daily quirks

Chapter 56 Want to leave or want to reconcile? (1)

What does marriage mean to you?Is love the foundation of marriage for everyone?If the novelty is over, or if you find that you don't want to live together anymore, will everyone choose to divorce?
The famous host Meng Fei said in the host program: "I think that marriage must have love. Without love, it can't work, but it can't be just because of love. I just think that habit is a very precious thing. Things. We are too easy to like a person of the opposite sex. When I see this girl is good, I will like it. In a blink of an eye, I see another girl who is good, and I may like it too. This is something in the bones, and human nature cannot be overcome. When I get along with her and we have feelings, she becomes a habit of being with me, and I can't do without this habit. At that time, it is relatively safe to enter into marriage. Just because of love Entering into a marriage, the love will soon disappear in the trivial and boring family life. But when your love becomes a habit, both parties are used to each other, and it is difficult to get used to others At that time, entering into marriage at that time is the safest and relatively long-lasting."

I used to agree with Meng Fei's point of view, but after reading too many cases around me, I don't necessarily agree with it.

What I’m talking about today is about a friend of my mother. My mother and this friend have a very close relationship. It’s not just as simple as a girlfriend as everyone thinks, there is also a relationship, but this relationship, I don’t think my mother is now It's tempting to admit.

Let's call this friend Jingyun for now.In fact, in terms of seniority, I should call her aunt, but now there is no such relationship, so let's call her Jingyun, which is easier to call.

Speaking of Jingyun, it should start from my mother's childhood.

Jingyun is my mother's primary school classmate, she can be regarded as a very good girlfriend, my mother didn't go to school very much, Jingyun can be regarded as the one with the best relationship in my mother's school life at that time.

Jingyun is one year older than my mother, and they were in the same class at that time, and the relationship was not bad, especially my mother's temperament is more quack, the kind of loyalty, and she doesn't care much about friends' minor problems, so she and many Everyone had a great time.This Jingyun, at that time lived in a relatively quiet house with my grandmother, and went to and from school with my mother every day, so the relationship between the two was particularly close.

My mother said that when Jingyun was a child, she belonged to the kind of face-saving.

In fact, at that time, my grandmother’s house was not a very good place to live. It was close to the railway, noisy, and the house was dilapidated. Only those who had no money lived there.

Jingyun is a person who cares about face. Ordinary children can live wherever they live. After all, their family background is not something that they can choose. If they could choose the family they were reborn in, I believe many people would like to vote for it. A senior official or the richest man's family.But Jingyun is different from ordinary children, she doesn't want to admit that her family lives in that area, she always likes to brag to others, saying that she lives in the town.

But the route home is wrong, so Jingyun waits until everyone has left every day. Sometimes she has no choice but to pretend to go to the town for a while, wait for everyone to go far, and then rush home quickly .

My mother met Jingyun under such circumstances.

My mother still clearly remembers the scene at that time.

It was getting dark at that time, my mother was sent to the city by the physical education teacher to test the data of bone age because of her good jumping ability at that time. Just after she came back, she met a little girl who was rushing back with a bag on her back. I took a closer look at the little girl. It's quite familiar, like a kid from my neighborhood.But it was too dark to see clearly.

My mother was about to get out of the car. As soon as the door opened, my mother ran down, and wanted to go home quickly before it was completely dark. At this time, a child rushed over and knocked my mother down. This person It is Jingyun.

The two of them got to know each other after going back and forth. My grandma and grandpa were sailing boats at that time, and they were away most of the time. These two people often played together, and Jingyun often went to my grandma's house to spend the night.

This is supposed to be a very ordinary girlfriend relationship.

But a few years later, it changed because of the arrival of my uncle.

At that time, my mother and Jingyun didn't go to school anymore. My mother went to the city to learn to be a tailor, the kind of clothes maker.

At that time, half of the people in the whole town were sailing boats, either fishing or mining sand, anyway, they all lived on boats.Many people don't even build a house and live directly on the boat.

My mother’s brother was also one of the boat drivers. At that time, this brother was a sand mining man. He was able to drive a sand mining ship by himself at a young age, and the salary was very considerable.

