Bachelor

Chapter 247 First Lesson ([-])
After the teacher shouted angrily, he rushed towards Chen Hong with big strides: "Spread your hands!"
Chen Hong was not afraid either, and stretched out his right hand that was already swollen like a steamed bun.
Seeing his hand, Teacher Xi hesitated for a moment. He was still afraid of breaking Chen Hong's right hand, so he shouted: "The left hand."
Chen Hong smiled: "Just hit the right hand, I can bear it. Anyway, my right hand is already swollen, and it won't swell anywhere if I hit it again. If you beat your left hand to pieces, it will be a bit troublesome to eat and dress .”
Teacher Xi was so angry that the muscles on his face were twitching, and he laughed angrily: "Okay, okay, since you don't want your right hand, our family will grant you." As he spoke, the ruler was about to fall.
Chen Hong also knew that his right hand would probably be worse if the ruler fell during the lesson.It's a pity that he was born a stubborn species, but it was extremely difficult for him to speak out and beg for mercy, so he just gritted his teeth and stared at the teacher like a wolf.

Sun Dan naturally didn't want to see his first lesson turned into a torture chamber. If he just used violence blindly, he wouldn't be able to show his skills.He coughed and said to the instructor: "Eunuch Long, wait a minute, I am teaching here, and I am in charge of everything. How about you two father-in-laws go out first, do you think this is good?"

The professor surnamed Long was stunned, and looked at Sun Dan worriedly: "Here..." He was a little afraid that Sun Dan would not be able to control the scene.

Sun Dan nodded to him, signaling him to rest assured.

After the two instructors left the study, Sun Dan pressed Chen Hong to sit down, and said to the students indifferently: "Student Chen Hong was right just now, it seems that you have already reviewed the book in advance. "The Doctrine of the Mean" and have some understanding, so I won't explain it in detail."

He waited for everyone to calm down, and then said: "Speaking of "The Doctrine of the Mean", the core part is actually being cautious, that is to say, how a person should restrain his behavior when he is alone, so that it conforms to the way of the sage. This central meaning can be summarized into two The characters are 'zhong' and 'harmony', when the joy, anger, sorrow and joy are not expressed, it is called Zhong, and when it is expressed in accordance with the restraint, it is called harmony."

Chen Hong didn't accept Sun Dan's favor after escaping from the teacher's hands, instead she curled her lips and muttered, "Who doesn't know, isn't it also following the scriptures?"

Sun Dan continued: "The so-called harmony actually refers to the knowledge of life when getting along with others."

He paused, put aside the books, and glanced at everyone with piercing eyes: "Most of the students are 14 years old, and the oldest is almost 16 years old. They are about to graduate from the inner school and work in various supervisors. In fact, everyone You should have known from the day you entered the inner school that the Central Committee sent you to the school to study, and it will be of great use in the future. Because, when you study here, you don't have to take the imperial examination like the scholars outside, and you don't have to write stereotyped essays. Wen. It can be said that when you come to study, you come to learn how to behave. Because of this, Neishutang asks you to study Confucian classics carefully, so that you can become gentlemen with high morals, so that you can share the worries of your father and do your best. A talented person who is useful to the country and the emperor. However, is it useful to just study the things in the books? Although the words of the sages are subtle, they can be seen in different eyes, and everyone's experience is different. There is also a way of dealing with people. The starting point The same, but because the method is different, the results obtained are also different."

"All of you are talents who will be enriched in various departments in the future, and some of you may even enter the ceremonial supervisor and become an internal minister in the future. As a teacher, I feel that I have the responsibility to teach you how to communicate with the king and foreign ministers, and with colleagues. The science of getting along. The name of this science is "Human Relations."

Sun Dan smiled slightly, picked up a copy of "The Doctrine of the Mean", looked at it, and then threw it on the table fiercely, saying: "These knowledge are the internal affairs of the past dynasties, and the experience summed up by the cabinet ministers of the past dynasties. Words and word of mouth. Saints can’t teach you these things. If you can come here to study, it will be of great use in the future. It doesn’t make any sense for me to say clichés, and it won’t be able to cultivate the talents needed by the country for Your Majesty. Sun Dan's lectures have always been directed at the core, only teaching useful knowledge, not playing around. If you are willing to listen, you can stay. If you don't want to listen, you can leave now."

Sun Dan's sudden action stunned everyone, and the study room was so quiet that only the sound of breathing could be heard.

All the little eunuchs know that they will be of great use in the future, but their understanding of politics and interpersonal relationships is still limited to that.Now, after hearing what Sun Dan said, I suddenly realized that what I will face in the future is an extremely dangerous world, and the outside world is not as simple as in the school.

Everyone pricked up their ears in unison.

Chen Hong stood up and wanted to go out.But after thinking about it, I felt that this class would be of great benefit to my future, so I sat down after thinking about it.

He only heard Sun Dan say a word, and he couldn't bear to leave anymore.

Sun Dan's first sentence is: "Because of the subtle influence of the words of the sages in the books, everyone is more willing to talk about human relationships in dealing with others, and taboo about utilitarianism. But people always have a little selfishness. If you ask them, many people can't help Distressed in secret.

