This painstaking effort to bring up her daughter, to eat better than others, to use better than others, to educate her well all the way, can be regarded as watching her come back from abroad and become a grown-up, but why did she want to jump into that pit of fire?

Lily's father even forced his daughter not to go out.It's just a joke, people who are obviously living in heaven, but they insist on jumping into hell.

What the parents mean is that they are not such strong people, but as long as the man is not bad, they will definitely not stop their daughter from falling in love freely.To be honest, my daughter has her own love, and it's too late to be happy!
But the problem is, you can't find such a bad one!In terms of appearance, it is too ugly to be seen. According to others, it is hard to eat after seeing it; in terms of height, it is not even 1.7 meters, which seriously affects the next generation; There is a huge difference between a master's degree and a doctor's degree in the Mainland; when it comes to work, a 30-year-old man can't even earn 4000 yuan a month, and he can only be regarded as the bottom of the workplace.

Why don't the elites want a piece of trash instead?
Friends can't figure it out, classmates can't figure it out, and parents can't figure it out even more.

In the end, Lily herself said the reason.She first said that she didn't have any deep relationship with this male classmate, and she never had a good feeling before.That is to say, from an emotional point of view, the male student and the other two elites are almost on the same starting line.

So why choose the bad one?Lily felt that she was not considered a beauty, nor was she a charming woman. If she found a husband who was too good, the risk of family stability would be great.

For those two elites, if they want to go abroad, the women abroad are so open, and it is common for men to sleep with other women, so how can they have a stable family?
The same is true for high-spirited academics. He is a professor at such a young age. His future is boundless. He is gentle and handsome.No matter how honest a man is, there are so many girls he can't stand after!Even if only one or two women succeed, it's all true love, breaking up families anytime and anywhere.

Lily's idea is very simple, the reason why men cheat is because there are too many temptations around them.And why there are so many temptations around men is because they are too good.Now there are piles of leftover women. An outstanding man is too easy to attract bees and butterflies.

Lily's words are justified and irrefutable.Parents think about it, it seems that the same thing.

Finding a husband with good conditions, of course, has face now, and it looks good to take out, but after all, life is a matter of decades.My daughter is not the kind of person who can tie her husband down. If it ends in divorce, it's better not to get married!

Thinking about it this way, that male classmate didn't seem to be unacceptable.

After much deliberation, Lily's parents finally agreed to meet the man.

After meeting, Lily's parents found out that the man really wanted to look but not look, and he wanted to achieve but not achieve.But there is one good thing, her mouth is sweet, she knows what to do, she works hard as soon as she gets home, and even asks to show her skills in cooking, and the dishes she cooks are actually not bad.

These details greatly improved Lily's parents' impression of the man.

So the situation changed, and about half a year later, Lily successfully married this man.

After getting married, Lily didn't feel much, but the man's life has undergone earth-shaking changes.

First of all, it is impossible for Lily's parents to see their daughter living a hard life, so they bought a house and a car for them from the beginning.The car is said to be for the daughter, but in fact it is also driven by a man. The house is said to be bought by the two families together, but most of the money is paid by Lily's family.

Secondly, Lily's parents felt that this man's job was too poor and he was really not worthy of their daughter, so they moved around and arranged for him to be the vice president of a related pharmaceutical company.Why don't people want him, just look at the famous doctor's face and keep him.

So this man has lived a life with a car, a house, a head and a face. Everyone knows that he is rich because of his wife, but so what?
Lily's life after marriage is actually pretty good, and her husband is also very obedient, and the days are getting better every day.

Two years later, Lily decided to have a baby.This was of course a big deal. Her mother was an obstetrician and gynecologist, so after she got pregnant, she simply took Lily back to her natal family to take care of her.

After a few months of confinement at her parents' house, Lily was a little bored and panicked. She couldn't help but go back to her home to get her things, but unexpectedly found that there was a small box of condoms in the bedside table.

Lili and the others have been trying to conceive for more than half a year, and there is no condom at home, and this kind of small box, ordinary couples can't use it, they are only used for temporary hookups!
Seeing this, Lily felt dizzy for a while, and she sat on the edge of the bed for almost half an hour before she recovered.But even at this time, Lily still didn't quite believe that her husband would cheat, and even took the woman home for sex.

The reason is very simple, because her husband is stupid and ugly, and his conditions are so poor, how can women like him?Lily was willing to marry him back then, wasn't it because his conditions were bad enough and safe enough?
What's more, everything this man owns now, including a house, a car, and a job, was all given by Lily's family. How stupid must he be to dare to do something wrong to his wife!

Lily's seemingly rational analysis basically ruled out the possibility of her husband cheating, and only regarded the matter of condoms as a misunderstanding.

But unfortunately, the facts gave Lily a slap in the face.

Soon, rumors were spreading everywhere.It turned out that this man really had an affair, and it was a young medical representative of his company.Taking advantage of Lily's pregnancy and not being at home, the two had a heated fight in the past few months. It is said that they stayed at Lili's house for several nights.

Hearing this news, Lily completely collapsed. She really couldn't understand how could a woman like her husband's extremely poor conditions, and how dare he?Didn't he know that everything he had was given by Lily?Doesn't he know that if he cheats, he will lose everything?How could he not be grateful at all?
Identify Men in 5 Minutes and Understand Men in Seconds No. [-]: Trash Man

The first characteristic of the garbage man:
No matter how poor a man's condition is, there will still be women who will take a fancy to him.The so-called poor conditions are a relative concept.

You think your man's conditions are poor because you have seen better conditions.And in this world, there will always be girls who have never seen the world or who are blind.A man you think is rubbish, others will still treat him as a treasure.

What's more, no matter how bad the conditions are, don't you want it yourself?
The second characteristic of the garbage man:
They are sometimes grateful, but more easily bothered.The worse a man is, the less moral bottom line he has.

Of course a man will be grateful, but he will not let himself be careless because of his grateful attitude.If the emotions in everyone's heart are like a pyramid, then gratitude is at the bottom of the pyramid, love is at the middle of the pyramid, and love is at the top of the pyramid.

As a paroxysmal emotional disease, Huaxin is always at the top of all emotions in men, and nothing can limit the existence of Huaxin's emotion.

Of course, what cannot be restricted is not Huaxin, but Huaxin's emotions.There is a difference.

The third characteristic of the garbage man:
When they cheat on each other, they lose their minds and don't worry about losing everything.

Of course men are afraid of losing everything.Men are more afraid of losing their career than they are of losing their family.

But will this kind of fear stop a man from being playful?
Judging from a large time frame, of course it will be prevented, and the inner fear will make the man control the degree of fiddling.

But for a certain moment, a man's desire will surpass his inner fear.

Others say that men are "*worms on the brain", and there is some truth to this, that is, desire makes people lose their minds, and the blood stops flowing to the brain.

There are many girls, like Lily in the above story, who have a stupid idea.

That is, if a man's conditions are not good enough, he will definitely not cheat.

A girl who has this idea is not only stupid, but also stupid to the point of no end.

If you just want to choose a bad man for the sake of security, then let me tell you, just because a man is bad doesn't mean he doesn't care.

In many cases, men with good conditions and men with poor conditions are equally philandering, it's just that your poor condition has less chance of being philandering.

The real sense of security is never given to you by others, let alone obtained by lowering your requirements.The real sense of security is one's own confidence, one's own heart, and one's sincerity.

If you don't have confidence in yourself, don't have confidence in a man.No matter how bad or ugly a man is, it's not worth your confidence in them.

Your confidence in others is based on your confidence in yourself.

Please keep my words firmly in mind.

(End of this chapter)