Actually, this brother, strictly speaking, cannot be regarded as my mother's brother. This brother is an apprentice of my grandfather. He used to learn how to sail a boat from my grandfather. Now, he is able to take charge of his own, so he can sail a boat by himself.

As for my mother, she grew up with this apprentice, so they are called brothers and sisters, and the relationship is not bad. This uncle of mine is more simple and honest, and he speaks more straightforwardly. My mother's nature is also like this, so I prefer this kind of uncle. Personality people, the two have always had a good relationship, closer than other apprentices.

My uncle, let’s call him Changyu, it has nothing to do with the red sign.

Changyu, he was only in his early twenties at that time, and his salary was already very impressive. The income of people who worked in the city for two months was not as high as his salary for one month.

But because of sailing all year round, Changyu didn't want to buy a house on the shore, thinking that it would be a waste to leave it vacant.

Changyu happened to be resting that day, so he was going to visit his younger sister, that is, my mother.At that time, my mother was learning how to make clothes in the city. She was still an apprentice, and she could only step on the sewing machine every day.Zhang Yu told my mother to take a break in advance and said that he would come, so my mother specially adjusted the working hours and came back to see my uncle.

Coincidentally, the day was not very good, and she was not married. Jingyun was also very free. She wanted to go to the city to find my mother, but found that my mother didn't go to work, so she went directly to her home to find her.

When Jingyun came to my mother's house, Zhang Yu was chatting with my mother at that time. They were sitting on the stool in the house, chatting while drinking tea, when Jingyun came in.

Originally, this Jingyun knew my mother very well, and my grandparents were sailing at that time, and my mother was basically the only one at home. Jingyun saw that the door was open, so she didn't knock on the door, just went to the door as usual. came in.

At this time, Zhang Yu happened to be sitting near the inside of the room, facing the door, Jingyun saw it as soon as he came in, and Zhang Yu saw someone coming in, so he got up quickly.Seeing Zhang Yu getting up, my mother turned around to see what was going on, and then saw Jing Yun coming.

At that time, Jingyun was 16 years old, my mother was 15 years old, and Changyu was 23 years old.

Many years later, Zhang Yu told me that seeing Jingyun at that time was like seeing a fairy, who was the lover of his dreams, and his heart melted just by looking at those eyes.

After the three of them communicated, even if they knew each other, my mother didn't know Zhang Yu's thoughts about Jing Yun at that time, and she didn't ask Zhang Yu if he had a partner at such an old age, so it was like this, a year later.

My mother would not think of Zhang Yu's side and fell in love with Jing Yun, and every time she took a break, she would find an excuse to ask Jing Yun to go out.

At the beginning, Jingyun felt that Zhang Yu was a poor boy and was unwilling to associate with Zhang Yu.

But I think so, the current Changyu also looks rustic and poor, and drinks a little wine and smokes. At that time, Jingyun despised Changyu, I believed it.

But if you get free meals and movies, there is no reason not to go. Anyway, if you are idle at home, you are also idle.

After going out many times, Jing Yun realized that Zhang Yu really wasn't as poor as he looked. From the way he shopped, it could be seen that Zhang Yu had a lot of money in his pocket.

At that time, Jingyun deliberately inquired about Changyu.

This is the case in the village. Where can there be an airtight wall?I know everything about this inquiry.It turns out that Changyu is honest and honest, he doesn't like to dress up, and he earns a lot of money by sailing a boat every month!Moreover, he lives on the boat all year round, and the owner provides board and lodging. Zhang Yu usually has no other bad habits. Even playing mahjong and cards, the bet is nothing more than a meal.There must have been a lot of money over the years.

This Jingyun saw that Zhang Yu was interesting to him, and thought, this man is so rich, if he marries him, wouldn't he also be rich?Plus this man doesn't know how to spend money, doesn't he spend all the money himself?Jingyun didn't want to live in her dilapidated house next to the railway for a long time, and really wanted to move to another place, even if it was just to move to a roadside house across the railway, it would be better than the dilapidated house next to the railway.