However, human communication is multi-level, which can be roughly divided into two basic levels: one is emotional-oriented interpersonal communication, such as family, friendship, and love; the other is utilitarian-oriented interpersonal communication, that is, Interpersonal communication for some utilitarian purpose.

In reality, these two situations are often intertwined.

Sometimes, even utilitarian communication will cause people to have certain evaluations and feelings for each other, which will trigger emotional reactions; sometimes, even if it is an emotional communication, it will also bring about mutual help in mutual benefit. and support.

The most basic motivation of interpersonal communication is to hope to obtain the satisfaction of one's own needs from the object of communication.In addition to spiritual needs, there are material needs in human needs.People have the concept of utilitarian gains and losses, and everyone thinks of utilitarianism to some extent.You can simply talk about human feelings in communication, but you should not think too badly of others because of the utilitarian purpose of the other party, or even cut off the contact with the other party.

You should pay attention to both feelings and benefits, and maintain relationships with people around you from different levels, and you should not only communicate in an idealistic, purely emotionally oriented way. "

Sun Dan's remarks can be said to be deviant in ancient times. Everyone's heart was shocked when they heard it, and there was a "buzz!" in their heads, and they could hardly think.

In fact, this kind of practical human relations is a product of the era of great industry in later generations.The emergence of the industrial age tore away the veil of tenderness between people, made everything simple and direct, and made it more in line with the management needs of industrial society.Simple, direct, and even rude, this is also the basic point of the management scholar Carnegie's interpersonal relationship theory.

Chen Hong felt dry in his mouth, and there were colorful spots dancing in front of his eyes, and he murmured: "Yaoyan, yaoyan..." But looking at Lu Fang next to him, his eyes were frighteningly bright.

Including the whole class, everyone's eyes turned green, like a pack of wolves who discovered the New World.

Sun Danjian shocked everyone, and was very satisfied in his heart. He continued: "Perhaps you are thinking that my theory is pragmatism, which is suspected of military theory. In fact, the cornerstone of this theory is the sage's theory. One set. For example, there are four principles of interpersonal communication in my theory, namely: the principle of initiative, the principle of sincerity, the principle of distance, and the principle of self-reliance. Each of them is in line with the Dao of Saints.”

Lu Fang, who had always been expressionless, stood up suddenly and asked: "We can understand the principle of initiative and sincerity, the unity of knowledge and action, and the way of heaven. These are all written in the book. But the principle of distance and the principle of self-reliance are not related to sincerity. Are the principles in conflict?"

Chen Hongzheng was engrossed in his thoughts, but was interrupted by Lu Fang, a little annoyed, and was about to turn his head to glare at Lu Fang.But their doubts were also Chen Hong's doubts. He moved his lips but didn't make a sound.

Sun Dan smiled at Lu Fang, "No contradiction, no conflict. Let's take the principle of distance. There are more than 30 people in this class, and everyone should have their own good friends. Many people think that good friends should be inseparable. Sticking together all day. But do you feel that if you stay together all day, do you sometimes feel very uncomfortable, feeling that your every move is being seen by others. In this way, you are afraid of doing the wrong thing or saying the wrong thing ...and only when I'm alone in a room, can I breathe a sigh of relief."

There was commotion in the classroom, and more than 30 people discussed it.

Lu Fang was stunned for a long time before saying: "Mr. said this is the truth, Lu Fang also felt this way before."

Chen Hong sneered: "You feel like a fart, just like you are now, do you have any friends?"

Lu Fang was not angry either, she made a bow like Sun Dan, and sat down calmly.

Sun Dan waited for everyone to calm down, and then said: "This is just one. Second, if you stay with your friends for a long time, it will not be conducive to expanding your circle of interpersonal communication. That is to say, the scope of your communication and the way of thinking are limited Fixed."

He suddenly put on a straight face: "When the social circle is fixed, people have a herd mentality in their thinking. Whatever their friends think, I will subconsciously agree with their views. In this way, there is a collective unconsciousness. This way of thinking is inherently There is nothing wrong with it. But everyone, don’t forget.”

He shouted loudly: "In the future, you will all be stewards of affairs, and even internal ministers. There is a saying in Tang Taizong that if you listen to both, you will be bright, and if you listen to one side, you will be dark. As a minister, you should have a broad mind, be able to listen to different opinions, and be able to reconcile yin and yang." , to be able to accommodate all rivers and seas, to be a prime minister and to hold a boat in one’s belly. You must know everyone, see and think about everything, and only in this way can you achieve harmony and observe the world!”

"Great words!" Lu Fang cried out suddenly, with tears welling up in her eyes: "Lu Fang is 14 years old this year. After studying for five years, I thought I understood all the truths between heaven and earth. Listen to it today. From Mr.'s words, I realized that Lu Fang was just an ignorant schoolboy before, and she was nothing at all."

He walked up to Sun Dan, knelt down respectfully, and kowtowed loudly three times: "Lv Fang pays homage to the teacher."

(End of this chapter)