So Jingyun told Zhang Yu that if you want to get married, you can, at least you must have a decent house, you can't live on a boat, at least you need to live on the side of the road.

Unexpectedly, with just a single finger from Jingyun, the dream really came true.Zhang Yu, that spends money like water to become a confidante, with all his savings for so many years, he bought one of the houses that Jingyun said, and even renovated it severely.

This time, the three-storey small building was completed at once, and because of Changyu's good decoration, against the backdrop of the row of houses, the three-story small building has a different look, and looks a bit like a small western-style building.

Now Jingyun really knew that Zhang Yu was indeed rich, so she agreed to marry Zhang Yu.

This piece of wealth is like being hit by a huge prize all of a sudden. I thought, so this house can be solved, and I have spent so much effort for nothing. If you know this, you have bought it a long time ago.

This required a house for the person, and Jingyun was too embarrassed to be picky at the wedding, so she held a wedding according to the village's specifications.

But here I have to explain, this village, because it was originally lived by a clan, although there have been foreigners who have married in and residents from outside over the years, most of them are still from the same clan, so basically the whole village came to this marriage. Yes, it can be regarded as very lively.

Everyone is happy that Jingyun has found such a capable husband, especially Jingyun's classmates, thinking, this Jingyun has been boasting for more than ten years, and finally she made it true, and really moved out of the railway station The broken house next to him, and lived in a small building.

This Jingyun's mother is even more delighted, one is because her daughter's future life is guaranteed, and the other is because her son-in-law is really kind to her daughter. I bought a house with a wave, and said it was going to be renovated, so I just pretended to be like this. Although the wedding ceremony was in accordance with the general specifications of the village, but there was no shortage of gold, silver, jewelry, home appliances and so on. I haven't seen someone who loves his wife so much in so many years.

After Zhang Yu got married, he went to sail and was not at home very often.As for Jingyun, sometimes she would go to the boat to see Changyu and bring him something to eat.The life of the two of them is pretty good, at least from our perspective.

Jingyun was on the shore and took care of the family very well. Although Jingyun's bridal business was not very good, but Zhangyu's income was good, and the two of them lived a happy life.

In the second year of marriage, Jingyun became pregnant.

After Jingyun became pregnant, she stopped taking Xi Niang's work. One was Zhang Yu who refused to let her work, thinking that Jingyun had worked too hard; and some newcomers felt that it was not good. , I didn't want Jingyun to be a bride.Jing Yun was also happy to be at leisure, and followed Zhang Yu on the boat when she had nothing to do, saying that she was taking care of Zhang Yu's food and daily life, but in fact, she just wandered around with the boat.

I was pregnant in October and gave birth at once.

After October, she gave birth to a daughter, who looks exactly like Jing Yunna, with bad marks, big eyes, and special spirit, I like it no matter how I look at it.

Zhang Yu was also very happy, holding his daughter and not letting go.Zhang Yu saw his daughter's beautiful smile, so he named his daughter Weiwei.

This is Weiwei, she was very smart when she was a child, she could recognize characters very quickly, and her crisp voice, when she recited poems, it was very pleasant.

This happened when Wei Wei was four years old.

Actually, this is also related to Jingyun.

When Jingyun was pregnant, Zhang Yu was worried about leaving Jingyun at home, so he took Jingyun to the boat for easy care.After experiencing the life on the boat, Jingyun also felt that it was new, and she didn't want to do Xi Niang's work anymore, and because Wei Wei was still young, she simply brought Wei Wei to live on the boat with Zhang Yu.

This Wei Wei is small and cute. Usually, the crew also likes to tease and buy some snacks for Wei Wei.

That day Wei Wei started to be abnormal since she woke up, she didn't speak, she kept crying, and when she asked her what was wrong, she said her stomach hurt.

This Jingyun thinks that Wei Wei may have eaten too many snacks recently, coupled with the change of seasons, her stomach is a bit unwell, so she gave Wei Wei some medicine to regulate her stomach, take good care of it, and it will be fine.

Unexpectedly, something happened that afternoon, with a slight high fever that persisted, and he yelled for a stomachache in a daze.

(End of this chapter)